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Is my perfect life falling apart?
I had it good for a while. I guess most of us dont realize when to appreciate what you have. I had it so good id do just anything to back on the past. But lets forget me... my sister used to be average wieght.. NOT fat at all just not as skinny as everyone else. I used to call her fat tho just in spite of her when i wanted something and she wouldnt give me something or if we were fighting. I regret that in every way shape or form. PLEASE if you've been calling some1 fat dont do it, you will hospitilize some1 no joke it gets to people. So anyway shes been away at camp for 5 weeks.. and shes not the same. She wont let herself touch a hamburger, or anything besides salad and yogurts and rice cakes and such. She wont let herself have even a rootbeer float.. its so wierd. But worst of all shes not anything like she used to be. She used to be happy. Shes really homesick right now and she admits when she comes back shes going to need therapy because she even KNOWS that her lifestyles are messed up. Its not that she doesnt want to eat all those foods she CANT. She always feels so compared her whole life she has and now im fearing for her and wishing things were back to normal. Nothing has ever been this screwed up in my life i have never been asked to handle this 1nce before in my life and now its my own sister... and i just dont know what to do. Its like no1 cares... my aunt only has mean things to say like shes starving herself and she yells at my sister. Yelling wont help her any! My mom understands and so does my dad and they care but it hurts to see them so worried. I cant take it! This could all be my fault.. i should have never called her names.... what do i do to keep myself from getting overly sick at myself. Im not about to go anerexic or cut myself or anything lame like that im too full of life and i could never stoop down to that level but i always feel like i just want to stay in bed all day. I want my life to be normal, but i cant have that...
for a person thats going to be sensitive to my feelings... *PLEASE* answer asap
and 2 the rest of u.. never say anything you could regret
XoxOO-
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I dont think what happened to your sister is your fault. Your sister needs to see a doctor about her eating problem becuase it sounds like she might become/is anorexic. Dont put this on yourself though, you didnt make your sister this way. She can get help and be back to normal, its not going to be this way forever. Just make sure she gets some help with her eating disorder. My cousin used to be anorexic but is now healthy and has a great life. Hope things are looking up for you!
~Taryn
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your a real bad person! ((i couldve said more but sarahs being sensitive!))
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Well.. I don't think whats happening to your sister is your fault. Everyone calls there siblings fat at one point or another. I know I have done it.. and my brother and sister have done it to me. Maybe something happened at camp to your sister to make her feel this way. Another thing could be that she likes a boy and maybe hes dating only the super-thin girls. She has an eating disorder and she needs to get help... its not your fault .. you shouldnt be beating yourself up about it...I do have some suggestions though for when she returns home. You could go through family albums and show her pictures of herself happy and healthy. You could compliment her on how she looks... You could comment on how a boy was checking her out while your in public etc. Just make her feel good about herself.. You keeping yourself in bed all day won't do any good.. I say just live your life and enjoy the summer.. Once your sister gets back.. do lots of stuff with her..((mall trips, movies , getting your nails done .. etc.)) and try to keep her mind off of how she looks.. remember it wasn't your fault..
also if your feeling down.. lift your mood by doing something.. don't give yourself time to think... otherwise you will become more down..
Go swimming with friends
go to the movies with friends
Shop... with your friends
Go to an amusement park etc..
But make sure there are people with you .. that won't talk about your sister.. so you can keep your mind off of things and remain happy..
if you need anymore advice leave one in my inbox or im me ;)
Good Luck!!!
-Hope I helped-
xoxo
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Ouch. Bet you'll never do THAT again will ya? No,but the way to make things right with your sister is to sit down with her and apologize for what you said. Say you were being a total bitch(which you were)and that she wasn't really fat. Tell her you'd like it to go back to before when she was much more relaxed about her food. Say that she's not fat and if necessary get her counseling. This isn't entirely your fault,it probably would have happened anyway if she was this obsessed to begin with,but you didn't help the situation.
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i think u should tell ur sister exactly what u just told me. show her what u wrote. my brother called me fat..still does...dispite the fact iv had anorexia for 2 years. i think he did it becuz he was playing with the fact i was dangerously thin. explain this to ur sister..i can tell u care about eachother alot and i am sure she will understand. tell ur aunt to stop yelling at her, ik how this is, ppl yelled at me only cuz they hated seeing me like i was. dont worry tho, things will get back to normal. dont blame urself as much as u r, ur sister just needs some help and then she will get better. explain to her u love her as she is and she shouldnt compare herself to anyone, thats who she is and always will be. give her all the love u can and support her thru all this. that is the most u can do. get her proffesional help and with time she will become better, take it easy on her. u need patience and ik it sucks to watch her go thru this. if ur sister needs ne help have her leave something in my inbox or im me on x6xkelx9x. ik how all this is so maybe i could talk to her ever if she needed it. good luck with everything and dont worry things will go beack to normal.
love, *kelly
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Well when ur sister gets home tell her that u r really really sorry for all tha pain or ne thing that u caused her or ne one else.U should tell her that u r sorry n u kno it waz wrong n u learned ur lessen n wont ever treat ne one lyke that again!U lyke how tha normal things r when she smiled n had a good tyme!
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All I can say you should do is try and make up for the mean things you said by doing you best to be nice. When your sister gets home, comfort her. Tell her you are so so so sorry for all those years you teased her, and you never meant to make her feel this way, had you known you would have never done it. Tell her you will be there for her and help her with whatever she needs becasue thats what sisters are for. Let her know you will be there for her. I'm sure that once you can see yourself making her feel better you will feel alot better. And you can't go blaming yourself forever or you will be right where she is. So just get up out of that bed and start helping. Hope O helped and Good Luck! :)
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people always say things they regret n u're right sumtimes it's too late 2 take the harsh words back. but while u've got the chance b4 it's too late, tell her how much u care about her n that the names u used 2 call her u never meant n ne mean way at all. i'm sure she has called u names b4 that have got 2 u really bad. granted calling sumone "FAT" when they've got a weight prob is really mean n it can really hurt sumone inside, u're titled 2 ur own opionion but the worst thing u can do is ruien sumone elses self esteem. just appoligize n tell her how much u care, n u shouldn't put it all on urself 4 her actions now.
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Its not good to call other people names, but there is no way that this is all of your fault. Show your sister the love, and help her feel better about herself. She needs your help. If she isn't seeing a doctor about her condition, she should. It can help her get the reality check she needs.
Our lives are surrounded by both the inclination to eat too much and the fight to be perfect, skinny and pretty. It isn't coming from just you. Encourage your sister to be healthy, and teach others and your future children to be wise in their choices.
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TO: Is my perfect life falling apart?
dont be too hard on yourself...you dint make the decision fer her to do wat she did to herself... and feeling guilty and thinkin thah it was all your fault is prolly just gonna get her upset becoz you think its your fault eben tho you prolly dint hab aythin to do about/with it anyway... just spend a tonna time with her and be reallie nice to her insted of hidin under the covers all day...and stay WAYY cheerful and positive...it would help her a ton to see a cheery face at the door every mornin wen she wakes up and at nite before she goes to sleep... also every now and then take her out somewhere and tell her she HAS to eat eben a lil bit becoz she could get reallie REALLIE sick er sumthin if her health levels not up...do sisterly stuff like thah and wen ppl make fun of her er call her names back her up eben if its familie..just help get her self esteem back...ya noe?
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