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comming out of the closet
I'm a bisexual girl, who comes from a pretty small town/highschool that doesnt have much diversity. My close friends all know im bi, but no one else does and I'm thinking of comming out. I don't realy know how to do it, however. It's not like I'd make an announcement about it or anything. "Hi, nice to meet you, I'm a bisexual." lol. Anyway I guess my question is does anyone have any advice about how to go about doing it? I mean if it comes up I'll be honest. but there are people who are friends who I'm close enough to to tell them, but would it be like overdramatic or self centered or something to just say it? any ideas on the topic?
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you don't have to TELL anyone. let it come out little at a time and with that time, people will be able to get used to and respect you. are these people your friends? you'll find out this way.
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This can be a hard thing, with lots of social hardships and baggage ahead. Coming out is brave, something many gays and bisexuals might never do. The decision to come out to the public will have consequence, most of which won’t be wonderful; because of the way this country views it. However being bi is part of who you are, and for some its better to deal with society than to hide from it. I figure the best way to leak out the news is to tell a few people, then they will leak it out like wildfire… it soon spreads and you didn’t have to make a public announcement. With this method people can twist the facts and you will probably end up making lots of corrections, it can be hard also dealing with this rumor style, but it puts it in the hands of others than you, this is the way many gay teens I know became open, I’m sure there are other ways and another open gay/bisexual might be able to help you more than I could ever. But I think that seems to be a sound way, you’d just have to be prepared for some awkward stares, and everyone to know…
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I wouldn't say anything to anyone until the subject is brought up, but that's just me. And when and if that subject is brought up just tell the truth. Because, frankly, I feel that just coming out and saying it would be self-centered and overdramatic. No one HAS to know what your sexual preferences are except for maybe a potential girl that you would like to date, etc. Besides, you are out of the closet already, your closest friends already know. I would worry more about telling your parents, because unless they are open-minded, that will be the hardest part of coming out. Just remember to keep a level head with those that might freak out and to remain adult-like in your conversations about it. Good luck!
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Try to introduce the topic in casual converstaion to try and judge how people would react. If it's good then you can probably slip it right in there but if not then you might just want to work on their attitude.
Anyone who is too freaked out by it isn't really worth having as a friend but remember that some people might take it as a bit of a shock so be subtle.
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