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boyfriend smokes weed
my boyfriend knows i hate that he smokes i REFUSE to smoke weed and he knows that and respects that. the prob is is that hell smoke infront of me. like we only get to see eachother wednesdays, fridays n sat n sun (we go to diff skools) and tonite he was walking me to the place ig et picked up at from his house n he was fuckin smoking...i was like watever n started walking ahead of him i was like watever dont do it around me i dont lyke it and he was like plz tell me why u dont lyke it i was like i just dont..and then he kept sayin lik oh r u mad watch i wont inhale it all and i was like i dont care n he was like if u dont care then kiss me rite now i was like no and he sed oh so u do care n then i didnt give him a kiss goodbye or nothing and he was like ur mad at me huh? and he knows im mad what suhld i do? i dont want to dump him weve been going out for 13 months and i love him alot i just HATE that he smokes....it reallie bothers me...and he knows that...
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you just have to tell him, over and over that you really don't like that he smokes. tell him that you know you can't make him stop, but at least he could not do it around you. if he knows that you don't like it, then that's the least he can do. be honest with him. if you keep saying that you don't have a problem with it, then he'll believe that and keep smoking around you. you've been going out long enough that he should stop doing it around you if he really cares about you. make sure that you tell him that you still really care about him, but would just rather that he doesn't smoke around you, and that should be enough to make him stop, even if you have to constantly ask him. just make sure you get your message across. good luck, and i hope this helped!
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I've had the same problem with my boyfriend and I let him smoke even though it really bothered me. I told him that it would make him move on to more drug and he said that it woudlnt. But like I said, he did. He went on to acid and cocanie. I would talk to him about this. If he loves you he'll quit, or at least not do it infront of you. It's really not cool that he knows that you dont like it and contiunes to do it but I guess thats guys. Good luck!! Luv- Jenna
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I've been in this one too. Trust me, I talked to my ex about it and he stopped.. Well, actually i dont think that he really stopped but he never did it around me. If your boyfriend respects you then he will listen if you have anything to say. Just dont force him to stop.. one day he will stop on his own and he will realize what point you were trying to make about not smoking in front of you or smoking at all. He'll learn.
i think that if he's worth it then i think that he WILL listen to what you have to say.
Talk to him again....:)
good luck,
Sam
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IF YOUR BOYFRIEND KNOWS THAT YOU HATE FOR HIM TO SMOKE WEED AROUND YOU THEN HE SHOULD NOT DO IT. HE HAS TO RESPECT YOU ON THAT YOU JUST DONT WANT TO BE AROUND IT, YOU DONT WANT TO SMELL IT. I MEAN MY EX-BOYFRIEND USE TO SMOKE WEED BUT I MADE IT CLEAR TO HIM IF YOU SMOKE WEEED AROUND ME THEN I WILL NOT KISS YOU. BUT SOME TIMES HE WOULD SMOKE JUST BEFORE I GOT TO HIS HOUSE AND I WOULD TASTE IT ON HIS BREATH AND IT WOULD MAKE ME SICK TO MY STOMCAH. SO HE KNEW THAT IF HE WAS GOING TO SMOKE THAT DAY TO DO IT ATLEAST 2 HOURS BEFORE I ARRIVED OR DONT DO IT AT ALL THE DAY I WAS GOING TO SEE HIM. BUT I GOT SOMETHING BETTER FOR YOU WHY DONT FLIP THE SCRIPT. WHAT DOES YOUR BOYFRIEND HATE FOR YOU TO DO? WHAT EVER IT IS DO IT AROUND HIM SOO MUCH TILL HE JUST CANT GET ENOUGH. MY BOYFRIEND HATED FOR ME TO WEAR MAKE-UP SO WHEN I CAME AROUND HIM AND HE WAS SMOKING I WOULD JUST GOT INTO THE BATHROOM AND ADD ON MORE MAKE UP EVEN IF IT LOOKED FUNNY I JUST WANTED TO PROVE MY POINT TO HIM. SO FIRST JUST TRY ONE MORE TIME TO HAVE A REAL SERIOUS CONVERSATION WITH HIM ABOUT THAT AND IF HE DONT WANT TO LISTEN THEN TURN TO PLAN "B"
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Your boyfriend should respect you more than that! He should AT LEAST have the respect to smoke it somewhere else, not around you because then that would solve the problem. You don't care about the fact that he smokes it, you just don't want him to smoke it around you. I don't understand how that's so hard for him because it's not like you are together all the time. The least he could do is not smoke it for the few hours you are together the few days a week you are together. But, anyway. I know that you two have been together a long time and you love him a lot, and you don't want to lose him or risk your relationship in anyway. I think that the best thing you can do is sit down with him, talk to him about it. I know that you've already spoken with him about it, and he just doesn't seem to listen, but maybe you need to try it ONCE again, and this time, show him that you are really serious about this whole situation. Tell him that you don't mind that he smokes it, you just would prefer that he didn't smoke it around you. If he really loved you and cared about you, he would have enough respect to smoke it when he's not around you. Make sure you let him know that you love him to death and you don't want to end the relationship, you just wish that he had more respect for you than he does at the moment. Even though, you probably don't want to hear this, I have to say it. After you sit down and have a serious talk with him about this situation, and he STILL doesn't listen to you- he obviously doesn't care about the fact that it bothers you and that he's hurting you. You may love him and care about him more than anything in the world, but sometimes we have to let the things we love the most go, no matter how much it may hurt. I hope things work out for the best hun! I'm always here if you need any more help! =)
♥ Sammy
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He should realize that it bothers you and should find ways to make you happy.. He should take your advice and listen to you, if he cares alot about you. You two have been together for a long time now.. if he can't understand your concerns or doesnt do nething to fix it.. then he is not the one for you.. you need someone who will respects and understands you. I hope my advice helped. If u need more help.. I'm always a message away.
Whatever that other F***** Jerk said in the last response is a fuckin idiot who doesnt know how to respect anyone. Don't take his advice personally. I bet he is an immature kid.
-ss
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