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hey..k i have this problem since like my freshman year of highschool, and now im a junior..every where i go, i feel like i ALWAYS gotta be on the look out for ppl who are gunna try n start shit and gunna fight me...yeah i do got beef wit ppl but not so much that i haveto be on guard 24/7...i feel like im always looking for a fight..i dont start shit with ppl but im ALWAYS ready to fight ne second, wherever i go..please dont say like..u shuoldnt even be fighting, u shuold talk things out, etcetc..but see thats my prob, i like cant, i always end up fighting n uses my hands, etc its so hard, ive been to anger management class like twice but they dont help that much..whenever i get mad, i just explode and dont think of anything else but that person and what they did to me and i explode.thats what my prob is...i hate this...help
lol, im the exact same way. im ready to fight in a second, whether its serious or not. a lot of ppl think im really nice. i dont go around starting shit, but whenever someone comes to me with some bullshit, i handle it. and yeah, its hard, because i guess were brought up what way. i have anger problems as well, and ive been to classes.. but they dont help much. i still fight. i guess the only thing you gotta do is to learn to control it yourself.. which i know, it will be very hard. i think i have too much pride to let shit go.. and ive tried working on it.. hasnt worked.. but maybe you should try more anger management classes as well. im 18 now, and ive been in about 20 or more fights my entire life. but as ive gotten older, i kinda stoppped fighting as much. so hopefully, ill grow out of it.. and hopefully you would as well.. sorry if i wasnt much of help ;\
Hi!!! I need your help, Im baby sitting this boy for almost a year now before her mom paying a fare salary but now I kinda don't like the way she pays me, I let her do that twice but now I don't think it's fare for me her mom paying me $5.00 for at least 4 hours, and I think that is so unfair. The boy is fine but he kinda eat a a lot so I need to fed him, because I dont want him to starve you know.
Im afraid at talkiing to people, because maybe she will get mad.
What should I say to her.
Help me!!
thanks!
4 hours for 5 dollars?? you really need to tell her that what shes paying you is not fair at all. it should atleast be like 5 dollars per hour.. thats wrong. you definitely need to speak to her about it. a closed mouth wont get fed sweetie, so do what you gotta do.
well...i am a cutter. i have been cutting for about a year now. by the way i am 13 and female. i want to know why i feel so great after i do cut. its like nothing is wrong after i cut. i have tried to stop....but it has never worked.
also... do u know where i could find other people that are self addmitted cutters?
yeah, i used to cut as well. for about.. 4 years or so. i dont anymore.. but yeah, it did feel good after i cut. i guess its a mental thing, the pain inside of you goes away from the pain you cause when you cut.
im 14..female and i weigh 124 lbs...i hav curves definatly...well im nto happy with my body..i want to be size 00 and small...all the guys like small gurls..i look like a cow in a bathing suit and am starting to get cellulate on thighs/butt...i feel fat in anything i wear now...my point is is that im thinkin about going annorexic...bc i have a really pretty face and a ugly body if i go annorexic i will be pretty...maybe not full blown annorexic..but like not alot of food...a little bites here and there...but not alot @ all...and not makeing myself throw up..just not eating....how soon do u think i will lose weight...plz dont say "dont do this blah blah" bc i just want to know how much weight do u think i will lose in 2wks? plz answer that ?!!
how tall are you?
Hey, I was just wondering if you could really get an STD from giving head. Because I just read it on here, and I've given head to one of my ex's, and I never knew that there was a possibility that I would get an STD, and now I'm really scared about it. Can you guys please help me out?
yeah, you definitely can. if someone has like.. herpes or warts, they can transmit it to someone through oral sex. a lot of times, if your infected with an std, it happens to show up later, from days to months. if youre worried, go to a clinic to get checked out. and if youve had sex as well, get down there checked as well.
What does it feel like to give head? I was just wondering, because my boyfriend asked me to give him head, but I want to know what it is like first. Please help me out!
theres nothing to it. all you do is suck it. up and down up and down. it doesnt feel like anything really, nor does it taste like anything either. and as for the nut.. if the guy eats healthy, it doesnt taste like anything. if all he eats if junk and shit.. itll taste.. well, not too good.
oh man.. why did i answer this question..
ok well i cut and stuff but i really want to tell my mom about it because i meen i want to get help but i just was wondering like how could i like talk to her about it? me and my mom are like really close and stuff but i think it would like kill her! should i tell her or no?
you should definitely tell her. she'd be upset, but she'd be happy that you went to her for help and that you dont want to continue to hurt yourself.
do people really like stick gerbils or animals in thier buttholes?
yes, i do it all of the time. it feels like.. shit going out your ass, but only going in.
Okay, I'm gonna obviously make my own decision about this, but I'm curious as to what y'all think. I'm 16/f, if you wanna know.
My boyfriend and I have been...experimenting lately. In the beginning of the relationship, we'd both said that we weren't into oral, but all of a sudden he wants to...y'know, give it a try. I mean, he wants to try it on me. I originally refused because I thought it would kind of obligate me to give it to him, but he said that wasn't the case. (I'm really, honestly not into it, and I always feel like he does more for me than I do for him.)
Also, the thought of kissing him afterwards kind of...bothers me...
Should I let him or not? I mean, it's kind of an...interesting...idea, but nngh - I dunno. What d'you think?
i used to feel the exact same way about oral sex as you do.. my guy told me that he wanted to do it to me but i kept telling him no. when i finally gave in awhile later, i ended up having a whole different outlook on it. it really isnt that bad. it isnt bad at all. as long as both of you guys are clean, then theres nothing so wrong about it. give it a try. and it definitely doesnt mean, just because he does it to you, that you have to do it to him.. so yeah, if he wants to try it and not expect anything back, go for it. youll be satisfied. trust me
i have a question. what is oral sex? i hear about it but am confused on wut it is
FINGERING is NOT oral sex, just to let you know because i realized that a couple of people told you that fingering is. its definitely not..
oral sex is when a person uses his or her mouth to pleasure the others genitals. basically, a guy would eat a girl out and a girl would give a dude a dick suck.
i have very thick hair and i want o make my hair look wavy but i only have like a our in the morning to get every thing ready.so my question is how di i get my hair to look wavy like mary-kate and ashleys hair?
you can use over night rollers. they work very well and it comes out to be very pretty. thats the best thing to do, so in the morning, you can just the rollers out and just spray it.
im not really sure what mary kate and ashleys hair look like.. but you can always scrunch your hair while wet to get it wavy/curly, and that doesnt take long to do either. its just as nice, and if you want to do this instead, you wont have to sleep on rollers.
Hey guys! My first day of skool is Thursday (9/02) and I go to a trade skool( I just transfered into it for soph year). Im taking auto repair and I'm not really sure wat I'm supposed to wear. I know I'm wearing jeans. And im goin to wear a T-shirt. But should it be a cute one or just a normal one? I mean it is the first day of skool but its still goin to be messy shop. And wat should I do for make up and my hair? Up or down? K.. thanks guys!
i dont think on your first day, that youre going to have to do anything messy. theyll probably just tell you their expectations and what you need to know about the class. so you can probably still look cute on the first day of school
OK got a Terrior Mix puppy about a month ago. We've been training it to go outside the entire time. But it seems like at night he still has problems. When he potties in the floor, we spank him with a newspaper, and then take him straight outside. When hes good and potties outside, we give him a treat. But he still has accidents. Any suggestions on this? ty much.
i get my dogs wee wee pads. lol, they work well. whenever they piss or shit on it, i can just pick it up and throw it away. the wee wee pad, that is. but you would have to train your puppy to use that as well.
My husband is almost 40, I am just 34. We have been married 10 years but have known each other for 18 years. Sex was always good between us. Lately we haven't had any. I keep asking him if there is someone else in his life because a man can't go as long as he does without it. He says no, he just doesn't need it. I do and have considered leaving him because he doesn't meet my needs. When we do have it, it's almost like it's a chore for him. How can I deal with this? Is it possible there is someone else?
there is a possibility that there may be someone else. have you ever sensed that hes cheating on you beside the fact that he hasnt been wanting to have sex as much? i think you need to ask him straight out and get a real answer from him, because at 40, men should still be wanting some. its quite obvious that something isnt right, but it might not be that hes seeing someone else. he may have some type of problem with his member or he can have medical problem. also, depression and mental illnesses like that do decrease sexual appetite. just try to have another talk with him and tell him to stop beating around the bush. tell him that this is effecting you and that youve been considering leaving him. that might get him to open up
i dont have a boyfriend for my prom and i dont have any friends that are guys (or girls) to go with either ... I know its early but Im not gonna get a b/f cause i dont really want one but i want ot go to prom but nor alone!! help
well, as the year goes along, you might make new friends and see if you can take one of them along. also, you never know, someone might end up asking you to go as their date, so i dont think you should worry about it just yet. a lot of people in highschool dont really think about prom until about 2 months away, so be patient and im sure youll find someone to go with.
My boyfriend and I haven't been going out for that long. When we're kissing and really into it, he tries to finger me and I really am not ready for that right now. How do I explain/tell him I very much enjoy kissing him, but I don't want things to go too far just yet?
the best thing to do is tell him straight out that youre not ready for that type of thing. dont beat around the bush with it. im sure hed understand how you feel.
I love my boyfriend with all my heart. He is the best thing that ever happened to me, but he has this one little problem. He likes to play by the hand a little too much. He doesn't hurt me or anything, but like if I'm sitting at the computer, he will pass by me and knock me upside the head, or flick the back of my neck or something. It doesnt hurt but its really annoying. Sometimes I yell at him because i get so agrivated, but that doesnt seem to help. I also try telling him, but I just think its a really bad habit he has. How do I get him to stop.
okay, well, when does he ever listen?
lol. kidding. the next time he hits you, hit him back. but harder. pretend that it hurts you or something, so hed stop. since yelling at him doesnt work, he probably wont listen to you if you ask him nicely, so just hit him the fuck back. but then again.. hed probably hit you again.. and itll just turn into a big ass fight.. hmmm... interesting... yeah, i dont know what to tell you. grab him by his balls or something the next time he walks by and be like, the next time you fuckin put your hands on me, i will chop these bitches off!! lol
cuz you gangsta like that, you can do that
Hi! She's perfect. She's beautiful, shes smart, she's talented, she's funny. Problem: She's my best friend. I can't tell her how I feel because I don't want to ruin our friendship. I don't want our friendship to end because of how I feel about her. Now, if I was a guy, this wouldn't be so complicated. But I'm not. I'm a girl. And I want to tell her, but I don't know what would happen. Any suggestions? Let me know!!
does your best friend know that youre into the same sex? if she does, then itd be easier for you to tell her how you feel. shes your best friend and she should understand where youre coming from. she may even feel the same about you, so you gotta speak up. a closed mouth wont get fed.
if she doesnt know that youre into the same sex, then its going to be much harder to tell her. but i guess the first thing you have to do is to tell her youre lesbian/bisexual. she how she reacts to that first. if she gets all freaked out, then its probably best not to tell her you like her. if she doesnt seem to get all freaked out, then you should go about telling her.
if you swallow a hoagie whole... will it come out whole?
lol, you are crazyyyyyy. now im going to sit beside the computer and watch for answers, because i want to know this shit myself lol.
I am a 13 female and recently I just found out I am pregnant. I have no one for the baby except for my boyfriend who is the father. He is 16. My parents and me never keep in touch anymore so I live with my sister who is 18. She is never home and won't get mad if she found out I was pregnant. My boyfriend knows and is really happy. He is glad I am pregnant. But I'm not. I mean I am going to have the baby and keep it and i will love it but I am too young. But I do not know what I should do with my boyfriend. Can anyone give me advice? Please help.
well thats tough.. im assuming since hes happy that he wants you to keep it.. but youre doubting that you want to keep it.. i think you should have a talk with your boyfriend. even thought hes happy about having a child, he has to realize that hes only 16 years old.. and not many 16 year olds are financially stabled to raise a child. being that your sister is only 18, i doubt that shes much help either. i, myself believe that abortion is wrong, but when it comes to kids at such a young age having a child, i feel as though maybe an abortion is the right way to go. so have talk with your guy and let him know how you feel. hopefully you two can work things out