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Why does he have a harder time talking to me than other people?
I have a friend that I have known a long time. I have a big crush on him but I'm really scared to tell him. I tried to be around him without coming on too strong but he don't talk much to me just small talk. I know he's not shy because talks to everyone else easily and he's very sociable. So I was thinking maybe he doesn't like me but my friend said she saw him looking at me and that he might just be intimated and wants me to make the first move. I'm not sure which side is true. What do u think?
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Guys often clam up in front of women they like because they don't want to say something that may turn her off. A lot of these guys then hope that the girl will basically post a billboard saying, "come and get it!" This is usually a hopeless gambit. If you really want him you gotta hit him over the head with it. Tell him how much you like spending time with him, touch him a lot, tell him he's cute or, better yet, ask him out on a date.
Look at the last one this way: you will know how tense it is for guys when they are the ones left to make the approach. And if he rebuffs you, you will know how that feels, too. This is good for you understanding how males function.
Finally, in my personal life, when someone has told me a girl liked me they really did. Then I just move in and close the deal. You could have one of your girlfriends tell him you like him and he can take it from there.
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Even if a guy is real sociable to other people, when they are around someone they like they either: are very outgoing and talkative OR very quiet and reserved. It all depends on the guy! So, though he is sociable, he might like you and is kinda nervous to dip into that subject.
When he is around, I would suggest joining in on a casual conversation. Say "I like that too", "have you seen the movie ____?" or anything you know he can relate to. If he is as easy-going as you say, he should be able to respond (even if its something little) to you. Yes, it could be true that he has no interest, but you won't know for sure until you get to know him better. Once you have talked to him a bit, ask him if he wants to hang out sometime, maybe grab some ice cream, watch a movie or go for a casual walk together. If he agrees, go from there and don't be afraid to make things happen <3
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