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hey i'm 13 in august, and i don't know if it's sad, but i've never had a REAL relationship or anything... i feel like i really want to kiss someone, and have a real relationship, but do you think i'm too young? or what? I mean, school starts soon, and there might be new guys n stuff, and its my last year of middle school, and i dont want to miss out on teh fun of being one of the oldest... advice, please?
.:`Sarah':.

Your just 13? That is not in any way sad!! I dont think people should start dating at 13. It seems that alot of relationships that are at a young age arnt really relationships but more like a fashiong accesory

There is this guy I like and he likes me too. The problem: My parents are very strict and dont want me to see him (im 16 and he is 21). Do I continue with the relationship or back away?

No, 16 and 21 is a big difference. You never know what could happen. Plus if he could get arrested if "stuff" happens ( if you know what i meen )

do chocolate and soda cause or give you give you pimples / acne ?!?!

any websites about chocolate or soda pop causing acne?

Nope, this isnt true. Just a myth!

Is it true that if you sweat a lot you will lose weight?

No. When you sweat you loose water. When you jump on the scale right after you have been sweating it may look like you lost a little weight but really you just dont have as much water in your body. When you drink something the weight comes back. (( that doesnt meen dont drink anything! That would not be good.))

Hey, There is this one girl named chelsey.We just recently got in a hudge fight and last night we became friends but im not allowed to talk chelsey. My mom doesnt know were friends yet. Im afraid she might get mad if i tell her were friends again.I know its good to be honest but i dont want her to get mad or ground me from the internet.chelsey and i have know eachother for 12 years.I thought if i like dont talk about her for 1 month to my mom at all and then i tell her were friends then i think she might not get mad.What shouls i do and am i doin the right thing?

~Ashley~
13 yrs.
female

What is your moms reason for not letting you be friends? It would help to know that.

I had it good for a while. I guess most of us dont realize when to appreciate what you have. I had it so good id do just anything to back on the past. But lets forget me... my sister used to be average wieght.. NOT fat at all just not as skinny as everyone else. I used to call her fat tho just in spite of her when i wanted something and she wouldnt give me something or if we were fighting. I regret that in every way shape or form. PLEASE if you've been calling some1 fat dont do it, you will hospitilize some1 no joke it gets to people. So anyway shes been away at camp for 5 weeks.. and shes not the same. She wont let herself touch a hamburger, or anything besides salad and yogurts and rice cakes and such. She wont let herself have even a rootbeer float.. its so wierd. But worst of all shes not anything like she used to be. She used to be happy. Shes really homesick right now and she admits when she comes back shes going to need therapy because she even KNOWS that her lifestyles are messed up. Its not that she doesnt want to eat all those foods she CANT. She always feels so compared her whole life she has and now im fearing for her and wishing things were back to normal. Nothing has ever been this screwed up in my life i have never been asked to handle this 1nce before in my life and now its my own sister... and i just dont know what to do. Its like no1 cares... my aunt only has mean things to say like shes starving herself and she yells at my sister. Yelling wont help her any! My mom understands and so does my dad and they care but it hurts to see them so worried. I cant take it! This could all be my fault.. i should have never called her names.... what do i do to keep myself from getting overly sick at myself. Im not about to go anerexic or cut myself or anything lame like that im too full of life and i could never stoop down to that level but i always feel like i just want to stay in bed all day. I want my life to be normal, but i cant have that...

for a person thats going to be sensitive to my feelings... *PLEASE* answer asap

and 2 the rest of u.. never say anything you could regret

XoxOO-

I dont think what happened to your sister is your fault. Your sister needs to see a doctor about her eating problem becuase it sounds like she might become/is anorexic. Dont put this on yourself though, you didnt make your sister this way. She can get help and be back to normal, its not going to be this way forever. Just make sure she gets some help with her eating disorder. My cousin used to be anorexic but is now healthy and has a great life. Hope things are looking up for you!
~Taryn

im starting high school in aug. for the first time , and im sooooooooooo freaked out b/c i hav so many bad memorys from my middle school . im afraid its guna b worse . can anyone help me at alll

I remember being really nervous for highschool too. For me highschool was so much better than middle school! Its just a whole different thing, people arnt into picking on eachother so much. Try not to worry to much about it, its going to be fine. :)

i really like this guy he is 3 years older than me i dont like him but i do..i cant help it. iv liked him for such a long time and ik that im not good enough for him and everything. i hate myself..my best freind and twin sister are boith so skinny and i am not. my friend tells me i am wicked pretty but i dont think so. nothing ever goes right for me. so i started cutting..and i am addicted to it. if anything goes wrong i cut. my friend knows and she tries to help me. i dont eat alot any more either..im trying to lose weight. so every night i feel sick and i always get headachs. i dont want to see a shrink..i alredy have before and she didnt help at all. im hoping this phase will pass but i just dont kno what to do about it..help me.

Maybe that guy just isnt right for you. You shouldnt be putting yourself down just becuase he wont go for you! If the psychiatrist didnt help you maybe you needed to find a different one. If you just cant stand seeing a psychiatrist then maybe you could talk to your mom? Cutting and eating disorders are really serious! You dont have to be a tiny little string bean sized person to be pretty. If you feel sick and are getting headaches from not eating thats a really bad sign. you arnt taking in enough calories to fuel your body and your body is going to slow your metabolism! If you need any more help IM me

ok im just curious...if your pregnant...will you bleed at all? and if so how long after do you bleed?

I think it could be possible to bleed while your pregnant but if you do you should go see a doctor. Normally you wouldnt at all until you had the baby.

k my mom let me get my belly pierced in june and shes still hidin it frum my dad bc he sed no....i already hav 4 in each ear and i wanna get my tongue done s0o0 bad!! my mom already sed no more piercings...but i want it reallllll bad...im thinking of goin behind her back and doing it...but HOW SHOULD I HIDE IT?/ any ideas??? does it hurt?? how much does it cost?? does ne 1 no ne where they will pierce it with a parent there??? PLZ HELP!!!

I dont think you should do it and hide it from her just in case it gets infected and you need to go to a doctor. Im sure it must hurt really bad becuase, I meen, its your tongue! Plus if your tongue swells up after they peirce it that would be hard to hide becuase you would talk funny. I would say tongue peircings would be very hard to hide.

ok . heres my deal , im going into high school on aug. 23 , and i really want to get a boyfriend for the first time cuz ive never dated b4 . im getting braces to which might turn a guy off . how can i get a boyfriend evn tho braces r a total turn off

Dont worry about braces. Most people have to have them! Having braces is more normal then not having them. You might even meet a boy with braces. Just dont get them stuck together ^_^ just kidding.

Should i let my friend come up my shirt..? hes always like bringing my boobs up.. were not goin out but we flirt a rly lot.. Hes always hinting.. He really wants to.. Shuld i let him!? plz help i have no idea wut to do
(( im 13 ))

I dont think you should let him do it. Its invasion of your privacy. If you feel uncomfortable about it you should definatly tell him and if he doesnt stop it tell an adult.

I just turned 14. I'm about 5'5 and weigh about 105 lbs. I feel I am fat for some reason even though I wear extra smalls and zero's in clothing and everything. Everyone thinks I am very tiny but I don't see myself that way. Because I feel I am fat I try to do 200 crunches a day along with running for about a half hour. Is there anything else I can do to loose weight and just tone up more? I also don't eat much. Like for maybe a couple days a month I'll eat like breakfast, lunch, and dinner. But all the rest of the time I usually only eat a small breakfast and that's it. Am I over doing the whole weight loss thing? Everyone has been yelling at me and saying I am overdoing it and I really want to know if I am. Please help and answer. Is my weight ok for my height and age? I both cheerlead and run track and want to make sure I am skinny cause for some reason I feel people won't like me otherwise. Can someone please give me some advise and help on the situation? Thanks. *Love Always Annonomous*

You are overdoing it a little. Not with the exercising but if your exercising that much you need to consume enough calories to keep your body running. If you dont your metabolism will slow down.

i really have gas problems and im not trying to be funni or anything i kno its gross! but it's knda serious! please if you have any info please rite back... im to embaressed to go to the doctor!

You can get over the counter things like Gas-X and beano which help. If you notice certain foods give you gas mae sure and avoid them.

if a guys asks me out that i really dont like or even know i find it really hard to say no. if i just plainout say no i feel really realyl mean. but if u say yes, i know i will be miserable. if i say we can just be freinds the guy will just follow me around for a while even though i dont even want ot be freinds

Tell them that your sorry but your not interested or that you dont have the time for dating people right now.

hey i have a friend who is sooooooo obsessed with her boyfriend and she is on the phone with him all the time and it gets sooo annoying but i love her too much to tell her that! and like what should i say to her and plus he is pretty ugly!! ick he is gross!
signed-
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You should explain to her that she is leaving out her friends. She might not even realize it. Friends usually last longer than boyfriends.

my mom said if i eat vegtables i will have better bone but i beleve my bone has good calceum does taht me that i should eat the vegtable i have problem once vegtable in mouth vegtable come out hole how do i use this but plug to keep the vegtable in the bone i am not too old so please tell me the vegtable story

Vegitables have vitamins which are good for you all around. Some vegtables actually do have calcium (like spinach heh)

alright me and my so called bestest friend for life are fighting..and its because i was supposed to go to her house after school but i get in trouble all the time there so i wanted a change..so instead i went over to Courtneys and she got all mad sayin how could u go around ditchin me..and then she claims i stole stuff from her that i later found in her bookbag and she was going around calling me a slut...so i am just wondering if i made the right chioce by "ditching" her..x0 MaNdiE 0x

She doesnt really sound like a friend at all. Ditching her wasnt nice though, you should have called and told her you werent coming. If she is that mean to you i would consider finding new people to hang out with.

My mom thinks I'm too skinny, but my Aunt was skinny like me! I'm about 4'11 (almost 5 feet!) and I weigh around 85, last time I checked! Am I?

Doesnt sound to skinny to me! Some people are just built thinner than others. Your BMI is 17.17 which is just slightly underweight, mine is too so dont worry about it. Theres nothing wrong with you, its just the way you are =) Be Happy about it!

okay so i was at the usa cup this week and this boy approches me and he was all askin me for my # and i kept tellin him no and he wouldn't leave me alone then i told him "im not interested so will you please leave me alone" and he never did so then my mom finally came to pick me up so i was safe and then i went back to the cup today and he was THERE! and he was fallowing me and my friend around and we kept tell him to back off and he wouldn't! then we finally got away from him and we met some guys from south america and we were talkin to them and then as we were leaving them i kissed one of the guys we met (which ment nothing) and the stalker man saw and BLEW UP IN OUR FACES! he was all like "SO THATS Y YOU WANTED ME GONE!?!?! SO YOU COULD GO F---- THAT GAY MEXICAN!!!" and now im really scared to go back to the usa cup cuz he might be there with his gang and he'll prolly jump me or sumthing! so please help me asap!

I think if you go back you should have an sdult with you. If he really starts to be mean and threatens you I would call the police! But really, make sure you have an adult go with you.

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