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Q: ok well theres this boy at school that I like and some other people say that he likes me but I dropped a note in his locker and asked him if he liked me and he checked no helppppppppp me plez

Well all that you can do now is find someone new. I'm sorry that he doesnt like you but you shouldent hold onto him. You'll find a better guy to crush on and hopefully go out with! Look for new people..:)

Q: Last night I had a party because my parents were away. This guy that my friend has a crush on was there and we both made out with him multiple times while she was there.
After she left we were both lying on the floor together and started making out again. Then it started to get a little more serious, and he put his hand up my bra. We went into a bedroom and continued to make out more, and then he sucked on my breast, and then we made out more.
Afterwards I felt horrible and guilty and bad. I talked to my friend and she asked me what happened after she left so I told her that we made out and left out the second part and she wasn't pissed. The problem is that she's going to be hanging out with him and he's probably going to tell people, and it might get back to her.
Do you think I should tell my friend?

Yeah sure. You dont want her finding out from other people, but if she gets pissed then thats weird. You can do what you want and thats what happened. She shouldent be mad..and if she is, well then forget about it because she'll be over it.

Q: OMG I get soo pissed when i think about it! WEll, see first of all i wanna gain weight. Like I'm 103 pounds which i think is liek sooo underweight ccuz i think im like 5'3''...like i don't know if anyone remembers in the movie mean girls...but those bars that make you gain weight... well i was soo going to get that but my mom said NO like she says i am at a good weight...! But see Im annorexic and i don't throw up or anything...the worst part is i eat like all the time...and i swear i don't gain a pound! So can someone tell me an easy way to gain weight w/out using pills, or bars or shakes or anything like that ? THANK U !

Well dont over eat to wear your very very full. Eat until your satisfied and if thats not enough, then what can you do about it? if you over eat you'll make yourself sick. But lucky for you, you ca n eat whatever you want. cakes candys chips, etc.

Q: Okay what is the best way to study 8 pages of history in just 5-6 hours? I need help, and fast please =) Thanks

Read a page, and do a 1 or 2 paragraph summary about key points, major events and vocabulary words. You should have 8 summarys and then you can read them through again..and read them some more..even do notecards about key points/major events and study those. Have someone help you.

Q: Hey howd u get ur words to move?

Well you put a HTML code into your profile settings under where you say like "Hey my name is..." Theres different ways you can move your words. Going down, going up, side to side, and all around(like mine). Tell me what kind you want and i'll give you the code!

Q: I have something mentally wrong with me, and I aknowledge this. I dont know what exactly, but I know I serverly need help. I asked my mom if I could go to therapy, and she's fine with that, but I think I need more than that, like maybe being commited for a while. I cant just say 'Hey mom, I think I need to be committed to the loony bin for a while, is that cool?' She really doesnt see what goes on with me, i usualy just keep to myself while I'm at home. I really think I need more than just therapy, and possibly anti depressants (I havent gone to therapy yet, so I dont know what would go on) I really think it would help for me to go to an institution for a while. How do I approach this though?

Well i think you should go into therapy for a while and see if that works. You dont have to talk to your mom about it first, you can talk to your therapist about it. Your therapist might know if thats right for you and if it is, he/she can talk to your mom. I really feel therapy should be the first step and you can explain all of it to your therapist. Hope I helped, good luck!

Q: can someone who seriously knows about working out tell me why im not getting sore after my workouts? when i bench i do like 5 sets so i kno im working really hard and when i curl im also doing like 5 sets of it and the next day after my workouts im never sore...i want to know why im not getting sore, because i know that when you are sore it means you had a good effective workout
if you know a good amount of stuff about working out please IM me on iliv4hockey7..im always up 4 learning new things..thanks

Well just because your not sore doesnt mean your not gaining muscle. Maybe you should go to a gym and ask a trainer about it. I know when my brother worked out, he usally never was sore but he was getting muscle and stuff. But I think you should get professional advice and go to 24 or whatever gym you have in your area!

Q: Ok, heres the deal...I have liked a certain someone for a year now. We dated before and blah blah but I still like him a LOT and I have been getting the vibe that he likes me too. Well, our school is holding a Sadie Hawkins dance for Vday. And I want to ask him. But everytime I think about it my heart races and I get all nervous and stuff. How should I ask him? Thanks in advance.

Maybe through a note? Like drop it in his backpack, locker, or put it in his hand and tlel him to read it next period or something...Like you said you have the vibe that he likes you too...so hey, theres a good chance! Or tell him through the internet...its probably the easiest way! :) Have fun at Saide Hawkins!

Q: Ok I'm not sure if I should lose weight or not I am 5'2 or 5'3 I'm not exact, and i weigh between 100 and 105, like on and off, but I don't know weather to just stay the way I am or lose weight. help me.

Whattt!! You are crazy skinny! I wish i was 100 lbs! Your at the right weight and I think your even underweight! Forget about diets! Maybe you should think about eating more?

Q: me nd this kid *craig* broke up last week.well he broke up with me for no reason. ive tried callin him many times to find out wut happened and he just gets mad and calls me annoying. im still in love with him but he seemed to get over me soo quickly! nd on top of it hes gorgeous. i want to get back together with him cuz i miss him. I DONT WANT TO KEEP callin him tho
help me pleasee i rate 5

Well maybe he doesnt want to tell you his reason? Since you called so much and stuff...I dont think he wants to go out with you. Dont worry! Look for a new guy! You'll find a new one real soon...good luck!

Q: sorry this is long.

my best guy friend, who i am kinda in love with (he doesnt know) is fallin for another girl..and he keeps saying he loves her and its KILLING me...

hes even askin for my advice with what to do about her.

i give it but i dont no what to do. do you no wot i mean? cause if i give him the advice he'll get the girl but when i dont he keeps asking me whats up and stuff.

and hes so happy coz she nos he loves her...and she had a good response to him although they arent going out yet...so hes so damn happy. and i do NOT wanna make him unhappy by saying 'hey remember me? well i love you more than you love her'. because thats just not how it works. and it would probly offend him.

wot do i do?

i dont even no if i rly love him. i mean...he is the first thing on my mind in the mornin and the last thing at night, however dumb that sounds...and i am so upset hes with sumone else...but hes happy n that makes me feel happy too!!!! except i just wish he could be happy with me.

pluuus we hav never met...just online...thru a datin agency...(im 18)...can you be in love with someone you neva met? cause i am sooo in love with his personality...i do not care wot he looks like although i have sin pics. and spoke on webcam and the phone, texted etc. but hes so funny and caring and kind...

but my q is...do i act on thinkin maybe i am in love n ask him out before he actually goes out with this otha girl? or do i not...do i let it go by?

ta muchly!!!

Since it's long distance, it would probably never work out! Trust me, I know. If you think "This one will be different..." and you'll always be together...it wont be true. But, you want the man so go for him. Let your feelings out through email and see what he says! Whats it gonna hurt to try? Good luck!!

Q: If You ask a question while you are signed in, will it show up on your page? before,or after (or both) its answered?

because some questions i DONT want my friends to see!

sorry, you all probably know this, im sorta new.

and dont really ask to many questions, but now im gonna! :) coz you all are soo sweet!

thanks in advance!

oh I always Rate! 4 or 5, unless your mean to me, then i just dont rate- i think that if you dont like that they say- you should rate then low, because then your being mean right back!

sorry I talk alot!

The questions you ask will not be shown on your page! Its shown in your own private place called "Your questions" right under "Welcome (username!). There you can see the questions you've asked, the answers, and you can rate people! Dont worry!

Q: i am doing a weight loss program and i told my friend and i think my other friends know and are making fun of me. what sould i do?
how do i know if there my true friends?
HELP ME
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ill rate you a
5!

Thanx for your help
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Well tell them straight out that you heard that their talking crap about you...and that its totally messed up and walk away! If its true, they wont come to you and talk to you about it. If its not true, they'll probably try to talk to you wether its through the phone, in person, whatever...you'll know their your true friends if they try to talk to you about it!

Q: ok on aol I am trying to get a funny but cute screen name or just funny I am a girl and I am really tired of the one I have cookiemonster thx

Well tell us what you like, your hobbies, fav color, etc. and we'll help you out! We need to know info on you...not just that your a girl!

Q: I'm a breakfast, lunch, dinner type of girl. I try not snack inbetween, but I find that many times, after lunch, a few hours before dinner, I am SO hungry...does anyone have some really nutritious snacking ideas?

A salad. Or maybe even a small meal. Doesnt have to be perfectly healthy but giving your body a little bit before dinner wont be that bad for you. It might even make you eat less dinner...try that.

Q: ok..me nd my bf have been together for 7 months. just recently we had oral..and he busted...so he went to the bathroom and everything was ok. later that day, he fingered me. my period has always been irregular. im late a week nd my bf is freaking out. is there any way i culd b pregnant?

No, you are not pregnant! It only happens if he busted around your vagina. And periods are irregular all the time..dont worry

Q: Ok, this might be long and confusing, so I apologize in advance! I will give good rating even just for effort.Ok, I finally started crushing on this guy, lets call him Bob, like 3 months ago, or somehting like that. He and one of my guy friends got into a fight before that, so me and Bob never really talked. I didn't evn know who he was. Then..., I started noticing him, and realized his locker was like 8 aways from mine. I was really phsyced ... I mean I'm a freshmen, and I've had a ouple of crushes this year, but nothing serious, like more then 2 weeks until I started noticing Bob. I started to get all these butterflies. Finally, after two months, I got the courage to finally talk to him. I asked him to meet me in the library once and after that we started talking. That's when I reallly fell for him! =) And then we decidedto keep meeting after school at the library and stuff and I called my friend Alice, because I knew she USED to like him and she talked with him, so I thought maybe she could help a sista out. lol. Firstly, I asked if she liked him and she's like 'um, no, i don't think so ... ' and i explained the whole story and told fhger everything. She said she'd talk to him. So the next day, my friend Kyle calls me and says I saw Alice & Bob in the library on top of each other and flirting, so i was like wtf...?! And I called her, and she said she talked to him and he told her he didn't like me. SO I was like oh, ok, I mean what was I supposed to do? ANd she told me how HE *was all over* HER! And I was like, well are you guys gonna go out or what? And she's like no, he's too much, too fast. And the next day I asked him about her. He's like 'wtf, i hate her. what a jealous bitch. i'd choose you over her ANY day, he told me that like 21 times, lol. And he'slike she's just jealous, what a jealous hoe. So then, I just you know, went on with it and then I hear that he wrote here a not later on that say say said dont ever fucking o talk to me you fucking bitch i hate you dont look atme dont talk to me ... etc. so then she strats saying stiuff that the only reason I like BoB is cause she does, which SOO isn't true, cause I asked her in the first place. S me and her aren't talking and we USED to be best friends, so yeah. then here comes the problem, Monday, no school, Tuesday I saw Bob, and said HEY to him, i was shy, lol, and I havn't seen him since. I asked around, and I thought he had ACes(suspension!) but he didn't and I heard that he left to Siberia or somewhere (he's arabian) because its some arabic holiday. BTW, he'sonly 50% arabic. And i did notice that lots of Arabs were missing in school today, so I'm not sure if its that. then I also heard that he went to iraq or palestine or wherever for 2 years and he's coming back his junior year! i was like no, i seriously wanted to cry. then I heard, he moved/transfered. my one friend has class with him and she said he was moving or something bcz he returned his books and yturned in transfer papers so I'm not sure ... He was actually the first guy I've felt reall good about. I mean just when things were going good, things got screwed up. SO does anyone know if there *IS* an ARABIC HOLIDAY? and please I need help with all of this, I don't even know what to do. I'm like obsessed with the guy, I fell for him wasy too soon and he's just gone for sure now without a site. I'm still going to try to talk to his friends but I'm not sure. I just need some help, what to do about all of this. And I CAN'T moce on ... there is NO ONE else.! thanks for at least taking the time to read this!

Arabic holiday? or MUSLIM holiday? See, I'm arabic..from Iraq and all and there is no arab holiday. And even if there was, you wouldent have to travel to Iraq! Or maybe its a muslim holiday? Did he ever say anything about Islam? and how he believed in it? I dont know much about Islam but I know there is no arab holiday. Besises, arabic people that live in the US cant go back to iraq for whatever reason. We would like die. Terroist attacks and its just not safe. I'm sorry about your "friend" that sucks. So if hes not at school...and there is no arabic holiday..maybe he had tomove for a reason know one can know about??

Q: I want to lose 30 pounds fast!any ideas?(i rate 5's!)

You can try a low carb diet. They are SO hard because you have to give up four main things!! Bread, pasta, potatoes, and all junk food! The main thing you eat is meat! Ever heard of ATKINS or SOUTH BEACH? Well they really work! But it slows down your metabolism andstuff so it might not be very healthy! This diet is for temporary weight loss only so if you want to lose 30 lbs fine..but you'll gain it back once you eat normally. Leave one in my inbox for info on low carb diets(I have been on one twice and I'll give you tips, results, info, whatever). Now the term diet is TEMPORARY!You want to lose 30 lbs and KEEP IT OFF! So instead of saying you want to go on a diet, say you want to change your LIFESTYLE! Give up the junk foods, juices, lots of sugary stuff for lets say 3 months! Exercise, and limit what you eat! 3 meals a day, no snacks in between. MAKE SURE!! You eat breakfest! You can still have your favorite candys and chocolates but do it like once a week and eat them in moderation. You will lose the weight if you eat right and exercise. You wont lose it that fast though! You need to be PATIENT! Also, dont focus on your scale too much. because your weight fluctuates during diets. Like one day you'll be 130 and the next day you'll be 134. Dont get discouraged and only weigh yourself once a week! And dont focous so much on how much weight you've lost..focus on how your clothes are becoming loose! Good luck, be healthy, be safe, and be patient!! I hope everything works out! For more info on diets just ask me!!

Q: What i wonder is why.....i do everything i am asked to do, if i do one thing remotely wrong, im bitched at for several days. Why does she single me out....It cant be because im the oldest, my brother doesn't do anything and he is such a little pecker....So what the hell did i do to piss her off....NOTHING. But i still get bitched at, why do you think this is....its really pissing me off

Heyy! Your mom is probably just stressed out or mad about work or any other problems she has in her life...and shes taking it out on you. What can you do about that? Probably nothing but stay away from her so she wont be mean to you. Oh and do your homework, chores, and everything so she doesnt have a reason to yell! Hope I helpedd!!

Q: I was best friends with Kelly since 7th grade. We're in 9th now and we're still pretty good friends, not best friends but close. Well, she tells me all of her secrets and I never tell them. She says all the time to me and everybody else that I'm her most trustworthy friend, and she tells me that Brittany is very dishonest and lies to her alot. Anyways, Kelly did something really bad and she told me and Brittany and acouple of other people about it and made us promise not to tell. Her secret got out (one that everybody gossips about) and one girl, Julie, (who doesnt like me) tells Kelly that I told everybody the secret. I honestly didn't tell anybody. Now Kelly won't even talk to me, she won't even let me explain to her that I didn't tell anybody. She won't talk to me about it at all. Do you think that she's just not a good enough friend to even try to hold onto, or should I keep trying to tell her the truth? Ill rate if you ask :o) thanks

Well what I dont get is why would she not believe you?? You have been an honest friend since the beginning. Still try to explain everything whether its in the form of a note, email, IM, letter...whatever! I think and hope that she'll come to her senses and realize that you have been keeping her secrets forever and that Julie is lying! Keep being a good friend and I hope everything goes well!! Oh and if after a while, she still doesnt believe you..just forget it! But for now I think you should try to tell her that julie is a lyer and stuff..