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I never thought this would happen
Ok agian I am a 14/m in a wheelchair and I have this friend lets call her S and she and me talk almost once a week on the phone or online cause she is in minnesota for the summer and she has been asking me advice about this other boy that has a girlfriend but they both lik eachother and well after all of that talking with her I was sitting in my room going through the year book and I kept thinking "Why Can't I be that boy that she likes" and I have been having this crush on her and I am scared to tell her cause I don't want our friendship to go bad and have her mad at me cause I have had that happen before
What should I do?
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Ok well, the good relationships spark from friendship. you already know eachother, but she might take you granted sometimes, but in the end it is the friends that will be with her, not her crush. so i think that you should wait until she gets back for the summer and if she isn't with the guy still, ask her if she wants to hang out sometime. don't ask her to date yet, you need to work up to that. gradually spend more time, but don't spend too much. always to remember to give her space, but be there when she needs it. i hope this helped, and i hope you get the girl.lol. just like the movies. take care
*~Zainab~*
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You have to tell her before its too late! You dont want to always wonder "what if?".
Hope this helps
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Awww, you obviously really like her. That's really sweet. :)
Ok, obviously if this guy likes her, he wouldn't be dating another girl. So if she is ASKING for your advice, then tell her that. Don't jump in and try to date her, just be her friend for now. If you really like her, you can wait. She will eventually see who she should be dating [you] and then everything will be great.
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I would say wait it out. S probably has a temporary crush anyway.
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you shud tell her!!....if u love her tell her before her cruch makes the first move...she obviously likes u or else she would'nt be asking for advice....i hope i helped...
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This girl, C, likes you. Duh, and you know that. =] But just maybe not the same way you do....
Like my friend Pat used to talk to me all the time about everything. It was fun, because I got to know things that other people didn't and FYI- I had the biggest crush on him. Well, the day that he moved far away, he kissed my good friend Ally who he liked. And I was a bit hurt after I found out, 'specially cuz he didn't tell me and stuff... And I was going out with someone at the time, so I felt bad about feeling bad about him kissing her... its confusing! I got off topic... lets see...
Most people here would say just to make sure that you are yourself, you really like her, sit her down and tell her. But I wouldn't. I couldn't. Maybe you can--- you wont be nervous, but I would be afraid of her not liking me (if i was a guy =]) and then our friendship would be over.
So if I were you, sure, I would talk to her. Apparently, "I love talking through things." Is what my boyfriend allways said. haha, and thats true. Im the one, having hour long talks about the weirdest things. =]. But *back on topic* I would make sure you really like her... not just like a crush. And if she knows you long enough and trusts you enough to tell you these things, then it probably isn't a crush, and you really like her.
So when she comes back, after talking her through her boy problems up where ever she is, ask her to a movie, just a friends or something. Sure, you can't drive, me either. But your parents obviously know you are friends and if you can go out as friends, talking will be so much easier. So once the movie is over, or right as it starts and they play the same stupid quotes over and over again, just say somethin like, "I've known you for a long while now. And when you were gone, I missed you so much!!! =]. So now, I just got to tell you something. But dont get mad at me for it... because I like you a lot... your such a good friend, but I like you more." See how it goes from there. I mean, Im one who always talks. Start me up and watch me go. =].
But telling her is whats gunna make anything happen. If she does like you, but doesnt think you like her, she might be the kind who wants to get to know you the best she can. So I would tell her, alone, and Not on the phone. =]
If all goes well, she will like you, but realistly *yeah, too bad I cant spell. Sorry about that!* she will probably be fine with it and continue to be your friend. And in the future who knows what will happen!
Now, i know this answer is so long you will probably fall asleep reading it, but long answers is who i am.... that whole, "I love to talk about stuff thing.." Yeah. Right. So I hope this helps you!
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This is kind of tough. I'm 15/f. Because this chick is asking you advice, she obviously trusts you and your opinion on stuff. And besides, we girls don't just talk to any person we find- we only talk about stuff like that to our closest friends! So, I'm assuming that you two are pretty good friends. My best guy friend actually told me a few months ago that he had a crush on me, and I was like, "Okay, that's fine with me, but I don't feel the same way about you right now." He thought that I would think that he was weird, but in reality I didn't because we're such good friends. I was also flattered. So, if you do tell her that you like her, she may do one of two things: go out with you, or not go out with you and kind of avoid you. But if she avoided you, the only reason that she would avoid you is if she actually liked you back but was a little scared to tell you! This is probably kind of confusing, but anyway... it won't hurt to tell her, even though it might be kind of nervewracking, and since y'all are good friends it really shouldn't hurt y'all's friendship. And if you don't tell her to her face that you like her, just show her that you like her. All girls love a gentleman. Seriously. I have five very vital words for you: Treat her like a princess. I've been rambling this whole entire time, but I mean it when I say that chicks dig nice guys. And I can tell that you're a nice guy because you care enough about this girl to ask random strangers what they would do. When she gets back from wherever, or when school starts again, make sure to hang out with her (but don't stalk, girls don't like stalkers). And in reality, at some point in time she's going to get over that other guy if he stays with his girlfriend anyway. Allright, this whole paragraph has been really random, but I'll leave you with this: good luck, dude.
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Well, imagine that was you talking about the girl you like, to another girl, who came right out and told you that she liked you. How would you feel? If you told this S girl at the right moment, I don't think she would hate you.
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Why would she get mad at you if she found out you liked her? That's super lame. Anyways, I know it might hurt your feelings that she likes someone else but don't tell her how you feel online or phone. Wait until she gets back from vacation and you should talk to her in person. Then, tell her how you feel and just have fun. If she doesn't like you more than a friend, don't take it personaly. It doesn't mean that you guys won't be friends. I understand if it becomes a bit akward between you guys, but don't let your friendship change.
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