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Horrible Break Up Please Help Me
Please help me I got dumped two days ago and i dont know why. Everything was going great but then we got into a small arguement. I told him I was going to the mall with my friend he said ok but to call back and tell him which mall. I was angry at the time so I didn't call. I was going to, but then we passed by his house and he looked busy with the backyard, so I didn't call. He called me screaming saying "thanks for calling!" He was so mad and argued with me for a long itme. He kept calling back and screaming stuff, I even said sorry but he wouldnt stop he said that we were never going to stop arguing and that the relationship would never work. But everything was going great, sure we argue sometimes but we always resolve it by compromising or apologizing. Anyway he said if I didnt care about his feelings that I should break up with him. I told him he was overreacting, to calm down and stop screaming. He said that by now he has the right to scream at me and that he is sick of me so I told him fine if your so sick of me than you break up with me. Then he screamed ITS OVER!
I dont understand how this happened, it was all so quickly. Me and him were soooo close. Are two year anniversary was coming up. I dont know what went wrong. I apoligzed and it was like he went all psyco. Please help me I cant sleep at night I have to take Nyquil to knock me out. I loved him so much, I thought he loved me too. My mom has told me not to call him, she says if he broke up with me and he is sorry and really loves me he has to be the one to call back otherwise he is not worth it. I know thats true but I just miss him so much I dont think I could take one more day without him. We spent all our extra time together, We stoped hanging out with our friends. We were eachothers best friend, atleast I thought so but during the arguement he said that I dont even act like girl friend anymore. I feel so bad I dont know what I did that was so wrong. PLEASE HELP ME any advice would do, I just cant take this anymore, its driving me crazy.
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Wow you two were together for almost 2 years? If he really is going to blow a relationship of almost 2 yrs over a small arguement..then something is not right. If this is the case then maybe he's been wanting out of the relationship for awhile? I certainly hope this isnt the case, but from what i gather, its a possibility.
Lets hope for the best. Give him space for awhile and hopefully he will call you and you guys will work it out. You mentioned you two stopped hanging out with friends. Thats no good..so when you do talk..talk about how you think you should both hang out with friends too sometimes.
For now,give it time and try to keep busy. Hang out with friends and try to enjoy summer. I bet you he will call within the next week! IM me anytime on eatapasty. i hope it goes well because wow almost 2 yrs is awesome!
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omg wow you musta been thru some heavy shit here.look since you love him so much there are two things you can do here you can either try one last time and go to his house and apologize and tell him how you annioversary is coming up or you can save your self the humiliation and embarrasment and get over it, your moms right though hes not the last man on earth....4get him youll meet a lot of guys in your life and life has a lot of ups and downs and if you stop at every depressing thing that happens in your life youll never have a future.good luck
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You didn't do anything wrong and it's not your fault so don't blame yourself on anything. Your mom is right though. Don't call him. He flipped out on you for no reason. He probablly had other things bothering him and he took it out on you. Since you guys are always together and when you went out with your friend, maybe he got a little jelous that he couldn't always be with you. I know it's hard, but stop crying. Don't call him and don't apologize. You didn't do anything and he shouldn't yell at you. Don't let him. Wait until he realizes that he messed up. Just let him cool off for a while and think things through but you need to relax and stop crying and being misrable. It's not the end of the world and things will work out.
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ok lady listen up, this relationship does not sound like it was really good for you even when it was going right "we spent all our extra time together", "we stopped hanging out with our friends", NOT GOOD. I know it's an easy trap to fall in to at the beginning of a new relationship but for two years makes it sound like this relationship was more than a tad possessive.
It sounds like the reason he flipped out is because you went somewhere to hang out with a friend of yours and he couldn't keep tabs on you at all times and if he's going to go this nuts about something so tiny now, imagine what it would be like another two years down the road. Sounds to me like you had a lucky escape, however hard it is to see that now.
If you feel you need some answers from him, give it a while before you talk. Start hanging out with other friends again and let them take your mind off him. Only answer the phone/call him when you're in a less emotional head space and can avoid being emotionally blackmailed. Because if it's all about this incident, you did nothing that was so wrong and his reaction should set alarm bells ringing in your head.
I understand you love him and that it's going to be hard but the best advice i can give is get some distance and try remembering who you were and are without him. I think you'll find that person will end up a lot happier than the one tied to him right now.
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