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As John Lennon once said, "Life is what happens while you're busy making other plans." So true.Giving advice is sort of second nature to me. I use to have a column on here but ended up deleting it. Now once again I have decided to give advice again. I value people and their problems and try to help them the best I can.
No question is a silly question. Every question has importance. I sometimes feel like some of my questions I want to ask are viewed as pointless but have comed to realize that this isn't entirely true.
My biggest pet peeves are bad spelling, grammar and punctuation. It's silly, but I mean it's not that difficult to tell the difference between you're and your. Or even their, they're and there. No offense if you do any of this, but we learned all of these when we were younger in 5th grade (give or take).
Personally one of my favorite quote is by Eleanor Roosevelt. "No one can make you feel inferior without your consent."
If only people would truly realize this, the world would be so much happier.
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Is Energy Glow body lotion for fair to medium skin tones with self tanners able to be used on the face?
Any tips on how to use it?? (on body and face, if allowed)
Well, they do have one for your face so get that one. I think the fair to medium skin tone for the body lotion and the face lotion differ a little.
On the body make sure you rub it in evenly. If you don't you'll notice some streaking, but that can be taken off with rubbing alcohol if anything. And make sure it dries before you wear any tight clothing, that'll make the tone uneven too. For the face just rub it in evenly also.
Good luck and I hope this helps you. :)
my boyfriend and i have been going out for a year now, but i know he talks to other girls online. recently, i went on his myspace, he said i could, and read some of his messages. one from his ex that bothered me said
"hey. i wanted to continue our conversation. what where you saying when you said you still like me but like her more?"
another one was from a girl that i have no clue in heaven she is and it was this long love letter saying how she could never get over him and "that night back in october was amazing." we were going out i october.
what should i think? the thing is, his ex lives across the country from us, but i'm still worried. and the other girl lives in our city. what should i think or do about this?
First confront him about it and see what he says. He's obviously isn't the sharpest tool in the shed if he let you read the messages on his myspace knowing they were there. Confront him and ask him about the girls. If it's obvious he's trying to hide something, and is lying to you, he's not worth it. I'm not saying he can or cannot be trusted, but if the one girl lives in your city I wouldn't be so thrilled, if they're talking online like that.
My best advice is to just break up with him after confronting him. He'll know the reason why you broke up with him and won't be all "I don't understand I thought we were doing good, blah blah blah". He's not worth your time if he's been talking to these girls online. Move on, there's probably a ton of other guys where you live that won't treat you that way.
Hope this helps you, and good luck. :)
any way to remove it besides shaving?
I agree with the other posters who said waxing. Waxing lasts longer than shaving, and it's pretty inexpensive depending on where you live. You can get it done for I think less than 10-20 bucks at some places.
Hope this helps. :)
my boyfriend and i have been together for almost 3 years. early in our relationship he cheated on me with one of my friends (it was like a one-time thing) but we got past that and i know hes been faithful since then. well he just got back from vacation and the first thing he tells me is that he had hooked up with this girl he met at the beach. he was like sobbing and saying that he felt so bad about it but he had to tell me cuz he didnt want to keep anything from me, and that it didnt mean anything and that he hates himself for being so stupid, and how much he loves me, and please forgive him.
well i know your gonna say dump the jerk. and maybe i should. but then i think, maybe i should forgive him? i mean, at least he was honest about it. he didnt have to tell me and i never wouldve found out. and we have been going out for so long, im the only girlfriend hes ever had, so maybe its natural that he'd be curious about other girls, even though he really does love me? or am i just making excuses for him because i love him and dont want to lose him? but if i stay with him, is that sending the message that its okay to cheat on me? is he really just a cheater and always will be? or was it really just a mistake? i dont know what to do!
That is really good that's he's honest about his actions and doesn't lie about them or keep them hidden. I don't really agree with anyone staying with a person who cheats, but there are some circumstances.
I get where you're coming from saying you don't want to break up since you spent 3 years together but think about it. A lot of people, including someone in my family, that once a cheater always a cheater. He cheated on you with the friend and he cheated on you again on vacation. You could go with three strikes you're out, but honestly the chances of him cheating again are great. Staying with him is sort of sending the message that "you can cheat on me, and you can count on me to forgive you", since he's done it in the past.
My advice is to either give him another chance or break up. If it was me personally I'd break up with him since he cheated on you before, but maybe you want to give him one more chance. If you do stay with him, and he does cheat on you, you know he's like a serial cheater. No offense but no point in staying with a guy who's just going to cheat on you and think it's okay.
It's been 3 years in the relationship so maybe it's about time to call it quits, if you want to break up. There's a lot of other guys out there, and there's plenty of sweet guys who wouldn't dare cheat on a girl. Maybe it's time for you to move on.
Good luck, and I hope this helps you. If you'd like leave me a message if you need anything else. :)
everyone tells me that if a guy really liked me he'd ask me out, but isn't it possible that a guy could really like you and not ask you out because he's either afraid of rejection or getting hurt again?
Totally true. Guys are sometimes like girls in the sense that we all fear rejection (for the most part). If the guy really likes you, but doesn't ask you out it's out of fear of rejection and getting emotionally hurt. That's why some people say, if you think a guy likes you you should go up to him and ask him if he likes you and all. The worst they can do is say no. But fear of rejection comes into play. The guy that likes you and doesn't ask you out is the type of guy who's very shy and timid not outrageously outgoing. Get what I mean?
Hope this helps. :)
Well I know this girl from going to elementry school with her and me and her were just friends. After we graduated and go to different high schools just lately we have been talking alot through myspace and the occasional aim. I realized that I might like her and would like to go out with her but I just don't know how to tell her that I would like to get into a relationship with her when we are just friends now. Any tips for talking to her or advice would be good. Thanks.
This is adorable, just had to say that. If I was the girl, I'd probably want you to tell me the truth. You don't know maybe she likes you too now. Be open and honest with her, girls love that. It'll show her that if you two get into a relationship she can count on you being open about things, and that you wouldn't lie. Also be confident too, and just tell her how you feel. She'll apperciate it if you say what's coming from your heart in a sense. Don't be ashamed to say what you mean and mean what you say when you tell her how you feel. She'll apperciate what you say to her and will most likely tell you how she feels.
Good luck and hope this helps you. If anything message me. :)
On Mother's Day of this year, I started talking to this guy over the internet that lived near me. We talked on the internet for awhile, and then on the phone. Eventually he asked me out. We dated for 2 weeks and then he had to leave for California for a 2-month working vacation. During the time we dated, he seemed so PERFECT. Everything he said was so sweet and I fell for him fast. The first week he was gone I barely talked to him. Then this girl added me on MySpace, and long story short, they started to date. I was miserable for days and all he said when he did reply to my messages (he only replied to a few and ignored the others) that I didn't trust him and blah blah. Eventually I broke up with him. They dated for a week and then he completely erased her from his MySpace. She broke up with him for not telling her what was going on but took him back when he offered her a really lame excuse. I didn't talk to him after the break-up at all, even though I told him I was willing to be friends.
I talked to his mom online recently and she asked me to tell her the whole story. She was angry at him for treating me that way and apparently gave him a piece of her mind. Later that day he IMed me and said he was never dating that Tiffany girl and she was lying to me and all that (I realize this is all a lie) and he thanked me for messaging his mom because she really liked me. Well, he said what he did was really f***ed up and he was sorry and that he finds that he can be a hurtful person and he's sorry about that. He said maybe it ended up like it should for the best so I didn't get hurt any more. But he kept flirting with me and when I said we should hang out when he gets home (as friends) he said "well I know you don't like me anymore....". And when I accidentally sent him an IM that was supposed to go to my best friend that said "I'm nothing special. lol", he replied with "You are special" and when I said I didn't think so he says "Well I do". But he didn't talk to me as much as he used to and didn't call me like he would when we were dating, so I figured it was all a guilt trip from his mom.
NOW, I started a new job with a new guy. Before I started the job he asked my sister and a few friends about me and seemed really into me. Well, we talked online a little before I started the job before I finally met him. I worked with him one day and we talked a little bit here and there and I talked to the guy he lives with some too. Well, they were going to the movies last night with some friends from work and I was invited. The guy called me yesterday asking if I was going and saying that I should go. Then he said he'd call me with all the final times and stuff when he knew them. In the end, he didn't call back.
He's REALLY shy and I'm not used to that, so I get frustrated. I don't get why he wouldn't call back if he's as into me as he makes it seem with the stuff he says to my sister. I just don't know if I can date someone that's almost too shy to even talk to me. He might be different with someone he's actually dating, but I'm getting aggravated with how long it's taking him to make a move. I had a few other guys interested in me recently, but this guy is the only one I actually like. He seems really sweet and he's cute and all, but he's just REALLY shy.
Ever since my ex IMed me again, I've realized how big of an effect he still has on me. I still think about him all the time and I've had dreams about him EVERY night since he IMed me. I know he treated me badly and lied to me and I don't want to be stupid and just go back to him so he can do it again, but I just don't know what to do to finally move on and get him out of my head. It's just that our whole relationship was so perfect and I loved being with him and everything.
My question is this: I want opinions on what you guys think I should do. I want honest opinions about it all. I really appreciate it!
I think you should totally forget about your ex. It sounds like you're just still thinking about him from the fact that you spoke to him when he IMed you. You thinking about your ex will probably pass over soon and you'll end up not thinking about him, but other things. (This is from my past experience in general)
The guy you work with sounds like he's really into you. He wouldn't have asked your sister about you. He's probably, as you said, shy. (That's probably why he didn't call) It's weird because some guys aren't that outgoing and don't like aprroaching girls especially if they really like them. You're probably going to have to be the one to make a move. Try just talking to him, and maybe asking him if he likes you. Be upfront. There's no reason to hint and skirt around the issue. Since it seems like he really likes you he'll appericate you asking him on it, since he wouldn't be the one having to make the move.
Since you really like the guy you work with it'll be worth it in the end. Don't get frustrated with him being shy, he'll come out of his shell when he's more comfortable with you. It's his nerves since he likes you and doesn't want to look like a fool when he talks to you. Does that make sense? It's like he doesn't want to hurt his ego, via you rejecting him or anything of that nature.
Good luck, and I hope this helps. If anything message me if you want. :)
No problem at all, good ideas. He'll get the hints and will probably make a move. Good luck Saturday. :)
My phone service is T-Mobile, but I want to get a Verizon Wireless phone.
Is there any way to keep T-Moblie but have the Verizon phone?
If so, then how much would it cost to switch phones but keep the same service, and number if possible?
And how would I do it?
Thanks in Advance.
I am totally in your situation. I have T-Mobile and want to get Verizon. Thing with T-Mobile is to end your contract it's about $200 per line The $200 is the deactivation fee. (If you're in or have a family plan, you'll pay for $400 for two lines I think if it's just your number you'll pay just $200). The $200 is a lot of money to end service. Try checking when your contract is done, if it's soon try to wait for the contract to end and then switch, but if it's in 2 years like mine, you might or might not want to pay to $200. If you do switch your service to Verizon they'll be able to keep your same phone number. Someone in my family went from Cingular to Verizon and they kept their same cell number, so I think you'll be able to.
Anyways, I don't think you can keep your T-Mobile with getting a Verizon phone unless you get a prepaid. If you want to do that you'll still be paying T-Mobile plus the Verizon prepaid which doesn't really seem like a good idea to me, but maybe you'll want to do that.
I hope this helps, and good luck with that. :)
15->16F, 5'3", 140 lbs
I really want to lose ~20 lbs by the end of summer, or atleast 10 just to be healthier... since I`m a whole lot of flab (stomach+arms) which isn`t a totally good thing. Plus, I want to feel better about myself, because it`s really discouraging when a 90 lb girl goes "Omfg, I`m so fat". I`m also doing it so that I don`t bum around for the whole summer, since there isn`t much to do.
So like, if I supposedly (not sure if I can) go to the gym, atleast 3-4 times a week for cardio and such (burning atleast 400 cals), play softball/practice atleast once a week for about an hour, cut out junk food/unhealthy foods and drink a lot of water, would I be able to reach my goal? (Even though it`s assumed that if I lose ~2 lbs per week, I`d lose ~16 lbs by the end of summer)
(Excluding the gaining muscles then losing weight thing)
:)
Oh man how I hate those 90 pound girls. Anyways, it is most definte that you can lose 20 pounds by the end of summer. Try to go to the gym at least 3 times a week, and maybe push for the 4th time. Cardio is probably going to be the key for you to lose weight since you said you have a lot of flab. With cardio it'll burn the fat right out. Cut out the junk/unhealthy foods like you said and supplement them with fruits and veggies. Boring I know but it'll help. Eating yogurt, and things like peanut butter with apples as snacks will help you burn the fat. Make sure you eat at least 5 times a day, 3 meals and 2 snacks. It'll keep up your metabolism.
Keep a positive outlook on the weight loss. You can lose the 20 in 8 weeks, even if it doesn't seem that way. The first week you might loss more than 2 pounds since you'll be cutting out your normal foods and eating healthier. Make sure you take a multivitamin too, for extra minerals, and vitamins that are essential. Also try to eat a good amount of everything like protein, whole grains, fruits, veggies and diary.
I hope this helps you, and good luck. I know you'll be able to reach your goal. If anything message me. :)
ookay well i like this guy and am pretty sure that he likes me. he is always flirting and it just loks like it. so laast night we are talking over myspace and he says that his friend that i met once likes me and i am like whatever okay and then he says to call this number cause the guy that met me wants to talk to me but for some reason he puts his own number and i ask him if that is the guy i mets number and he says no lol that is mine and i say okayyyy and then he gives me the real number and tells me to text him. okay so now my questions are if this guy liked me wouldnt he want me for himself instead of setting me up with his friend? and should i tell this guy how i feel????pleese help!!!
Totally agree with the person who posted before me. This guy you like totally has a thing for you. He's trying to get a sense if you like him back. That's why he's bringing up the other guy you met, who wants to talk to you and all. You should defintely tell the guy you like how you feel. Don't beat around the bush either, just say how you feel. Guys like a girl who's self confident and basically honest.
Hope this helps you. :)
how to stop the ithcing of your sunburn?
Aloe vera is the best for sunburn, but Burt's Bee has something out now strictly for treating sunburn. It's called After Sun Soother. It contains Aloe Vera plus a lot of lotion which will help soothe the skin. Either one would work.
Hope this helps. :)
I know cartlige piercings take around 8 weeks to fully heal.
But does anyone know if chlorine water or salt water will do damage to the healing process?
Nope, chlorine water and salt water defintely won't do any damage. I have one and when I got it done nothing really irritated it, or the healing process. Check if you have solution or cleaner to clean the area after you go swimming. That'll make sure it doesn't get infected, which is what you have to worry about during the healing process. I don't know if you have a Claire's or Icing where you live, but if you go to one of them they have solution for newly pierced ears. If you use that it'll clean the piercing and disinfect it. (The person who did the piercing though should've recommended something to you but this is just incase he/she didn't)
Hope this helps you. :)
ok so i just got out of a friends with benefits relationship with my best friend. it caused a lot of drama when our friends found out about it. we never had sex we just did other things. he said he wanted to stop so all the drama would finally end and because he wanted to date again. a week later after all of this we were at a friends house hanging out in his hot tub and another one of our guy friends had his arm around me and my ex friend with benefits wouldn't stop staring at me...and my chest. now he just texted me and he wants to get back together but as friends with benefits. but i like someone and im not sure if they like me and i know 3 girls like him. im not really planning on getting back together with him i just dont know what to say to him. help!
Be honest and tell him that you don't want to be in a friends with benefits relationship with him. It's honestly not worth the drama of being in that relationship again while liking the other guy, especially if there's a chance that you could get with the other guy. Honesty is the best policy so just be open with the friends with benefits guy, it's not worth trying to beat around the bush about it.
Good luck and hope this helps. :)
Okay. So I cheated on my boyfriend 2 months ago with one of my ex's, which i have not talked to since. And I told my boyfriend the next day. And I feel horrible about what I did, every time I think about it or he brings it up I end up crying and hating myself more and more. For about 2 weeks after it happend I cried myself to sleep every night and seriously could hardly live with what I had done. And now, 2 months later, he still has not forgoten it, well i dont expect him to forget it, but he still always brings it up and I want to hang out with one of my guy friends.... and my boyfriend got all mad that I wanted too and was like fine go be with him then and he is just worryed i will cheat on him again.... but I would never do that again, i can not risk loosing him one more time. So I guess my question is,
Is it wrong of me to want to hang out with my guy friends and expect him to let me after what I did?
Or is he being to uptight about it and is it wrong of him to tell me not to hang out with other guys and get all pissed when i even think about hanging out with another guy?
One thig I do know is, If I want to hang out with a guy, I am going to. And I AM GOING to PROOVE to him that someday he can trust me again with another guy.
SO yeah... any advise would help.
Alright, my take on this is that your boyfriend is extremely self concious about himself and probably keeps thinking that you'll end up cheating on him. From this, he thinks becoming extremely overprotective will help him to make sure you don't cheat on him. His overprotectiveness is shown when he gets all mad when you want to hang out with your guy friends. He's also trying to make you feel bad about cheating on him the first time so that's why he keeps bringing up you cheating on him. (Stupid move though on his part)
It's totally 100% not wrong for you to want to hang out with your guy friends and expect him to let you. After all he should be some what more understanding since there is nothing going on between you and one of your guy friends. He's going to be uptight no matter what you do for the simple fact that you cheated on him. (And I'm not judging you for that so don't get me wrong) It's defintely wrong for him to tell you not to hang out with your guy friends and get upset.
Talk to him is all I can say. You need to be open and honest with him. Speaking to him about his overprotectiveness will maybe help the problem of him getting upset with hanging out with your guy friends. He'll bring up you cheating but keep telling him that.
Good luck and I hope this helps you. If anything message me. :)
okay so i think i'm jealous of some of my friends with boyfriends. they've hooked up, and there all so happy together. and i feel like crying really hard. i've never even had a first kiss. and whenever a guy likes me it's when i dont like him. in 5th grade this guy asked me out and i liked him but said no because i was scared, and now i regret it like hell. i just wish i had someone special that cares about me. it burns inside to see my friends so happy. i dont know how to make myself happier. none of the guys like me, and i have friends who get dates with really popular guys, even though there not the most popular girls and there not mean. i just feel like an abandoned puppy. how come no one likes me? no one wants me..
how am i supposed to feel better about this?
:(
My friends all for the most part have boyfriends and I don't. I understand where you're coming from that you feel left out in the cold since they all have their boyfriends but you shouldn't get upset over it. If you keep looking for it you'll never get it. I think that totally applies to guys. You won't get what you want if you expect it, it sort of falls in your lap in a sense. Expect the unexpected. You need to become more confident in yourself. What you feel about yourself is portrayed to others, and they see how you feel. If you don't feel confident about yourself and you're not happy with yourself they'll see that and try to stay away. I don't mean to be cruel but it's true. Most guys want a girl who's positive and sure of herself no matter who she is.
Instead of wanting a boyfriend try to build on your self-confidence. List all the things you love/like about yourself, like your eyes, your smile are examples. Try reading the book Nobody's Perfect also. It's a good book to focus on your outlook on life in general.
Don't worry about it, most girls like remaining single. You'll realize having a relationship at your age isn't that worth it (if you're young). Most of the time those relationships won't even be worth it in the long run. Focus on yourself.
Sorry if this was long and I hope this helped and if you need message me. :)
I have a training schedule that I have to follow this summer in order to be prepared and able to run about 5 miles a day for a sport when school starts in September. For my training, everyday I have to run 1-3 miles depending on the amount of time i have been on the schedule. I haven't started yet, but if i do this all through July and August is there a chance I will be able to slim down my thighs, or will it bulk them up? Thanks!
I've been running that much for awhile now, and to tell you the truth my thighs actually slimmed down. The muscles will begin to build trust me and you'll get a defined look, but your thighs will slim down fat wise. You'll have a muscular healthy look to you not bulky. The thighs won't bulk up so don't worry about that.
I hope this helps you and good luck with the training! If you need anything else send me a message I'll gladly help. :)
I'm eating chex mix right now and i'm wondering if it's good for me. like better then chips? will it make me fat? haha
Chex Mix is a lot better for you. It contains less sodium or salt. Salt/Sodium retains water, and makes you bloated exactly what you don't want, so that's where Chex Mix is better for you.
Hope this helps.
Some people say you can't only lose fat in one spot so crunches won't make your stomach flatter. Others say that they know people that lost 20 pounds from doing a lot of crunches. I don't get it. Do crunches make your stomach flatter or not?
Okay this can be tricky.
If you have stomach or belly fat, doing crunches won't help anything. They only build muscle. If you want to lose the fat around your midsection you need a lowfat diet, and do a lot of cardio. Both burn fat, which will cause the fat in your midsection to dwindle.
Crunches are good for people who don't need to lose that much weight around their midsection and want to tone up. I've read that crunches aren't recommended to people who have a lot of weight to lose in their stomach until after they have lost the weight.
It honestly depends on how your stomach is shaped. If you need to tone up you do crunches, if you need to burn fat around your stomach do cardio and a low fat diet first and then incorporate crunches.
I hope this helps, if you have a question on what I mean just message me I'll be happy to help. :)
my hairs straight but kind of curly underneath. how can i make my hair look beachy kind of with cute curls? (without using a curling iron) THANKS %%
My hair is somewhat the same way. I use Frederic Fekkai products. He has new products out for beachy hair. Sephora sells them, and so does Victoria's Secret (where I got mine). They're in orange bottles. There's one product to give your damp hair waves, which is a clear solution. It's called Summer Hair Beach Waves. Also if you want to prevent frizz I have that problem, he has a summer product to be paired with the clear solution, called Summer Hair Zero-Humidity Frizz Control. (It's more of a white solution in an orange bottle) Both smell pretty good like coconuts. He has other products you can pair with both of them, but I use those two to get the beachy waves like Jennifer Aniston.
Hope this helps :)
Is "Ginny" short for a different name (a girls name)??
And can everyone PLEASE tell me their favorite boys and girls names??
Thankss soo much!!
Ginny I believe is short for Virginia.
For boys I like Kyle, Christian, Caleb, Jake, Tyler, and Brian.
For girls I love the names Bailey, Madison, Margo (for some reason), Riley, Jade, and Audrey.