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Don't know how i feel about my ex?
14 year old girl from England ..
Okay, so me and my boyfriend broke up about 3 weeks ago, we'd been going out for nearly 2 months and i honestly felt like we had something really good. He broke up with me because he felt like it wasn't going anywhere and i kind of understand what he means but it was all stuff we both did and could have sorted out together.
Anyway, so obviously i was very upset by this but i got over him, i thought of all his bad points, i cried till i was out of tears, and eventually just was completely over him.
But then we went back to school and he said to people he would get back together with me, and he was being exactly the same as before, and all this just made me feel like i loved him again.
I just wish i knew what he was thinking so i can completely get over him.
I don't know if i am just stuck on him as he was my first love? Or im not really over him? What do i do?
Thanks so much, Louise <3
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Hi,
I believe that this guy is either one of two things: he is totally over you and so he has his confidence back OR he still has feelings for you (which is why he said he would get back together), but doesn't have the balls to tell you face to face.
The only way you would ever get an idea of what he is thinking, is if you talk to him. It may be difficult, but if you want the answers to some of those other questions you may have inside, He is the one who will help you answer them. You could let him know you still care for him and if he felt the same I'm sure he would give you a sign he feels the same way (grinning, changing his tone in voice, fidgiting etc) or if he doesn't. It's also easy to figure out where you stand with a casual conversation.
I think you could be stuck on him because he was your first love. I know I still think of my first boyfriend and we broke up almost 6 months ago (haven't dated anyone since). Guys don't just erase from your mind. I also believe that you were over him, but knowing he said he would 'take you back' is making you think about him now. What you should do is make a list of all the things you remember about him that were bad and then another list of all the things about him that were good. After compiling the lists: compare them, look them over and see if He is worth it.
In my relationship, we felt it wasn't going anywhere (simular to yours). I dated my guy for five months though which is a better judgment ground to figure out if you are compatible for the long run. Meaning: two months is a short period of time to know someone fully, yet: if you know from the beggining something's not working, maybe you shouldn't pursue it.?.. Unfortunately (or maybe not) for me, it was just better for us to part our ways since the lack of understanding and interests had too big of a gap - I am not saying opposites can't attract, for I definately believe they can.
Determine (in your mind) whether you/him would be willing to invent more adventurous dates in order to make things work out OR if a lack of interest would overcome you two again, sending you back in an endless loop. Once you have sorted out all the facts you know and talked casually to this guy, you will have your answer. That is: on whether you should try again or not with him, since I believe this is your ultimate question here. And whatever happens, know this: it is better to know the truth than to dwell on it <3
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