Ny name is Kerry Jeanne. I'm 19 in my second year of College. I'm about to transfer to another college in Southern California where the weather is beautiful and the city is alive! I love to give people advice and help them through sturggles in life. I happily live with my amazing boyfriend and roommate. I have a bulldog and a shih tzu. I'm very crazy, happy, outgoing, optimistic, funny, sweet, caring, and a total introvert. I'm spunky and always have a smile on my face. If I could have it my way, I'd be goofy all the time but when the time is needed, I know when to get serious. Life is great:)
If you need quick advice you can message me on AIM.
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I am having a problem with someone at my work who Is talking behind my back, and requested to have my hours as she needs them. (I also cross trained her.) She had other options, but decided that what was available was BELOW her. I walked in on two conversations, and my supervisor told me about everything themselves as well as fellow co-workers letting me know about what she has been doing.
I have now been given two weeks and I will then be terminated so that she can have my position and hours. There resoning is because she has a child. They told me that I am and incredible worker, but that she needs the hours more than I. She has been there longer than myself, but only by a month. I'm not trying to compete with sob stories, but Things are horrible for my husband and I right now.
The other option that I was told is I could move from my administration position of over 14 years experience (she only has about 5 months experience) to a cleaning position (her former job) and a pay cut to minimum wage. (I would rather take the first option of being let go so that I can collect unemployment until I can get another job. I'm not sure if I should try and hold on, or just quit? P.S. I love my job and it's the field that I am trying to get further into. (link)
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This is completely illegal and you should go fight your termination. There are employees rights websites that can tell you what to do. You cannot be fired so 'no reason' it's illegal. Collecting unemployment isn't the only thing you can do. I suggest you talk to a lawyer. Good Luck!
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Ok so I might be going to the movies with tis guy I really like
All my friends say he likes me
I denie it. But KINDA think the same thing
Im kinda on the chub side & I think Im unattractive
But thats off topic;
In case he DOES like me
Im afriad he might kiss me
I want to kiss him
But first kiss = I have KNOW idea what to do
How to move my lips
Just. Im clueless with the WHOLE thing
Help?
Links to websites and bideos would be LOVED (link)
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First kisses are always hard. Practice kissing on an animal or a pillow. I'm sure you've kissed something in your lifetime. It's the exact same thing except with a set of lips in front of you. Once you've gotten that first kiss - the rest are a breeze. As far as your looks, You should never put yourself down. Self confidence is very attractive and as long as you see yourself as beautiful - then you are beautiful. Good Luck!
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I will be 37 weeks pregnant tomorrow. When I had a pap smear today I started bleeding. So my doctor told me to keep an eye on it and if its like a regular period call the doctors office. Well here it is about 8 hrs later and I'm having quite a bit of having brown bleeding. Should I call, go to the hospital or what? Thanks (link)
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As long as it stays a brownish red color then you shouldn't be too concerned. If you want reassurance, then I'd definately get it checked out. Good Luck!
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im 18/f. ok so im a good kid i was raised in a good family and so was my mom's side [i dont associate with my dad's really]. anyway so my mom is completely against tattoos. she says theyre tacky and blah blah blah. she's not crazy about piercings either but i've convinced her in to a few of those. but anyway i think tattoos and super intriguing and unique and i like them as long as they're not trashy looking you know? so i want to get a tattoo in memory of my grandmother on my foot. she died of cancer almost 5 years ago and it had a HUGE impact on me, and i want something to symbolize that. i've brought it up to my mom and she of course HATES the idea and gets kinda ill when i mention it. i planned on getting her a cross and cancer ribbon and drew it out for her to see and asked that if it was to symbolize my grandma and my faith and mean a lot to me why would it be so bad? she responded that if i want to symbolize my faith i can wear a cross necklace or something and that my grandma wouldn't want me to get a tattoo, regardless if it was in memory of her. but it would be special to me and having that tattoo would mean more to me than just wearing a necklace you know? not one ounce of my mom likes the idea. my question is, what would you do in this situation? that's the only tattoo i would get, and it wouldn't affect starting a career or anything cuz it'd be on my foot. i know that legally i can walk right out to a shop and get it, but on the other hand i'd feel kinda bad disrespecting my mom like that because we're really close, but it is something i want. how would you react? (link)
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Personally, I agree with your mom. I think tattoo's are very tacky. There are other ways you can remember your grandma by. Is some ink on your skin because you think it will help you remember your grandma worth your mom being upset? Your grandma will always be in your heart and in your head. Besides, someday you might look back and realize it was a mistake. If I were you and I really wanted this tattoo, I would wait until I'm in my late twenties to early thirties and if I still wanted the tattoo by then, then I would get it. Besides, whats the rush? Good Luck!
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16f and I have a yellow lab :-) but for some reason everytime i give him food, anything,he litterally eats it in 2seconds! I have tried giving him bigger pieces to force him to chew his food, and little pieces to see if that would work. No such luck. any idea whats going on? Im afraid he will choke one of these days! ps, he is 9 and has the energy of a 2 year old (link)
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Nope it is perfectly normal. As long as his stool(poop) seems fine and he doesn't seem to be in any pain then he should be quite alright. My bulldog does the exact same thing and he isn't even a year yet. Some dogs just get overly excited about food being in their bowl that they just wolf it down. Just make sure your dog gets plenty of exercise and water and I'm sure he'll be just fine. Good Luck!
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16f I play volleyball, and about last week to two weeks ago my finger (pointer) on my right hand hurt to the touch, the top part of it right on the tip. It started out as nothing, and felt like a splinter, but then i saw something white under my skin, now i think whatever it was bled under my skin because its a litterally perfect circle and its VERY small but dark enough to notice.Its a little bigger than a period on a page. it still hurts badly, any help?!
(if you were pointing at someone you would see it) (link)
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It's almost like a bruise but it's a blood bubble. I'm not sure if that's the exact term for it but it's nothing to worry about. It takes about a month to two months to go away. Any longer I would consult a doctor. Good Luck!
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17/f
I've been having stomach problems for a couple months now, and they seem like they are just getting worse. My doctor isn't taking me seriously, and my parents trust that doctor and don't want a second opinion. Here are my symptoms:
- horrible stomach aches and diaharria when I drink diet coke or coffee. I understand this can happen to people, but I used to drink coffee every morning since middle school and at least 2 diet cokes a day. Now a small sip makes me sick immediately.
- acid reflex (or at least that's what my doc said). This makes me nauseas after every meal and I almost always throw up a little bit of my meal because I burp it up. It's uncomfortable and disgusting.
I have been on prevacid for 2 months now, and it hasn't done much. I also take zantac to prevent throwing up because of the acid. Pepto bismol helps sometimes, but not all the time. I even increased my fiber intake because my doctor said it would help but it hasn't done anything! With all of these precautions, I still get sick.
I checked mayoclinic but couldn't find an answer. help? what do you think???
I know you guys probably aren't doctors, but maybe you or somebody you know has gone through this? or you mighthave better luck researching. Thank you to all who reply
p.s. I am not lactose intolerent (link)
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You're right I'm not a doctor. I too have had these symptom's growing up but I just try to ignore them. Try www.webmd.com and it should help you out quite a bit. Good Luck!
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15/f. I had been talking to the one guy C, but before I was talking to M. C goes to another school, M goes to my school. After we came back from christmas break I heard another girl i didn't like liked M, & had said if I tried to come between her & M she'd be so pissed or something like that. So I started talking M again. But I realized he was really really into me, not the same way I was. The C found out I was talking to M & we stopped talking. But I wanted to be with C, so I kept making up excuses for M to stop talking to me.
The first time me and M stopped talking was because he never had time for me like with football, and friends, drinking, and smoking, things im not into, and the second time it was the same story. While C is the type of boy thats plays to many games, & talks to other girls.
Well now I'm talking to C. And M & that girl from the beginning are going out now.
I feel like i've made the wrong decision, any adive?
If you think I have how do you think I can make it right with M again? (link)
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Unfourtunately you can't have your cake and eat it too. They both sound like they're wrong for you. You obviously can't have M because he has a girlfriend and coming in between them would be wrong. And if C is the player type then he's not worth it. You should just keep them as friends (hoping one day they'll forgive you) and try finding a different letter, I mean guy to date:)
Good Luck!
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Hi!!
I love this guy SO much. He just recently added me on my space. I need to tell him how I feel about him..I want to tell him that I do like him a lot...but it's alright with me to just be friends. He's never on my space...so I can't tell him. He goes to my school...but he's and 8th grader...I am a 7th grader. I am way to shy to talk to him.Even on the phone! He's in my study hall.... I really want to talk to him...but I can't!! I need some advice.... I also think he might like me.. might. We use to be in the same gym class...so the day before... we changed classes. I was playing volley ball with my friends...he was a little way's down from us playing basketball with his friends. I was talking to my friend. He was walking back from the boy's locker room...he was looking at his feet than he looked up, at me...for like about 2 minutes than played basketball again with his friends. This, Friday I was walking to s.s class ...with my other friend. I just randomly glanced in and 8th grade room and BAMM!! There's Matt....he was sitting in his desk facing the doorway..and he was literally STARING at me...for about 5 minutes. I blushed...and walked passed. Do you think that means anything ? Do you think he's interested....in me?? In a friend or maybe more than a friend? Someone help!! Give me some advice!! I really hope Matt and I can become friends and eventually become...more than friends.
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You should start out by leaving him a comment on myspace. Something like 'Hey, I noticed you're in my study hall:) how are ya?' and then go from there. You can't just jump the gun and move straight into a relationship - you must frist start from the bottom and work your way up. Since he sounds a little shy, you're going to have to make the first move. Trust me, theres nothing more attractive to a guy then self confidence - and when you make that first move he will be very impressed. Good Luck!
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Im female 17 and my mom is very very overprotective...I dont go out at all. Only to school, saturday mass with my family, and school related things which arent many. my mom doesnt like me to go out, doesnt let me go out with friends, she even scares my friends away by calling them and insulting them. I do have one good friend though that stands it all...my mom told me not to hang out with her anymore. It really sucks cause Im in my house all day...I feel like im throwing away my youth i dont want to party all night but i want to hang out and have fun with my friends now and then. She even locks the door with a key. I can count all the bad things that i´ve done in my life with one hand. My sisters did some really bad stuff...but thats not my fault...im not like them. Im always quiet and I dont rebel...I dont know how long I can live like this. She lies to me to get me to tell her whatever it is that she wants to hear, she blackmails me, shes created problems for me both with my teachers and my friends...I could go live with my dad, but i know that she would never talk to me again. Im also afraid because of college. She´s always critizing me...everything´s my fault in her eyes...im evil in her eyes she´s told me herself...she doesnt even act like a mom giving sarcasms and harsh critics and just been plain mean.....i´ve thought about suicide...but the people that love me keep me going. Other people i know have done so many bad things and their moms arent like this. Its not my fault that we´re not rich and that she married my dad. I just cant have a day of peace because she has to make me feel like crap at least once a day. please help me i feel like im dying in the inside (link)
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Your mom sounds like she has a lot of things built up emotionally deep down inside her and she's taking it out on you. Perhaps she is also feeling quite lonely which is why she wants you around all the time. Always remember - there are two sides to every story and your mom's story is probablly stuck inside her itching to get out. Try sitting down with her and talking to her about herself. Ask her if she's alright and let her know you care about her. Even if she doesn't want to open up to you, she'll see that her daughter is caring about her on the inside and that alone will mean a lot to her.
Finally, tell her your feelings. Telling her that she's trapping you and keeping you from your youth is killing you inside. Let her know you've become depressed and her being so controlling is making you not want to live your life anymore. I know your mom cares about you and is trying to have nothing but good intentions for you - sometimes loves is just shown in a more harsher way. You won't have to live like this for forever and someday you'll be on your own but for now it's something you're going to have to cope with. You can get through it - I went through the same thing and now that I live on my own, my Mom and I are best friends and I look back and realized she just wasn't happy with herself and I was her best target. Everything will be alright - live your life and eventually things will start getting better. If you're ever feeling more depressed and need someone to talk to go to my page and there's a screen name for AOL and you can talk to me through there. Remember, suicide is not the answer and it's a very selfish act. Prove to this world (and especially your mom) that you're stronger. Good Luck!
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hi, I want to get back to my natural hair color. I've highlighted it about three times. I found this website
http://www.ehow.com/how_2174200_dyed-hair-back-natural-hair.html?ref=fuel&utm_source=yahoo&utm_medium=ssp&utm_campaign=yssp_art
and wonder if it would severely damaged my hair if I tried it? I don't think so, but I'm just wondering. Thanks! (link)
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The best thing is just to let it grow out naturally. I've stripped the color from my hair and trust me - everything damages it severely. Try the best you can to wait it out. Good Luck!
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I'm going to california in march and i want to look good in a bathing suit.
I need to lose some weight. I'm not like crazy over weight, i just need to lose at least like 10 or 15 pounds.
I live on campus at a college and they dont always have the best food...
What are some suggestions to losing weight and getting in good form? (link)
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There are certain diets you can go on that will slim you up quite a bit. Also, working out to tone your body helps. When I want to drop a quick 10-15 pounds I get on the cottege cheese and tomato diet, and go running everyday. It may sound gross depending on what you like to eat but it sheds pounds really fast. Also drink lots of water. If you need more diet idea's you can message me - I have plenty more. Good Luck!
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My hair is not volumous, and it gets greasy pretty soon after I wash it. I use tressemmee, and I wash it every other day or sometimes everyday. Sometimes I blow-dry it, but mostly I let it naturally dry out.
I just don't know how these chicks on tv (not even celebrities) get their hair all perfectly volumous, shiny but not greasy, and wavy..
Aggravates me (link)
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The cause of your greasy hair could be from you not washing out all of the conditioner properly. Also it could be from the type of shampoo & conditioner you use. Yes I also do reccomend you blow drying it after washing it becasue sleeping on it can tend to make it greasy. Depending on what type of hair you have, blow dry it and then striaghten it right after its dry. Use some 'Paul Mitchell' hair spray and try to poof it with your hands and it should help. Good Luck!
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has anyone used any of the hydroxycut products?
what was your opinion on them? (link)
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I used it for about a month to drop a few pounds. First of all, I don't believe it worked. Second of all, I felt like I was on crack all day and it made me sick to my stomach. I've personally tried very many diet pills and they aren't good for you. If you're looking to lose weight - try eating right, taking vitamins, and drinking lots and lots of water. If you need more diet idea's I have plenty, so feel free to ask if you need to. Good Luck!
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My boyfriend is such a jerk to me! We have been together for a cuple of years now in a long distance relationship. He comes to visit me every 3 months but its such a drag to convince him! He is always making me feel bad and saying mean things to me. He is a jealous control freak! I feel that its my fault beacuse I let him do that to me in the first place. I've never been a party girl,I would say that im a stay at home girl. I dont have much friends..Im always with my mother..to me shes like my friend, sicne I share with her everything. I'm pretty confused i don't know what to do I really love him and i know that he loves me too but hes hurting mee verbaly and i know the consequences of that but i just can't let go of him. i live in US and he live in Mexico and i am willing to leave everything for him!! I know that its such a stupid attitude!!
The big problem here is because he doesn't trust me at all and I have told him that I am willing to do anything to show him that he can trust me. He tells me that I probably cheat on him and stuff like that. But why would i cheat on him? What would be the point of wasteing money on phone calls on wasting all this time with him i i has someone else right? I feel so depreate!! What can I do? I feel like i have tried everything and nothing seems to work! I just don't want to let go him just like that. I truly love him. We have talked many times of marrige. He will be turning 21 and ill be turning 19 soon.
So what can i do! (link)
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Any guy that accuses his girlfriend of cheating on them only goes to show how insecure they are about themselves. And I hate to say this, but almost 98% of the time, he's blaming you for cheating on him only to cover up him cheating on you. No guy especially your boyfriend, know's what they have until it's gone. I realize you two have been together for a long time but if he is treating you this way - you deserve SO much better. You may think only because you love him that he's going to change, but he's not. No time can heal what he's done to you.
Trust me, there are good guys out there and I can prove it. No girl should stay with their boyfriend if she is accused of cheating when not and when being verbally abused. Not to offend you so please don't take this the wrong way - but your boyfriend is making you look like an idiot for staying with him. There are plenty of fish in the sea and plenty of MEN that are willing to do whatever it takes to take care of you and treat you right. You can't search for him - he will come to you. You should really drop this one like a fly. Don't take it as - 'Oh I wasted all this money on phone calls and trips out to see me' take is as - 'What a lesson learned - someday he'll regret losing me because he had no idea how good he had it and he'll never find another girl like me'.
Don't let him take you for granted. Good Luck!
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Hi, can yo help me out?
i have a dog, grand size.
He's a sheppard mixed with a golden retriever.
we've had him for almost a month now.
latley i've notice he has been snapping his teeth out in the open for no apparent reason, as if he were snapping for flies, yet there is nothing there.
he's always doing it.
why do you think he does it?
think it's torets or something? (link)
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I don't think your dog has tourettes syndrome. Some dogs just have extremely strange habits. My bulldog chases shadows as if he wants to eat them and my shih tzu digs to china on my bed. It's all in a dogs nature to do strange things. Take it in and enjoy the humor and entertainment a dog can bring to the table:) Good Luck!
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best way to say something about a very good friend of mine i've been dating intermitent like one day he acts cold fish the next one we're making out and so on..so what do you people think..i cant easily tell him in person cause we dont hang otu that much on our respective houses we go to the movies very often so its not like im gonna say something like asking were we're standing in the middle of the movie..but if i ask him on msn or soemthing..i think he would be more honest cause you know its easier t o type than to actually articulate the words cause i want to say 3452435 things and i know that in person that i wont be able to do ...so i dont know exactly how can i ask him (link)
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You're never going to find out until you ask, and it never hurts to ask. Asking him in person would show more confidence and it would show him that you can have a mature conversation with him face to face. If you feel you truely cannot do it in person then send him an instant message asking him where you two stand. Tell him you want to put a lable on what you have so you know where to go from there. If he doesn't want anything then he's waisting your time and most likely only wants one thing. Or perhaps he's just shy and doesn't know when to make the right move. It's always sexy for girls to make the first move. I did with my boyfriend & thank god I did:) Good Luck!
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how do brides plan their weddings around their periods so far ahead of time if they are not on a pill? (link)
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Depending on when your wedding is,...
The next period you have, make sure you write it down on a calender and guestimate when yours will be come wedding month. Good Luck!
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I can't get turned on! I DON'T KNOW what it is! What happened?! Am I thinking too much about it?? Is there something wrong with me?! HELP ME!! (link)
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This is a very broad question/statement but have you tried everything? You can look at porn, or you can find out for yourself what gets you going. You should explore, try toys - go to a sex shop. Read a sex book with your 'partner'. If all of this doesn't work then you've probablly lost your sex drive and should consult a doctor. Good Luck!
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My boyfriend and I really want to see eachother more because we go to different schools, but my parents are being really annoying about it. They know I have a boyfriend because they have hinted that they know, and I think that it only made it worse. Normally, I'm not allowed to be at a guy's house or a guy at my house. But now, it seems like they are making a big deal about us even trying to hang out alone at a public place. I think that they think that we will sneak off and go to his house. And obviously I get that they are afraid of pregnancy or me getting hurt, but it just seems like I'm getting a little old for this. I'm 16. Lately I've been pretending to hang out with groups of friends but I actually don't hang out with them, I just sneak off. My parents are getting smart about it though because now they want to see who I am with. And my friends are never available and they are bad at making plans, so it's just getting increasingly frustrating. My parents can not be convinced against their beliefs. So what can I do? (link)
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You're parents trust is something that should be very important to you. Also, if you respect them - they will respect you. Sit down and have 'the talk' with them. Start out by saying something like this...
"Mom, Dad; I love you both very much and you both mean very much to me which is why I want to let you in on whats going on in my life. There is this boy I have been seeing for a while. He is very intelligent and seems to care about me a lot. I want to be able to spend time with him but I want to make sure I have your permission and that you will be able to trust me as I would never do anything to hurt you guys or make you upset in anyway."
Then you can go on from there. Your parents will see how mature you are by talking to them about it and the fact that you want them to trust you should mean a lot to them. As long as you assure them nothing bad will happen - I think they should be alright with it. I hope everything goes well. Good Luck!
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