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always on the look out
hey..k i have this problem since like my freshman year of highschool, and now im a junior..every where i go, i feel like i ALWAYS gotta be on the look out for ppl who are gunna try n start shit and gunna fight me...yeah i do got beef wit ppl but not so much that i haveto be on guard 24/7...i feel like im always looking for a fight..i dont start shit with ppl but im ALWAYS ready to fight ne second, wherever i go..please dont say like..u shuoldnt even be fighting, u shuold talk things out, etcetc..but see thats my prob, i like cant, i always end up fighting n uses my hands, etc its so hard, ive been to anger management class like twice but they dont help that much..whenever i get mad, i just explode and dont think of anything else but that person and what they did to me and i explode.thats what my prob is...i hate this...help
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Dude if you want to kick there ass, they obviously did something to make u mad, so they deserve it..Who cares if you have a temper problem, we;re not all perfect..keep kicking ass, it makes u look tougher.
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lol, im the exact same way. im ready to fight in a second, whether its serious or not. a lot of ppl think im really nice. i dont go around starting shit, but whenever someone comes to me with some bullshit, i handle it. and yeah, its hard, because i guess were brought up what way. i have anger problems as well, and ive been to classes.. but they dont help much. i still fight. i guess the only thing you gotta do is to learn to control it yourself.. which i know, it will be very hard. i think i have too much pride to let shit go.. and ive tried working on it.. hasnt worked.. but maybe you should try more anger management classes as well. im 18 now, and ive been in about 20 or more fights my entire life. but as ive gotten older, i kinda stoppped fighting as much. so hopefully, ill grow out of it.. and hopefully you would as well.. sorry if i wasnt much of help ;
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Well next time sumone starts to say shit or start shit with u, just act like it doesn't bother u, even though it does. Cuz if they n=kno that it bothers u they will think that it is easy to start shit with u, and if u aked like it doesn't bother u they will give up eventually.
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I do the same thing..and I wound up in 3 fist fights durin 8th grade on the bus..ha yeah...well we didnt even get in trouble or anything for it but yeah..anywayz..I didnt even want to even fight..I usually just walk away..but the kid but he was a jackass and had smack me for no reason..anywayz I usually throw a stuffed animal or pillow across the room..I wouldnt hit a wall or anything..cuz either my dad or my sister did that..one of those 2...maybe both..I think..Idk and I drc..anyways a hole wounded up in the wall..and another back of my parents bedroom door... :X so yeah..I find stuff animals or pillows (ones in ur room..not in the couch ones..I found out that was a no no for me lol) are the best way to throw out angry and all - hope I helped
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next time they want to start crap with you, then just walk away. If they start beef like'why u walkin away?' you can be like, hey i have something better that i could be doing. if you start stopping, then so will they. i kno, when ppl really are hatin, they really get at it. but, even if the stop fighting, they might stare and gossip, so you should just chill and ignore it cause u know it aint true.
XoxO Alissa-marie
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I know how you feel kinda. Like whenever someone really gets me mad.. I just wanna fight them. But then I think of how low it is and how it wouldn't solve anything. That usually helps. Or when I get mad I just punch something..Like a wall or a desk or something. Just try that if you really need to lol.
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