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My name is Teza.. short for Tereza. I was born in Croatia and I speak more than one language. I'm 22 years old & I completed 2 college degrees in 3 years. My a bachelors is in Business Administration concentration in Human Resources and my Masters degree is also in HR.



I started this advice column about 9years ago and I was so young but it was something that I always loved to do. I am trying to get back to answering questions, at least a few per day. With that said, if you have questions about school, friends, make up, etc., feel free to ask.





Much love, Teza

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ok i dont know hwo to put this..but if u were a tampon nad etc..does that pop your cherry or does having sex pop it or both?cause i dont wna to thave sex then blood come out that is disgusting can anyone help?

You can break the hymen in many ways not just sex. If you push the tampon in too far, it can break the hymen. For virgins, it's completly normal if you bleed during sex. It's not going to be tons of blood though but oral sex can also pop the cherry.

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okay i put spray on tan and now i have liek blotches all over when will this go away??HELPPP
& how ?

It will go away in a couple days but there isn't anything special to make it go away faster. After a few showers it'll go away.

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how short would you consider i go w/ it?

About shoulder lenghth. Maybe some layers?

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okay, i was just wondering if the side bangs ( like you have ) would look good on me. a picture of me is located www.myspace.com/x3_megan_xo there. i think you may be one of my "friends" on there? do you think that those bangs and if i got my hair cut up to my shoulders or w/e would look good on me?

I think it would look good on you. Your hair style now doesn't give you much shape so side bangs would look cute on you.

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HELP!!!I luv my brother so much well hes cute major but hes a spoiled brat and everyones likes him and I guess thats why hes spoiled.I cant controll myself and yes hes 4 years old.
I dont know if I should keep hugin him or ignore him 4 being spoild.
HELP!!!

All little kids are some what spoiled and love attention and it's completly normal. You shouldn't just ignore him because of that. He loves when you give him attention just as much as anyone. =]

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my period is really heavy like the first 3 days! well i dont care during the day because i wear tampons but at night i wear pads. i usually have to wear like 4 seriously big pads because its so heavy at night and sometimes that even leaks through! i heard that wearing a tampon for a long time like overnight is bad for you and you are at higher risk for that TSS or whatever! soo is it? or what should i do? im even on birth control lol and im 16/f. and thats why i went on birth control because i thought it would help my heavy flow but it doesnt seem to work.

I've worn tampons over night for over 2 years and I never got TSS. It doesn't happen to everyone but it would be better if you got up during night to change it. If not, change it as soon as you get up. Also, make sure you eather wear a panty liner or a pad while you're using tampons just incase you leak. Your flow isn't as heavy once you're laying down though.

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Ok agian I am a 14/m in a wheelchair and I have this friend lets call her S and she and me talk almost once a week on the phone or online cause she is in minnesota for the summer and she has been asking me advice about this other boy that has a girlfriend but they both lik eachother and well after all of that talking with her I was sitting in my room going through the year book and I kept thinking "Why Can't I be that boy that she likes" and I have been having this crush on her and I am scared to tell her cause I don't want our friendship to go bad and have her mad at me cause I have had that happen before

What should I do?

Why would she get mad at you if she found out you liked her? That's super lame. Anyways, I know it might hurt your feelings that she likes someone else but don't tell her how you feel online or phone. Wait until she gets back from vacation and you should talk to her in person. Then, tell her how you feel and just have fun. If she doesn't like you more than a friend, don't take it personaly. It doesn't mean that you guys won't be friends. I understand if it becomes a bit akward between you guys, but don't let your friendship change.

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My period is really haevy this month, and I have to be changing my pad really frequently. What should I do at night?

Pads can get a bit messy when you sleep in them and while you're laying down, your period isn't as heavy. I honestly think you should swich to using tampons. If you never used them before, they're comftrable & easy to put in. You can also wear a pad & tampon over night just incase.

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my first day at a real job was today. i work at this fast food resturaunt. and i'm completely clueless. i felt so stupid. do you know if theres any ways to make it easier for me while working?

I can't really relate to this because I'm not even old enough to have a job and I never worked there but I have friends that have worked in fast food resturants. Just do whatever you're told to. Make friends and be polite to everyone. Be a fast and good worker. If you need any help, ask the manager or other workers there.

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I'm sure you've answered like a zillion of these kinda questions, but I have to ask you again :]
I look threw xanga sites for like quotes for AIM profiles, but they are all the same and it deff. gets borning. Do you know of anywhere else I can get cute quotes, xanga just isn't doing it for me. Thankss.


ps. I like how your pictures & your backgrounds match it's differet & you're gorgous ♥

Actually, on xanga there is a group for A.I.M profiles and people have cute quotes on it and such.



http://www.xanga.com/groups/group.aspx?id=2162133


& thank you :]

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Please help me I got dumped two days ago and i dont know why. Everything was going great but then we got into a small arguement. I told him I was going to the mall with my friend he said ok but to call back and tell him which mall. I was angry at the time so I didn't call. I was going to, but then we passed by his house and he looked busy with the backyard, so I didn't call. He called me screaming saying "thanks for calling!" He was so mad and argued with me for a long itme. He kept calling back and screaming stuff, I even said sorry but he wouldnt stop he said that we were never going to stop arguing and that the relationship would never work. But everything was going great, sure we argue sometimes but we always resolve it by compromising or apologizing. Anyway he said if I didnt care about his feelings that I should break up with him. I told him he was overreacting, to calm down and stop screaming. He said that by now he has the right to scream at me and that he is sick of me so I told him fine if your so sick of me than you break up with me. Then he screamed ITS OVER!

I dont understand how this happened, it was all so quickly. Me and him were soooo close. Are two year anniversary was coming up. I dont know what went wrong. I apoligzed and it was like he went all psyco. Please help me I cant sleep at night I have to take Nyquil to knock me out. I loved him so much, I thought he loved me too. My mom has told me not to call him, she says if he broke up with me and he is sorry and really loves me he has to be the one to call back otherwise he is not worth it. I know thats true but I just miss him so much I dont think I could take one more day without him. We spent all our extra time together, We stoped hanging out with our friends. We were eachothers best friend, atleast I thought so but during the arguement he said that I dont even act like girl friend anymore. I feel so bad I dont know what I did that was so wrong. PLEASE HELP ME any advice would do, I just cant take this anymore, its driving me crazy.

You didn't do anything wrong and it's not your fault so don't blame yourself on anything. Your mom is right though. Don't call him. He flipped out on you for no reason. He probablly had other things bothering him and he took it out on you. Since you guys are always together and when you went out with your friend, maybe he got a little jelous that he couldn't always be with you. I know it's hard, but stop crying. Don't call him and don't apologize. You didn't do anything and he shouldn't yell at you. Don't let him. Wait until he realizes that he messed up. Just let him cool off for a while and think things through but you need to relax and stop crying and being misrable. It's not the end of the world and things will work out.

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whens the best time to have sex? like during ure period, right before ure period, or right after your period?

You don't really know when you'll have your period but at least 2 weeks after it so it doesn't come back.

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where do you get your backgrouns?
hearts;& thanks dolL.

Xanga layouts.

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How old do you have to be to get a lipring in Georiga?
thx.

At least 16 years old but if as long as you have an adult with you.

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I need seriouse help.

okay so i have 2 good friends and ones 10 and ones 9. and im 13 . should i still be there friend or kick em to the kerb since there to young for me to be with.



help me.


X0X0 kay

Are you seriously asking this question?? If they knew you thought that and if I was them, I wouldn't want be your friend. Do you realize how selfish you're being? You have 2 good friends and just because they're younger doesn't mean you shouldn't be friends with them.

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there is this boy that sumtimes stare at me i want to know if he likes me

It's hard to tell if someone likes you just because they stare. There could be tons of reasons why he's looking at you. Maybe he just finds you attractive?

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Ook I just put a new picture on myspace, and I would like to put a black border around the picture and words on it. How do I do that?

Here's the example: .......
http://viewmorepics.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=viewImage&friendID=86103477&imageID=907805631&MyToken=1a4ea2d7-e28b-4d9b-b9fd-fb962ebd1707

People usually do this on Photoshop but you might have to pay for it or you can get a 30 day free trial. The easiest way is to do it on paint. Everything is there for you and it's easy.

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i have to get a cavity next month and the dentist said that they wont have to numb it because its gonna be small or whatever.. im just wondering if it will hurt if they dont numb it ..from a scale 1-10 and since this is not my baby teeth anymore, will the cavity stay on my teeth forever or will it like fade away?

I got cavities filled where they didn't have to numb it and it doesn't hurt. Maybe like a 3 or 4. I also got a cavitiy where they did numb it and the worst part was the needle and the taste of the medicine. You're lucky.

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Hey. Do any of you guys know what "SOL" means, because a tee-shirt says " Ur SOL pal" (from Hollister). Thanks!

So out of luck. =]

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I think I finally found the guy I'd stick with till I die even though Im 13. Hehe. But, he doesn't love me back! OMG I'm so upset and depressed and hurt and discouraged. And the only person that can ever help me with this is HIM! But noooooooo, he isn't here anymore! What do I do b4 I kill myself? Suicide is the only option so far...........

~Kayla~
Thanx in advance.

Are you serious? You want to kill yourself because a guy doesn't like you? I'm sorry, but that's pathetic. You're 13 years old and you're stressing over one guy. You can't change his feelings and you should be happy that you guys are best friends than nothing. Appriciate things while they're still there. He might not be your boyfriend, but he is your friend and you should be happy. Have you even tried to talk to him about it? If you haven't, then how do you know he can't help you. Just take it slow and relax. You will find another guy that you love.

EDIT-I'm not saying that you're pathetic but even you thinking about suicide is. If you can't get it through to him how you feel, move on. It's not the end of the world and there are a lot of other guys. Since you say you're depressed, maybe you should get help?

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