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I'm talking to a guy who is a little bit older than me, and I am astonished. He and I live in totally different states, but I feel like we have a good connection. He's really playful and goofy and immature, just like me, and he always makes me laugh and has such a sweet, romantic side. I really think I'm beginning to like him a lot. He has told me he likes me a lot and whenever I get scared or insecure of screwing up he assures me to relax.
I just recently got my phone service cut off and a few days ago it got turned back on. We didn't talk for a couple days, and he has said he's been busy, but still texts me back. I took that as a sign to text him. But today he told me I don't understand how busy he is and I got pissy and he told me he doesn't appreciate my passive aggressiveness and if I can't handle him being busy, then he doesn't know what to say. I realize what I did wrong. I got upset for all the wrong reasons because he has a less laidback life than I do and I can't accept that he has other things besides me. I apologized but he never answered. I really feel like I screwed us up. I feel like I made him mad and he'll remember it and not want to talk. I just like him so much I don't know what to do with myself! He's a really amazing guy and it overwhelms me that I could get such a sweet sexy guy. I plan on sending him an apology later on before I go to bed, but now I just feel so upset because this all my fault. Any advice?
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My advice would be to just text him and tell him your sorry, if that doesn't work you can call, and if all else fails go to him and tell him. Nothing like an old fashioned movie ending to get a guy back. Tell me how it works out
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There is too much missing here for me. The "passive-aggressive issue came up all of a sudden with little background information as to just what shape it took and what provoked it. It is entirely possible, though, that he has merely heard the phrase and doesn't really know what it means.
If he is getting increasingly irritated at the imposition of your phone calls on him I can understand that to a degree, but that is also due to his failure to communicate when good times to call are or devising a method by which he can tell you on any given day when you can phone him.
You don't say how you met this guy, but one of the pitfalls of long distance relationships is that it becomes too easy to project on the other individual what you want them to be rather than realizing what they actually are in the flesh.
If this thing comes to naught rather than being gutted by it try to focus instead on what you learned. Sometimes it is meant to be and other times it is not.
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Hey,
I could see how this guy got frustrated when you couldn't handle his schedule. People like it when someone supports their lives instead of saying "if only we could..." or "if only you...". All I'm saying is if you want to have his respect back, you need to be open to talking to him when he is available or find a way to coordinate your lives/talking time.
As for now: apologize. Leave him a message saying "I'm sorry I screwed up. If you can forgive me, please reply". Then just wait for him to call/text. Once he gets your message he will realize that you are sorry, you still want to talk to him and only on his terms (when he's ready).
Know that: it has to be his decision to forgive you. As long as you can accept his lifestyle, be patient/there for him and collaborate, he should forget that this ever happened <3
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I hope that this guy is being totally honest with you. There's a chance that he's a lot older than you and using a false profile to pray on young girls. Another possibility is that he has a steady girlfriend and that's why he can't always respond. I'm not telling you not to trust this guy but to very cautious with anything you do with him. You don't need to apologize for having feelings and emotions....everyone has them. I hope this elps and good luck.
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