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Q: Well i've been dating my boyfriend for about 2 months. He has had sex before and I havent (15/f). For the past couple of days I have really been thinking if i want to do it or not. My boyfriend is perfect, but im kinda nervous about the whole thing. Dont get me wrong, I do want to have sex with him, but its only been to months and i think its kinda soon. I have been sort of leading him on, but i really thought about it today and im jsut not ready. What ways can i tell him that im sorry for leading him on but im just not ready yet?????
Please help

Well if he ever asks you about it be like "No, I'm not ready." and that should be the end of it. If hes like well you led me on..be like sorry I'm just not ready! Its good that your waiting!! Your so smart! 2 months is too soon...you'll know when your ready!! if he starts a fight or anything about the sex thing...hes not worth it.

Q: ok sorry this might be long!..i will rate if you read..!!
ok i'm 16 and my boyfriend is 18...well lately weve been haveing some problems...1st off theres this girl *stacy* that he talks to and says it's his best friend well stacy's cuzin keyed my car while stacy was standing right there and it really bugged me cause stacy didnt stop her...well a couple days ago my boyfriend had called me and i told him i would call him back because i was getting in the shower...well when i got out i called him for an hour none stop and by the time i got ahold of him it was time for me to get off the phone with him...well turns out he was on the phone with Stacy..so i told him to call me back at 10 well i got tired of waiting so i called him well then at 10 the phone rings and it's this girl Molly yeah i really don't like this girl it's his "best freind" and she already caused some problems before in the realstionship thats why i don't like her anymore((she lives in maryland))((we live in georiga)) well anyways it pissed me off cause he got off the phone with me to talk to her...and said some bull crap like well i don't want anyone mad at me so i was like so you would rather have your girlfriend mad at you then her...
well he knows i don't like him talking to her or any other girls and it really herts...and then my mom was on the phone with stacy's mom ((talking about them keying my car)) well stacy's mom had told my mom that my boyfriend had gone over to stacy's house and has been calling stacy...well that really pissed me off beacuse he kept that from me and never told me...stacy's mom told my boyfriend not to come to the house or call stacy any more...but my boyfriend told me that stacy calls him...also i don't know if this will help but we do go to differnt schools and his going off to college next year

sorry that it's so long...but i just don't know what to do about all this...i will rate you for reading

Why are you getting mad at your boyfriend just because he's talking to girls? He can be friends with girls. But, I see what you mean. I wouldent want my bf talking to other girls...I want him talking to me all the time. So yeah, what should you do? Explain to your boyfriend that you really like him and that it sucks to know he talks to other girls. And ask him if he would be willing to give up talking to Stacy. I dont think you should let him stop talking to ALL his friends that are girls. He can talk to them but I think you should be worried about Stacy and whoever else that bothers you! But dont be too strict. Talk to him about what bothers you, and figure something out! Be patient, dont start a fight...just figure it all out! I hope everything works out for the best. Good luck and if you need more help..leave one in the inbox!!

Q: hey! wht do i do if your best friend has a crush on the guy your dating. Cuz she just found out that i was dating him and i didnt no that she liiked him or anything...so wht do i do, cuz i no she is getting upset over this.PlEz HeLp

**sk8rgurl

Well, nothing. She should respect the fact that your dating him! try to tell her that you didnt know she liked him..but if she gets mad anyway..you shouldent like cry over it..because if she gets mad, thats really imature of her and you shouldent be friends with her anyways. Good luck!!

Q: Okay so yes I have winter formal coming up on Saturday night. I got my dress and shoes, then I realized: I have no freakin clue what to do with my make up. My normal style of make up would look horrid with it. I have light blonde hair, blue green eyes and fair skin. My dress is an offwhite color with gold stitching in the top. Anyone have any ideas?

Try to get it professionaly done for your special night! Like go to a salon or go to mac!!! I def. suggest mac!! They make you sooo hott! And with your blue/green eyes your eye makeup will rock....go to mac...make an appointment..and you'll look great! www.maccosmetics.com !! have funn at formal:)

Q: I have really hairy arms and its embaressing i dont know what to do about it. I cant shave because it will grow back darker and my stomach pluss back is hairy too . does anybody know what i can do?

You can wax your arms, it hurts but it doesnt show for 1 month+ and it doesnt grow back darker!

Q: Me and my boyfriend have been going out for almost 4 months, and all we have done is make out. I told him before that i want to do more n he says that he feels the same way. But he never has done nething about it. im ready to have sex like i really love him but i dont know waht to do. Please helpp

-- me

hi i am xo sherry's ox's older sister and i read your question and i just had to answer. please dont think that i am some old lady trying to preach to you because i am not. i am 20 years old and have been through all the regular high school drama with guys and trust me you dont want to have sex with someone your not 100% sure about. especailly at such a young age and 4 months is not enough time to know. TRUST ME YOU WILL REGRET IT because you are going to grow so much and look back at yourself and laugh because later on you will realize, what was i thinking. its not that i dont think you dont love him, you might but are you in love? who can be sure when you at such a young age. you have years ahead of you to find a guy that you will be sure about and you will know who it is because at that time you wont need to ask for advice. you will just know. if he is the same age as you then he is probably not ready either, or he would have tried it. but the bottom line is that it is your choice but you have to remember that you cant undo losing your virginity. are you going to be ok with knowing that this was the guy you did it with first. those are the questions you have to ask yourself. be safe and good luck

Q: What is that old background site? That i could get a cooler background on mine. And not the backgrounds from this site. Thanks much.

Go to www.xanga.com, go to Blogrings, search "Backgrounds" and tons of links will be provided. If you dont have a xanga or dont know how to use it, leave one in my inbox and I'll find some background sites for you!

Q: Ok well I like a guy who doesnt like me dont know how to get his attention, im 14 and i dunno I want him to like me... i try to look the other way(try to like other guys) But for somereason i still like him(liked him since like 7th grade and now im a freshmen... we talk on the phone sometimes (as friends) I know who he likes...(makes me kinda sad... so i cant ask him out!)Friends with the girl he likes... which is also hard... hard looking at her knowing she has everything i want... she used to like him not anymore...wish I could be everything she is... even tho I dont know why...I try to keep my self from crying... but sometimes it doesnt work...(its hard knowing we can only be friends) dont talk that much at school (i guess hes shy! and i am too) he knows I like him which also sucks(ooh so do his friends... i think he told them all)... it makes it harder to talk to him sometimes... when i do talk to him i try not to think about him knowing i like him...I think hes the cutest person ever... i dunno i just need advice I dont want to cry over him... but i dont just want me friends with him... and I dont wanna get over him... yea confusing... well help if u can...
~!~LiveStrong~!~

You cant make him like you back. But to get over him, I think you should stop talking to him completly. Just to get your mind off liking him! Because if you keep talking to him that will make you even more obsessed with trying to get the guy to like you when he doesnt. I'm sorry, you dont have to take my advice but I think its the best way to go. Good luck!

Q: Okay....me and my x have been broken up and not talking for about 7 months now....i called him on his b-day and pranked him a few times recently...should i call him and start chatting with him and then be like remember me....I'm your ex and try to get a friendship back up or should i just leave him alone??

You can call but dont be like "Remember me?" be like "this is (your name) and I havent talked to you in a while..and I wanted to know how your doing" and start a convo up like that!

Q: well i have like this guy almost about a year and i think he knows all ready. well my friend has him for 6th period and he talks to him for me and its cool but the thing is that i am shy and yesterday my frined ask him if he had a g/f and he said no and then he ask him what will he say if i ask him out and he said i don't know and yesterday i wrote hom a letter and in the letter i ask him out and today i didn't go to school and i was wondering should i give him the letter!?

Yes give him the letter! Whats there to lose? You might be suprised as to what he'll say. But I think insdead of asking him out..be like "We should hang out sometimes-as friends" just so you can get to know eachother better...and then, if you click..you can go out!

Q: Heyy.....i have this friend, lets say she trys to make people annoyed really bad. Caz for christmas i went to her house and everything and she was like oh look i got this really cute tiffany bracelet and i looked at it and you can tell that it is a fake one and you can tell from far away...i was gonna tell her but then im like wat ever screw it. Then she cames to school one day and was on a field trip..and she had a fake louis vuitton purse, it looked real but i know what makes those kinds of purses fake or not, and she was like what you think i cant afford a louis vuitton purse or something?? I was gonna tell her that her parents probably bought it in China Town in New York caz the purses there look so real and all. Shes living in a lie she belives everything her parents tell and all and im very high mantaince....not trying to be bichty and spound spoiled...but i know about these things caz i own alot of tiffany,luis vuitton, coach, donney & borke and abercrombie and hollister and shyt like that. I really pisses me off when she tells me that i dont know anything and all so what should i do???Ohh yea now she mad @ me caz she thinks that i keep talkin shyt bout her which is not true @ all. Ohh one more thing....me and her are also best friends and i want to know what i should do with this...

"confused"

What if she cant afford the real ones? As long as they LOOK real..who can tell? Maybe just you, but let her be happy with it! I mean she likes to wear it and let her just believe its real...let her be happy. Dont say its fake because then she'll just get all mad and you dont want that.

Q: i started to go out with this guy 3 weeks and i feel very strongly about him. we were such good friends before we went out. i feel like everything has changed between like 3 or 4 friends of mine and i've done everything i can and everything i could do and said. i just dont know what to do anymore.. i hate it and i dont know if anything is going on and i dont always know why im crying. im scarred of being hurt i hear that im going to get hurt and that im going to get cheated on. please give me something..

Thats life. You move on and find new friends..because you cant be friends forever..your crying because your hormones. Teenage girls cry for no reason at all sometimes. One time I started to cry because the radio wouldent work. And dont worry about being hurt, just enjoy the time you have with your boyfriend! if you spend all your time worrying, you wont have fun with him! Hope I helped:)

Q: after i straighten my hair.. blowdry and straighten. its always staticy.. what can i do so it wont static to my face and hands ect.

Buy Biosilk or Frizz-ease. After your done straightening it...put that stuff in and staticy stuff will be gone. You can get those products at Target or a local beauty supply store:)

Q: Well, at the end of the school year, we are having a little "formal" to send off the 8th graders into highschool. My problem is what am I going to wear? Im pretty sure the dress style is formal, but I need help picking my dress/gown/skirt/whatever. Any ideas? Thanks

Try going to Forever 21 or Charollete ruse! They have not that expensive dresses and their soooo cute! Just go to the stores and find something you like! I think you should wear a dress:)

Q: ok well i had a dream and here it is fro all you dream interpretors...:
ok so theres this guy i made out with once and he was sitting next to another guy thats nice (but i dont like him) and i gave this other guy a hicky... but i dont like this guy socould it be that im trying to make the other one jealous? hmm... i rate 5s

No. Dreams are dreams. You cant control them and they dont mean anything.

Q: OK, I have been on Weight Watchers and I got down to 125 pounds. Well, on Sunday I splurged a bit because I went to the city and I had chinese food and today I went over my points a bit and had a grilled cheese sandwich..alright, well...now I'm 130 pounds. What's up with THIS?! how can i magically gain 5 pounds in 3 days. Is this just a trick of the scale?

Your weight fluctuates during diets. You should weigh yourself only once a week in the morning. Dont depend on the scale, because that will just get you discouraged. Instead, focus on how your clothes are becoming loose! If you focus too much on the scale you'll get frustrated and will want to stop the diet.

Q: hey um i really need help. im going to a bar mitzah at the end of february and i don't know what to wear. i need a hot dress that will make me look good, but it needs to be under like, 40 dollars. its for my ex-boyfriend, and my mom hated him, so she wont pay more than that and i'm broke. if you know any good websites or stores that could help me, please tell me! thanx!

Forever 21, Charollete Ruse, and Kohls. Make Kohls your last resort though, like if you cant find anything at forever/charollete go to Kolhs!

Q: ive been going out with my boyfriend for a long time. he never pressures me or disrespects me. but the other day in the movies he started touching my boobs which is really unlike him. then apologized throughout the whole movie for doing it. we went out to dinner and i flipped out on him and he started CRYING. this morning at school he decorated my locker saying "im so sorry i love you" with hearts all over it. i found out that he stayed up all night making it. he was crying all day in school, and he wrote me a long apology letter. everyone says im overreacting. should i get back with him because i really want to...

Well, if you didnt like it then maybe you should just talk to him about. Saying he shouldent do that stuff because your not comfortable yet..but I think breaking up with him is too extreme..give him another chance and tell him he cant do it again..or anything touchy-feely until you are ready. and if does do it, its over. But its all up to you if you want to break up with him or not!

Q: 13/m

ok so i am supposed to go to a sleepover next weekend, only there will be some guys there that my parents really don't like, and so they won't let me go. thing is, there is really nothing bad about them but they won't listen, and still refuse to let me go. what should i do? because i really want to go, and i'm afraid they won't be friends with me anymore if i tell them.

If they wont be friends with you just because of a stupid sleepover, then their not worth it. But I dont think they'll be mad..just tell them you cant..you dont have to explain why to them if you dont feel like it...but yeah. Thats all you can do because I dont think you can change your parents mind, especially when theres boys over that they dont like.

Q: I have an issue; I want to lose some weight, but my stomach grumbles like crazy!!!!! It's so annoying, I mean, I have a strong willl to lose the weight, but its so embarresing, I sit in math class and suddenly I hear my stomach, is there anything I can take or do to make my stomach not so vocal? Please and thank yous!

Well maybe your hungry, just eat breakfest before you go to school and maybe bring a snack. You cant just not eat a lot becuase your on a diet. Eat a healthy breakfest and snack. Like for breakfest eat egg whites and milk..and bring a granola bar to school. You need to fill yourself up because if not, your body will think its starving and thats not good!