honestly, i think this is a lousy idea. im sorry but it is. and yeah i have been there, and one of my good friends has been doing this more than once, and really it creates no satisfaction in the end. because when you do things, you should want it to be with someone you really like/love and they share the feeling. someone you actually want for them, not just for whatever you two can do in bed. so im sorry if i seem harsh about this...but thats just what i think. xoxohelpachick

it means they think that you could do much better than being with someone like them. often times though, your just right with that person and they just wonder this because they are amazed by how lucky they got at being with a wonderful person like you! xoxo helpachick

i know vitamin E helps hair grow..so try taking in a lot of vitamin E lol. xoxo helpachick

my school just had their winter formal and i had to get one for my dress and it worked extremely well and it didnt feel annoying or anything at all either. i got mine at kohls. they have a wide selection there but if you dont know exactly what one you want you could go to jcpenneys or dillards or something and ask the people actually assigned to that apartment what a good one would be. xoxo helpachick

this is ironic b/c it just soo happens im going to a winter formal tonight and i've done these things and even though im a girl i can tell you what you need to know.
1)slow dancing: since your the guy, you put your hands around her waist and she'll have hers most likely around your neck. just move with the beat of the song it will be slow so just kinda moving your feet a little as you sway from side to side is good. dont worry you'll pick it up in no time its not too difficult.
2) making out: depends on how far she wants to go with that. but just start out with kissing and do french kissing because thats better for making out. some other things you could do are like kiss on her neck and bite a little, rub up and down her stomach/torso area, and if you get the impression she wants to, go ahead and go for second base on her. under or on top of her bra either one, whatever you feel comfortable with. hopefully this gives you some tips just do the feely touchy things while kissing thats always nice.
3) some schools its a big thing for dates to get eachother coursages (sp?) but if i were you i would talk about that with her and ask her if you guys are gunna do the flower things like she gets you a boutenier and you get her a coursage. if you are i would get one for her that goes around her wrist b/c otherwise they are kind of annoying and get in the way. and if you guys arent if you really wanted to you could go get her a vase with some flowers in it a guy did that for me once and it was really sweet.

well dunno if that helped you or not but maybe it gave you an idea anyway! good luck and remember to have fun! xoxo helpachick

heyhey no problems! if you really still wanna get back together with her, then don't be so uptight about how to. you charmed her once, you can do it again! i'd say how your thinkin is the right direction to go. keep talking to her more often and if you know she's not steadily dating anyone then ask her if she wants to hang out sometime and things like that. i'd say use the friend but only to a certain extent. you need to do most of the work yourself, but girls tell girls everything that is said about them. so either say something really sweet about her or just drop subtle hints by asking something sometime. girls get hints!;) xoxo helpachick

haha well the way i interpert that is...like she is really good at 'it' if you know what i mean by that;) xoxo helpachick

i know that 'certain-dri' works really good for things like that and 'ban'. xoxo helpachick

haha yeah i have actually.

i have the same kind of hair and i use curls up! it works really good -and smells good lol- but you can get it almost anywhere in the hair supply section. xoxo helpachick

hey! this kind of depends one what kind of guy your b/f is and what he's into. if he's the rocker type, then a good cd he doesnt have or t-shirt of a favorite band would be good. a reader would probly like a new book thats out that everybody's been talking about. a hunter/farm guy would lovvve anything that you could get at for example cabelas. but anything from hunting supplies to something to use on the farm makes him happy. preppy guys go for cologne or a sweet looking shirt..something to that effect. so it depends on your guy but think of his interests and something will probably come to you!:) xoxo helpachick

oh my gosh thats a really sweet idea. never really thought about that. well anyways, if they are the homedecorator kinds you could get them like a set of pretty candles or gift card to some homey shop that screams 'mom' or you could bake them something and give it to them with a really good card. i think anything that really comes from the heart would make them really happy. xoxo helpachick

true, you payed for the dance and it would be a lot of fun. but there will be a lot more of those and you can earn money back....but how many chances are there to go to new york!!?? i would definitley go there and once the next dance rolls around be the life of the party. xoxo helpachick

some guys are weird like this...but girls are too. a guy VERY close to me had this happen he really liked the girl but she just used him for the sex. and he was hurt by it a little and sounded a lot like you sound now. so this guy you had sex with: he probably thought you were really hot yeah, b/c guys who use girls for sex normaly look for looks more than anything. but i wouldnt keep being "sex partners" with him simply b/c he doesnt really feel anything for YoU and its not good for you to just keep doing it to give someone else somekind of sick pleasure. xoxo helpachick

umm the first one that comes to my mind is msn.com and i'm pretty sure you've probably already tried that but i just know they have pretty much everything on there like all the news, games, weather, celebrity stuff and everything. xoxo helpachick

hey! i use proactiv and it has always worked pretty good for me but sometimes that stuff can get expensive so i know some of my friends use clean and clear and i've used it before and it works pretty good too. you can get that stuff at walmart and there's different kinds of it too for different things. i think they have one especially for oily skin so that might be the one for you to use. xoxo helpachick

in all the health stuff it says that your supposed to get somewhere around a half an hour to an hour (i think) of execise a day, so 15-20 minutes of running is making it almost there. and since it sounds like you do a lot of other things that burn calories anyways, such as situps and the stationary bike, you probably wont gain much or any weight. as long as a person keeps up regular execise, their weight stays on an average. xoxo helpachick

i use mary kay foundation and it always works for me. just make sure whatever foundation you get that it matches your skin perfectly because for one thing you don't want your face looking really light/dark compared to the rest of you and if its too light then it wont always cover up your acne. but too dark will look funny. so just remember those things! xoxo helpachick

i think the roses idea would definitley be a really sweet thing to do. but if you feel like you want to get her something that would last longer than i'd go with the jewelry idea. some people think that the ring means engagement but unless your planning on getting her a 100% diamond and gold and everything thats like $20000 bucks, then a pretty one but one you can tell is not a engagement ring would be ok. i know any girl likes that kind of thing;) well good luck and i know she'll be surprised with either thing and by just seeing you sitting on her front steps! xoxo helpachick

hey i kno wat your goin through i used to cut to...and until ppl close to me found out (not by my choice) i kept doin it w/o regrets. but then like my guy who's so close to my brother its scary found out...then my mom. and both of them were soooo sad and i couldnt take it so i stopped for them..and myself. i realized it wasnt good and there were other ways to deal with stress and even if you arent stressed..then why do it?? right? so if you cant do it just for yourself..then do it for the people who love you.

hey im helpachick & i want to help you if i can. more than most of the questions i answer i have experienced something close to that myself. so feel free to ask&leave stuff in my inbox or whatever, and i'll try to get back soonish.

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