Muscle mass. Work out. Muscle weighs more than fat. You can stay the same size and just bulk up a bit. I started doing little workouty things at night and went from 105 pounds to 110 and I'm still a size 1.
-Siren =)

It's perfectly normal, m'dear. I didn't get my first kiss until I was a freshman. I was fourteen, and I'm normal...well, as normal as I can get, lol.
It's fine not to have had a boyfriend, and you have nothing to worry about. So you haven't gone out with a bunch of idiots and had your heart broken...Oh, my. What a huge loss. Trust me, you're not missing much. Lol. Don't worry so much about normality.
-Siren =)

Arguing is perfectly normal. My parents fight about little tiny things, like, every day, but they've been married 32 years and they act like two teenagers in love when they're not bickering. Lol.
It'll strengthen your relationship if you can talk through the fights and not break up. =)
-Siren =)

Oh yeah. Guys can be bi the same way girls can. They can like both sexes. *Shrug*
-Siren =)

Concentrate on something else to get boys off your mind. Draw, write, start a huge project, like a mural collage for your wall.
If I had a b/f break up with me, I'd probably cry, write a bunch of terrible poetry, write a couple of songs, write about ten pages worth of freewriting, and get it outa my system.
-Siren =)

If you feel comfy showing bra straps and more, and no one's gonna stop you, go for it. It's really a personal opinion thing. I show my bra straps because I just...don't care...Lol, but it's up to you.
-Siren =)

I kind of had/have this problem. My mom thought my guy was purely a charmer, and totally fake. That's until we had a flood in our basement, and he came back with me after my choir concert to help my parents mop up the floor. Now they love him. Lol.
Have your mom go with you and your guy to dinner or something. Out somewhere. Get them talking. I did that to get my guy and my dad to get to know each other. It was really effective. Give it a shot. Need more help, don't be afraid to ask for it.
-Siren =)

You've gotta confront her. That's illegal, and not nice...Just tell her the stealing thing really has to stop. That's all you can do.
-Siren =)

You are most definitely not fat. You might FEEL fat if you don't excercise or if you eat a lot of junk food. Try jogging, or even just doing a few crunches at night or in the morning. They help me feel unfat because yeah...I have those days. ^_^
-Siren =)

I'm a girl, but I have enough guyfriends so that I can adequately answer this:
It really depends on the guy. If it's a shallow guy, he'll look at the body and the outer stuff only. If you have big boobs and maintain a sticklike quality, the shallow guy will go for you.
If it's an artist like my guy, he'll look for beauty both in and out of a girl. Personality is of major importance for this guy, and looks are just a plus, but not totally necessary.
If your guy's really cocky, he'll be really critical and notice every little flaw on and in you, and think "Eh, I can do better" then diss you.
If it's a guy who's just really open, like one of my friends, he'll be looking for a sweet girl with a great personality, and looks don't really matter; he'll think you're beautiful even if you don't.
Guys are about as varied as snowflakes. No two are alike at all. Don't worry about what they look for in a girl. Worry about what YOU want in a guy. The right guy will find you.
-Siren =)

Mirrors can make any room seem bigger. Get a huge mirror to go with your huge dresser. Mirrors help a lot. My room would seem soooooo small if I didn't have a full-length mirror in the middle of the northish wall. Hope I helped!
-Siren =)

I doubt it...I think it just tastes the way it tastes.
-Siren =)

I feel your pain. I had low confidence when I was about your age. Then it went back up in 9th grade, then down again after that, and has just recently gone up. Lol.
You've just gotta learn to love yourself and every little flaw you have. Just tell yourself you're a goddess every day and convince yourself that you are beautiful, because you are. =)
-Siren =)

Try instead of talking to your friend, talking to her guy. Tell him you don't like what he's doing, and you know that the only thing he wants is sex. He should know that 13 is way too young to have sex.
If he doesn't respond, and you're really, really worried about your friend, talk to her mother, or father. Whichever parent you think will be more lenient with her. As you don't want her to hate you, that would be a last resort, but do keep it in mind. She sounds like she's getting into some bad stuff and needs some sense knocked into her. Good luck!
-Siren =)

My thinking is either you're develloping feelings for your guy friend (which is common, by the by), or in your dream, you're just replacing your boyfriend with a more comforting figure, namely your guy friend.
You were crying about something, and your guy friend seems to be the one who comforts you more than your boyfriend, so your subconscious stuck him in the picture instead of your real boyfriend. If the fact that your boyfriend doesn't call you or try to get together with you is bothering you a lot, call your him and talk to him about it. Guys aren't mind readers (as we very well know, lol), so we have to be more open about what we're thinking. I always tell my boyfriend that if something's bothering him, he needs to talk to me, because as much as I'd like to be, I'm not psychic.
If you give them that reassurance, they should open up and tell you what's going on.
If you need more advice, don't hesitate to ask. I'm always here.
-Siren =)

All I can do is interpret/analyze dreams...not exactly psychic. Sorry I couldn't help more.
-Siren =)

It's really up to you. You can stop them from asking questions by being really open about it, lol. Or you can let them keep bothering you and lie about it. I'm really open about everything, but that's cause I'm used to guys prying and stuff. (Most of my friends are guys.) It's your decision, though.
-Siren =)

Oy.
Your mom...needs to be awakened. A hickey is nothing, really. As long as he's not hurting you, then he's fine.
Maybe your boyfriend should talk to your mother, not you. She can see what a great guy he is, and
I mean, when I'm in a scrape - say I wanna go somewhere with him and not be home until 1 or something - and I talk to my mom and talk to her and talk to her, but she won't budge, I get HIM to talk to her. He has a calming effect on her, and she usually loosens up.
Give it a shot. =) Good luck!
-Siren =)

OMG. You sound SO much like I was in 9th grade!
You probably like the chase, and not the actual relationship. You've gotta find a guy that you like that likes you back, that you can date while still feeling like you have a crush on him, and are not just kind of...with him. It worked for me. I've been in my current relationship for almost 8 months and I still feel like I have a "crush" on my boyfriend. Like I still get butterflies when I hear his voice on the other end of the phone line...
You've gotta find a guy like that, and you'll be all set. Good luck!
-Siren =)

Yeah, if something's on your mind, you have to open your mouth and say it. Don't be so blunt about it, though, lol. Try to be gentle.
-Siren =)

I'm a laid-back 26 year old with a Psychology BA, starting my MA program, and working my way into the field as quickly as I can. It took me an extra Bachelor's degree (in vocal performance and creative writing) to figure it out, but I was put on this Earth to help, to heal, and to love.

I have made the decision to dedicate my life and career to helping others. I am here to do just that.

I've been a member since 2004, and since I signed up, I've gone through quite a lot and learned quite a lot from it. I'm here to give guidance where I had none; no one should have to go through the difficulties I went through alone.

Feel free to visit my website/blog, if you want to read my experience with domestic violence and my thoughts on it.

***While I do tend to answer mental health and other health-related or medicine-related questions, I am by NO MEANS a licensed physician or practitioner of any sort. Any and all advice I give for these questions is from my own experience or studies.***

If you need to get a hold of me quickly, my screen name on AIM is SirenCytherea. Just let me know you found me here.

I'm a strong believer in the idea that there are no stupid questions except the ones left unasked, so, please, keep an open mind, heart, and mouth.

Siren

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