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Hey, I'm Samm and I'm 15-year-old freshman at Downingtown East High School. I've got a pretty average teenage life, except I'm in no way your average person. I doubt you'll ever meet someone exactly like me.



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Well my Boyfriend I Have Been Going Out For 6th Months now. ABout 3 Weeks Ago I Wasn't At School On Monday And We Had A Pep Rally... You Know With All The Cheerleaders and Ya! Well ME And My BF Were Walking ANd He Said That He Sat In The Back And He Said That The Cheerleaders Had Nice Butts! I WAS LIKE OMG! I Dont Think You Should Be Telling Me This! But What Do You Think?! I Need Some Opions! I Will Rate Good! Thanks!
[♥] Staci

He's just a guy. You gotta know that you see a guy sometime and you're like, "Damn! That boy is fine!" For your boyfriend to tell you about this is kinda rude and thoughtless.. But he's just a guy. You've been going out for 6 months! If he thought those cheerleaders' butts were more important than you, you two wouldn't been together anymore. So as long as he compliments you as well as these cheerleaders, it's all fine. He wants you, not the cheerleaders! No worries.

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welll im 12 years old 115 pounds && 5 foot 3 1/2 is that fat u think?? im very athletic my arms r all muscle but im not sure about my arms or legs i play both travel softball & travel basketball but it hasn't seemed to have done anything.. do u have any preferable diets? or somethign i do 100 crunches a day but my friends are extremely skinny & they eat so much so i end up eatin as much as them.. please i need mucho help. i have to go on a cruise in mid-may & i need to be in tip-top shape for bikini season..

You're just in your range! If you go to www.seventeen.com/bmi you can find out your healthy BMI. You're very healthy it seems. If you're an athlete, a lot of your weight is probably muscle. Don't worry about how much you weigh. Worry more about how you look. And keep up the 100 crunches.. but after awhile 100 will be like nothing. Increase the amount of crunches by 5 or 10 every day. Good luck.

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this is my first time hooking up and the guy that im going to hook up with thinks i have done it before...any tips?! and what in gods name do you do with your hands when you do hook up...

please helpp!!

Hook up? Do you mean having sex? There are tons of meanings for "hooking up." If it's for sex, I have no clue. Just follow his lead. And use protection =]

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Okay, so im having HUGE issues with my hair. I got it cut real short around Febuary without thinking, oh shit, my hairs naturally REALLY curly. And its not neat curls, theyre very fuzzy and frizzy, so everyday i straighten my hair. I hate to straighten my hair, big waist of time everyday. Also, its killing my hair. So since summers comin along , so is very bad humitidy. With straightened short hair, its ganna look like crap. So Im planning on growing it out, but so do you know something I can put on my hair before or after straightening that will help it not like complelty die when i straighten it? And make it feel healthier. I know theres balms and stuff, but i dont know which one acually works.

Straighteners are lovely, but only with the proper protection. Like sex. =] Anyway, I use this stuff by Pureology called "SUPERSTRAIGHT" Relaxing serum. Here's a link for a picture of it >> http://www.haircareexpress.com/images/pureology_super_straight_serum.jpg This stuff is GOD! I put it in my damp hair before a blowdry (only a TINY drop! For short hair, I'd reccomend using something a little bigger than a pea!) and then I put some in my hair in layers as I straighten. But if you have short hair, maybe when you blow dry it (if you blow dry with a brush and take your time) then it will go straight.. because this stuff works very VERY well. It'll also reduce static/frizzies. Good luck!!

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Alright, so this guy didn't ask me out, but he wants to make out with me. Like, idk, should I just have fun with him?

As long as you don't get emotionally attached to him, being friends with benefits is okay. You two also have to understand exactly how that will work out. In order to do some physical things with this boy, you have to talk to him to get the scoop on both of your feelings.

Good luck, hope I helped.

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Okay, so I am 14 and my brother has a cute friend who is 16. And I think he likes me, and I think I like him. But my brother already doesnt talk to me a lot, so i'm not sure if he would hate me if we went out. So what should I do, should I like date in secret or what?

I think your name is Colin and you're a big time loser. =D

But if you're not.. I can't really take that chance because last time I made an assumption, it wasn't that person and they got mad at me.

Anyway, if he asks you out, than you should go out with him for sure. But if your brother doesn't bother to communicate with you, it's his problem. Not yours. You don't have to make a big deal of the relationship, but you don't have to make it some ulta-huge secret.

Hope I helped.

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I just started to really like this guy but I dont really know him. We only have one class together and I was wondering if you had any ideas for me to get to know him, because im not good at all, like really not good at alll starting up conversations. My reallygood friend says shes really good friends with him though, if that helps.. Thanks in AdVanCe!

Well, you have to start up a conversation.. because right now your basing your feelings on his appearance. He might be a total jackass, but you don't know because you've never talked to him before. However, since your friend is close with him, maybe You, Boy, Friend, and some other boy could go out and do something. Your friend could play match maker as she introduced you two to each other. Try something like a group movie so that you don't have to talk too much. Or if he's in your class, you could talk to him about something like how bogus the class is or if you could have a pencil or something.

Hope I helped.

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Is there any way to really tell if a guy likes you? Like in know some baisic stuff that you can tell by, but what if u dont talk to him? Is there actions or whatever you can really tell?? thanks!

If he talks to you more than any other girl and possibly more than his friends, he likes you. If he touches you when you two talk, than that's another sign. If he seems different around you than when you first met him, than he may have gotten feelings for you in that "special way." Hope I helped =]

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Ok. Here's the deal. I can sing. I do choir, I can sing any scale, my airflow is fine, i use my diaphram, I lift my sof palate, I do everything they tell me. So, why does my voice still sound bad? I need vocal tone tips. Pitch is fine. How do I fix the tone?

To be honest, it might just be what you were born with. There's only so much you can do with your voice. Unless you take vocal lessons, I doubt there is much you can do at all. Also, you are most likely underestimating the power of your voice. I know girls that get solos, and after their audition, they say, "that was awful!" So, give yourself more credit!

Hope I helped.

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How can I do to remove yahoo messenger from the tools menu?
Question Posted Monday April 3 2006, 12:42 am

Hello sir,

How can I do to remove yahoo messenger from the tools menu of Microsoft Internet Explorer?

I have window 98.

I alresdy remove yahoo messenger from the control panal / add/remove programme, but still it display on my tools menu of the microsoft internet explorer.

Kahem.. ma'am.

1) Open Internet Explorer
2) Go to View
3) Toolbars
4) Uncheck Yahoo messenger

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k so theres this guy i like. everyone thinks he likes me back. but i REALLY doubt it. he also knows.. i think. idk what i should do!

Well, you should just wait it out to see if he likes you for sure. Drop hints like crazy and see if he goes for it. Good luck!

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I dated a guy for about 3-4 months. It was great before we started dating, and the first 2 months or so, but then it went down hill. We had fights a lot and by the end i had basically drove him crazy, i couldnt dump him myself, so he dumped me. I dont know why i drove him so crazy, i guess i just got overpowered by something. I realized after a month or so after the break up ( we hadnt talked at all) how much i missed him. I saw him with other girls, and although i felt stupid for it, i was jealous.
I had a conversation with him a few days ago and he said he missed having a girl like me with him, and that he thought the beggining was the best. I apologized to him that i drove him to dump me, and when i asked if he was ready to date other girls he said no, but that once i get mixed into things, that things get sorta crazy.

I dont exactly know where to go from here. Because i care for him, but im affraid if we get back together, ill get overpowered again, and the past will happen again. What should i do? and do you even think he cares for me at all anymore?

The beginning is always so wonderful, then it gets incredibly boring and couples tend to attempt spicing it up by fighting. Because you "drove him crazy" you need to find out how exactly. If it's a normal personality trait of yours, than you can't go out with him again. But he seems to care for you, he wants you back. If you want to go out with him again, go ahead. You've got nothing to lose. You can only benefit from it. And if it doesn't work out again, break it off.

Hope this helped.

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alright uhm... im in 8th...lms... there are these 2 girls and like.... one says she likes me and all but it seems she doesnt and one says she doesnt but it seems liek she does... what should i do

The girl that says that she does obviously does like you, but has trouble showing her affections. The girl that says she doesn't like you may just be hiding it because she knows someone else already does. Or she may just be a flirt. I would go with the first girl, because she is more straightforward with her feelings.

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hey. Well, there's this guy who said he liked me and told me this and everything.. a few days later he started kinda liking this other girl. So he liked her and me, but he couldn't decide who he liked. Like a week later he told me friend he liked her. A WEEK! I don't get guys like I understand that they're stupid sometimes, but now it's like he never liked me and I'm so confused. How come this happened and does he still like me or not? kthanks

This guy has absolutely no clue where he's at with girls and his relationship with them. He seems like he's the type of guy that has no commitment whatsoever, so even if he did like you, it wouldn't be worth it. I don't think he likes you, or anyone for more than a short period of time. If you like him, that's cool and all.. but it'll take a lot of work for you to keep this boy to stick with you and only you. Keep your eyes open for a new boy.

Good luck, hope I helped.

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Im 14 almost 15 and I havent had my first kiss yet. Is that okay. I understand that a lot of people have had their first kiss like younger or sumthing. Is it okay that I am waiting for that right person. I dont want the guy I have my first kiss with to be all like wow you havent had your first kiss yet and all. Anyway Its okay not to have it yet right??


Thanx I rate High

It's perfectly fine that you want to save your first kiss for someone special.. because most people's first kiss is blown on someone unworthy of such a special thing. The guy that says "ohh you haven't had your first kiss yet!?" should understand that you're waiting for that "special moment" and maybe he'll give that to you.

Good luck

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On here I just read that guys have their first kiss before girls. Ive had my first kiss but only for a dare though (that sounds sad but it was with a really hot guy i'm into so its ok really) . I just wondered why guys have their first kisses before girls?

Uhh.. guys can't have their first kiss before a girl does unless he's gay.

Haha, hope i helped.

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Ok well I am depressed and have started becoming anerxic over it. It all started with my bf {of course a guy lol}, anyway he loved his ex gf, {but he doesnt now and broke it off with her and is now with me} and he keeps giving me compliments he gave her and idk if their genuine he says they are, but why would he give me the exact same ones! I find it pathetic. Then, after I talk about this we get in a small fight and make up well then he went to the movies alone with two girls, one he dated! I wasnt even invited or told about it, oh and since I found this out I've been trying to call, but hmmm seams he doesn't know how to call someone back! Anyway I don't wanna get used by this guy what should I do, cause I really love him and don't understand why'd he'd rather go alone with those two girls and not me and is avoiding me. I'll give 5's to anyone who makes me feel better.

Depression and anorexia usually come hand in hand, but from what you are saying, I don't think you are actually depressed. You sound like you're just sad. Depression stretches out for months and, in some cases, years. As for anorexia, that is a disease. People just don't get anorexic out of nowhere. So first of all, cut the drama. As for this compliment business... most guys are brainless and have no way with words. Cut him some slack! And then for the movies thing.. well.. I've gone to the movies with a boy who was taken with only girls. It's not that big of a deal. We just didn't like the guy's girlfriend. Maybe those girls just don't like you and didn't want to invite you. Your boyfriend isn't the only one to blame. I understand your sadness, but you've got to decide if this foolish boy's games are worth it to you.

Sorry for sounding harsh, but I hope I helped.

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Hell advicenators,

I was just wondering: what are your thoughts on starting school/letting your children start school a year earlier? Do you have any own experiences with this? Is there any cons; and what are the pros? Anything you shoúld think about before making the decision? How do you think your life would be different if you did/ didn't start a year earlier? Any opinions you have on this would be appreaciated.
Love,Alyssia.

There are a ton of kids in my grade that are younger than me because they started school earlier. I don't really see the big deal about it, but sometimes it sucks being the young one for them. But.. if the teachers think they're too immature to move on at the rate that they're going, they'll hold them back in their early elementary school years.

Hope this helped.

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I have this friend, and like she never has time for me anymore and whenever i ask her to do something she's always doing something with her other friends or just ditches me for them. But she means a lot to me and there are sometimes when shes a good friend i guess. I just hate feeling like im only her friend when she has nothing else to do. What should i do??

If she blows you off all the time, then don't deal with her. I mean, if she asks you to hang out, than that's cool.. but you can't constantly wait for this girl who just ditches you. If your friendship with her means a lot to you.. then you could try to work it out by making plans in advanced, but if the friendship is bogus, don't deal with her.

Hope I helped.

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i really feel i NEED to loose weight.. so im on it.. but i really feel its my stomach that bothers me .. A LOTT. like seriously .. its like flubber, im like a whale! what are some good stomach exercises to get my stomach more toned, defined, and flat?

thanx!!

First of all, you have to work on your dieting. Health foods yaddah yaddah yaddah. Here's what I'm starting to do.. during the week you eat healthily and then you can have one day where you go all out and eat whatever the hell you want, that is, without completely throwing your diet down the toilet. Secondly, you can do crunches, side crunches for toning your stomache. However, running, dancing, sports will get you moving and burning calories to lose weight overall. So good luck!

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