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theres this guy and i really like him alot. and i think he likes me too. i dont know if i should wait till he asks me out or if i should ask him out. i really like him alot im like in love with him. what should i do? he seems to like me but im not sure if he likes me like i like him. should i take my chance and ask him out? or should i wait till he asks me out?

This is basically your choice to ask him out or wait for him to ask you out. Just strike up a conversation and ask him if he wants to do something with you like go to the movies or walk around the mall, anything. Do what your heart tells you. Trust me, you'll know what to do.

~Sammie~

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I know that guys love outgoing girls, but what about the shy ones? Ive heard from someppl that some guys think that shy girls are kinda cute.. what kind of guys think that? Like outgoing guys? Or shy guys? Or what? And how can a shy girl get a guy to notice her? thanks

Being shy doesnt really get you anywhere.... SOMETIMES. LOL! If you act like yourself and you do that more often then i think that you do have a chance of getting a guy to like you. ^_^ all im saying is that when a guy comes up to u take a deep breath and try to talk without choking.

hope i helped
~sam~

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Okay, I there's this guy that likes me and i told him i would go to a dance with him but now i dont wanna go (and for a good reason dont worry) so would it be rude to tell him over the phone? Or should i do it in person? I would really rather do it over the phone so i wont be as nervous but im afraid it might be rude. Plz help me!! And i need to know like ASAP!! Thx

i think that you should tell him in person.. I know that that is like "Woah" but i think that it would be better if you told him that way. Also, you dont want to forget to tell him your reasons either. LOL!
~Sammie~

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hey i like my ex ex boy friend but he dosn't like me i broke up w* him to make out with a nother guy which never happend and i whis i never broke up w* him b/c i never made out w* that other boy and he won't lission to me when i tell him im sry and that i made a stupid mestake and he wont forgive me but i still luv him b u the likes my friend and dosn't wanna belive me b/c hes afraid if he starts likeing me again and we go out again i will hert him agian how do i let him no i don't plan to hert him again plz help me i really like him and i think i might even luv him wut should i do to let him no that

Try to be friends with him first.. Dont try to rush things with him. Then sooner or later he will change his mind about you and he will try to gradually spend more time with u as more than a friend. I know that that might not sound like any help but it works sometimes. at least he's not saying that he doesnt want to be friends with you anymore.
I dont know. If it doesnt work out then i think that you should at least try to be JUST friends. If you really love him, then i think that that would do you a whole lot of good in you life.

goooooood luck
sam

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okay guys, this might be a tough one. im so lost and have no idea what to do. im 20 years old now. i met jeremy when i was 17 years old. i thought he was the perfect guy for me, and for a while he felt the same about me. we got together not long after that. i fell in love with him really fast, as did he. we were together for a little over 4 years. like any couple, we had our fights. i will be the first to admit that our relationship wasn't perfect. but we loved each other very much anyways. we broke up a few times but we always got back together. well about a week ago, we got into a huge fight and broke up. he informed me yesterday that he's unhappy with me and had sex with another girl. it almost killed me!!! i love him so much, and what he did was very wrong and i know that. however, i really need help trying to get over him. i can't stop thinking about him, but he doesnt even care. he told me that he doesn't even want to be friends anymore. how do i get over him? ive tried meeting other guys but i can't seem to find anyone. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!

I would like to say: He can suck my brother's balls!!!! :( I know that that was weird but hey there has to be a little comedy in all of this.. Ok here's the deal..if he doesnt care at all and doesnt want to consider your feelings then i say SCREW IT! I know that its hard to forget the first one that you've loved for a while, but desperate times calls for desperate measures. Simply, what i think that you should do is...forget about him. Go somewhere, take a vacation. Trust me it can be that simple if you want it to be. No one is making this hard except for you.. but there is another thing that is on my mind. Maybe he wants to be reassured about the way you feel about him. He could have just told you about all of that stuff to test you..i dont know, that could just be another theory. I know that im a little too young to be talking about this but sometimes young people can help too..A LOT! ^_^

hope i helped
~Sam~

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my boyfriend knows i hate that he smokes i REFUSE to smoke weed and he knows that and respects that. the prob is is that hell smoke infront of me. like we only get to see eachother wednesdays, fridays n sat n sun (we go to diff skools) and tonite he was walking me to the place ig et picked up at from his house n he was fuckin smoking...i was like watever n started walking ahead of him i was like watever dont do it around me i dont lyke it and he was like plz tell me why u dont lyke it i was like i just dont..and then he kept sayin lik oh r u mad watch i wont inhale it all and i was like i dont care n he was like if u dont care then kiss me rite now i was like no and he sed oh so u do care n then i didnt give him a kiss goodbye or nothing and he was like ur mad at me huh? and he knows im mad what suhld i do? i dont want to dump him weve been going out for 13 months and i love him alot i just HATE that he smokes....it reallie bothers me...and he knows that...

I've been in this one too. Trust me, I talked to my ex about it and he stopped.. Well, actually i dont think that he really stopped but he never did it around me. If your boyfriend respects you then he will listen if you have anything to say. Just dont force him to stop.. one day he will stop on his own and he will realize what point you were trying to make about not smoking in front of you or smoking at all. He'll learn.
i think that if he's worth it then i think that he WILL listen to what you have to say.
Talk to him again....:)
good luck,
Sam

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Hey,
theres this guy that always flirts with me, always talks not stop, and he even called me sweet. He taps my foot all the time and we end up getting into a flirty footwar, lol. I think hes gonna ask me out, but i really like him as a friend. What are some ways to turn a guy down nicely so that he doesnt hate u forever?
Signed,
girl under an attack of unwanted predator

i think that you should just tell him how you feel...tell him what you just asked, but rephrase it as a statement. to make it easier, tell him that you just want to be friends and that you would rather keep it that way..
i hoped i helped

sam

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my friend (kelley) has been cutting herself lately and doing some pretty dangerous stuff. i told her to stop and she said she has but i dont know if i should believe her. what should i do? *signed clueless as what to do*

If you really want her to stop what she is doing then i think that you should talk to her or do something about it...dont let her do these things to herself. If she is really your friend then she will listen to what you have to say.. With all do respect, i would get some balls and speak up before she does anything worse..
just talk to her..otay

~sam~

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how can u tell when ur in love with a guy???

When your in love you'll just know...its really difficult to explain becuz its supposed to be about how much you like that one person. Its like the feeling you get when you know that that person likes you for the real you and you get butterflies in your stomach and all of that good stuff.
well, you get what im saying...dont you?
lol, well i hoped that i helped..^_^

sam

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I just moved to arizona from texas.. my best friend cried wen i left, and said that i would always be her best friend.. but its a couple of months after i moved, and she doesnt seem to pay much attention anymore.. She never calls, writes letters, or emails... we talk to eachother on AIM sometimes, but wenever i talk to her im so happy! but i feel like she is forgetting about me even though she says im not.. i get so depressed about it, and i cry.i would do anything for her!! she is soo important to me! we tell eachother everything and anything.. wat can i do to get her to relize wats shes doing to me without hurting her feelings?

I think that if you called her and talked to her about it then that would make everything better. Just be straight up forward with her about the way you feel. But..before you say anything, tell her that you dont mean for anything that you say to sound mean or bad but that you just had to tell her.. After your done telling her about how you feel then let her have her turn in saying what she feels. I think that if yall are completely honest with eachother than that means that you and her can get through anything.. Just remember that what you and her have is special in a friendship, so i think that she will understand when you talk to her.
I hope i helped...
Sam

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my boy friend has been ubducted by the new game halo 2...he is obsessed! how can i get him back???

Maybe you should play the game with him. I think that if you did that then he would like you more and that would be also like spending quality time together and all of that good gravy.^_^. anywho, try doing that and he would prolly think about taking a break and doing something else other than playing that game that he loves, "Oh Sooo Much." LOL!
I hope i helped...

~Sammie~

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There's this guy at my school that I really like, I'm friends with him and everything. I've asked him out a few times but he said he'll think about it, then he ends up saying no because he thinks I'll use him to make my old boyfriend jealous. I try to tell him I won't, and he stil says no.

He's friends with pretty much everyone. He's the nicest guy ever. He's cute, and he's just...awesome. I don't get to see him that much so I can't like let him see how I act...so he doesn't know my...way of...YOU KNOW WHAT I MEAN, very much. So he's like clueless to how I act. You know?

So my question is, how the heck can I just get him to like me? I mean, if he just kinda sorta likes me i'd be fine, even if we don't go out. Just help me...PWEASE.

I really wanna know how. Please help! Sorry this was so long. ^-^;

In a way i think that you should just move on if this is they way he feels. I mean, your kind of saying that he doesnt know the real you and stuff. If you like him so much then act like yourself. I think that he would like that. If that doesnt work out than there are other guys out there for you.

~sammie~

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IF a guy kisses you how can u tell if he thinks ur a good kisser or bad kisser? Ive kissed 3 guys before and the first time i kissed a guy he told all my friends i was a bad kisser but a few years later wen we kissed he said something to me like wow u never kissed me like this before and he meant like in agood way so anyways im afraid wen i go to the movies tomorow this guy im going with wil think im a bad kisser and it makes me nervous but i realli wanna kiss him so im not sure what to do

Ok, the way that i think that you can tell if a guy thinks that you are a good kisser is if he kisses you again or if he holds you close or holds your hand or something like that.. guys have their own way of expressing if a girl kisses good or not...dont stress too much. Knock him dead with wonders of fireworks. LOL!!!

~Sammie~

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what should you do if ur friends wont talk to you just because you want to hang out with your girlfriend???

Hmmmm....this makes me wonder...HAS YOUR FRIENDS EVER HAD ANY GIRLFRIENDS BEFORE? lol! just kidding. well, i think that they are just jealous becuz of the simple fact that you have a girlfriend. they'll get over it sooner or later... you should talk to them and tell them that when they get a girlfriend they will be acting the same way as you are now.. you should, maybe, also tell them that they need to try to put themselves in your shoes. One more thing...this also makes me wonder if your spending the same amount of time with your friends as u do your girlfriend.

IM me for more information, my SN is: Sammielubsu
~Sammie~

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Hi...Im at school right and im not the most popular person.but, im really funny and have a great personality..(not to be cocky) But, I seem to be more on the loser side, which is bad :( I dont fit in anywhere...i just take up space in the school. I need advice ..How do i get people to see me for me, and actually just judge me on what other people say. Yes, i know i should talk to them, but they're always like...wtf you suck.. yea im not kidding eaither. Everyone just .hates. me... please help :(

I think that you are a great person already.. You are confronting what you feel right now...to me:). I know that it is hard being in highschool, but there are many obstacles that you are gonna have to overcome, like this one for example. I know that there is a friend for you there, trust me. If i went to that school i would be all like,"what is up HOMMIE." I get along with a lot of people. :) Anywho lets get to the point of advice...try to make yourself stand out a little..maybe you could change your style (BUT NOT YOUR UNIQUE PERSONALITY) your personality is what sets people to like the REAL YOU.
here as a friend FOREVER! LOL!^_^
~Sammie~

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Okay well like guy..and he has a girlfriend..but he flirts with me..but when hes with his friends..hell like barely talk to me..or when hes with his girlfriend..he like say hey but then he just ignore me! i mean EVERYONE in my class that knos that i like him..thinks he likes me..but i dont think so..because sometimes he can be mean..but other times he so sweet. i could tell him anything..and i really like him..but i dont think he likes me! do you kno why flirts with me when its just us..and then when hes with his friends hell ignore me?! thanks!

.KMUL.

If you feel this way then why do u keep going after him.. i think that he needs some girl attention and i dont exactly think that he is getting enough of it from his girlfriend so he goes to you becuz that is what you give to him. I think that the only way that his girlfriend pays attention to him is if they are in public with eachother. I think that, that is wrong, you know...the way he is treating you. He must like you he just prolly doesnt know how to let go of his girlfriend. BUT if this is how he is gonna be then i think that you should just let go..or he should just let go of you. move on...there are a lot of guys out there.
love ya ~sammie~

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ive got this friend..and we're pretty good friends..but she is such a flirt that it gets on my nerves every once in awhile..mainly when shes flirtin with guys i like..she flirted so much with my home-coming date that he changed his mind and they went together..and any guy i like she flirts with them..in 5th period..the guy i like sits 1 seat away frum me..hers is in the middle..she didnt use to sit there tho...she just now decided she wanted to sit back over by us..how can i get used to her flirting or what can i do?!?!

First of all, dont tell her about who you like anymore cuz trust me this will never get any better if you keep telling her who you like. I have a friend like that too. LOL! she is awsome tho. Just whatever you do if you like being friends with her then dont let a guy get in the middle of yall's friendship...that is the worst thing that you could ever do...but if she tries to ruin yall's friendship over a guy then i dont think that she has matured enough to learn that your supposed to but "bros before Hoes." lol!

good luck
Sammie

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17/female

There's this guy I met through a cousin of mine. I went to one of their dances at school, and we flirted, and he seemed into me. But he had a girlfriend, so nothing happenend. I never talked to him again until a few months later, and by then he had broken up with this other girlfriend and started going out with someone else. We talk now, we flirt, and we just go so well together. But he has a girlfriend! When he talks about his life, he says he's not very happy, but I don't know if he's talking about his girlfriend or now. I really really really like him, and have ever since I met him. What do I do?

What I think that you should do is have patience. i know your tired of waiting and everything but things like this DO take patience. LOL! Your time will come and he'll and realize it and will be all like, "i was pretty dumb to make this girl wait like this." Dont worry... I've been in this position before. even tho im only at the age that i am at right now. ti-hi^_^

always here girlie
~sammie~

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ok well i have a bf, and i like him alot. we have been going out for about 1/2 a year so far. but one of my good friends is good friends with him, and sometimes we'll all hang out, us 3, and she kind of..shuts me out. i doubt she means to. but she'll touch his sweatshirt and try to like pick the lettering off it cuz it "bugs her" or she'll walk in front of me and kind of cut me off and go with him. i feel kind of left out and like he maybe like her when that happens. i dont think he likes her...but still. she'll play around with him to like punch him lightly and theyll have little "fights". idk im prob overreacting but i was wondering if u cud help. id rather not talk to her about it unless i have to.

I really think that you should talk to her about it, and YES you actually have to (HAVE TO) talk to her about how she shuts you out and tries to hog your boyfriend. well, you know what im talking about...right. I know that, that is a little sad, but its the way you and your boyfriend are together that catches her eye into doing the things that she does. I think that she likes him. You make him look good.

~Sammie~

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me n my bf have been going out for 7 months but EVERYONE likes him. he is in a grade above me and all the girls like him there. they always look at him and try to be all over him. theres this one who he hangs out with alot and she lives in his neighborhood. they get wicked pissed at eachother alot, but he says they r like "brother and sister". ik its dumb, but i always get paranoid he likes them instead of me or will dump them for me. help if u can, thanks.

I really think that you shouldnt be worried about it. I mean just because he has a lot of girls that are his friends doesnt mean that he is doing anything with them. He's been with you for seven months now...do you honestly think that he will do anything with them. he obviously likes you enough to go out with you for this long.:) Anywho, try not to beat yourself down with that stuff. if you feel insecure about it, then talk to your boyfriend about it...
P.S. you shoud speak up to those girls and tell them to stop..LOL :) hes your man.
~sammie~

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