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so today i took a trip to the library today, and i had spotted my friend from my school,so then i seen this girl who i didnt find or look attractive to me. she was dark skin and well i looked at her as well, had no feelings for her, and just kept talking to my friend ignoring her.
I do not know why she turned to face me a couple of times. i found it to be annoying because i didnt know her. i had women stare at me and they are angelic. but this girl kept staring at me.
after a while i saw her outside i saw a friend i talk to him. i got mad at the girl that kept looking at me so i stalked her for revenge. she kept taking looks at me. it was real annoying.
why was she doing this? i had nothing towards her,i showed her no interest or anything.
Hey there,
This girl probably found something interesting, intriguing or attractive about you, even if you didn't see anything in her. I think she was trying to gain your attention (in a non-creepy way that came off creepy). Maybe she thought she was out of your league; if not that, I would just say: some people have been known as wierd :/ If you see her again, just politely tell her you aren't interested and I'm sure she will get the hint
My ex-girlfriend and I go to different colleges and were long distance for awhile because of it. We're no longer together but are on good terms and are pretty good friends, and she just revealed to me that sometimes (even while we were together), when she would sit down for class she would knowingly let her thongs ride up for random guys.
I'm not asking how I should feel about that (I don't really care), but I was just curious what you guys would think of it.
I believe your ex sees this as a turn-on. When you were together she probably did this to make other guys jealous and now that you aren't together, tried to make you jealous or told you just to gauge how you would react to a personal story. I would think she also (in a strange way) is hinting she still likes you by saying she can gain the attraction of other guys; not really a redeeming quality. She must crave the attention and showing thong has been working for her (good or bad). I think this is sluttish. Trust me, doing so will only take her so far...
I have a friend that I have known a long time. I have a big crush on him but I'm really scared to tell him. I tried to be around him without coming on too strong but he don't talk much to me just small talk. I know he's not shy because talks to everyone else easily and he's very sociable. So I was thinking maybe he doesn't like me but my friend said she saw him looking at me and that he might just be intimated and wants me to make the first move. I'm not sure which side is true. What do u think?
Even if a guy is real sociable to other people, when they are around someone they like they either: are very outgoing and talkative OR very quiet and reserved. It all depends on the guy! So, though he is sociable, he might like you and is kinda nervous to dip into that subject.
When he is around, I would suggest joining in on a casual conversation. Say "I like that too", "have you seen the movie ____?" or anything you know he can relate to. If he is as easy-going as you say, he should be able to respond (even if its something little) to you. Yes, it could be true that he has no interest, but you won't know for sure until you get to know him better. Once you have talked to him a bit, ask him if he wants to hang out sometime, maybe grab some ice cream, watch a movie or go for a casual walk together. If he agrees, go from there and don't be afraid to make things happen
I'm talking to a guy who is a little bit older than me, and I am astonished. He and I live in totally different states, but I feel like we have a good connection. He's really playful and goofy and immature, just like me, and he always makes me laugh and has such a sweet, romantic side. I really think I'm beginning to like him a lot. He has told me he likes me a lot and whenever I get scared or insecure of screwing up he assures me to relax.
I just recently got my phone service cut off and a few days ago it got turned back on. We didn't talk for a couple days, and he has said he's been busy, but still texts me back. I took that as a sign to text him. But today he told me I don't understand how busy he is and I got pissy and he told me he doesn't appreciate my passive aggressiveness and if I can't handle him being busy, then he doesn't know what to say. I realize what I did wrong. I got upset for all the wrong reasons because he has a less laidback life than I do and I can't accept that he has other things besides me. I apologized but he never answered. I really feel like I screwed us up. I feel like I made him mad and he'll remember it and not want to talk. I just like him so much I don't know what to do with myself! He's a really amazing guy and it overwhelms me that I could get such a sweet sexy guy. I plan on sending him an apology later on before I go to bed, but now I just feel so upset because this all my fault. Any advice?
Hey,
I could see how this guy got frustrated when you couldn't handle his schedule. People like it when someone supports their lives instead of saying "if only we could..." or "if only you...". All I'm saying is if you want to have his respect back, you need to be open to talking to him when he is available or find a way to coordinate your lives/talking time.
As for now: apologize. Leave him a message saying "I'm sorry I screwed up. If you can forgive me, please reply". Then just wait for him to call/text. Once he gets your message he will realize that you are sorry, you still want to talk to him and only on his terms (when he's ready).
Know that: it has to be his decision to forgive you. As long as you can accept his lifestyle, be patient/there for him and collaborate, he should forget that this ever happened
I'm 18, and I started dating this guy about 2 months ago, I was a virgin until we had sex for the first time about 2 weeks ago. The first time was with a condom; we had quick sex about 3 more times that night, but without a condom--he didn't cum inside of me, but when we stopped I saw pre-cum. Then a few days after that (same week) we had sex again (with condom) but then we had sex one more time a few hours later, without a condom, I know that, again, he didn't cum inside of me. This past week we had sex twice in the same day, both times without a condom, and he pulled out each time. The last time was only about 2 days ago, we had sex once, without a condom, he pulled out though. My main worry now is becoming pregnant. I hear all of these rumors about "pulling out" and how its as safe as wearing a condom: Is that true? I haven't gotten my period and I always get it in the beginning of the month, I just don't remember the exact date. My friend made me take a pregnancy test the other day and it came back negative, but I know its still early, and I am really worried even though it came back negative. I know what we're doing is stupid and it will stop. But, do you think there's a slight chance I may be pregnant? It's always on my mind now even though he pulls out each time...
Hey,
Yes, there is a slight chance you could be pregnant, cuz the "pull out" method is definately nowhere near as safe as wearing a condom. The failure rate is 27% annually for the method you are using, where condoms have a 98% success rate. Do the math and you will see a BIG difference.
Your pregnancy test could of came back negative, because it was too early to tell or you didn't take it at the most accurate time (which could throw it off). The best time to take a pregnancy test is the first thing in the morning, a week to ten days after your missed period. Know that it IS possible to have a negative result early in a pregnancy; just recently my friend took a pregnancy test that read negative, then she found out she was actually pregnant.
If you did not take the test at the proper time I would check again to be sure. Also, pre-cum CAN cause pregnancy, for it still has small amounts of sperm in it. So, if his pre ejaculate came into contact with your vagina, you will be at a slight risk. Check out these sites: http://www.contracept.org/withdrawal.php and http://www.pregnancy-calendars.net/homepregnancytest.aspx
Learn how to protect yourself properly, know the facts and next time you won't have to worry
I'm 19 years old and currently a highschool senior (no I'm not a super
senior), but the man I'm totally head over heels in love with is 39. I met him
my freshman year because he happened to be my busdriver. Do you think thats weird? And from the
first day I saw him I always thought he was cute but nothing
more than that. There was no actual feelings but by the end of freshman
year I felt something builiding there kinda like a crush. I wanted to
talk to him more than just saying hi and bye everday, but didn't know how
to. That summer I found myself thinking about him a lot. I think i grew to be
infactuated by him. And sophmore year
came around but nothing changed just kept admiring him more wishing
for him to talk to me- and I think that's when I was starting to like him more
than a crush. I'd be thinking of him at home on weekends, when I was out
with my friends, and even in class waiting for the bell to ring just so I can be
on the bus with him. No matter how busy i kept myself he managed to be
on my mind all day and all night long. The summer after sophmore year the
same feelinggs continued but I never told anyone cause I didn't know how
to and was kinda embarrassed. It wasn't until junior year that one day this bus
driver just started talking to me. I remember I got up to throw something away
and he was like nice shot and I
was like thanks! And he was like I think you should go out for the ladys
basketball team and we just started talking from there. THAT DAY WAS
THE BEST EVER AND WILL NOT BE FORGOTTEN! WHY? well because
its the guy i was totally in love with that said it..who also likes basketball.
He picked me to talk to out of every girl on that bussss!!! meee! It went from
talking a couple times a week to everyday. And I was starrting to like likee
him moree! LIKE ALOTT :)) He was so sweet and intresting and diffreent
and charming, and kind, and smart even if he didnt go to college, AND
THATS WHEN I WAS SO IN LOVE WITH HIS PERSONALITY I BEGAN
TO THINK HE WAS THE SEXIEST MAN ALIVE AND THATS WHEN I
GAVE HIM THE COMPLIMENTS I DID, AND HE GAVE ME THEM AT TIMES TOO! I HOPE HE BELIEVED THEM PeoPLe
THINK HES NOT CUTE!
then all the other guys I know. I still told nobody bout my feeling and that
summer just because I liked him so much I made a goal to work out even
if I already was skinny just so he“d be impressed by my body when senior
year would start up and he did notice. I thought A LOT about him that
summer even if I kept myself busy with vacations and friends! That summer
was the hardest to go through without seeing him Senior year came and I
got closer with this bus driver I shared by personal life with him and
so did he. WE HAD SO MANY ALIKE INTERESTs (we liked the same sports, movies, tv shows-all ten shows we both watched, values, i dont know we just were really alike. AND HE MADE ME
FEEL SPECIAL IN SOMEWAY> HE WOULD CALL ME SWEETIE AND
SWEETHEART BUT NOBODY ELSE THAT I reallly reallly realllly knew
that this is the man I wanted to be with! But that's when I found out he had
a fiance and so I stopped talking to him but then he started talking to me
and I think
he noticed hw I suddenly stopped talking to him after he told me about the
fiance! I think I kinda made it akward but he just started talking to me again
even if i didnt make the effort to talk to him. I dont know if he knew I liked him..I'm
sure he didn't! THERS NOT WEDDING DATE THOUGH HE SAID THERe
JUST GNNA STAY ENGAGED! But I was dying to tell him, I invited him to
cme to my powderpuff football game and watch me play! He said he would
of if I asked earlier! And I wish I did. But a couple months ago my bus driver
got fired for not doing a child check. I'm so sadd! I couldn't stop crying and I still cry and it hurts so so much! He
never even said goodbye to me, thers a lot I still wanted to tell him,
talking to him made me feel so happy when I was having a down day. I
wanna talk to him but I dnt knw what to dooo! - I needa to see his
face and hear his voice. Please dont judge I have feelings for my
busdriver its not a joke your heart desires what it desires! And no I
dont have daddy issues nor am I a gold digger! And no she's not some
model looking guy everyone thinks he's ugly but I think he's drop dead
gorgeous! Thers no man I rather be with than him. I'm not too young
too love so pls dnt say that, I've never gotten this feeling in my
life before! I know what a crush feels like and I now knw what love
feels like. We were so alike and had a lot of the same intrests I miss
it all. I sent him a goodbye card through the bus company but I dnt
know if he got it. What do I dooo?
I needa to see his face and hear his voice. Pls dont judge I have feelings for my busdriver its not a joke your heart desires what it desires! And no I dont have daddy issues nor am I a gold digger! And no he's not some model looking guy everyone thinks he's ugly but I think he's drop dead gorgeous! Thers no man I rather be with than him. I'm
not too young too love so pls dnt say that, I've never gotten this feeling in my life before! I know what a crush feels like and I now knw what love feels like. We were so alike and had a lot of the same intrests I miss it all. I sent him a goodbye card through the bus company but I dnt knw if he got it. What do I dooo? IS IT WEIRD I LIKE HIM? I know hes on ebay should i try and contact him? i miss him and wanna get in touch like crazy. Its been since the superbowl that hes been gone but i still am CRAZY about him. Ive tried going out with other guys to get my mind off him but nothings working. CANT I ATLEAST BE FRIENDS WITH HIM? Or friends with benfits? I wouldnt mind if he were to use me for sex, hes the only guy I would let use me for sex.
I truly do care for this man more than anything in this world. Im willing to give him anything. If he needs money which i know he does Im willing to give him my pay checks-all of them. I wanna take him on vacations hes never been able to afford, i wanna save up all my money to one day be able to surprise him with the sports car hes always wanted, I wanna take him to comedy shows he wanted to go to, i just wanna give him everything hes ever wanted and cant afford. HES MY LIFE HE COMES BEFORE ANYTHING AND ANYONE IN MY LIFEE! AND IM NOT EVEN JOKING!
LIFES NOT THE SAME WITHOUT HIM ITS LIKE PART OF ME AND MY HAPPINESS IS MISSING AND FOREVER GONE! HE NEVER SAID GOODBYE TO ME, I NEED TO TALK ONE LAST TIME!!
I LOVEEE HIM so sos sooos sooo much, i want him to have all the happiness in the world, im not trying to be selfish cause love is not selfish, i just need him to say he doesnt want me in his life and i think itll be a little easier to move on. i dont want to move on from him causee he is my life, and i dnt evn think its possible to love again. i dont want to love anyone but him! i would take care of him so well, even when hes 60 and im 40, he"ll be just as gorgeous as he is today and ill love him more and more until i die. every thing reminds me of him..eveery song and every object-everything
should i contact him ...
signed
IN LOVE
Hey IN LOVE,
I know how you feel! I can relate in that I am the same age as you and I know someone that is 20 years older than myself that I like (hope he's not your bus driver! Lol). In my situation, he and I can relate too in SO many different ways. We share a lot of the same interests (music, sports, cooking, cars etc) which allow us to talk about almost anything. Some people will tell you that you are crazy and theres no way you can be in love with someone that much older than you, but I believe it is possible. it is about the connection.
I have thought about those "What if" questions that I'm sure you have as well. Questions such as "what if we were together?", "what would life be like in 10 or 20 years?". Say you are 19 now and he is 39, in 20 years you will be 39 and he will be 59. Doesn't seem so bad then, hey? and if you found someone else besides him that is older then you, you will still notice how the age difference seems to disappear as you get older.
I'll tell you, there is such thing as an "older/wiser" body with a much younger heart dating a younger body with a much "older/wiser" heart... BUT, since he is engaged, I really doubt he would want to put that off and break her heart. Yes, your heart will desire what your heart desires, but there has to be logical reasoning behind it before stepping foreward.. such as "would he even consider leaving his already engaged fiance?" or "what would he think about dating someone young?". Try to see it from his point of view.
This guy I know called me sweety, listened to me, and made me feel warm inside. Those are traits that most older men have though; respect and maturity. I think that is what attracted you. Please see if he feels the same way first and think about how his fiance would react before you even begin to think about being in any relationship with him; other than a friendship. He seems like a nice guy, so find a way to contact him, talk to him, see how he feels, and I'm sure you could be good friends.
Remember: age is just a number, where personality says it all. If you ever want to talk more about him, you can always inbox me
can you get std's if you and your partner lose your virginity to each other?
No. Unless one of you already had an STD previous to the sex, you are completely fine.
Also, if you know the person, their past relationships and that you want to sleep with them, you should know whether they have an STD or not. Please remember to wear a condom/practise safe sex nevertheless
im thirteen & i really badly want a job. so, i can earn money & help out my mum. but, i want to be able to sell clothes? some thing like that. not walking the dog. doing the news letter runs. baby sitting. < stuff like that. i want a better job. any ideas?
Hey,
Depending on where you live, you can likely get a job at 13. This meaning: there are laws in different states/countries that state when you could start at a resale job, etc. Start by figuring out what the laws are for your country/state, then find a job suited to what you want. I think you could probably work at a clothing store when you are 13 with your parents consent.
I started working when I was 13, but I had to have a written letter saying my parents consented (agreed) that I could work. As long as I had that, I was able to get a job at my desired workplace. I'm sure you could too; there's no harm in asking. I think its nice you want to help your mom out :) Inbox me if you need help finding any info
Everyday I dress pretty but my crush stays quiet!! help!! =
Hey,
If you want your crush to notice you, you have to do more than dress pretty. I'm not saying dressing pretty won't get you noticed, but you have to make some kind of interaction as well to gain a guys attention. Say "hi" when you walk by him, ask him if he wants to hang out sometime, compliment what he is wearing, and don't forget to smile!
When you casually flirt, it helps a guy to notice you and if you find something you have in common that's even better; you could talk about his interests. Start a conversation, be friendly, and I'm sure he will notice you more
I want one of those jackets that are styled like a juicy couture jacket, but it has no hood. it zips up all the way and it had a collar. i want a plain color too. They look very nice and clean cut! can anyone help me out? find out what their called so that i can look them up or post a link? thanks guys!
Hey,
The jackets that you are looking for are called "full-zip hoodless" or perhaps "track" jacket depending on the look you prefer. Here are a few jackets I found: http://www.llbean.com/llb/shop/53635?feat=2-SR0
http://neighborhoodies.com/skii-p-55.html
http://www.backcountry.com/lol-comfy-full-zip-sweatshirt-womens?CMP_SKU=LLE0627&MER=0406&CMP_ID=SH_SHP001&mv_pc=r110&mr:referralID=69bdbfb2-70e4-11e0-8773-001b2166c62d
http://www.dogfunk.com/billabong-jacquie-full-zip-sweatshirt-womens
The last link has a bit of a pattern on it, but its still nice :) I hope you find what you are looking for
OK so I have had my period since September 22 2009, and through out itI have never missed a period. It hasnt completely evened out but all of a sudden I missed march and I havent gotten mine for April. I am seriously FREAKING OUT! I am still a virgin and never even had a boyfriend so I dont think I am pregnant. BUt i dont knos whatrs going on. PLEASE CAN ANYONE HELP!?
Hi,
There could be several reasons why you could have missed your period those months. Things like: stress, change in diet, hormones, exercising more, nutritional deficiencies, illness (a cold) and even a change in your daily schedule could make your body clock change. Out of all of those reasons, stress is the most common for a missed period. It sounds like you may have been under stress lately and I'm not sure if thats cuz of the period or other reasons, but I think its a good place to start.
Figure out if you have changed anything (that I mentioned above or not) in your life that could have affected your period. Everyones situation is different and missing a period happens to a ton of girls that are "on the go". I would wait to see if your next period comes and if it doesn't, I would reccomend seeing a gyno; they will find the reason why. Take a deep breath, relax, and everything will be okay
Well, I have a serious problem! I keep slitting my wrists to relieve my distress and anger and stress and pain and to get away from life. And every time I do, I faint. I have a friend who cuts herself too and she always tells me not to cut myself and that it will get me nowhere in life. Can you please help me and her with that? By the way, I'm thirteen and she's fourteen.
Yes, that is a very serious problem. What I would do is: instead of putting all your distresss, anger, and pain into more pain (on your wrists), find another safe way to release all your frustrations. Whenever you feel the urge to cut, think about something that makes you happy. I know it may sound crazy, but there is something in everyones life that will make them/you smile. Think of the time when your friend helped you do something, when you ate lunch together, or when you listened to your favorite song. Smiling or finding something to accomplish will help you and your friend to stop cutting. Why? Because you will be focusing on that one moment when you were having fun and accomplished something.
Start by making a list of all the things you and your friend like to do together or want to do, such as: walking in the park, laughing at silly jokes, painting a t-shirt, going camping, having a party, jumping on your beds, giving eachother makeovers, watching the stars or traveling to Hawaii. Anything you have done or want to learn, you could put in a scrapbook. Try taking pictures with her and write on it "this is me and my friend on a boat", then paste your pictures onto a ship. Wherever you want to go, you can imagine yourselves there and put yourselves there.
As long as you have something positive to occupy your time, you won't even think about cutting. Imagine a dream, have a dream, then make it happen. You and your friend have so much good in you! And you can use that good to help yourselves along with others. Your friend is definately right you know; cutting will get you nowhere in life. So, support eachother and ignore what others say that might bring you down; you are much better than them! Remember to have fun with your friend, talk to someone you trust if you need to and you will both make it through this
my dog is blooding could she be pregnant or is it just a period and if it is a period how long does it last for ?
Hey,
It is likely just its period (from being in heat) and it lasts anywhere from three weeks to one month; usually starting during spring. It just varies depending on the dog (simular to a humans period). If your dog is indoors, you can just mop it up with a sanitizer to keep things sterile.
Me and my boyfriend lets call him Kyle, have been going out for 4 years. We have never kissed or even hugged. The most we have done is hold hands. How should I go about kissing him?
Hi,
I would wait until you two are talking casually or hanging out in a familiar place, then sit close to him (if you aren't already). Being in a comfortable setting, talking casually makes it that much easier to kiss someone. I bet once you kiss your bf, he will be (easily) more open to other flirting/touching. Kisses tend to reveal the door to a whole new world of discovery.
I would suggest holding hands first, since you are already comfortable with that. It also helps to turn your body towards him, then make eye contact and try to hold it for at least 5 seconds. This causes him to anticipate what you are about to share. Once you are in a comfortable spot and know he is focusing on you, that would be the best time to lean in and go for it. You will feel a moment when there is this strong connection with him; that is the best time. He may pause on you for a few seconds, look into your eyes and smile... you will then tilt your head a little and lean in pressing your lips against his. The tilting of your head helps to adjust your position to his, allowing an easier kiss on both ends.
Don't worry about missing his lips, for as soon as you move in, he will likely move in as well causing a very good collision ;) After initiating that kiss, you won't have to think very much cuz it will all come naturally from there, trust me. If you want, look into his eyes while kissing; it will make it that much more special. As long as your boyfriend is comfortable, you have him focused on you, and then kiss him... I trust there will only be fireworks
14 year old girl from England ..
Okay, so me and my boyfriend broke up about 3 weeks ago, we'd been going out for nearly 2 months and i honestly felt like we had something really good. He broke up with me because he felt like it wasn't going anywhere and i kind of understand what he means but it was all stuff we both did and could have sorted out together.
Anyway, so obviously i was very upset by this but i got over him, i thought of all his bad points, i cried till i was out of tears, and eventually just was completely over him.
But then we went back to school and he said to people he would get back together with me, and he was being exactly the same as before, and all this just made me feel like i loved him again.
I just wish i knew what he was thinking so i can completely get over him.
I don't know if i am just stuck on him as he was my first love? Or im not really over him? What do i do?
Thanks so much, Louise
Hi,
I believe that this guy is either one of two things: he is totally over you and so he has his confidence back OR he still has feelings for you (which is why he said he would get back together), but doesn't have the balls to tell you face to face.
The only way you would ever get an idea of what he is thinking, is if you talk to him. It may be difficult, but if you want the answers to some of those other questions you may have inside, He is the one who will help you answer them. You could let him know you still care for him and if he felt the same I'm sure he would give you a sign he feels the same way (grinning, changing his tone in voice, fidgiting etc) or if he doesn't. It's also easy to figure out where you stand with a casual conversation.
I think you could be stuck on him because he was your first love. I know I still think of my first boyfriend and we broke up almost 6 months ago (haven't dated anyone since). Guys don't just erase from your mind. I also believe that you were over him, but knowing he said he would 'take you back' is making you think about him now. What you should do is make a list of all the things you remember about him that were bad and then another list of all the things about him that were good. After compiling the lists: compare them, look them over and see if He is worth it.
In my relationship, we felt it wasn't going anywhere (simular to yours). I dated my guy for five months though which is a better judgment ground to figure out if you are compatible for the long run. Meaning: two months is a short period of time to know someone fully, yet: if you know from the beggining something's not working, maybe you shouldn't pursue it.?.. Unfortunately (or maybe not) for me, it was just better for us to part our ways since the lack of understanding and interests had too big of a gap - I am not saying opposites can't attract, for I definately believe they can.
Determine (in your mind) whether you/him would be willing to invent more adventurous dates in order to make things work out OR if a lack of interest would overcome you two again, sending you back in an endless loop. Once you have sorted out all the facts you know and talked casually to this guy, you will have your answer. That is: on whether you should try again or not with him, since I believe this is your ultimate question here. And whatever happens, know this: it is better to know the truth than to dwell on it
Okay so my crush..i have loved him for a very long time and we had so many memories..we didnt live right next to eachother but one of my best guy friends mom lives near him and his dad lives near me and he visits his mom on the weekends..so he gets to see my crush..i met my crush through my best guy friend and ever since then me and my crush always talked to eachother and i could tell he liked me a little bit..and he went to my school..but sadly he moved back to valdailia with his mom because of personal reasons..now he lives two hours away.. i would call him but i dont have his number..i have to ask my best guy friend for it..but i have been crying for the longest time..but i feel so weird crying about it even though he lives two hours away. when im alone i get depressed and hate myself for not being there for him or telling him how i felt..but i pray that he moves back to his dads....i felt like seeing him in the cafeteria friday before spring break was the last time i would ever see him again..! what do i do.. i am 13 and a female.
Hey,
The first thing I would try to do is find a way to contact your crush. Even if you have to wipe your eyes, take a deep breath and call your best guy friend to ask for his number; do it. It is alright to cry about anything in the world that is bothering you; crying is healing. Right now you are just feeling sad, for he isn't as close and you don't have his number to tell him you miss him. So, gather up your strength and call your best guy friend. Once you have your crushes number, let him know how you are feeling (that you miss him and you hope to see him soon).
Once you are able to express what you are feeling to your crush, you will be happier and already start to feel better, trust me. I know how you feel not being able to be there for him, but if you get his number or e-mail you can be there for him. Find out if you can call him a few times a week or if he will call you whenever he has free time. If he cannot call you as much as you would like, see if he could send you e-mail messages which you can reply to. You could also write letters on the side pretending to be penpals :) You never know, maybe his personal reasons for moving will change and he will come back. For now, focus on getting his number so you can (at least) communicate.
Also, think about how he would feel knowing you are depressed from missing him; I'm sure he would want you to smile :) and don't worry, you will see him again. Just hearing his voice will make you feel a hundred times better *warm fuzzy feeling*. Wipe your eyes, pray, put on a smile, dial your best guy friends number, then dial your crushes number... everything will be alright
Sorry kinda long!
Sorry kinda long…
Okay I’m a 22/f/leo and having been talking to a 23/m/Taurus that found me on tagged.com. We’ve been communicating by phone and text messages since January 4th. We live 45 mins from one another. In the beginning, we were talking as friends but we could tell we were developing feelings for one another. We were on the same page about a lot of things and knew what we wanted in life. One problem though, we are exact opposites. So we butted heads on few things and being that we were learning about each other we didn’t know any better. So we stopped talking for about two weeks on 2 occasions. Considering both of our astrological signs we are VERY stubborn, but he ended up giving in and reconnected with me both times. Both times I figured things were done, but he was the one who gave in called me/text me. The first time we stopped talking was over a comment I made about a fantasy I had, and the second time was about me and how I go to clubs. He doesn’t want to date a girl that girl that goes to clubs (which I don’t really go, I go to bars more). But we are talking again for the third time. This time our connection is wayyyy more powerful and we just have this mutual understanding. I must say I have already sacrificed quite a bit for him, such as going out to clubs and bars… I haven’t been out in over a month, and as much as it is killing me, I see the good in it.
But the ringer is this, we have been talking for 3 months and we have yet to meet in person. The first time we made plans it fell through on my end because I was in a mad mood. Now when I mention when can I come and see you, he’s like “I’ll let you know…” I offer to see him cause I don’t want him coming to my place. So plan B, I his birthday is next month and I already knew what I was going to get him and he was going to buy the same the gift I was going to get him cause he kinda needs it now. So I told him, “No, I will go ahead and get it…” and he was like “I don’t wanna put you in a bind…” but I insisted otherwise. So I’ve gone ahead and purchased his gift. Now I am awaiting when I get the okay to take it to him.
I’m trying to be patient because I really do believe that genuinely likes me… he’s open up to me about how much he’s been dreadfully hurt by girls and just doesn’t want that to happen again. I mean in talking to him, I can tell that he is still hurting over that last girl he was with and I think he hasn’t accepted that was has happened has happened. So he is having a difficult time letting his guard down. I know I can only assure him that I’d never hurt him and in fact I’ve been in the same shoes as him. I’ve only been in one serious relationship in my life and guys I’ve dated after that have failed me time and time again so I know how he feels. If anything I try to remain supportive and lending an open ear and help when needed and I can tell he appreciates that.
So why is it that I feel that I am getting the run around when it comes to meeting in person? I mean our schedules are slightly fixed, but I am willing to sacrifice time and sleep to go and see him when he’s available. However when he talks to me, he tells me how he goes and helps out his homegirl with her car cause it’s messing up and she has a kid, and he just got a membership to a gym so now he is going to the gym… okay so where does that leave me? I mean I don’t mind all of this but there was time I could be fit in, especially on his days off.
Any advice about this situation would be greatly appreciated. Any additional details needed just let me know…
Hey,
The way I see it, you have been handling everything correctly so far. You are listening, being understanding of his situation and being patient about everything that has happened. I think the reason why he is putting off meeting you in person is cuz he is real busy, he doesn't know when to make time, or he is still a bit unsure about the relationship. You had a few ups and downs which could make him comtemplate meeting up with you (a bit). You say he has activities going on for him, so he could be putting you off until he has a chunk of free time too.
I think it was nice and right of you to buy him a birthday present even though he said "I don't want to put you in a bind". It shows you are thinking of him and when he does let you bring it to him, he will appreciate the gift/you even more.
Meeting someone in person can be very different than talking to them through text, email, or web cam. What I would do the next time you talk to him is ask: "is it alright if I come down on *insert day*?" (take initiative), "What if I meet you at the gym?" (help him plan) or say "I am looking forward to seeing you in *his home town/city*" (tell him what you want without being pushy). Suggestions like this will catch his interest and have him think more about meeting up with you. I believe what is happening could be a 'time sacrifice' on his part. Continue being patient/supportive and I'm sure he will ask you to come over
what do you do if ur ex is going around saying your pregnate and your not???
You can laugh it off as the person before me suggested OR if someone brings it up, you can tell them the truth "no I am not pregnant". It doesn't matter what he or anyone else says, for he LIED. Brush it off and keep living your life. In time everyone will see that you are being honest and that your ex is a lying, jealous guy. Those who are helping the rumour spread around will have their turn of shame too. The truth speaks WAY louder than anything and anyone
Recently my girlfriend of 2 years told me that she wanted to take a break. We are in a long distance relationship and I live in Japan and she lives in America. I always thought we were a solid couple and I still love her a lot. I talked to her on the phone today and told her all of my feelings. She said that the reason she wants to take a break is because she only has 1 month left of college studying abroad in America before she comes back to Japan to study, and wants to spend time with friends there before she has to return to school in Japan. I'm really confused because she said she loves me and stuff but that she just feels conflicted because she wants to spend time talking to me and also doing things with her friends and that she doesn't have time for both. I have told her we could talk maybe only once a week to give her space but we did that for a couple weeks and now she says that since we never talk she feels like she doesn't know me anymore!
I'm working in Japan so I figured I will see her in a month, which makes me so surprised that she would break up with me a month before we will see each other again. Maybe it is true that she just wants to have more time with friends and stuff but I get the feeling she likes another guy.
I just feel so heart broken. We are both in our early 20's and this is my first big break up. I'm still very much in love with her and I have told her all this but I don't think she feels the same anymore. I wanna know if anyone has advice on how or what to do to get her back? Should I give her lots of space for a couple weeks or so? Should I still send her messages occasionally or is it better if I just stop talking to her?
Any advice is greatly appreciated. Thanks.
Hey,
The way I see it, she doesn't want to break up with you, she just wants to "take a break" as you mentioned above. I think your gf said this because she thinks she is neglecting you, when she is trying to make time to spend with her friends in America. It is hard to communicate on a daily basis when her friends want to hang out, she has daily activities to do, and needs to plan time for you.
It seems funny that she agreed to the "let's talk one day a week" and then says its not enough. If she really wanted to talk to you, she would make the time to no matter what. She just needed a break, so I think she still wants to see you in a month. I don't get the feeling that she likes another guy at all. If you want her back, leave her a message saying "I am looking forward to seeing you in a month, please get back to me when you have time, I love you" and leave it at that.
If she loves you as much as she says, she will reply when she can. It could take hours, days, or weeks, but don't call/message her again until she replies. If for some reason she asks why you didn't call her, tell her you left a message and hoped she would get it. You should make sure she knows you love her, would like to hear more from her and be sure to ask her how everything is going.
Calling everyday or so does get to be a bit too much. Leave her with a message (every one-two weeks) and don't call/talk anymore unless she calls you or asks that you call her. It will be hard to restrain yourself from doing so, but once she knows you are just trying to be there for her, she will come around. Not talking to her doesn't help, communication with understanding does
OK to start off I've worked with this girl for about four or five months now and we've just recently started full-on talking like a month and a half ago.
SO - We had been talking pretty intensively and I started to become interested in her, so I took the bold route and just came out and told her how I felt, her response was "I'm not really looking to DATE anyone right now because I had just ending things with my ex" Which is completely understandable and I told her I was ok with it because I didn't want to rush into anything either, and we've still been talking just as regularly ever since...
My question is, do you think there is a possibility she feels the same about me?
Hi,
I believe there is the possibility that she feels the same BUT I would look for more clues such as: if she makes physical contact (touches your arm/leg), smiles at you alot, sits/stands close to you, makes jokes that you both laugh at, asks to hang out alot, or she flirts with you on an almost daily basis.
She seems to want a relationship, but isn't ready to be hurt again. Any of the hints above would (most likely) mean she wants to be more than friends. Knowing how she acts towards you, will confirm your answer.