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i really like this guy he is 3 years older than me i dont like him but i do..i cant help it. iv liked him for such a long time and ik that im not good enough for him and everything. i hate myself..my best freind and twin sister are boith so skinny and i am not. my friend tells me i am wicked pretty but i dont think so. nothing ever goes right for me. so i started cutting..and i am addicted to it. if anything goes wrong i cut. my friend knows and she tries to help me. i dont eat alot any more either..im trying to lose weight. so every night i feel sick and i always get headachs. i dont want to see a shrink..i alredy have before and she didnt help at all. im hoping this phase will pass but i just dont kno what to do about it..help me.
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well if you really like this guy then maybe you should tell him how u feel. and instead of starving yourself find a good diet. if u find the right one diets give you energy and you'll be more confident with yourself and chances are you will stop cutting once you are happier. if u want to look better then find an exercise program too, even though it may not seem like it at the time after u go for a jog or sumthin u'll have plenty of enrgy and will feel better about urself .. hope i could help
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Maybe that guy just isnt right for you. You shouldnt be putting yourself down just becuase he wont go for you! If the psychiatrist didnt help you maybe you needed to find a different one. If you just cant stand seeing a psychiatrist then maybe you could talk to your mom? Cutting and eating disorders are really serious! You dont have to be a tiny little string bean sized person to be pretty. If you feel sick and are getting headaches from not eating thats a really bad sign. you arnt taking in enough calories to fuel your body and your body is going to slow your metabolism! If you need any more help IM me
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O my goodness sweetie you need to stop cutting!!! and you need to start eating!! If your getting headaches from not eating then you should def. be eating more. All your doing is gaining weight you know! Cuz even though you lose at first.. since your feeding yourself so little your body holds onto all the fats cuz it can live off of those more then nutrients.. so in the end you will gain more.. thats why you always have to feed your body and keep your self on a set stomach! About your cutting... I understand if you dont want to see a shrink.. but you need to talk to somebody.. Is their an adult or older friend that you can trust... You can check out this website about depression.. well theres many links.. click on the depression one.. and learn more ways to help yourself..
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I also suggest keeping everything in 2 journals... one for a good journal and one for a bad journal. anytime you feel like cutting put it in the bad journal.. or anytime you have a bad feeling... Everytime something goes good put it in the good journal... every once and awhile.. read the good journal.. but never read the bad one over again.. just keep writing in it.. but never re-red what you put or the negativness will reappear
About how you think your fat etc. I think you should find more self esteem... write down everything good about your self on a peice of paper.. and keep rereading it over and over again..Things that you are good at.. Kepp practicing them and become even betetr at them.. that will give you the accomplished feeling...You can check out this site for more tips on self esteem
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About that guy... forget him.. hes 3 years older.. all he would want to do is take dvantage of you anyways.. i say find someone new thats your age that you can relate to
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Hope I helped hunn... good luck!
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Hey...this is what u have to do, go out with your girlfriends and do something really fun, maybe even get ur hair cut or sumthin to make ur self esteem go up. then stop cuttin ur self!! i know its hard, cause my BF has done it b4...this is what u need to do to stop:
put a loose rubberband on ur wrist adn when ever u feel like cuttin snap it against ur wrist, it gives out the same kinda pain, but ur not risking ur life. try that, it may help and it may not, if it does, after a few weeks start easing off of that, and instead of snapping it scream as loud as u can into ur pillow.
I hope this helps!!!
*Alyssa*
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Ok i was a cutter to its gonna be ok if you really like this guy you cant dwell on it you have to have that "i dont care" attitude and let it come to you and if he doesnt come then you know it wasnt ment to be and thats alright cuz theres 10000000000000000 guys in the world and dont get upset and think"OOHH im not pretty and im fat" thats just feeling sry for urself now suck it up and stop cutting cutting urself is the sissy way out I should know i have done it.........my IM adresse is crazyweirdo1324 IM me if you wanna talk
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First of all you have to stop putting yourself down! Thats what has you going on this depression route. And guys don't find girls with low self esteem or confidence very attractive eitther. A guy doesn't want a girl who mopes around feeling bad about herself. What you need to do is go out and spend some time doing good things for yourself. Maybe go out with your friend, the girl who thinks you are pretty, or someone who makes you feel good about yourself, and have a girls day out. Go shopping, give eachother facials, manicures, pedicures, all that fun girly stuff. Sometimes when a person does stuff with their appearance it makes them feel better about themselves and makes them remember how beautiful they really are. I think you just need some self-esteem boosting. Hope I helped and Good Luck! :)
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juss because every things not goin as u please and it might seem like your life sucks but ppl have it a lot worse out there but u shouldnt be cuttin yourself over things like that or over n e thing!! u needa eat even if your tryna lose weight there r otha wayz like eatin healthy excersizin stuff like that!! your feelin sick and alwayz getting headaches cuz your not eatin trust me when i dont eat like for a while i get a major head ache n feel sick butif u eat it will make u feel betta n bein really skinny like you describe your friends isnt sumtimes healthy either cuz they could be very unda weight and guyz should like you for your personality not how u look or your size!!!
Hope i helped!!!
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