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i have a huge regents exam tomorrow and i planned on studying today but my mom's friend insisted on having me babysit their son. he's 4 so he's really hyper and all that. how can i keep him occupied while i study? he loves to talk and bugs me a lot and i can't focus.

I babysit a 3 and 4 year old all the time and what usually works on them is coloring books and videos.
First I play with them for awhile so they don't feel ignored. So just run around with them for half and hour or so. Then suggest they color for a bit or watch a movie.
When he colors something, act like its some kind of amazing piece of artwork and this should keep him occupied for awhile.
If that plan falls through, sit him down in front of Barney or Teletubbies (or whatever other show he likes). Seriously, those shows are hypnotizing for small children.
Good luck on your exam!

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Latly, everything has been so different. but the one thing that i really want it my first kiss. I'm 16 yrs old and it is somthing that i want. Everytime i like someone, i find a way to tell them and it never turns out good! i don't want to wait, this is somthing i want this summer. I really want a b/f beecause it will make me feel better and away to escape from my crazy family!i just want someone to keep me close and care about me but i don't know what to do about it. So if u could plz help me in any way, i would appreiciate it very much! thanks

Sweetie, this is what everybody our age wants. We all want to have someone there to hold us and make us feel good about ourselves. Unfortunately, it's not like anybody can just snap their fingers and an awesome boy will appear...
The advice that I can give to you is to stop looking for a boyfriend. Sometimes, great things happen when you least expect them. This summer, forget boys and just have fun. You'll find that special someone eventually.
Seriously, you have the whole summer ahead of you. That's a summer full of freedom. There's bound to be someone out there. Just love yourself and you'll find someone to love you.
And you really don't absolutely need a boyfriend to make yourself feel better and escape from your family. You have your friends, which last a lot longer than any boyfriend ever would. Trust me on that.
But, I totally understand where you are coming from. Like I said before, everybody wants somebody there who loves them for who they are and treats them right. I want that too, but I just don't plan on looking too hard this summer. I think that most times it's so much better when you're pleasantly surprised by good fortune.
Have a nice summer!

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Im a female who is 18 and I have been dating my boyfriend for more than a year now and for the last 5 or so months the topic of his band going on tour has been a heated disscussion that usually ends up in me being upset with him and him not understanding why i can't just be happy for him. The thing is, I AM happy for him, im so proud of what he has accomplished and that he will have an opportunity like this. But he needs to understand that I may not be jumping for joy immediately when i hear that he will be leaving for a month, even possibly more. Whenever he brings the topic up all he says is how exciting it will be and how he can't wait, and i sit there thinking about how much ill miss him and if he even will miss me half as much as i will, because he sure as hell doesn't express it. It's hard for me to talk to him about it without sounding selfish, so after the many arguements with the same outcome, i just try and not show my emotion about it, even though it does slip up from time to time. How exactly will I come around to being content with this situation? How on earth can we make this work? I feel like Im going to be the one sitting at home missing him as he is out there having the time of his life and wont have time to care about anyone at home.

Well from my personal experience, guys express their emotions much differently than girls. They aren't very outward about that sort of stuff, you know? I'm sure he's going to miss you, he just doesn't know how to show it. And of course he's excited because as you put it, he is going to be having the time of his life. He's excited about it, but that doesn't mean he won't be thinking about you.
I think that maybe you need to tell him how happy and proud of him you are. This is totally awesome for him and as his girlfriend, it's your responsibility to let him know this. Your sadness is justifiable, but shouldn't overpower your pride in him.
Honestly, just remember that he's not going to forget about you on the road. And a month isn't too too long. Maybe you could opt to spend more time with your friends and family while he's away to take your mind off the fact that he's gone?
Every time you start feeling sad about him leaving, just think about the happy parts of this situation: you'll have more time with friends and family, how totally great it is that he's practically made it to the big time, how awesome your reunion will be when you guys see each other again.
You know what you could also do? You could send him postcards that will reach him at every stop on his tour. They could say things like "Thinking of you, hope you're thinking of me too", "I miss you, love you, can't wait til you come home", etc. That way, every time he stops to do a concert, he'll have a sweet reminder of how much you care =]

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Yesterday I lost my best friend. I thought of him as my brother. He was living with me in my condo for maybe 8 months with me and my boyfriend. For the past two months I had been charging him rent because things are getting really hard with money and originally he was living here for free. Free as in he didn't even have to buy his own food. He was going through a tough time and I let him in my home. Him and my boyfriend and me had a really close relationship since high school, but then he seemed to get really into his girlfriend who he had been with for 9 months and he proposed to. He started to seem like he was more interested in her than us. He even actually told me straight to my face that he cared about her more than me and my boyfriend, and that really hurt because I see him as my brother. What happened was in the past few weeks we have been at eachothers throats, mostly him and my boyfriend. My boyfriend has a bit of a bossy personality (that he is going to counseling for and getting better) and my friend has a more of a calm but a bit of an ego driven attitude. I also was having some conflicts with him because he was bringing his girlfriend over just about everyday to spend the night and I felt like my home was being invaded and I had no peace. He also would keep telling me, "I have rights as a renter now". He would get mad if I tried to set any rules down in my house and said I was not being fair. We also got in a fight because he wanted his rent money to go directly to bills, in the matter of that he would be paying for them, and I told him no. I said I am in charge of the utilities, its my house. This came up because he thought he could leave lights on and do whatever he wants around the house.

I saw this going on and I decided that maybe it was best if I tell him that the roomate situation was not working out. In my mind, if I would have let him stay it would have ruined all of our friendships. So I told him that it was not working out anymore, I was not kicking him out, I just wanted to give him a notice that maybe it was time to just move on soon for the sake of keeping our friendships and not ruining them, which was obviously happening. When I told him this and how I felt everything seemed fine, like it was going to work out and I was gonna keep my friendship and him and my boyfriend would work on theirs. But just yesterday, he told me that this is all my fault, that I should have stood up to my boyfriend and stopped him from what he thought was bossing him around. I feel like those were their problems that I should not get into. Then he told me he was leaving and stopped talking to me. I texted his girlfriend and asked what was going on and she told me "he realizes what lousy people you are and you treat him like crap and he is going to be alot happier when he is out. he is not your friend anymore." I freaked out and started crying for hours. That is exactly what I was trying to prevent was losing a friend. I feel like I lost my best friend and brother over something that was not worth it. I keep trying to talk to him to fix things but he does not want to. I don't know what to do, I feel like he really does care about his girlfriend more than me, and I don't know if I was the one who messed up or what. I feel lost and I don't know what to do, I just want my brother back and I don't know how to get him back or talk to him or anything. He is not completely moved out yet, so he will be coming back, but I don't know if I should try to talk to him or what. I don't know how to deal with this.

If I were you, I'd give him a little time. Sometimes, things are said in the heat of the moment that people really don't mean. His girlfriend shouldn't have texted you that mean explanation, but I bet that if asked in a few weeks why your friend moved out, the answer would be much nicer and calmer.
Honestly, I don't think that you've completely lost a friend. I believe that all he needs right now is a cooling off period. So, I wouldn't try to stop him from moving out or even try talking to him for that matter. At least for a few days or possibly weeks. Then you can talk it out calmly. If you don't wait long enough, it could turn into another angry argument. Just relax and wait it out. It's too soon to tell right now sweetie.
I know it seems like a long time to wait, but trust me on this one: People sometimes need some time. I learned that the hard way, and hopefully you won't have to.
Though a good friend over the years, this guy was taking advantage of you. I totally agree with you that the right thing to do to salvage your friendship was to end the living arrangement deal. And you know what? You did save your friendship. Can you imagine how much it would have been ripped apart by constant fighting over rent and bringing girlfriends home? Now you guys have space apart, and maybe that was part of the problem: too much time together. This idea has given you some much-needed breathing space.
In all fairness, it's perfectly normal for him to care strongly for his girlfriend. He shouldn't have said right to your face that he prefers her over you guys, because honestly I don't think that's true. It's not that he loves her more, it's that he loves her differently than you. You're like his sister, she's his lover. You two both have a special place in his heart.
Knowing that, remember that good strong friendships usually last forever. That being said, I think that given a little time, this rift between you two will be nothing more than a learning experience for you both.
Good luck, I really hope all works out for you.

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ok. so my boobs are a B and a DD. they have been this way since i was in High school. Now i know this isnt normal. if i lose weight would that help make my one boob or down. or is there anything i can do. or is breast ogmination the only sorce to make them close to the same size?

I suggest seeing a doctor (if you haven't already). It could be something serious such as a tumor or something. Even though you've had this since high school, some tumors grow more and more malignant over time.
I'm definitely no doctor however and so I suggest you talk with one.

If it isn't anything serious and merely just the way your body has developed, then perhaps you should get a breast reduction. I don't think just plain losing weight would help this problem. It's just such a major difference between a B-cup and a DD-cup.

Good luck!

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16/f. I just found out that my mom cheated (or wanted to cheat) on her boyfriend of many years. He is in rehab for drinking and driving and has been in there since about late fall of last year. My mom is 36 yrs old and likes to party on weekends with my best friend's mom and some other people. That doesnt bother me, I like seeing my mom have a good time but my best friend told me last night that she overheard her mom talking about how my mom wanted to hook up or did hook up with my bfs mom's boyfriends friends. (Sorry for the confusion lol) And I've been thinking about it since she told me and it really bothers me. I never saw my mom as a cheater. My mom lives with in my grandparents basement but has an appartment that is for her boyfriend when he comes home and she tells my grandma and I that she stayed there after partying but now I'm starting to think she brought these guys over or stayed with them. I just don't know what to do. I can't even say she did cheat but I am about 90% sure.

Wow what a rough situation.
Well, first off, unless you personally saw or heard your mom talking about this, don't believe it completely. I'm not calling your best friend a liar, but sometimes with things like this it's best to get the information firsthand.
If you're uncomfortable (which clearly you are, I'd be too), then maybe you should calmly talk with your mother. Don't go right out and ask her "Are you cheating on your boyfriend?!". I mean just sit down and talk with her about life, love, etc. Work up to bringing up the subject of her boyfriend. If she seems to be comfortable with talking about him, then maybe you could bring up your confusion. If she doesn't seem comfortable, drop the subject and try again later. We're looking for understanding, not confrontation.
I hope everything works out okay.

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http://www.imeem.com/people/PjJGviV/video/AfnrgZob/need_to_know_what_song_this_is_music_video/

I have no idea who sings it or whats it called =( I would appreciate any help.

Try googling the lyrics to the song.
Honestly, it would be a lot faster than waiting for one of us to answer.

Edit: You have the song right there for you to listen to. How much time would it take to type out the lyrics you hear?
Look here's the first verse hun:
I ain't ever seen a body like that
The way you bump and grind and move your body like that
If you really don't know the truth babe
I can see me and you doing a few things

I did that all just by listening to it and it literally only took me two minutes.

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alright it's almost summer...ive been trying to lose weight and ive been doing REALLY well. okay so i still have my 34 c's, and all these bikinis i have, most of them look bad on my boobs. they make them look like they kind of go to side, and i still have more weight to lose. my friend had big boobs but hers always look so perfect and up there in bathing suits and mine looks kind of saggy. so what do i do? what kind of bathing suits will make me look okay? i want my boobs to look good, like they dont sag at all.
i also think i have like kind of big hip bones..i dont want to be skinny and insanely curvy like my other friend..her stomach is unattractive. i want like the victorias secret model stomach/waist..long and only a little bit curved. helpp

For girls with bigger boobs, I hear halter tops look really good.
Here's a website that might help you with any further questions:
http://www.lifetoolsforwomen.com/b/perfect-swimsuit-body-type.htm

The key is confidence, no matter what bathing suit you decide on. It's really great that you've lost weight =] Just stay motivated, stay confident, and relax. And remember that it really doesn't matter what your other friend looks like. It's your body, so it only matters what works best for you.
Have a great summer!

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Okay I sort of have two questions in one.

When a guy pops the question or even speaks about the possibility of getting married. I always take it as some sort of joke for some reason and I never take the thought seriously at all. In fact at times it scares me off. My current boyfriend and I joke about getting married we will just talk and joke like "We should run off and get married or something!" and we will joke around asking questions like "Will you have my babies" ...but at the sametime when we joke..I just take it not serious at all. Now I'm worried that when the real thing comes I probably will take it as a joke and I won't take it seriously. Also, How would I know when he is being serious!? ... The other question was if a guy proposes without a ring is it wrong? or is it a normal thing?


-BahaiMa22

I think you would know if he was being serious. There would most likely not be as much laughter and he would probably look at you completely serious.
If he does look at you serious when he asks you, please don't laugh. ;]
Personally, when I plan to get married (in like 10 years lol) I wouldn't really care if the guy had a ring or not. My parents told me that they had planned on getting married 6 months before my dad finally officially 'popped the question' and gave her the ring. So I personally wouldn't particularly care either way. I'd just be so excited and in love and ready to start our future together. Of course, having the ring is tradition. But who says you have to be traditional?
Every couple is different.

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this is honestly the worst day of my life. worst day. i feel crushed, and hurt and sad and i cant stop crying. everything is going wrong for me, everything. this whole entire year all i could look forward to was camp, camp, camp. [sleepaway] i met these girls last year btw. and camp is finally coming around and im sick to my stomache because of what just happened. i requested my two good friends in the OTHER bunk, and somehow the bunks this year got messed up and everyone seems to be blaming me. it wasnt my fauly at all. and all of these girls are ganging up on me toeghor and tearing me apart and no one from my bunk is backing me up. a few girls from the other bunk whom i requsted are backing me up but those girls in the other bunk who dont like me, i dont care about. its the girls in my own bunk that dont like me because of this which im scared about. they were all bitching about it and yelling at me and i just broke down and couldnt stop crying. this really could be the worst day of my life ive never been so hurt by so many people before. and the sad part is they dont care they did that to me. they dont care. at all. because a few minutes ago someone was like guys i think we could just switch our bunks when we get there thats wut im doing who cares. and now they are all happy. but nobody apologized to me. i feel crushed. and, how am i supposed to go back into that bunk now? no one likes me in there. AND the bunk i originally wanted to be in, obviously i wont be in. because a few them dont want me in it. i feel so..rejected. and unwanted. i dont know what to do, this was the biggest thing i couldnt wait for this, and now im dreading it, im going to be miserable. and theres no way to switch out of that bunk. im stuck in it now with them. i hate my life. AND my parents wont buy me an ipod, [mine broke] for camp because they dont have enough money. and my grandma who is rich wont buy me one either. even though she bought my dad a wii and guiatar hero. this life sucks i hate this. and the bed cover i ordered for camp is too big and i dont have a big enough down blanket to put in there. this fucking sucks. AND exams are next week and since all this drama is happening ive had no time to study. i am so stressed right now and ughhh i hate my life i cant stop crying help me help me help me please god help me

Calm down sweetie. Your life is not over nor does it suck as you said just because the bunk situation isn't working out exactly like you wanted it to. I doubt that they were flipping out at you because of something personal. It was probably all out of frustration because it hadn't worked out the way they wanted it to. But now, they've settled the problem amongst themselves so it's over and done with. Do you really need an apology? I wouldn't ask for one because that would stir the problem up again. Just accept the fact that the problem has been taken care of and then move on. Don't let this one little incident ruin the camp experience for you. That's not fair to yourself or your fellow campers.
Your life also sucks because your parents refuse to buy you an iPod? Well sweetie if they don't have the money, then they don't have the money. I don't really know what your financial situation is like, but if they don't have enough money to buy you some electronic thing, then once again drop it and move on. Trust me on this, parents hate it when you keep complaining and whining about some material object that you absolutely "can't live without". Let's face it, there are lots of other kids who can't have iPods and they're able to live their lives just fine without them.
Please don't let these issues get in the way of you succeeding on your exams. Honestly, all you need to do is just accept and move on.
Have fun at camp!

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Raised in a catholic family, attending catholic school, i rebelled against christianity. I feel I had no religion until I was about 19 and realized I believed in the Great Earth Mother, who gave birth to the world and everything in it. I have prayed to this goddess for years until recently confused. I have always known deep down that something very significant would happen in my lifetime. I have learned a lot recently about the "end times" and the rapture. Which brings me back to the bible and am now thinking that God and Jesus is real. I know the Mayan calendar ends in 2012. I know we have seven years of tribulation before the apocalypse. I know war and famine and earthly destruction is beginning as i write this. i researched bible codes and feel there is a lot of truth in that. what i do not understand is the significance of men in the bible and religion. in the story of adam and eve, women are basically cut down. the messiah, jesus was a man. god is portrayed as a man. Yet women are life giving and wise. (not saying men are not wise). it would only seem to me that the mother of earth is in fact female in a way. if there is so much truth in the bible, then why are women insignificant as compared to Jesus and the prophets? if i do not believe in jesus deep down in my heart am i destined for hell although i am a good person? God chose women to give birth and and i think all that is today came from a female figure, because only women give life. if the rapture is real, i do not wish to be left behind because i don't believe in my heart that Jesus is our savior. I love life, i love people, i stay away from evil. i also do not think gay people or unmarried parents are wrong like it says in the bible. it pains me to think life ends with death. Even if my question is not precise, any insight will do , since i cannot fully give you the gist of my confusion. thank you

Hi there. I'm only fifteen, but I'll give you some of my opinions on this topic...

First of all, the reason why women are shown as 'insignificant' compared to men is the time period in which the Bible was written. In my opinion there's no reason to take offense, God loves all people no matter what gender. It's just that back in that time period, women played a smaller role than men did.
Another thing you said dealing with insignificance: "if there is so much truth in the bible, then why are women insignificant as compared to Jesus and the prophets?" Everyone (including men) were shown as slightly lesser than Jesus and the prophets because obviously Jesus is holy (to put it bluntly).
The Bible was written a very long time ago, and therefore not every exact situation may apply to nowadays' standards. (Of course it all really depends on your religion. Some people take the Bible totally literally and others use it more as guidelines if you will.) Just because you don't agree with some of it (gay people, women playing a lesser role, etc.) doesn't mean you have to reject it all. Religion is about what you believe.
I believe in God. I had doubts and confusion just like you but have recently found Him. Now that doesn't mean that you have to. If you believe in the Great Earth Mother, then that's what you believe. There's nothing wrong with that in my opinion. I believe that people should be able to practice whatever religion they want.

Anyways, those are just some of my opinions. I don't know if they clear some things up for you or not. I know I'm young but that's just what I personally believe in.

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So, my boyfriend of 7 months just broke up with me. But not because he doesn't like me, but because his mom grounded him for 3 months, and it'd be impossible to see him until august. & Theres also no way for him to get out of the house. We sitll really love each other, and I'm trying to find a song about that. Any ideas?

"Check Yes Juliet" by We the Kings is about basically not listening to your parents and sneaking out to be with each other. The chorus goes:
Run baby run
Don't ever look back
They'll tear us apart
If you give them the chance
Don't sell your heart
Don't say we're not meant to be
Run baby run
Forever we'll be
You and me.

Of course it's told from a guy's point of view, but I say it fits pretty good. =]
I'm sorry about your relationship...feel better.

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Just a few days ago, I got my ears pierced. Im fourteen and I had them done when I was seven but they got infected.
I have really thick earlobes, hah. So that makes it difficult to clean my ears, but I try.
But my ears still hurt and I cant tell if theyre swollen or not, because my ears are just...thick! You know? And my brother said they look red but Im always red so its hard to tell.
How do you tell if your ears are infected, and can you make it go away without having to take out the earrings? Thanks so much!

Here I found this great website for you that answers all your questions: http://www.med.umich.edu/1libr/pa/pa_pierced_hhg.htm

and also: http://kidshealth.org/kid/grow/girlstuff/pierced_ears.html

^If you scroll down to the bottom, it tells you what and ear infection looks like. I'll copy and paste it here for you though:
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What if Your Ears Get Infected?

If you think one of your pierced ears may be infected, tell your mom or dad. An infected earlobe may be swollen, red, warm, and painful, and it may ooze a thick, yellow-white fluid called pus.

It's fairly common for pierced ears to get infected, but don't wait for it to get better by itself because the infection may spread and make you sick. Here are signs you need to tell your mom or dad about:

* Your earring gets stuck in your ear.
* The swelling or redness spreads beyond the hole.
* You get a fever.

Your mom or dad will probably want to call the doctor for advice on how to treat the infection. The doctor will probably suggest a routine of cleaning the ear and putting antibacterial ointment on it.

You'll need to have a parent check in with the doctor again if the infection doesn't start going away after 2 days. But if you take care of the infection, it probably will go away completely in 1 to 2 weeks. Then you can start enjoying your pierced ears again!
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Get it checked out anyways if you're unsure. =]

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I have this friend. She is amazing dont get me wrong, but she has another friend. I am not mentioning any names. She tries to hang out with both of us but when we are together her other friend always pushes me out of the way. Now everytime i want to hang out with her i have to hang out with her and her other friend or i dont hang out with her at all. What should i do? should i back off and let her other friend take over our friend ship? i dont know.. Help me!

I've been through this same thing hundreds of times sweetie. It sucks, I know. I just remember the first couple of times I handled it totally wrong. I tried to push the other girl right back. Let me tell you one thing: that doesn't work. I wish so many times that I could go back and act civil towards her, so now hopefully you'll take this advice and use it:
When you're hanging out with your friend and this other girl, act totally friendly as if nothing's wrong. Try being friends with this girl instead of automatically hating her because she's pulling your friend away.
And sometimes, you should let her pull your friend away for alone time. Just give them some space without disappearing completely. What I mean is, pull yourself away..don't let her push you. See what I mean? You have the control, but don't get bossy with it.
I really hope this works out for you, keep me updated!

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15/f
This is kind of a long story:
My boyfriend (ben) always used to tell me about how all these girls are all over him, they tell him hes hot and they give him hugs randomly.
He said that one girl tried to give him a lapdance jokingly and thyre always sitting on his lap.
He tells me about all of his friends that are girls and how they are all flirty with him.
I recently asked his friend dave and he said that all the girls think ben is weird and that ben never talks
note: me and him do not go to the same school
He also lies to me alot, but its only to impress me. Hes very shy, so to make it seem that way: he lies to me.
He tells me he fights in these gangs all the time: when he has no friends (or so i hear from dave: who is a very trustworthy person and a good friend of mine)
Dave is Bens only friend, and ben sits all by himself on the bus.
Hes always talking about this girl Victoria who he says he hates, but he continues to bring her up.
Also, im his first girlfriend (Dave told me this and so did my other friend Danny)
But thats not what ben told me.
The number of girlfreinds hes had changes every time he brings it up.
One time he told me hes had five.
Another time seven
Another time twelve
and some of the names were: leslie, jojo, marrissa, nikki, michelle etc ..
and i asked dave about these people and he said that there arent even girls in the school with that name!
Theres always a story about a new girl EVERY week.
I'm not jelous, because i know these are lies.
But he thinks that talking about other girls will impress me, but it only pisses me off.
I know that lying is bad, and that it gets in the way with a relationship: but he is a very shy kid, who just needs a friend, and somebody to be there for him. The kids in school treat him like scum, and i know this by experience.
For example: We were at the movies the other day and he saw some kid from his school.
The kid took a tampon and shoved it in Ben's face saying: MMMMMM, smeelss good doesnt it?
Kids in school tease him because they say hes weird, and doesnt talk.
I just dont know what to do anymore, his school is full of stuck up bitchy && slutty girls, and immature jerky boys. But he acts like everything is wonderful, when i know its not.
Please help me, im totally lost. I feel so bad for him, and i love him so much. And i know he loves me.
He shows it and says it alot, im the only thing he has left and if i break up with him it will only make things worse: so please dont put that as one of your answers becuase i love him and that would be the last thing i ever want to do.
I just need a solution.
Im running out of ideas
thankyou so much!

I think that he only acts this way because he doesn't like the way his life is going right now (kids making fun of him, girls thinking he's weird, etc.), so he makes stuff up about his life. He lies about what's going on because he wants to make himself feel better, and probably also to impress you. He likes you a lot is what I gather from your question, and therefore wants you to think he's absolutely amazing. What he doesn't get is that you think he's amazing no matter what...which clearly you do because you still love him even though you know he lies. Therefore, you need to tell him how wonderful he is and that you love him no matter what. Let him know that everyday. I think all he wants is acceptance, because he clearly isn't getting it from his peers.
I wouldn't confront him about all the lies he's told in the past; the past is over so let's move on. But, if he lies again and it makes you uncomfortable, ask him about it. Say something like: "Are you serious?" or "Is that really true?" Try asking a question like that three times allowing him to answer in between each time. If his story changes little by little, you might get him to admit he's lying. Just don't go right out and say "You're lying, you scum!" lol that wouldn't be good ;]
Anyways, good luck with your relationship and I personally think that it's wonderful that you want to stay by his side because after all, all he needs is someone like you.

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who sings the theme song for friends and tht 70s show.

The Friends theme is called "I'll Be There For You" and its by the Remembrandts.
That 70s Show is "In the Street" and its performed by Cheap Trick & Ben Vaughn.
I found that all on Wikipedia by the way ;]

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what are some good songs about raising money or things of the sort? or what are some good songs about changing the world?

"We Can" by Leann Rimes
"If Everyone Cared" by Nickelback

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f/15 and sorry, this will be long :/ i live with my great aunt, i refer to her as my grandma, my mom is an ex drug addict who was never there, she's got another kid now, and she stopped drugs. she tries to be all parental whenever she visits though. i'm talking, overly parental. every little thing she wants me to get permission from her for, and she doesn't even have legal custody of me. my grandma, she is way passive. she accepts me for me, but if my mom gives her an evil glare and raises her voice she gives in to her. seriously, i dont know what to do, i try talking to her, and she screams at me, and tells me i'm being a smartass, and she tells me i look like shit, that i need to be normal, and i'm talking to a "normal" guy, he's really southern, but he likes me too. and she keeps telling me how freakish i am, and how i need to be normal, and how he won't like me, and what i need to change to keep him around. i keep trying to talk to her, and she just yells at me. everytime she visits i end up crying. i usually wait till she leaves, but she's honestly gotten so rude i cry in front of her, then she yells at me more. she tells me to grow up and stuff, but i'm overly emotional. like i said, i've tried talking to her, but it never works. i just need to know what to do. i've also tried talking to my grandma, and stuff, but nothing ever works. my mom always ends up yelling at me and making me feel worthless.

I'm very sorry that your mother treats you this way. I think that maybe she tries to make you perfect possibly because she wasn't able to be there for you earlier. It's gotta be frustrating for you though. I'm sorry that she's always trying to cut you down.
But you should remember that when she's tearing you down, it's mainly out of her own insecurities. And, though she's your mother, don't let the insults get to you. She probably doesn't even mean most of them. I wouldn't try talking to her about it, as you've done that already and it hasn't worked out to well.
I think the best thing to do at this point would be to just 'hear' what she's saying when she's insulting you, but don't actually listen. By this I mean, try not to let it sink in...just have it go in one ear and out the other. Don't respond, that could just fuel the fire. Obviously, when she's asking you as a parent to do something, you should listen to her. I just mean when she's cutting into you, pay no mind to what she says.
You are you, and you can't change that...even for her. So don't try anymore. You're not worthless, always remember that. =]
I hope this works out for you.

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I can't believe I'm asking this but..


I have extreme insecurity issues about my weight and my breast. I'm about 295 lbs I'm 5'9 and a big boned girl. However when I look myself in the mirror I see saggy breast.. and a big belly.. a saggy butt etc...I'm constantly thinking about "OMG what if I ever meet a nice guy and everything...and he makes fun of me when he see's me naked.." If someone ever did that too me my heart would drop and I would probably cry my eyes out etc.. I dont' know how to get over it. I walk everyday, drink water and eat less etc but I am sooooo worried about getting rejected because of the way I look.. I mean I'm 22 years old and I have a body of a 60 year old.

-BahaiMa22...

Honey, first of all you should stop worrying. If you meet a nice guy who loves you enough that you are going to see each other naked..then why would he ever make fun of you for the way you look? And if he does (and I know I say this a million times on my column), then he seriously wouldn't be worth it, now would he?
Try this for confidence (it helps me a lot so it might help you too):
When you look in the mirror, try thinking 3 consecutive positive thoughts about yourself. If you think a single negative thought before you get to 3, you have to start all over again with new thoughts.
Each day you do this, you can bump the number up to 4, then 5, then 6...
Think positively! Everybody's beautiful in their own way. And anybody who makes fun of you for the way you look isn't worth anything. Because remember: Everybody has their flaws too. So if that 'nice guy' mocks you for yours, it's just because he's insecure about his and just isn't worth it. Then, you should tell him about that little exercise I listed above so he can work on his insecurity ;]
Good luck and feel better!

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Hi i was wondering how do u put your hair in a messy bun thats cute and easy. I want a bun like the ones on top of my head. Does any body have any like step by step directions on how to get it there? Thanks a lot!

Okay, you asked for step-by-step directions so here you go...
Step One: flip your hair upside-down
Step Two: gather your hair (still upside-down) into a ponytail with your hands
Step Three: fold your hair over and tie a scrunchi around it
Step Four: Keep tying the scrunchi to tighten (like you would a normal ponytail)
The key to how I tie my hair in a messy bun is to not first put it into a ponytail. You have to fold it over into a bun and tie it that way ;]

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