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can you help me?? what do you think?? :)
15/f
I have feelings for this senior, at one time I thought he might like me too. (ie..We never talked and he threw a paperball at me..then he picked me for his group and sat right next to me, he had his arm touching me the whole time and everytime he said something to me he looked me in the eyes. And he would nudge me with his shoulder or his leg. And he was teasing me and laughing with me. Note there were two other girls in the group. One sitting on the other side of him and the other in front of him.) But anyways i thought he might have had feelings for me too and you can see why. But then he started to kinda drift off and he wasnt talking to me as much. (He had a girlfriend the whole time, but when this "drifting" began to happen i heard they had broke up) And he would occasionally talk to me. One day he was sitting in the corner alone staring at the floor and i said "what is wrong with you cj?" and he started to mumble under his breath, and i said "yeah i heard nothing you said" and he began to smile and said good you werent supposed to. And i said ok then and began to smile and laugh back. But then i heard that they never did break up. And everyone is telling me i should go for it and ignore the fact that he has a girlfriend. But I couldnt do that. I would hate to think how i would feel if that happened to me. I am not the kind to steal a guy from another girl, whether i like her or not, i just dont feel its right. But i really would like to get to know cj if you know what i mean. But he has college and basketball, and the girlfriend. My friend said that we should write a note between each other talking about how i feel about him and his girlfriend and what she thinks as well (my friend) then stick it in my binder and when he checks it for our class then he will see it and read it (because everyone loves to read notes). (mind you this note would be between me and my friend talking about me and how i have a thing for him). What should I do?? I know he is a senior and everyone says seniors want freshman for their body. But we grew up in a small community and it just isnt like that with most of us. If that is true it is the senior girls and freshman boys.
What should I do about all of this
PS his girlfriend is a cheerleader and im not, i know that most jocks like cheerleaders, but i have this feeling that there is something there between us...And the other day we was sitting at the computer at school and he was looking up car parts and he seemed really concentrated and i was bored and all i could think to say was "whatcha doing?" (he would reply something) and "im sorry but im really bored" (and he replyed its ok)
sorry it is so long!!
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hmmm... ok so this is what I think
I think he might have a thing for you, but don't get too excited because when he was 'drifting' he was probably confused on who he liked more, you or his girlfriend.
The note thing sounds like a good idea, but here's the bad part about it. He might be one of those guys who feel like its wrong to snoop around in peoples stuff, so he might not even bother to open the note and read it. And remember some people are the exact opposite who WANT to read personal information. So if someone saw it, they'd be tempted to read it and then everyone would hear about your note. and trust me, when one person knows... the secret is out. I bet that the girlfriend will hear about it too (especially since you mentioned that you live in a small community)
Here's my personal opinion- Don't try to flirt with him right now. Give him some time. Meanwhile, be FRIENDS with him. Talk to him, get to know him... but don't do too much flirting that he gets even more confused over what to do.
You said you're not the girl who will steal another guys girl, and that is very rightful of you. Most girls would be the opposite and steal the guy... then they end up having a rival between the other girlfriend. take my advice and don't do that. just be friends with him for now until you find out more about his relationship with the other girl. If you know (hence, not "hearing" they broke up, but 120% knowing they broke up) then go for it. But if you're still not sure if they broke up or not, then just be friends until you know for sure.
I hope I helped!
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