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Q: i have aim and i just added someone as a buddy today and i got this messege saying "{buddy} is idle". What does that meen? Dont tell me im dumb unless you want a 1

it means they are still online but have not been at their computer or done anything with their computer for a certain amount of time, i tihnk its 20 minutes. so if you talk to them and they dont talk aback dont get mad , they just probably walked away form the computer and did osmething else forgetting they were online

Q: My friend stopped speaking to me beacuse of her other friend. I tried to apoligize but it didn't work. We haven't spoken in like 6 months and I never see her anymore because she moved. What would you do in this situation? What do you think of my friend?

i tihnk its kinda dumb she stopped talkin to you for that but if it really is that important to you she mustve been a good friend so write her a letter and tell her exactly how you feel and hope for the best.

Q: ok we have b-ball tyr outs on the 14 the problem is that we have to have atleats a 3.00 to play.i used to have that but now it went lower. my problem is that when it comes to math test i suck at them. i get fustrated and in the end i get an F. i am places in a class with people that really dont give a fuck if they pass.. except this isnt a retake class. i dont know what to do. i mean i get the stuff we do but when it gets down to it i get an F on test.. can someone help me out. soemthin that i always do is study and i still cant seem to pass the test. i have the 4th highest grade in the class. (right now it is a C)

get a tutor or a friend to go over your homework with you every night. and if u have a study hall then ask your teacher if you can go see oyur math teacher and get extra help during that time. have your parents go over your homework once youve finished

Q: I was talking to one of my guy friends about another guy that had asked me out. I told him that I had turned him down because he was a real pervert and just wanted sex. Then my guy friend said he probably masturbates every night. Right after he said that I looked at him and his face went red. Did he just accidently admit that he likes me? Why else would that have embarrassed him? He's the one that brought up the masturbating, not me.

masturbation is a weird topic for people to talk aobut. espescially when its someone of the opposite sex. he didnt really say he liked you but he might of.

Q: Ok so this morning I shaved my legs and i had goosebumps so i kind of messed up my legs REALLY bad and they hurt like crazy. Plus they are all red and bumpy. How can I get rid of this AS FAST AS POSSIBLE. And does anyone have any tips on how to prevent this in the future?

And what is the best razor out there ( i have extremely sensitive skin) and shaving cream.

unscented lotion everyday. and schick quatro 4 is what i use. im not sure but i think they make special shaving cream for sensitive legs. and dont wah your legs with soap right after shaving.

Q: okay well i have a bf and we have nothing at all in commin i mean we barly talk and now hes gone 4 2 weeks on a cruse and theres a dance coming up this weekend. adn theres this kid ((boy w/e)) that i kinda in a way just met and he told me he liked me and well he was flirting w/ me at the last dance and i just think hes cute i mean i dont think i like him. but hes a grade unger than me and i dont realli think age matters but i do have a bf and idk what to do i mean wen im single i barrley like anyone but now i have a bf i think i like alot of people ((well no everyone)) but i tend to flirt more or notice that i do. srry its so long. im just so confused about this hole thing.

i know exactly what you mean. i think its because you feel more forced back causing you to want what you cant have. at the dance you can dance with the guy as fnerds and if your boyfrind gets pissed explain it to im and if hes still pised then hes not worth it if he doesnt trust you. and if you never talk and have nothing in common then its not really that great of a relationship and isnt workin out to well. so try talkin to him more and see if anything changes.

Q: Im going to get my hair cut tomarrow.
My hair is soo boring. so im getting
Just layers and maybe bangs.

I want side swept bangs so how long do you think they should be? Any pictures? Is the whole BANG look even still "in"? Im really scared about making this HUGE change. Should I get the bangs?

i just did the same thing. i had hair own to almost my butt, i got sick of it and got sixi nches off and layers. now my hairs just a little bit past my shoulder and my first layer,with my gangs in it, is about at the bottom of my chin. i think it looks cute and i got tons of compliments

Q: Hey, well i'm really new to this whole boyfriend thing. I'm soooooo crazy about my boyfriend, and he's tried to kiss me and stuff but i always pull away. i dont know why b/c i want to kiss him SO much! what should i do?
Also, how do you know if someone REALLY likes you?

well with the kiss thing just give it time.... youll know when youre ready. and when someone REALLY likes you they probably flirt with you alot and either talk to you alot or get really shy and blush when youre around.

Q: i have 2 best friends and we all hang out all the time but my two best friends have known eachother longer and they tend to leave me out ALL the time! Its annoying, it comes to the point where i dont want to hang out with both of them at the same time. When they arent together and im just hanging out with one of them its is soooo much fun! i have already talked to them about it so that wouldnt work...any suggestions?

been there, done that. 3 is an odd number so... dont do it. make at least one new close freind and hang out as 4, if they feel left out and talk to you aobut it explain that they ddi the same thing. also that way they can make new freinds other than eachother to. its not likley that they will do something as a 3 without you. but if 2 of them hook up, you can hook up with the other one. i wouldnt completley forget aobut them right away though, sometimes people dont realise whats goins on untill itsbeen done to them, so make new freinds and see what happens.

Q: One of my best friends, let's call her "Patty", well, she doesn't really know how to say "NO" to this biotch, let's call her "Betty". And "Patty's" bf, me, and another one of her best freinds r sick of it cuz "Betty" will just grab "Patty" and take her away from us when we r talking to her. We have tried to teach Patty how to say NO to "Betty" but "Betty" doesnt listen at all and she thinks she is ALL THAT and she isnt. "Patty" is a great friend and she doesn't really like this biotch "Betty" but "Betty" thinks that "Patty" is jk when she says No to her and we love "Patty" a lot but........how else can we help "Patty" to say NO to "Betty"??????

i know exactly what you mean- i have a friend like "patty" who has the same thing with 2 people like "betty" and what we did is everytime one of he "bettys" cmae up we gave her a look and she always tried to say no! and now she doesnt even have to worry aobut it nad whenever she didnt say no we just walked away because we didnt wanna b around "betty" so just tell your friend "patty'' that while shes with "betty" you dont want to be around her and maybe then she'll realize that you are more important than being nice to someone she doesnt like
hope i helped

Q: hey shelby. ya so i like this guy hes hot n really nice to me hes one of those dream guyz ya no? brown hair really nice eyes ya u get the picture. well he started going out wiht my friend (frankie) and they break up like 2 days later. after they broke up she was like "ya, we just wanted to be friends" so i told her that i liked him. and it was all good. n my friend (kalyn) asks him if he would ever think about going out with me and he said he would prolly go out with me but he wanted to be single for a while. well guess what! he goes out with my friend (frankie) again! and i mean she KNOWS i liked him! i dont no what to do! *the guy i likes goes to BJ* so does frankie... since i dont its kinda ya u no a problem. anyway what should i do about this?

-i love rock n roll
-know who i am? lol

hey! i love rock n roll 2 lol put anothr dimne in the jukebox baby lol 2 many good times well anyways on to the advice. well there isnt really anything you can do since they are going oiut but if/when they break up talk to him again and maybe ask why he said he wanted 2 b single and then went out with frankie. but communication is the best solution. Hope i helped! lylas

Q: ok so ive been going out with my boyfriend for 2 months now and everyone is saying that i should kiss him. the problem with that is that i want to but at the same time i dont want to...i dont know i guess i dont like it when people are sittin there staring at us telling us to kiss...but whatever. anyways i feel bad cuz i know he wants to kiss but it just never works out cuz he never ends up kissing me...so i guess my question is should i let him make the move or should i do it myself? thanks.
signed,
confused

well kissing is a big step in a relationship so first make sure you are both ready and also tell your friends that you and your boyfriend kissing is none of their buisness if u dont like it and ull know when you are ready and want to and when you are just go for it unless he makes the move first

Q: I really really like this boy n I have for about 5 months but i don't think any thing with that would ever change...he says we are too good of freinds to go out but thats what all the guys say cuz i am like best freinds with a lot of guys n this guy i like, likes someone else how could i get him to like me more then a friend???

i know exactly what you mean - there isnt reallly anything you can do but keep hanging out with him and maybe after hanging out with you so much he'll like you back - but dont get yr hopes up - good luck

Q: My so called "friend" just told my other friend that i said i hated her. Then that friend got mad at me. I never said i hated her though because she is my friend.I told her that and now she beleive's me, but the one that told her i said i hated her is being really mean now. Then i told her that she needed to figure out what her problem was before she lost all her friends not just one. I don't know what to do. Should i be mean back to her or should i just ignore her?

neither. the three of you should get together rither at the counslers office at school or somewhere outside of school - mall- your house etc and the three of you should all just say whats going on and try 2 work it out hope i helped

Q: I REALLY like this guy, but i'm almost positive he doesn't like me back. I never even talk to him (rarely online) but i just like him SO much and i just want him to notice me. How can i get him to notice me? Talking to him is hard for me just so u kno.

well there isnt really a way you can get a guy to notice you unless you talk to him - it might help if u have one of your friends talk to them and then they introduce you and then that might make it easier or you can start haning out/ talkin to one of his friends
hope i helped

Q: I REALLY like this guy who i sit by in school. I flirt with him SO much and i think he likes me. I found out he raped a girl over the summer and i'm 99.9% sure it's tru b/c he kinda admitted it. I still like him but i dont want him to do anything to me. Don't tell me to tell an adult b/c i dont want to just yet. Plz help me!

wel if i were you id flirt with him a little less but not all at once because he might think you are playing hard 2 get and he might try something - and eventually you will have 2 tall an adult tho

Q: every one makes fun of me cuz im short plz help

im short to so i no what you mean you can either take it an ignore it or you can laugh at yourself or you can confuse them by making fun of them cuz they r tall - it confuses them and they cant think of a response and they noramally leave you alone

Q: this guy that i sort of like just asked me out.i don't know what to say because i dont know him very well but i don't want him to think i dont like him.what should i do?

tell him exactly how u feel then tell him that you want 2 remain friends until u get to no him better and then if it stil goes well ask him out

Q: what do i do if i like someone and i dont no if they like me but everyone thinkes we should go out but im afriad to ask him out cuz if i do i dont want him to say no... ya no? lol.. help!

i no exactly what you mean - what i would do is first just tell them how you feel and see what there response is - if its a good response then go for it if not then u could either go for it and keep in mind itll probably b a no or you could move on or just keep crushing

Q: ok i like this guy.. that ofcorse everyone dosnt like. they say hes dirty and bad. all because of one suspention. i guess i am infact the kinda girl who shouldnt hang around him. but i want to be around him. i confince myself that i dont like him. and when i c him i feel like i love him so much.*if i idmited that i liked him.. my rep. would drop and id loose friends. but is it all worth it? signed -confused

sit down and make a pros and cons list (good and bad) and write the good things that would happen if u admitted u liked him possibly asked him out under pros and all the bad things that could hapen , see wich collumn has moe nad c which reults u would rather have and most of all follow your heart thats the most important thing , and try 2 at least be friends with him - every good realtionship starts with friendship

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i enjoy hanging out with my friends and giving advice. im only 5 ft flat but thats ok. i have long brown hair and dark brown eyes . the majority of my friends are males , always have been. i listen to all kinds of music mainly rock tho and love riding my bike. im a cheerleader for the bloomington Knockers thats about it

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