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i cant help but be sad
okay so i think i'm jealous of some of my friends with boyfriends. they've hooked up, and there all so happy together. and i feel like crying really hard. i've never even had a first kiss. and whenever a guy likes me it's when i dont like him. in 5th grade this guy asked me out and i liked him but said no because i was scared, and now i regret it like hell. i just wish i had someone special that cares about me. it burns inside to see my friends so happy. i dont know how to make myself happier. none of the guys like me, and i have friends who get dates with really popular guys, even though there not the most popular girls and there not mean. i just feel like an abandoned puppy. how come no one likes me? no one wants me..
how am i supposed to feel better about this?
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My friends all for the most part have boyfriends and I don't. I understand where you're coming from that you feel left out in the cold since they all have their boyfriends but you shouldn't get upset over it. If you keep looking for it you'll never get it. I think that totally applies to guys. You won't get what you want if you expect it, it sort of falls in your lap in a sense. Expect the unexpected. You need to become more confident in yourself. What you feel about yourself is portrayed to others, and they see how you feel. If you don't feel confident about yourself and you're not happy with yourself they'll see that and try to stay away. I don't mean to be cruel but it's true. Most guys want a girl who's positive and sure of herself no matter who she is.
Instead of wanting a boyfriend try to build on your self-confidence. List all the things you love/like about yourself, like your eyes, your smile are examples. Try reading the book Nobody's Perfect also. It's a good book to focus on your outlook on life in general.
Don't worry about it, most girls like remaining single. You'll realize having a relationship at your age isn't that worth it (if you're young). Most of the time those relationships won't even be worth it in the long run. Focus on yourself.
Sorry if this was long and I hope this helped and if you need message me. :)
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Just be confident to yourself and when u hangout with guys be yourself or ask ur friends to hook you up with a guy. or your friends boyfriends to bring guy friends. no matter what i promise you you will find that someone
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Sweetie, I can't even begin to tell you how much I hate relationships. When I was 13 I had my first one. His name was Mike. So, Mike and I went to different schools... And this was like the summer before 8th grade, I believe... And Mike and I never hung out, hahahaha. We would just talk on the phone and AIM it. It was so pathetic. It lasted a month. A month is my longest relationship and I've been in like 4. Hahahaha. I can't stand them. Okay, so anyways. I think that your first boyfriend is going to be really fun to be with and stuff, and it'll work out, I think. My best friend, and her boyfriend met in the beginning of 9th grade. No one had ever liked them, they had never had a first kiss.. Nothing. They've been going out for way more than a year, and they're still each other's first everything. It's really amazing to see things like that. It's cute :] But, listen, it's not that big of a deal. You seem young... I got my first kiss in like November of 8th grade, and I didn't hook up until like the middle of 9th. Hahaha. Don't worry about it. It's nothing fabulous. Just relax, you'll find someone in no time :]
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I'm starting off by saying,
don't ever regret things like that.
You never would've learned from it.
And I know how you feel,
How you can't help but be sad.
It happens to everyone.
And don't worry about your first kiss.
My best friend rushed into hers and she regrets it.
Where as I (being the smart cookie I am ;]) waited and my first kiss was amazing.
To make yourself happy,
Just do what makes you happy.
For me, it's writing.
Who needs therapy (not that you or I do) when you've got a pencil?
Take up soemthing new.
Try something you normally wouldn't.
Don't worry, things will only go up from here :]
I hope this helps, even in the least.
<3 Laura,
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Seriously, I've been single most of my time as a young adult, and I'm just fine with it, sure I do get a little jealous at points, but I learn to deal. Not having a boyfriend, or a girlfriend in my case, shouldn't be the end of the world. You have so much more freedom than your friends. They have an obligation to hang out with and be with someone. You don't. They have to spend extra money on holidays, anniversaries, birthdays, etc. You don't. They feel heartbroken when the relationship ends. You don't have to worry about that. Do you see the point I'm trying to make? If you ever feel like you're left out, just remember that there is someone for everyone; you just might not find anyone near that until you're around 20 or so. Don't feel like you NEED a boyfriend, its really overrated. So many people are in your situation, and they are doing GREAT! Take me for example. =]
Hope I helped!
--Jack
(15/m)
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