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Q: I'm 13 and wondering...

wondering... ?

Q: i have this friend i like.. hes like my best guy friend but i want to be more than just a friend to him.. how can i tell him how i feel?

tricki! But i've done it before. So we know it can be done. I just asked the guy what he thought of me.. and he said he thought i was hot cool and nice and carring.. so it was good.. i mean that took guts then i later asked if he could ever see me going out with him.. or w/e him going out w/me.. you know what i mean haha.. but he said ya.. we talked alot after that and he called one night and said hey i have been really thinking alot lately.. do you want to go out..? i was like chya!! so maybe try off with that question!! Good luck doll!-trix plz rate

Q: well i have a boyfriend i care for and weve been together for 9-10 months now and well we dident kiss until about our 4 month together and well now hes kinda starting to want more, see my boyfriend is usto doing stuff and well honstly i havent ever done anything! he tells me its fine but i know he really wants it and i dont want him to cheat on me or brake up with me because of it! hes actually my first kiss and everything... im scared to do more because i dont think ide be good at it lol as gay as that sounds... should i just try it... any advise?

Nice long relationship!! Well.. try what? dont go to far!! I am sure he knows that you are a lil scarred if not just let him know. I mean everybody is scarred and the only way to not be scarred is it to try right? of course!! good luck hun!! -trix plz rate

Q: Does anyone know where I can find a pen pal at?
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You know i did that along time ago.. i did it at www.penpal.com .. try that.. if you want more.. i could help you.. plus i'd like to try that again! lol ... yes silly me :)-trix! plz rate

Q: ok so i have this friend, brittany, and we just became friends like over the summer. we were really really good friends and we did a lot stuff together until one month ago. she started blowin me off at skool and not invitin me to her house but other ppl. so i got mad and she did too so we were mad for a while until i decided that our friendship is too good for us to be mad at each other. so i apologized. and i told her that i was only mad cuz i felt left out and stuff like that. well when i told her that she got mad at me!! but then a week later i just said srry and nothin else. so now she doesnt talk to me as much and she still invites friends over but not me. oo yea and i cant just not b friends with her cuz she is on my soccer team and her dads tha coach(i no im screwed) so please help me fix this!!!! 13/f

is this kalynn? well anyways.. if not you have the same situation with the same name.. brittany... she is having a prob. and brittany is my cousin i would just talk to her about that and say hey why dont we do something? Go to the mall and have a sleepover-trix plz rate

Q: okay the guy i liked just asked me 2 do somthing with him(go 2 the like the movies) and i am SO nervous!!!
HELP!!

Q: i am beginning to do crazy with all of this rain i have gotten in my area.

i need ideas on things to do at home by myself. i have gone through every board game, read every book, and am out of ideas. any websites i can go to? any other ideas? because with every drop of rain the runs off of my window, a piece of my sanity goes with it!

Scrapbook.. thats always fun.. my friends love looking at mine~Trix (**plz rate**)

Q: well me and my boyfriend have been together 9 months now and everything is great i guess we hang out alot and everything and the first 4 months of our relationship we just talked on the phone alot and hung out a little now we hang out more and were talking on the phoen the same but its kinda like everytime we get on the phone we sit and listen to eachother breath!!! he complains about it alot but i just cant think of anything to talk to him about! i mean i love him alot and i dont want things to end but is this soposto be telling me somthing? do you have anything to tell me? talk topics? anything?

I just talk about random times.. i ask my bf if has broken bones.. most emberassing stori.. whats goin on.. hows school w/e works~Trix (**plz rate**)

Q: i'm a total pimplehead and i have been for a long time.. like.. um.. since grade 5 i think.. i'm in grade8 now.. i've been using these cleanser things they're getting kinda better but i keep on breaking out.. any tips?? *omg i'm so embaressed asking this.. i need help!!*

Get pro-active~Trix (**plz rate**)

Q: hi i asked...
im always sad inside , but no body knows cosz i dont show it... how can i get the emptiness in my heart to go away... signed , confused and lonely.

well i no whats bothering me inside.. its that my X boyfriend has gone out with at least 4 of my best friends.. and now hes going out with my closest one .. lets call her shelly - i think hes just using shelly but i really really still like him and i think im crazy for dumping him =\ i dont no how to tell him this .. can you PLEASE give me as much advice as possible..

signed , lonely - again .

Maybe he misses you.. after all you are the one that dumped him maybe he misses you.. you should tell him i mean dont do it when shelly is going out with him because that could only make her mad at you but wait until they are broken up~Trix (**plz rate**)

Q: what does it mean after u give someone advice.. and it says cheatspeak or whatever and type in english?? how can u get it off.. i have been answering peoples all dya it just does it randomly.. pleas ehelp!!

Speak in english.. type more correct.~Trix (**plz rate**)

Q: im a 15/f see its like this all of my friends are all really fast i mean to tell the truth i kind of am fast too but i mean i havent lost my virginity yet but most of them have so yeah i dont know what to do like they kind of like leave me out of conversations and stuff and i think that i am ready to do it but i dont know what age you should be??

Good for you on being a virgin. Dont move that fast.. thats a lil to fast if you ask me. You shouldnt be a certain age.. i think you should at least be legal to live on your own.. so 18.. and only if you love the guy and can pic. yourself with them but if you cant then dont lose your virginity. Just cause your friends doesnt mean you should to- Trix (**plz rate**)

Q: ok well see the thing is i dont have a boyfriend and all of my friends do and all of my guy friends have girlfriends so i feel so extremely left out its like this ok so they have their couples nights and everything so they go out to the movies or hang out at someones house and everything and they always neglect to invite me because yeah im the only person that is single. what should i do?

I've heard this same stori over n over again. It is always my friends have a boyfriend and I dont. I havent even read your question yet i just read to and all of my friends do. The world is full of people.. you have to meet new people in your town and im sure they is someone for you and im sure there are people (girls) who are single to and are willing to hang out w/you on those couple nights like you guys could go on a hottie spree looking for guys at the mall or something-trix (plz rate)

Q: ok so yeah i really like this guy hes so sweet hes a on the varsity football team as a sophmore hes a wrestler and so hott!! we are friends and everything already so i think that it would be good. hes like the perfect dream guy the problem is that he is my cousins best friend and they have been friends for the longest time too and his friend has been there for him through everything even the death of his father. so yeah i really want to go out with this kid but i mean i dont want to hurt my friendship with him or the relationship with my cousin or their friendship what should i do?

I dont think it would hurt any relationships w/anybody honestly. I dont see why it would in the first place-trix

Q: I used to like this guy since kindergaten and he's been in my class ever since(except fourth). Now that I'm in Jr. High, I'm not interested in him or any other guy anymore. everyhting has changed since I started. Is this normal?

Yeah your just surrounded by alot of guys and its hard to choose haha-trix

Q: What are some really good movies to watch with friends..im 14/F?? Thanks

Napolien Dynamite!! The Jerk! Finding Nemo.

Q: Hey i'm reallyy frustrated cuz everytime i get some type of new clothing my friends call me or something and tell me that they have the same clothes or type of shirt or w/e. I really dont care but they start freaking out over nothing! when i try to tell them its just a shirt they get all mad at me and so i eventually take it back to get a new one. its really frustrating and i dont mean to get the same thing. i try to get over it but they keep bringing it up saying i "copy" them on everything i do. their my bestfriends and it just frustrates me. plz help me i dont know wut to do:-(

Wow.. that stuff happaned in 4-6 grade... are you in between those grades? If not.. your friends need some growing up to do. It doesnt matter what you wear honestly. Just wear what you want just tell them you can wear what you want and your tired of them picking what you can and cant wear-trix

Q: me and my ex went out for almost 9 months...he asked me out at the end of the school year and all summer long we never even saw each other..all we did was talk on the phone and he was always out with his friends partying and stuff and then school came and yeah things were great but it always seemed like i loved him more or i wanted to talk on the phone with him more than he wanted to talk to me...and like sometimes at school he would say we are definately hanging out this weekend..well the weekend would come and most of the time he would never call to say he was coming over so he practically ditched me...well i mean he wasnt that shitty but when we were together everything was so perfect and all our problems went away..and then when the 6th month came that we were going out is when we first actually started to do things with each other and have sex..and we argued over the stupidest stuff all the time and we would get over it..like it was an every day thing.. we would argue but we would talk about it and everything would be okay..and then all semester i was at home because i was grounded and i couldnt go anywhere but my parents let him come stay the night with me and stuff..yeah he did come over and hang out but it seemed like he liked his friends more than me..well he broke up with me 2 days after my birthday because he didnt want a girlfriend where we had sex everything would be okay and then we would fight again...he told me i could still share his locker with him and he still talks to me and flirts with me and i really like him and want to be with him again..and ill ask him if i get another chance but he always avoids that subject..but i know he still likes me because we talked on the phone one night and he was crying cause he missed me..and he wouldnt still be talking to me if he didnt like me, right? well what i wanna know is if you think he was just using me..cause i have to admit that he didnt give me the attention that i needed so i did throw myself at him and made myself to available..like no matter how shitty he treated me i would always come back to him...do you think he wants to get back together or what? im so confused cause for one i think he broke up with me for another reason and hes just not telling me..or sometimes i think he was just using me...he broke up with me for the stupidest reason..but he still acts like he likes me? i dont understand

Me and my boyfriend Nathan had like 2 week war of fighting. I am not kidding. It sucked. Everybody that heard us fight was like wow.. they are defintly breaking up. This was in sept. we even fought the before my birthday and after my birthday.. it was bad! I talked to him about and said i was extremely sick of this. He ditched me twice in 2 days.. that really blew my cover over. He told me next week we would completely start over and he would make it the best week ever for me. However it was better but was the best week. If he didn't like you that doesnt mean he wouldnt talk to you. He could still want to be friends and maybe have something later on in the future. You really got to let things cool down maybe he felt like you always wanted him around and he wanted his space. He may be a flirty kind of guy to.. its possible that he was using but i dont think a guy would use someone for 6 months or longer. Unless he was cheating on you then i would say yeah.. he was using you-trix

Q: sometimes i get forget to put deoderant on n i get mad bo so i just dont lift my arms.
any solutions?

By a little one and put it in your purse or backpack

Q: There's this boy that i really like and his really cute!! but I think he knows that i like him but i think he likes me too but their's this girl and she's my close friend and she's in my class, and she told me that she likes him and she's really pretty and i think that he likes her now....wut should i do??

I would talk 2 her about it.. you can only talk it oout. and if thye go out dont ruin just move on no matter how hard it is-trix

bio

My name is Trix, I am 17. I love pink, and degrassi.

I just recently got out of a relationship of 21 months. I love him still but I'm moving on.

I've been there done that im sure

ex. (with the number of expierences)

-Long term relationships (2)
-Bad expierence with BF's family (1)
-Broken bones (11)
-Stitches (2)
-Seen someone killed (1)
-Loss of family (1)
-Cancer in the family (2)
-Family in Iraq (1)
-Mom had brain surgery (2)
-Loss of pet (4)
-Moved from state to state (5)
-New highschool (2)
-Car accident (3)

Like I said "been there done that"