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25/F. I have only had sex once, when I was 19, and only for literally a few minutes. What could have gone wrong, did go wrong: the condom broke, the guy (same age) freaked out and panicked, told me to leave his apartment ( i know, total asshole), and I took plan B two days later. I got tested for STD's, and got a pregnancy test. The jerk did not even call me until a month later, only to ask if I had gotten my period. Seriously. Total prick.
To be clear, I was very naive at that point. I did not stick up for myself in the least, and did something I was not at all comfortable doing. I didn't even date this guy, and already knew he had a girlfriend. These are things I would NEVER, EVER even think of doing now, all these years later, but again, I was very naive and impressionable at that point in my life. I have grown, by a lot.
Now, all these years later, I am concerned about a couple of issues. First, I haven't ever had a real boyfriend. It is getting to a point for me where i should be meeting someone- but I am absolutely unwilling to just settle. I am just concerned because my previous encounters with guys have been meaningless-- i haven't even dated anyone in over two years. Second, the experience I had when I was 19 has made me wonder how I will react when I do have sex again. I have grown and matured by so much since then; I feel like a different person, in a way. But still, I think about how the situation was then, and how awkward I felt...how painful it was, how I didn't know what I was doing, etc. And it makes me wonder how I will, perhaps even unconsciously feel, when I have sex with someone who really means something to me. So I feel like I have built some sort of a wall. If a guy were to approach me, and we hit it off, I seriously don't know how a relationship would progress, how i would bring up that I'd only had sex once, and it was terrible, how I hadn't dated in a long time....so, so many issues.
Any thoughts and/or advice? If anyone has been in similar sorts of situations as me, it would be very helpful. Thanks
It's important that you've grown since you were "naïve and impressionable", and there's always a second chance. Personally, my first few sexual encounters were meaningless, and it wasn't until a certain girl that I realized how important sex can be, and how meaningful it can be if you truly care about the person.
If you date a good guy, he should understand about the sex, and guide you through your first (real) sexual experience with care.
When you feel like you're ready, that's when you can go back out there and start dating again. It's not true that you can "lose it" if you don't use it. You have to know what you are looking for in a guy. Then again, not every date has to be someone you will marry. There is such a thing as casual dating, it's harmless and can be fun. The key is to strike a balance that you feel comfortable.
18/f
Okay so my boyfriend and I were having sex and the condom broke... he never came or anything, but im still scared. I'm not on birth control or anything. He tells me not to worry because he didnt cum, but its there a chance the pre cum can have sperm in it? Should I go take plan B, or just calm down?
Calm down. Pre cum only has sperm in it if he just came recently and then tried again, there would be leftover sperm from the last one.
If the condom broke and he didnt cum, you are almost definitely not pregnant.
EDIT:
To respond to the others, it is a common mis conception that pre cum has sperm in it, as I explained above, it only has sperm in it if there is remaining sperm from a previous ejaculation. Naturally, pre cum doesn't have sperm.
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So i met a guy named josh through a friend and i have hung out with him a couple times. Last night i hung with him at a party and we kissed for the first time. How can I tell if he is really into me or just using me?
He introduced me to all his friends.
Asked to drive me, mentions future times to hang out.
Did not go further than hooking up.
Held my hand everywhere we walked and talked and noticed my own frineds.
Kissed me goodbye =]
He does not sound like he's using you, but you didn't tell us anything that suggests that, or even what he might be using you for.
He sounds pretty sweet, but maybe update your question with more concerns.
Sorry this may be long but Im in desperate need of advice! Im 18 years old in college and I'm secretly miserable. I feel like I dont fit in with a group even though I have I feel like the only reason why people hang out with me is because I'm very attractive and like to party. I feel that I never say the right thing which causes me to stay quiet in order to keep myself from saying something stupid. When I'm with a group I feel left out of the conversation. People usually dont give me eye contact when they are talking instead they always seem to be talking to someone else. I get nervous when I'm only with one other person becasue I'm not good at holding a conversation. I have struggled with this problem for a while. I see a therapist becasue I think I'm depressed. Seeing one helps organize my thoughts but I still feel insecure. Soon I might start taking antidepressants. Im against taking them becasue I may not remember to take them everyday, I drink a lot, and I dont want my roomate or anyone to know I take them. is their anything else I can do to make myself not feel this way without taking medication? Any kind of suggestions would be greatly appreciated please and thank you so much!
Well if you drink a lot, the antidepressants will probably not work as well anyway, as they say "do not take with alcohol".
You might be depressed, but there are ways of helping that without antidepressants if you want to go that route. Getting exercise helps a lot, and also taking fish oil vitamins. Being out in the sun is another simple way to combat depression; if you can't do that, they sell lights that are sort of like artificial suns search google for "SAD light".
As for the holding a conversation, that is something that a therapist can help with. Work on structuring your sessions and dont be afraid of telling him/her your problems, because that's what he/she is there for. If you want more advice, just inbox me.
Okay so last night i was pretty drunk and me and this kid were fooling around and i dont know if he actually went in me, but it was down there but for less than like two minutes, but he didnt have a condem on. Im on birthcontrol but i dont take it everyday at the same time and sometimes i miss a day or two. My question is would i feel if he came in me? I gave him head after because i didnt want him to go in me and i didnt feel anything wet on him indicating that he did. I know that sounds wicked stupid but im just paranoid. And is there a possibility I could be pregnant?
There's always a possibility, but if you were able to give him head after, chances are that he didnt cum inside of you.
EDIT:
I meant that if you could give him head after, that means he couldn't have cum, because once you cum you cant cum again for a while.
Hi, Advicenators. I'm a freshman now and high school is awesome in many ways but not academics when it comes to me. I'm in all honors classes, and some are easy (such as science and English), but geometry and social studies are making me feel awful.
I didn't finish my first math test in time for the bell, so I got a D, even though I knew all the material. I don't know why it took me so long to get through what I did finish. We have a test coming up this friday and I'm pretty nervous because I feel like the only guy who is doing badly.
Social studies is even worse though because I didn't finish our first essay either, and received a F. Two other students failed too, but I feel like I just can't really work under pressure and I'm not doing too well, overall. I could go to regular instead of honors, but I would have to go to regular science and English, and lose my good teachers in that class as well.
Any advice would be helpful.
If you're talking about college, colleges do accept lower grades based on the difficulty of your course load. However, when they say lower grades, they usually mean like low b, high c. If you're getting d's or f's, you should probably drop the honors courses at least for now. The thing about it is that getting those grades makes you stressed out and affect your other classes.
But don't worry too much, cuz colleges don't care that much about freshman year anyway
Hey hope you guys can help thank you so much :)
Alright well I lost pictures on my camera right so I used an online program to get them back and I did. The next day I went to take some pictures and my camera could hold 400 at the start and in the end after I used that online program something happened and I could only take 8 pictures. Can I some how fix this problem? please help :(
Thank you ,
Betty :)
maybe the site changed the photo compression settings on your camera. Depending on your memory card, the amount of photos it can hold is based on a 3megapixel setting. Most cameras these days go much higher like at least 5-7. (megapixels means how BIG the picture actually is-like if you print it out, how big the print can be before it starts to get blurry) You usually don't need more than like 5megapixels unless you're making a poster.
does any one know any good songs for player introductions? i have a couple but i need some ideas. thanks
Final Countdown-Europe
Eye of the Tiger-Survivor
maybe even Let it Rock-Kevin Rudolf
I think the one you are thinking MIGHT be Rock and Roll Part 2-Gary Glitter but I'm not sure
14/f
Whenever I sing, I sound.. pretty good i guess. But with a microphone, I really hate my voice. I think it sounds different--- yes, different in a bad way. What wrong? What can i do to still sound the same? i mean the microphone is there just to make the voice louder.. not change how it's SUPPOSE to sound.
Please.. any advice?
Most people don't like hearing their voices through electronic equipment. It's all in your head. Maybe cover your ears or just don't pay attention.
Everytime me and my crush talk, I always end up saying stupid things..
He was talking about being a lefthanded pitcher and his height and how thats an advantage to him playing baseball.
And I didn't hear the last part, and I said 'Oh, so that helps you win, huh?'. I didn't mean to say win, but I often find myself saying things that I don't mean.
How can I stop being so nervous around him when I talk to him?
If you think about him as a person and not as a crush.
Maybe try pretending he's a girl, or another guy that you don't have a crush on. Thinking about him as a friend will help you feel less nervous around him.
Also maybe telling him how you feel. He will understand the nervousness.
I've asked my mom about seeing one... I don't think she took me seriously and it's really hard for me to ask her about that (or about anything) so I want to know what others think first.
I used to be so optimistic, and hardly anything could get in the way of my happiness. I enjoyed every aspect of my life and accepted mistakes as ways to learn, and thought everything happened for a reason.
Recently, somehow I've changed. Sometimes I feel numb, like I just can't feel any type of emotion. My friends will laugh and I can hardly get myself to smile. Other times I'm just not happy. Sometimes I know why, but other times I will feel sad and not know why I feel that way. It's taking a toll on my family, friends, and boyfriend. Sometimes when I "talk" to them, I can hardly get myself to speak. It takes a lot of effort for me to get myself to answer questions or respond to them.
I definitely have some degree of OCD. I haven't been diagnosed, but it would surprise me if I didn't have it. I have routines I feel I have to do and if I don't my luck will turn against me, everything has to be in perfect order. My mom says that is giving me an anxiety problem, which makes sense. So many times, I might look alright on the outside but in my mind I am freaking out, about something as small as turning in a paper to my coach a day late.
I feel like at any given moment I would be able to break down and cry. I have one friend who I know is there for me, and who means a lot to me. I am not close with any family members, and my boyfriend is very good to me, but he isn't the best with advice. I don't know who to turn to.
Am I okay? I don't want to feel like this all the time anymore. I want to know what's wrong with me and what I can do. Please help me?
This is most likely some form of depression, possibly SAD (seasonal affective disorder). Unfortunately, it is impossible for one of us to diagnose you or prescribe medication from here. You should see psychiatrist. It is good that you recognize the problem; that's the first step to recovery. There are many medications that you can take for depression. Talking to your mom may be the hard part, but just tell her what you told us, and she should take you seriously.
anybody know any exercises for penis enlargement??
You could try pulling it out as far as possible when it's not hard (stretching it) but there's no guarantee that it'll work.
okayy i'm 14 & i just seem to have met this great guy he's 18 and he's really nice to me and really a major cutieeee :) hes not a virgin / i still i am though. do you think he might just want to be using me for sex or what? should i trust him yet?
Not every person who is not a virgin is using people for sex. However, if he's 18 and you're 14, that's illegal in most states. Get to know him better as a friend before you trust him romantically.
15/f please i need as many answers as possible.
help me.
ok...i had sex yesterday...unprotected. and i have a few stupid questions first...
is there any way to know your pregnant without a test?
how long after sex do you have to wait to take the test?
is there anything i can do/take that can prevent pregnancy even though i dont know if i am?
i know the pill(morning after)
is there anything i can do to make my period come faster?
so basically he doesnt know if he finished in me...he said he felt something so he pulled it out, but there was nothing when he did that. could this just be a feeling? orgasm??
also...hes 15...is he like fully making semen and stuff? he doesnt even have hair on his face or...much anywhere else so does this mean he hasnt finished puberty?
how long during sex does it roughly take for a guy to "squirt"?
i heard of maybe something you can drink that kills sperm?
idk :( im so worried and trying not to think about it because i know ill just breakdown. please be honest and tell me everything you can to help me.
and if you have any advice how to kepp me going right now...
thankyou so so much. thankyou.
First of all, it is not possible to get pregnant from precum (http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/entrez/query.fcgi?cmd=Retrieve&db=pubmed&dopt=Abstract&list_uids=12762415&query_hl=9&itool=pubmed_docsum) unless they didn't pee since they last came, so ignore that post. However, depending on whether or not he came inside of you, there is a high chance of you being pregnant. Next time you use pulling out as you method of birth control, MAKE SURE HE PULLS OUT. If he did come inside of you, take plan B (emergency contraceptive), or get an emergency IUD from a hospital. Both must be done within 5 days at the latest. If you don't like condoms, either take the pill or teach him how to hold his juice haha.
15/f
I met this boy on espin and he is sooo nice and he lives 45 mins away from me and he gave me his cell number and he's supposed to call me today.
The thing is, when we meet in person how can I convice my mom to be okay with that?
She assumes that any boy you meet online is a murderer/pedophile. (and i agree with her but still...)
and if anyone has any espin the bottle success stories please tell them on here. thanks
Why don't you ask him if it's okay to bring a parent or some other adult, and if he says no, then he's probably a pedophile anyway.
okay so i shave *down there* when i shave it again when it starts growing back i always end up bleeding. is this supposed to happen?
i always have to wait like a few weeks but i don't want to wait until it all grows back. is there anything i can do or that i'm doing wrong?
Maybe you're not moisturized enough when you shave. You should always shave in the shower, and use shave gel or cream. Also, try only shaving down with the hair instead of up, against the hair. Another thing, it seems like you're waiting too long. I shave twice a week down there and it's a lot easier than if I wait a few weeks. Try shaving more often.
why the HELL did the condom come off when my boyfriend and i were last having sex?! this has never happened to either of us before...has this happened to anybody else before? and why?
thanks?
It could not have been put on right, or he could have gotten less hard. There are plenty of reasons. The important thing is if he came inside you. If he did, and you're not on the pill, take the morning after pill (plan B). I think it is available over the counter now. If he didn't, you should be fine.
Ok, well for the past 3 months now I've been getting my period before I'm supposed to, and I'm on birth control. It regulated my cycle and now it's way crazy. The first time it happened an exact week before I was supposed to get my period (I'm supposed to get it the last week of every month.) And it lasted like almost 2 weeks, like the week before I was supposed to and the week I was supposed to. And whenever I would change my tampon there would only be blood on one side of the tampon, so I thought maybe it was just doing it once, so the next with the next tampon, I went to the bathroom and there was some blood on my underwear so when I pulled the tampon out it was yet again only bloody on one side. The second month it did the same. Then this month I got it the first week of the month. I have barely ever cramped with my periods but these past three have been pretty bad, especially the one from this month, it was soo painful. I have no idea what's going on? I mean, has this happened to anyone else before? There's a little bit of blood on the top then it's just bloody on one side... 3 months..?
Pleasee help. I understand this is long and U thank those of you who take the time to read it all :]
Depending on how old you are, it could be just puberty. Some people don't get their periods regular until they're adults in college. Go to a doctor, or a free clinic, and ask them.
hey i lost my verizon env, and my parents arent getting me a new one. its the newer version. is there a way to track it without having some chip or something like that. i know its at school and its not in my locker it fell out of the car this morning.
I don't know about that specific phone, but a lot of verizon phones can be located with triangulation. It is not completely accurate, but if you go to a verizon store, you can ask them to try to find your phone.
hey :) does anyone with a macbook know how to keep your ichat connected when your computer starts to sleep? bc i dont ever sign off but my ichat disconnects me and i want it to stay connected with my away mesg up! thx
It's not possible to be connected to the internet when the computer sleeps, but it is possible to change the sleep settings. If you click energy saver in the system preferences, you can make the computer not go to sleep. You can put the screen and hard drive to sleep to save battery but not the whole computer, so it can stay online.