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what would you do?
im 18/f. ok so im a good kid i was raised in a good family and so was my mom's side [i dont associate with my dad's really]. anyway so my mom is completely against tattoos. she says theyre tacky and blah blah blah. she's not crazy about piercings either but i've convinced her in to a few of those. but anyway i think tattoos and super intriguing and unique and i like them as long as they're not trashy looking you know? so i want to get a tattoo in memory of my grandmother on my foot. she died of cancer almost 5 years ago and it had a HUGE impact on me, and i want something to symbolize that. i've brought it up to my mom and she of course HATES the idea and gets kinda ill when i mention it. i planned on getting her a cross and cancer ribbon and drew it out for her to see and asked that if it was to symbolize my grandma and my faith and mean a lot to me why would it be so bad? she responded that if i want to symbolize my faith i can wear a cross necklace or something and that my grandma wouldn't want me to get a tattoo, regardless if it was in memory of her. but it would be special to me and having that tattoo would mean more to me than just wearing a necklace you know? not one ounce of my mom likes the idea. my question is, what would you do in this situation? that's the only tattoo i would get, and it wouldn't affect starting a career or anything cuz it'd be on my foot. i know that legally i can walk right out to a shop and get it, but on the other hand i'd feel kinda bad disrespecting my mom like that because we're really close, but it is something i want. how would you react?
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If you really want it, I think you should get it. My first tattoo was also on my foot and though it's an easy place to hide, expect it to hurt. My dad's side of the family as well as quite a few people at my conservative university feel quite a bit like your mom but after they saw that I was going to do it anyway and I wasn't getting anything disrespectful or too extreme, they got pretty used to my tattoos. Before you get your tattoo you should talk to your mom one last time to say that you're not doing it to be disrespectful in any way but you just don't agree with her point of view on the matter and because you're not doing anything wrong, you don't think it's an issue to get a tattoo. She probably won't change her mind, but at least you will both know that you're not being disrespectful.
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You're old enough to make your own decisions.
Personally, especially considering what you want, I would get the tattoo and let your mom live with it. Thats just me.
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i know what you're going through. I always wanted a tattoo and my dad is 100% against it and until a couple months ago I thought my mom was too. I decided to get one anyway so I have two small ones on my hip that both mean the world to me. I plan on getting another one on my hip and one on my foot. For the one on my foot (which I can't hide) i have decided to wait until I am financially independent. Right now I think that's all you can do. If this tattoo means that much to you keep thinking about it and I'm sure you'll still want it later in life and you can get it then. Until then I'd suggest holding off so that you don't get in trouble with your parents while you still depend on them that way you are not putting anything in jeopardy.
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Personally, I agree with your mom. I think tattoo's are very tacky. There are other ways you can remember your grandma by. Is some ink on your skin because you think it will help you remember your grandma worth your mom being upset? Your grandma will always be in your heart and in your head. Besides, someday you might look back and realize it was a mistake. If I were you and I really wanted this tattoo, I would wait until I'm in my late twenties to early thirties and if I still wanted the tattoo by then, then I would get it. Besides, whats the rush? Good Luck!
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I haven't really been in this situation before yet, my mother is the same way. i've talked her into piercings but on the otherhand tatoos, she don't play about. maybe something tiny. like a black cross, with a pink/ or baby blue/aqua colored cancer ribbon over it, or rapped around it. you will feel bad at first i'm sure, but it's for a great cause, and i'd do it.
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