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Hello,how are you? I hope you're fine but if you're not then just ask and I'll see what I can do.
I'm a 17 yr-old girl.I live in Wales,Britain so I'd be good for an outsider's view.I'm studying for my A-levels in History,English Lit,Media Studies and Welsh.I play the cello and I'm in a whole bunch of orchestras,and a choir or two. I'm an OXFAM volunteer and I'm looking for paid work to fund university this Autumn.

The picture on this column is obviously not a picture of me, it is my avatar from Spacefem.com.

I'm bisexual and I have a boyfriend, so questions about coming out or dating are fine by me. I live with both parents and my younger brother and sister so i know quite a lot about family dynamics.

I'm very open-minded and I'll try to answer as best I can. Basically you can ask me qestions on pretty much anything.

I hope you're all doing OK.

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I don't know why, but everywhere I go, Oompa Loompas follow me. They laugh and call me George. I've been thinking of flying away on my spaceship i.e. banana peel and going to live on the planet of cheese-in-a-can, but I'm not sure if they have cable there. Do you have any idea if the planet has cable, or if there is any way to avoid the Oompa Loompas? Please help, they already took my sanity! 'Twas all pink and sparkly!

Make up an obscene version of the Ooompa Loompa song and sing it loudly every time you see one.

I have this problem with doing my homework. I get it all done, mind you, but most often it takes me till way late at night. Sometimes I don't even have a lot, but I either procrastinate terribly or get so off focus that it wrecks everything. It's starting to really hurt my health because of lack of sleep.

My problem is I'll sit down to do homework and work on it for maybe five minutes, and then get totally distracted and it takes at least 20 minutes before I get my focus again. This happens at school sometimes as well, but not as often. Is it possible that I have ADD or another attention disorder? I often lose interest in conversations in real life as well. I don't know what's wrong. But I have such a low attention span and level of concentration and I don't want it to hurt me anymore.

It really helps if you have a specific program of work to do.

You're supposed to work for 20 mins,take a 5 min break, then start over again.

If you set alarms then it helps to take your mind of the passing of time as you are working.

Also, write a list of what you need to do and ,after you complete each section, cross it out or mark it off with HUGE ticks- it makes you feel so much better.

I have more study and revision theory and tips if you need them.

p.s. go and talk to your school nusre about the ADD thing,I doubt that you have got it though.

so i'm sailing aboard a ship n noticed there are a few holes in it. microsoft has told my friend that we shud fill them. what shud we fill them with??? we could use socks but we rnt sure cos they mite just soak up the water from the sea n the earth will b dry! can u suggest a sock substitte?

Chop up the nastiest person on the boat and use various body parts to block up the holes.

I'm a girl, and I kinda like to bake stuff, because hey, it means I get desert. My question is this: I work with all guys. If I bake cookies or something and bring them into work, are the guys going to stop feeling like I'm "one of them" and start seeing me as this betty crocker homemaker type? We're all pretty laid back now, on the same level and everything, I don't want it to get weird.

What do you work as? If you're a shop assistant or something then it's quite an easy image to get.

If you do bake stuff then don't broadcast the fact that you made it.Just don't make a big deal of it and they probably won't.

What's the best thing to mix with vodka?

'Cranberry and rasberry' juice mixed with pulpy orange juice.Preferably on the rocks.

Not that I would know what that tastes like being under 17 years of age...

So I have this plant. I can't identify it, trust me I've tried, but I know it's common... big green waxy leaves, one flower on a long stem that's white with one petal and this white spiny thing in the middle? But that's not my question... the problem is that this plant is just perpetually dying, it a really awful and depressing way. I water it almost every day, I repotted it, it's by a window where it gets a decent amount of light I think, but 80% of the time it's just wilted and sick looking. I don't know what to do. It could be a nice plant, I feel really bad that it's so crappy looking.

You might be over-watering it.If it's adapted for a dry environment then it does NOT need watering everyday.Has it got thick,fleshy leaves? If so then it's probably a desert plant.

EDIT-
They have this plant in my school office waiting area!I might be able to find out what it's called. Make sure that it isn't pot-bound. Put it in a larger pot.Don't water it to often.Dont give it too much sun.

me and this kid really like eachother. we cant go out though because this other kid likes me and we dont wanna hurt him (we are all friends) i need this kid to get over me. he has liked me for 2 years and i have tried givin him a chance but it never worked out. HELP

You have three options;

1)Do nothing.

2)Talk to them both.

3)Grow a purple moustache.

I'm not sure if this fits in the right topic, but....

there are hairs growing inside my ass. Is this normal?

yep.

Unless they are green +/ 6 foot long.

but what i wrote is not all. the other thing is that my parents have no idea i even like him and being the typical asian parents, if they ever found out they'd never let me go to church again. or a least not that one.

i have no idea what the 1st part of the question was so all I can say is - 'be careful!'

my friends are telling me I shouldn't even try to be friends with my ex boyfriend because that never works, but I think it can sometimes. what do you think?

It depends on the guy(and the girl/gut/person of indiscriminate sex). If it was a really messy breakup then it's perhaps not a good idea but in most cases it can make for a good friendship- Neither of you are wondering what it would be like if you got together because you've been there before.

Just try not to get too close-it is almost certain to end badly.

my sister and I went to the swimming pool and when we got back she was like 'I WAN In tHE SHOWER FIRST!!!" so I let her take a shower first, and while she was in there I didn't know what to do then I remembered I hadn't played the piano for a while. so I sat down and played the piano. but I was still wet and had my swimsuit on. so I get up and on the piano bench, which is wood, there's this raised warped part where it's kinda lighter color and it's EXACTLY the shape of my BUTT and you can see where my thighs were and everything! I tried to dry it but it won't go away. I'm really freaking out because my mom will be home in a few hours and I don't know what to do!

Wet the rest of the seat so that it all looks the same- maybe she won't notice!

I'm a bisexual girl, who comes from a pretty small town/highschool that doesnt have much diversity. My close friends all know im bi, but no one else does and I'm thinking of comming out. I don't realy know how to do it, however. It's not like I'd make an announcement about it or anything. "Hi, nice to meet you, I'm a bisexual." lol. Anyway I guess my question is does anyone have any advice about how to go about doing it? I mean if it comes up I'll be honest. but there are people who are friends who I'm close enough to to tell them, but would it be like overdramatic or self centered or something to just say it? any ideas on the topic?

Try to introduce the topic in casual converstaion to try and judge how people would react. If it's good then you can probably slip it right in there but if not then you might just want to work on their attitude.

Anyone who is too freaked out by it isn't really worth having as a friend but remember that some people might take it as a bit of a shock so be subtle.

which church is the best church 2 go 2? how do i pick a church thats rite 4 me?

Go to lots of different churches ,different religions and denominations and see which one you like best.also talk to pagans etc and athiests.

What's the worst that could happen if I dont see a doctor about an ingrown toenail?

I am definately the person to ask about this one. I have had 7 operations over the course of a year on multiple ingrown toenails.Some of them weren't too bad but the first one,because I left it alone for a while got so bad that I was bursting into tears several times an hour from the pain,usually when I stubbed it or someone trod on it,and I don't cry easily.

Go and see your doctor,NOW!!!!

Everybody in my school has already had like 10 boy/girl friends... I've had none. Thats right... zip, zero, zilch! They all say how great it is to be hooked up, and they always have someone to dance with at activity nite. I have nobody!

Sincerely,
BoyCrazy

I know how you fell but,as everyone has said; nobody needs a boyfriend.

If there is a specific guy you would like to be with then OK fair enough but it's not worth going out with someone just for the sake of having a boyfriend.

I'm a volleyball player - does anyone know good excercises to work on my jump?

Burpees!-not only do they have a great name but they also exercise the muscles in your legs.
It goes like this;
1)lie on the floor in the pushup position.
2)In one movement,go to a squat.
3)Jump up with your hands reaching up.
4)Repeat until you collapse with exhaustion.

It's more or less a case of doing it as fast as possible but its better to do it slowly at a regular pace than very fast some of the time.

My friends and I sometimes make ourselves throw up like if we eat a really big meal and don't want to get fat from it. It's not bad, we're not anorexic or anything, and I know a ton of people who do it. But this one girl at our school found out and is like freaking out about it... how do we let her know it's okay?

Well-it really ISN'T ok to throw up purposefully.

You may not think of yourselves as anorexic but what you are is bulimic as you appear to throw up quite regularly.

It's a genuine illness and very damaging for your bodies.I'm not suprised that the girl is 'freaking out about it'. Try telling a responsible adult,maybe a parent or your school nurse and ask for help.

I realize I am a dumb male, but I am trying to do the best I can wth it. There is a girl I like, but due to several things, I can't ask her out or tell her how I feel for a while. That bugs me, but it's not what I'm writing about. We're getting to be pretty good close friends (which I feel is better for the long run anyway), and she's really cool. She's also big into feminism. I've always sort of considered myself a feminist, but never really thought about it too much. So now I'm wondering if I really am becoming more of a feminist due to her influence, or if I'm just sort of wearing it on my sleeve so she'll like me more. I don't like to do things half-heartedly, I feel it would be unfair to myself and to feminism in general. So am I really a feminist?

It could be a little bit of both but I don't think that it really matters.

If you had suddenly converted just to get her to like you then that might be slightly dodgy.What you've said however seems pretty harmless.Try not to give her the impression that you're only doing it for her sake and you should be fine.

It's nice to come across guy's that are feminist although you do seem to have slightly misunderstood something ; for most people isn't about being anti-men.

Just fell good about yourself and be true to your beliefs.I hope it all works out with her in the end.

Which is better, brownies made from brownie mix or brownies made from scratch?

Never had Brownies made from brownie mix,never had any that aren't made either by my dad or to his recipe.(His brownies are about to take over the world)

Making them from scratch is probably better because you have more control over the quality of the ingredients but Brownie mix is easier if more expensive.

I am thinking of going to france, but I don't know french. I've heard french people are really mean about stuff like that. If my french isn't that good, will they be really mean to me?

Are you from America? If so some people might be a little disparaging but most French people are great. Don't let your, lets say slippery,grip on the language put you off.

Just don't make the classic mistake of talking English but louder.

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