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How to Deal With Boyfriend's Band Going on Tour
Im a female who is 18 and I have been dating my boyfriend for more than a year now and for the last 5 or so months the topic of his band going on tour has been a heated disscussion that usually ends up in me being upset with him and him not understanding why i can't just be happy for him. The thing is, I AM happy for him, im so proud of what he has accomplished and that he will have an opportunity like this. But he needs to understand that I may not be jumping for joy immediately when i hear that he will be leaving for a month, even possibly more. Whenever he brings the topic up all he says is how exciting it will be and how he can't wait, and i sit there thinking about how much ill miss him and if he even will miss me half as much as i will, because he sure as hell doesn't express it. It's hard for me to talk to him about it without sounding selfish, so after the many arguements with the same outcome, i just try and not show my emotion about it, even though it does slip up from time to time. How exactly will I come around to being content with this situation? How on earth can we make this work? I feel like Im going to be the one sitting at home missing him as he is out there having the time of his life and wont have time to care about anyone at home.
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i'm in the same situation right now.. my boyfriend has been on tour for about 2 months now and i'm going through the same thing. so i have a question, how did you all work it out/ or not?
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Well from my personal experience, guys express their emotions much differently than girls. They aren't very outward about that sort of stuff, you know? I'm sure he's going to miss you, he just doesn't know how to show it. And of course he's excited because as you put it, he is going to be having the time of his life. He's excited about it, but that doesn't mean he won't be thinking about you.
I think that maybe you need to tell him how happy and proud of him you are. This is totally awesome for him and as his girlfriend, it's your responsibility to let him know this. Your sadness is justifiable, but shouldn't overpower your pride in him.
Honestly, just remember that he's not going to forget about you on the road. And a month isn't too too long. Maybe you could opt to spend more time with your friends and family while he's away to take your mind off the fact that he's gone?
Every time you start feeling sad about him leaving, just think about the happy parts of this situation: you'll have more time with friends and family, how totally great it is that he's practically made it to the big time, how awesome your reunion will be when you guys see each other again.
You know what you could also do? You could send him postcards that will reach him at every stop on his tour. They could say things like "Thinking of you, hope you're thinking of me too", "I miss you, love you, can't wait til you come home", etc. That way, every time he stops to do a concert, he'll have a sweet reminder of how much you care =]
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