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Hey! First off, i'm going to start by saying I came here on this site to give people advice. Some people actually don't know the real meaning of advice. They think its the answers they want to hear. But i'm not here for that. I'll give you advice, and it might be something you don't want to hear. But deal with it! You may take my advice or not, its completely up to you and you are not gaurnteed a correct solution.

Ok so now that's clear, I'll talk to you more about myself. Hence the username... I play volleyball. It is my passion and basically my life since I've played for about 7 years. Most of my friends say i'm 50/50 tomboy and girly girl. I LOVE sports!! I play volleyball all year round, and then I go to the park during free times to play some soccer, football, hockey, basketball or baseball with my friends. But then again, I could be inside trying on my new Sephora makeup i'd just gotten, or reading the latest Seventeen magazine or even arranging my clothes for school tomorrow.

You can ask me just about anything and i'll be happy to answer it. You can count on a full and detailed answer.

Oh and another thing... I love getting feedback! Even if its a negative comment. It tells me what I need to work on or even what I did correct.

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BODY EXERCISES AND WORKOUTS! my way or the highway

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anybody know any new fast music or some good rock music???? :D

there's this band that i recently discovered called The Last Goodnight

I love their song Stay Beautiful.

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PS: if you like Maroon 5, then they're something like them

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yeah anybody know some good makup that doesnt look pated on your face? and that is really not expensive? and some good eyeliner also? :D

for foundation and coverup I love to use Dream Matte Mousse by maybelline. 2nd place would be Clean Makeup by covergirl

http://www.maybelline.com/Product/Eye/EyeLiner.aspx

http://www.covergirl.com/products/product.jsp?productId=clean_makeup

for eyeliner I love to use define a line by maybelline

http://www.maybelline.com/Product/Eye/EyeLiner.aspx

I hope I helped!

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so there is this guy Brian and he moved here from Washington i have a myspace and so does he i added him first but he talked to me first hes very nice and then we get to school and we smile at each other..... i come to find out i like him more then just a friend. i got my friend to talk to brians friend jordan and to ask him for me "hey does brian have a girlfriend,because michelle likes him" and jordan brians friend said " yeah hes single but....his ex is comeing down from washington.." i was like hmm okay....so i need advice do you think they still have something becuase she is comeing down should i keep trying to talk to him i really want him!!! :D please give good advice!!

I'd keep trying if I were you. They are EX- boyfriend and EX- girlfriend. That mean's they are no longer together. So basically, its none of her business who brian goes out with.

If you don't keep trying, they could possibly get back together and you don't want to lose him now do you?

Make a challenge for brian and the ex-gf. If you just step away from it and let the situation be, then you won't get anywhere.

Go after what you really want and don't give up. even if she tells you to stop, its not her decision. Its yours.

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I'm 16/f and I am adopted.

Well before I was adopted, my mom had three other girls. And now two of them are living back in the house and I swear the youngest of the three is determined to be mommy's little girl again. Any chances of me looking bad she exploits it. Even when my great-grandmother died the youngest told my mom that I was faking my grief and I was sent back to school with a slap. My mom for some reason always listens to those three and I'm about to lose it. How do I "fight back"? It's just hard to stand there watching your mom be used and you get heat every day.

Thanks,
Annoyed

there's nothing you can really do about it. You can

1. ignore her and eventually she'll get tired of it and stop

or

2. revenge

I wouldn't suggest number 2 because it could get pretty bad. its like a war, I tell ya. It will never stop. Then one time, someone will do something very bad and will regret it in the future. You could also get in trouble with your mom.

Oh wait, there's actually one thing you CAN do. Talk to your mom about it. Preferably when the stepsisters aren't around. Just talk to your mom and tell her the truth. Tell her that she's just making those things up and trying to get you in trouble. Tell her that you mean't no harm in anything.

I wish you the best of luck. I hope I helped!
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I Have Bad Luck With Guy's
AM I EVER GOING TO FIND A BOY FRIEND?

like everyone say's dont look he will come to you
but umm HELLO i'm not looking and he is no were to
be found it's like there is no one out there for
me; i dont wanna be single forever.. =|

any advice to help me with this one please do

Hey, stop making this such a big deal!!!

no offense, but there's more to life than just boyfriends and girlfriends. Stop thinking that you need a man to be happy, because you don't need one.

Trust me, you're not missing out on anything important. There WILL be a "mr. perfect" out there for you. I haven't found mine yet, but heck... I don't care! Honestly, I don't care if i'm 25 and still single. by then, i'll be backpacking in europe and be an awesome journalist.

Try to find a passion in your life that will take your mind of guys. but if you honestly feel like you really want to be loved. Go out there and be a social butterfly.

Sign up for activities that you like and you'll meet a guy there who has the same interests as you. Its not that hard, just be like. "Hi my name is (name)" I wouldn't say the "whats your name?" thing because to me it sounds too childish. Let him say something back. And from there, just make small talk. Like "I saw you playing soccer, you're really good." or something else.

Just go with the flow

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My dad and i get into many fights and i mean were im crying and her is yelling at the top of his lounges at me and ive gotton to the point where im extremly scared of him. I really ned help please help me!!!!

k Calm down....

talk to your mom about it. then when you are fighting again with him, walk away. but don't like leave the house or anything. Just like walk to a different room. And if your stepdad is like "where are you going?" then be like "I don't want to have fights with you! Can't we just settle this down into a conversation and stop fighting?"

If this keeps going on, you need to get some serious help. Like the police or something because 1 small fight can turn into child abuse.

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alright so here's the deal; my best friend and i have been best friend's for about two year's
i have two best friend's & she never minded until now; i mean we hang out ALOT! i'd say i hang out with them the same- anyways's she has this "NEW" friend who i may can't stand one bit :/ she's 12 year's old; & were 15, i dont know it's like she is changeing on me like she never call's me & when i call her she's like UGH CAN I CALL YOU BACK & she never calls me back & the other day i had a big prob & i wanted to run to her about & she was just like oh. dang- LIKE WTF? & it isnt like to with her "NEW" friend & i wanted to hang out with her on friday but she said she couldnt chill then come to find out her "NEW" friend spent the nite.. I DONT KNOW what the heck should i do; i dont wanna just like NOT care because i do care & i just cant act like i dont & i just dont wanna lose her... =/

any thin could help< --

Hun, she's not physic! She can't read minds, so you need to confront her about this and tell her whats on your mind. Some people can tell how a person is feeling like, just by looking at them. And that may be possible with her, but if she could tell that you are sad/mad, she might think you just need space, so that could be a reason why she's avoiding you.

Make sure you talk to her and tell her what you're feeling. For example you could say "(name), I just want you to know that when you spend time with your friend, you seem to shut me out of your life and I feel like we don't hang out as much anymore"

Talk to her and find a day (possibly a week or 2 ahead of time) where you're both availible and you 2 just go hang out. If its shopping, sleepover, movies. whatev.

She also might just need time time away from you, so try to give her space and don't be all up in it, ya know?

I hope I helped and I wish you luck!
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what are some fun places to go for spring break? nowhere out of the U.S. please. my family is trying to figure out where to go (its just gonna be me my mom and probably my cousins because my brother and dad are going somewhere else). so basically i actually get a say in this. so any good ideas?!

You could go to mexico? Don't go to florida or california because soooooo many people go there over spring break and it will be crazy there. I don't know that many people that go to mexico for spring break. It actually really depends on what you are looking for to do.

If you're looking for mountains and stuff- then probably like around colorado and such

if you're looking for beaches- probably down south

If you're looking for wilderness- probably up north

I hope I helped!
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Alright, so a few months ago I met my favourite celebrities for the third time, and now we're sort of acquitances. Definitely not friends, but we're on first name basis and one of them is on my MySpace.

ANYWAY, as a joke I got one of the guys to pose with me to kiss me on the cheek, and then him to kiss me on the cheek in front of 10 journalists.

The journalists just laughed it off, knowing it was a joke. But my school...hm...

My locker got broken into not too long ago, and someone handed in my school diary to the office. It's covered in pictures of me and that celebrity, most of them are innocent (Just smiling and waving to the camera) there's another joke one of him hugging me like a pedo.

My school counsellor rung not too long ago, and told me to ring back asap because of this 'problem' because she thinks I'm going out with him? He's 30, so if we were it's not legal. BUT WE'RE NOT GOING OUT, HE HAS A WIFE!!!!!!! No one else thinks we're going out, I mean if a bunch of hungry journalists who hate him can laugh at it, why is she being so serious?

Anyway, I haven't called back yet and I don't think I will but on Monday she'll call me into her office about it. What do I say?

I know he can't get into trouble, because we've only met a few times and he doesn't even live in the same state, but I'm scared it will somehow get back to him, and he'll think I've been telling people we are going out or something.

wow that's really dumb. Just tell them exactly what you told us. that he's married and you only wanted a picture with him. Let them know that those pictures of him kissing you on the cheek was just a joke and the journalists even knew that it was a joke. I doubt it will get to the celebrity, because if he's a celebrity, it will be very hard to contact him unless you were family with him or somehow got his cell number or something. And I doubt your principal would have the connection. so don't sweat it.

Also, the worst thing that could happen is that your principal may think you're lying and make you stay after school or something dumb like that. I doubt he would call the police or something and if by any chance he did, then just explain to the police that he's just a friend.

If you had some proof, that would be brilliant. maybe an email from the celebrity, telling you "i just wanted you to make sure that those pictures we took mean't nothing. you're just a friend" or something like that.

I hope I helped!
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I KNOW ITS LONG, BUT PLEASE PLEASE ITS VERY IMPORTANT PLEASE READ ALL AND PLEASE TRY TO HELP ME!
i dont have school for the next 2 weeks and today i went to see my mom at work when i got there she was talking on the phone in a veryy flirtatious way. if you knew my mom u knew she has a very strong voice and is often being mean to people. but on the other hand she was actually laughing at what the person on the other line said and was being verrry flirty and talking in a low voice. i listened more and i KNew it was a guy. i also knew it wasn't someone that i knew because that was not the way she usually talks to people. her and my dad have been married for about 19 years now. they always say that they dont belive in gettin divorce and that they love eachother very much. also this might sounds very discusting but i have heard them have sex a lot recently because i cant sleep so i can hear evrything in my house. so then i walked into her room and she went to the bathroom as i got my chance i checked her phonee and this number had called her and she had been takling for about 1/2 n hr. i also checked her messages and in her inbox this number had sent to messages, on saying "what else lady" and the second "can i call you" the only perosn that calls my mom lady is my dad in a cute way sort of saying babe but i knew it wasnt my dad because that is not his cell number nd it would be stupid for him to secretly have another one. the messages in her outbox to him where "uhmm lemme think about it" and "okay call me for like 2 secs" those '2 secs' turned into 1.2 n hr. later when we got home i went to check her mesages and her calls again and she had deleted all of it! meaning she didn't want anyyone seeing that! i wrote down the number before when she was in the bathroom on my leg so she wouldnt see it. i later called it a man that i have neverr heard his voice before picked up. i go everywhere with my parents a lot so i know of all their friends and people around them. i really think she's cheating, WHAT SHOULD I DO? my mom is very religious and i KNOW my dad is crazy and completely in LOVE with her, i dont want to hurt him, but i feel as though im hurtin ghim more by keeping it from him, please HELP.

alright so what I have to say to this is- I bet your mom really loves you... am I right?? If she REALLY loves you, which means that she would take a bullet for you, she would protect you and stop anything from hurting you. If she is like that, then she will tell you herself. Now first things first, you need to first find out if she is actually cheating on your father before you're jumping to conclusions. I WOULDN'T talk to your dad just yet. You should talk to him privately though when the time is right. but not now. Because you're still not sure if she is actually cheating on him, so you don't want to tell your dad this, because it might not be totally true and it could freak him out.

What I think you should do is talk to your mom. But not in a "who is this guy? are you cheating on dad?" sort of way. In more of a "what did you do last friday night? Do you have any adult friends that I don't know about?" But don't sound too suspisious. Remember, if your mom really loves you, she won't lie to you. Most mom's get seriously mad when their child lies to them, so most likely they won't lie to you either.

Or if you're not comfortable talking to her face to face, you could write your mom a note, email, IM etc.

Also, I saw this on a movie once. If you have a tape recorder, you could hide it somewhere where you'll know your mom and the guy will talk on the phone. then when she leaves, grab the tape and talk to your mom about it and ask her "what is this all about?"

It IS possible that you're mom could be cheating on your father, even if they had sex together, she still could be cheating on him. First talk to your mom and find the truth. If it is the truth, ask your mom if she is going to tell your father, and if she isn't then you should tell him. If she is going to tell him, then before that happens, drop a little hint to your father about what is going to hit him. If she is not cheating on him (she says she's not) then still do a little more digging and find proof. MAKE SURE YOU GET PROOF. because without it, people will assume you're making this up. If you 120% know she isn't cheating on him, then ask her who this man is and make sure your mom is aware that to you it sounds like she's flirting. ask her to be careful with this man and limit the talking between them.

I wish the best of luck and if you have anymore problems, you can always inbox me.

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i have so much to do this week and everything in my life is messed up and im so stressed and tired and i know i need to relax and destress but i dont know how so can anyone hel me?

also how do you learn a lot of information fast? and make the very best use of your time.

also any tips for sleeping because im so stressed that yesterday i dreamt about all the hw and studying and stuff i have to do and what good is sleep when your thinking about that? i tried thinking of good things and happy things and just ended up with WEIRD dreams.

thanks so, so, so much!! i will rate! :]

i'm just like you too. stress is all around us and we wish constantly to make it go away and just relax with a nice movie and a comfy bed.

I learned that you can cope with stress many different ways. First way is not to keep it bottled up inside you because one day you'll explode and it won't be good.

Find something you enjoy- for me its listening to music and dancing. for other people it could be painting, or making a movie, or photography, or even going on a vacation. So find what you enjoy doing when you're not doing your usual day activities.

as for learning things fast, the only way I can think of that is planning things out. For example, say you need to study for a history test, math test, english test, and health test all in one day. First choose the subject that is most important. then spend about a half an hour studying that (notecards help me soo much) then take a little break by stretching, or working out (something to get the blood flowing. so that means no TV or computer. Running around is a great break) Then switch subjects and studying another one. Then break, then new subject etc... Then once you're done studying for all of the subjects. Have someone quiz you and keep doing that method.

For sleeping- Try doing something to help you relax before sleeping. watch a movie, take a hot bath, take a walk outside, stargaze, listen to calm music etc. Then when you crawl into your bed, take a VERY deep breathe and sigh. close your eyes and think of everything good that happened that day. (for me it would be like- getting an A on a test, or talking to the guy i've liked for so long) Continue to take deep slow breathes and lay still. Moving around in bed makes your blood flow and thus making you not sleep. So try to get in a comfortable position and lay there. I listen to music before I sleep because it just helps me relax more.

when you're stressed out, make sure you're getting all of the essential needs that a normal person needs. Brushing your teeth 2 times a day, taking a shower every other day, eating a healthy meal 3 times a day, drinking lots and lots of water, exercising. Studies show that someone who is lazy and don't care for their body are more likely to be stressed and tried.

also make sure you're getting 8-9 hours of sleep. no more than that because its un healthy, and no less because you're body needs to regain energy from the nights before.

I hope I helped!
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I really need some help

Recently,i've uploaded a video on youtube,using quick capture(i used my webcam) then saved it and now I have in on the net

However,I want to save the video in my computer,meaning the actual mpeg or video file as a file itself in my computer and not on the net.So i can send it so my peeps or just view it without going onto youtube

I saw the video,and i can't save it by right clicking and there is no option to save video.The closest is to embed it,but I want it off the net,and in my com. Is there any possible way to copy my video OFF the internet and just save it as a file?

thanks

yes. go to http://keepvid.com/ to download the video off the website and then just download it.

it also works with other video sites, not only youtube

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15/f
I have feelings for this senior, at one time I thought he might like me too. (ie..We never talked and he threw a paperball at me..then he picked me for his group and sat right next to me, he had his arm touching me the whole time and everytime he said something to me he looked me in the eyes. And he would nudge me with his shoulder or his leg. And he was teasing me and laughing with me. Note there were two other girls in the group. One sitting on the other side of him and the other in front of him.) But anyways i thought he might have had feelings for me too and you can see why. But then he started to kinda drift off and he wasnt talking to me as much. (He had a girlfriend the whole time, but when this "drifting" began to happen i heard they had broke up) And he would occasionally talk to me. One day he was sitting in the corner alone staring at the floor and i said "what is wrong with you cj?" and he started to mumble under his breath, and i said "yeah i heard nothing you said" and he began to smile and said good you werent supposed to. And i said ok then and began to smile and laugh back. But then i heard that they never did break up. And everyone is telling me i should go for it and ignore the fact that he has a girlfriend. But I couldnt do that. I would hate to think how i would feel if that happened to me. I am not the kind to steal a guy from another girl, whether i like her or not, i just dont feel its right. But i really would like to get to know cj if you know what i mean. But he has college and basketball, and the girlfriend. My friend said that we should write a note between each other talking about how i feel about him and his girlfriend and what she thinks as well (my friend) then stick it in my binder and when he checks it for our class then he will see it and read it (because everyone loves to read notes). (mind you this note would be between me and my friend talking about me and how i have a thing for him). What should I do?? I know he is a senior and everyone says seniors want freshman for their body. But we grew up in a small community and it just isnt like that with most of us. If that is true it is the senior girls and freshman boys.

What should I do about all of this

PS his girlfriend is a cheerleader and im not, i know that most jocks like cheerleaders, but i have this feeling that there is something there between us...And the other day we was sitting at the computer at school and he was looking up car parts and he seemed really concentrated and i was bored and all i could think to say was "whatcha doing?" (he would reply something) and "im sorry but im really bored" (and he replyed its ok)

sorry it is so long!!

hmmm... ok so this is what I think

I think he might have a thing for you, but don't get too excited because when he was 'drifting' he was probably confused on who he liked more, you or his girlfriend.

The note thing sounds like a good idea, but here's the bad part about it. He might be one of those guys who feel like its wrong to snoop around in peoples stuff, so he might not even bother to open the note and read it. And remember some people are the exact opposite who WANT to read personal information. So if someone saw it, they'd be tempted to read it and then everyone would hear about your note. and trust me, when one person knows... the secret is out. I bet that the girlfriend will hear about it too (especially since you mentioned that you live in a small community)

Here's my personal opinion- Don't try to flirt with him right now. Give him some time. Meanwhile, be FRIENDS with him. Talk to him, get to know him... but don't do too much flirting that he gets even more confused over what to do.

You said you're not the girl who will steal another guys girl, and that is very rightful of you. Most girls would be the opposite and steal the guy... then they end up having a rival between the other girlfriend. take my advice and don't do that. just be friends with him for now until you find out more about his relationship with the other girl. If you know (hence, not "hearing" they broke up, but 120% knowing they broke up) then go for it. But if you're still not sure if they broke up or not, then just be friends until you know for sure.

I hope I helped!
inbox me for more help

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are you going to get a forum?

no im not

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I heard this song on the radio today and I thought it was cute, then i relized it was from the movie "Aquamarine". Do any of you guys know the name of the song Aqua and... the guy she liked danced to at the Last Splash? Thanks

yeah I love that song! its called Island in the Sun by Weezer.

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some girl keeps calling my boyfriends phone and he keeps lying to me about it. I think hes cheating on me how do i know? What should i do im so hurt.

Wow that must be hard on you. Talking to him would be the best answer. Look into his eyes and you can tell by his body language if he is lying. (if he is fidgiting or sweating...) Or you can ask him to see his phone. Whatever you do, DO NOT take his phone without his permission and check it out because from what i've learned, they won't trust you after that. Just calmly ask to see his phone and if he asks why just say you need to look at something. But do not say you want to look at his pictures or something and then when he's not looking you look at his calls. there is a 50% chance that he will catch you and he won't trust you again.

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well i cant get to detailed but my gf has been having it hard i love her sooooooo much she invites me over we had a great time we laughed had an awsome time but in school she doesnt even talk to me its been this way for quite some time she tells me that she loves me i beleive her shes sooo nice but it just bothers me that she dont show she cares about me in school it drives me crazy how she loves me at home but at school she dont really care any advice on how i can tell her how i feel or is it rude to say something? 2.also any 1 got any advice for a gift for her im trying to keep it under 100$ i alrdy got her a cell phone for xmas now im ganna get her a 2nd gift just because i can thank u guys for any adviceu give speaccialy for the 1st one its been bothering me ALOT

what the other person said before me could actually be right. But have you given some thought if maybe its because she want's to focus on school? Try this- hang out with her other than home and school. Like the mall... and then see how she is. If she is acting like she would at home, then i'm pretty sure she could just be focused on school during the school day. But if she's like that other than school and in public, she could very well be embarressed of something. (just like the other person said)

When you are with her and you see that she is not talking to you, take her and say "hey is something wrong?" if she asks why just speak from your heart. tell her exactly what you told us.

As for your second question- I would think about some jewlery (if she doesn't have that much). Diamonds are a great romantic gift. My friend got his girlfriend a diamond necklace that was in the shape of a circle (for the circle of love or something like that...) Or maybe a promise ring?? Girls also like perfumes so you can try getting her a perfume (but nothing like you could buy at target. Something from like a special boutique or purchased online.) Ooh and my brother got his girlfriend a really nice fancy dress by a great designer. All of those gifts should be under 100 dollars but still worth it.

Wish you luck!
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well ive always weared a watch and now i have a watch tan where the watch use to be. About how long would it turn into a tan and blend in if i put it under a sun (1 hour couple of hours or couple of days) please just give me a approximate.

I would guess around 2 hours. But you have to be extremely careful. You Don't want to get skin cancer. Be sure to put lots of sunscreen on and take a break once in a while.
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i received a call yesterday from this girl that i didnt know.She was trying to get my ex bf's number.I found out that i knew her bf but she wanted to know if i knew anybody that would know my ex's number.I told her that i dont give out my friends number to people i dont know.Then she asked me if i couldd ask her bf if he was planning on breaking up with her.At first i sad no because im not about to get into somebody else's relationship but then i made a deal with her.She wouldnt give out the name of the girl who gave her my number so i made a deal with her so that she would.i told her i would ask her bf if she told me who gave her my number because i really dont appreiate somebody going around giving out my number.well it ended up being a friend of mine that wasnt that close but was really a sweet girl.the girl begged me not to tell her she told me.My question is should i confront that girl for giving out my number because that really does piss me off.Also i still dont plan on asking her bf the questions she wanted me to but should i?I try my hardest to stay out of any kind of drama but is that a way that would put me into any kind of unwanted drama.I think it might be but i would like others opinions.thanx!!!

I think you should confront the girl who gave out your number. Don't make it a big deal as it already is. Just say- Did you by any chance give out my number to someone? Then ask why and If she could stop. don't yell, but just calmly tell her that you don't want it to happen again.

As for the bf questions- you can ask him, but don't get too involved. Maybe like 1 or 2 questions and If the girl says why didn't you ask more, just be like "oh I had to go run errands. Or he was in a rush."

I hope I helped!
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i am great at gettin girls phone numbers and goin up to them and breakin the ice i jus cant seem to do anythin after that though
what should i talk about
ps i snowboard alot so when im with the ladies im usully on a charirlift or sitten around at parties

I heard that you arn't supposed to call the girl right away. You should wait a few days to get her nervous. Then when you call she will be even more excited. maybe you can write down all the numbers on a paper and when you someday get bored, look at the paper and dial a number and ask her to a movie or pizza.

Or when you're on the chairlift or party, and you get her number, you can ask if she has texting. That way after a couple of days later you can text her and say "hey" instead of actually talking which can be embarressing.

I hope I helped!
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