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Hey!!!! It's Alyssa!!! I'm currently a level 1 moderator!

[a]ge: 14
[b]irthday: March 27
[c]andy choice: CHOCOLATE!!!!
[d]rink of choice: Coke or Gatorade
[e]xciting things happening:Pennsylvania
[f]ood of choice: Chinese or Mexican
[g]reastest acheievement: superior @ theatre fest!!
[h]ottest guy on the planet: Sean Faris!!!!
[i]ndoor activity: dance
[j]unk food of choice: chips and dip!!!
[k]oolaid of choice: grape
[l]ove: GUYS!!!!! and Dance!! duh!
[m]usic of choice: POP!!!!
[n]icest friends: Chelsea!!!
[o]bsession: DANCE!!! duh!
[p]izza place of choice: Pizza Hut!!!!
[q]uestion most asked: about styles!!!
[r]adio station: 96.7 kiss F.M.!!!! duh!!!
[s]aturday activity: mall or friends house!!!
[t]ake out food: chinese!!!
[u]r favorite movie: Mean Girls!!!
[v]ery best friend: Chelsea!!!!
[w]hat you wear: everything!!!
[x]yz??? look down idiot!!!
[y]our favorite singer: i have a lot!!!!
[z]odiac sign: ARIES!!!!!

I'm always here when you need me!! So ask me ANYTHING!!!

advice

My friend is acting all weird now because she started to be able to shop at abercrombie and fitch. She acts all like preppy and tries to now hang out with the popular kids. I miss the old her what should i do

tell her how you feel about it. say that you miss how she used to act or you could possibly hang around her when she's w/ the pops. hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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I'm depressed because my life has evolved to be all about studying (I am a dedicated nursing student), I have low self-esteem, the crowd in my school I do not get along with (there is a term in the philippines called "jologs" meaning they are poor), I'm super bored, i feel overscheduled (my class is from Mon-Sat), I come from a dysfunctional family (can't talk to anyone about problems) and life just seems so empty and a burden. Everyday it is hard just to get up, and it is hard to sleep too. I've been depressed since December. Now, I think I need help to snap out of it.

Are there sure-fire remedies for depression?

what you need is time to yourself once in a while! you need to take a day off from school and have a day o yourself! you seem like you really need it! it always helps me! hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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Okay theres this guy that I don't kno but I think hes really hott and I hear hes very nice! My friend talks to him and she just found out the other day that he likes her! I am kinda jealous I admit because I have had my heart broken so many times. She doesn't kno if she wants 2 go out with him bc this other guy likes her and she could picture herself more with him...all though she really wants to be with this guy. She recently broke up with her BF and is still sorta in love with him. I don't have all this stuff going on in my life. I'm just trying to find the right guy! and im kinda disappointed bc this guy doesnt even kno im alive but i want him to bc i think he could b right for me! please help! i need it!

~ VERY lost and confused...and heartbroken ~

well...if your friend could picture herself more w/ the other guy, then maybe she could go out w/ him and she could hook you up w/ the other really hott guy! hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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I have a friend that ive known for several years. She lives a very long distance away from me and theres nothing i can do physcially for her. Her father makes her have sex with him on a nightly basis. Is there any way i can help her get help. Shes afraid of going against him, because he is paying for her college and everything. I love her to death. What can i do?

OMG! that's totally sick! but you need to call the police and tell them that this is happening no matter how far the distance is from you guys! hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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about 2 months ago my friend and i wereiin a huge fight... she was talkin bad about me behind my back... she told my friends i was b****y and that her mom thought so to... she denied she said that but later on told me that she did... and i said u lied to me and she was like i never said i didn't call u that but she did... we made up and got past our differences but it still hurts and i don't wanna bring it up because we've been in enough fights already. What should i do?

well...i'm kind of in the same situation as you are right now...so here's my advice, just if she ever does something like that again, like calling you bitchy or something, just ignore her completly! ignore the comments, and all the pain along w/ them! hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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i went out with my boyfriend for 9 months, and he was my 'first person', but things happend and we broke up :( . This was about 3.5 months ago, and he has a new girlfriend now. So i dicided to move on to and now i have this guy who i like and he likes me a lot too. But i have a problem because every time i'm with him i think about my ex! i can't do it :( ... it hurts inside to think of being with any1 else. THe problem is, my ex boyfriend doesnt want to talk to me, but somtimes i know that he misses me to, but doesnt want to be with me again. What do i do? I'm so lost :( please help, ill rate.

you really just need to wait til your completly over him or until you feel your ready to start dating again! hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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okay so i like this guy and we hang out alot and when we do i always feel relaxed and feel confertable but when ever we hold hands or sumthin my hand always start to sweat! and i dont kno wut to do! its gross! i mean im embarrased to like hold hands with him now! wut can i do?

It's just cause your nervous that your gonna do sumthin stupid. but don't feel bad cuz that happens to a lot of teenage girls! hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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I have really bad grades and until there up i have no life! i have a boyfriend who now thinks im asking him for a break when i said i need to focus more on school, my friends are getting mad at me because now i cant hang out with them and i can only have 30 min on the phone and an hour of t.v! how can i get my life back with doing better in school i get home a 4 every day and i need a schedule so i can get my life back!!

i had that same problem last year! what you have to do is sort your priorities. Make school and studying come first, and you'll see a steady incline in your grades! hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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Im 13 years old. A lot of the other girls have boy friends and all but ofcourse i dont. ive never even had a first kiss or went on a date with a boy. Its not like im ugly because im not really. i just dont know...it just feels like that time is never going to come??..

don't beat yourself down like that! i'm 13( i'll be 14 in 2 months though) and i know EXACTLY how you feel! i've had b/f's b4, but never made out w/ them which makes me kind of un e-z cuz all my friends have! n-e way, just wait and eventually Mr. Right will come to you! Hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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Hi I'm an A level drama student thinking about going on to drama/dance scool in london and I've not done any auditions before has anyone got any tips to help with nerves and confidance?
Many thx Joolz,(i rate high)

Wow! You must be like really good! Well... i would just maybe practice in front of friends and family, they're honest, and will tell you what you need to work on! Also try maybe auditioning w/ a piece of a play that you know well! hope this helps! and good luck!

~Alyssa

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Hey, im having some friends over and were going to just have a girls night... so i was wondering on some ideas on gurly movies like Crazy/Beautiful, Crossroads... just gurly movies lol or any other really good movies you have to reccomend. thanks buches!

i think that in good company comes out on friday nut i dunno, but that would be a good one 2 c! hope that this helps!

~Alyssa

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If I were to make-out with someone with braces and I have braces would anything happen? Like would the wires get stuck together?? Thanks! xox!

they could possibly get stuck, but it's not likely! hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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Well i have a friend and we have just been in a fight kinda... we are really really really close and i don't want to lose him. I am afraid that he doesn't mind losing me. I think he got over the fight he had with me but i don't know yet. If so i don't know what to say sorry for. The things he said about me were the things i do daily. I want our friendship to be back to the way it used to be.... Is there anyway I could get it back??

Sincerely,

I want my best friend back

tell him your sorry for anything you did and that you want to be friends again! say that you don't know what came up w/ you but that you are very sorry!hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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hey i have a b/f i really like him but not everyone exepts him my grandpa said that he was going to ocme thool and kill him and whenever he talks about him i feel uncofterable what should i do

that's really weird! just don't talk about him in front of your grandpa i guess! but if he starts talking like that again i would tell someone cause he could end up hurting you! hope this helps!

~alyssa

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I have this friend (lets call her amy) and she always gets mad at me for nothing and I dont no what to do because we do a lot of stuff together but with her I cant say the wrong this or shell FLIP i dont wanna say like stuff to make her even more mad .. Sometimes I dont even think she is my friend because she takes it ALL OUT ON ME. What should I do ? HELP!!
--confused

just ask her, what's your problem? i thought we were friends! but your treating me like trash and i'm tired of it! that will show her how you are feeling and that your upset! hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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hello, i weigh 200 lbs and i wanna get to 120 by the end on june
i was wondering if it was possible to loose 80 lbs. in 6 months? and if s how? and how much exersise would i have to do a day?
i am a girl

if you really set your mind on it you can do it! do crunches, eat healthy, measure the amount of fat in the food you eat, drink water, and exersise like crazy! you'll do it! hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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hi. erf.. i cut myself and i wanted to know if there is any thing to make u stop/get ur mind off of it?? i heard that snapping rubberbands help.. but it isn't working.. help

well maybe you could pinch yourself everytime you feel like doing it! i heard that it helps! hope this helps!

~alyssa

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I have a boyfriend and he's really sweet, but he dosen't live near me really.There's this other guy who goes to my church & today I told him I liked him & he likes me.I'm going to tell my b/f that I really don't feel a connection between us but I feel really bad about it.And when I found out he liked me, he wrote my name in a heart on his arm...& now I'm going to break up with him!¿!
What's wrong with me!¿!Plus my friend told me to trust my gut not my heart because your gut is a gift from God. But I'm having Second thoughts.Did I do the right thing¿¿¿

well...i would just say to follow your heart on the guy thing! if you want a b/f who lives closer to you and that you see more often, go out w/ him! just don't tell anybody for a while! if your ex- would find out that you dumped him for another guy, that's when all the trouble starts! hope this helps!

~Alyssa

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now im not blowin my own trumpet or anything, but im a pretty good singer. recently i entered this singing competition, but im getting really neervous about the first heat. i hardly ever sing in front of people (except at my singing lessons) and im getting really nervous - its on the 24th of jan and i dont even know what song im going to sing! can anybody help with calming down about this, coz im really scared im going to do REALLY badly on the day!

now if you don't have any self confidence about that, then you will fail, just tell yourself that your going to do it, your going to win, pretend your Christina Aguilera or another famous singer! hope this helps! and good luck!

~Alyssa

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I have a really hot boyfiend thats cute,funny,nice and caring but I have the biggest feeling that he's cheating on me and I don't wanna be hurt what should I do?

well...you could ask him if there's someone else,or look for clues that would let you know if he is...? i'm really not that sure on this subject...but i'll try my best to help! hope that this does help!

~Alyssa

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