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Hey all! I'm 15, almost 16 *August 5th* and I go to Utica High School. It's a decent school, but living in Michigan is a downer seeing as we have the most sporadict weather ever. But, I still love it. I wouldn't move if I had the chance. =) Anywho, I love Forensics, It's my biggest hobby I probably have. And no, it isn't CSI or any of that stuff, it's Competitive Speech, but not like debate. I do the drama portion of it. Haha. I also love to sing. It's my dream to grow up and sing for a band for be solo, far fetched, but I can dream dammit! I like anybody who can make me laugh, and hate people who are 'stuck up' and 'serious' all the time. People need to learn to let loose, you know? I'm also a Christian, because God is effin' cool. He's cooler than you, remember that. Also, highschoolers really need to remember : "Save yourself for the one God saved for you." There are so many sluts in my school, it isn't even funny. Rather sad if you ask me. Other than that, I'm a pretty normal teen.

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i like two guys. one guy im really good friends with. hes really smart and funny, and hes not really really popular. i mean i guess hes a little bit but not really. im not popular, but im not a loser. im just the average girl. the other guy i like is extremely popular. i could never get him though, so back to the other guy. i really want him to like me, and he doesnt like all the slutty girls. he thinks im really pretty and funny, but i want him to LIKE me. i weigh 135, im 5'3, brown hair with green eyes..any thing i could do to make him like me more? i rate!!

I hate it when girls do that, no offense.

"Is there any thing I could do to make him like me?"

Why would you want to change yourself for someone? I'm sure you're wonderful just the way you are, and if he can't see that, why deal with it? Find someone who WILL see that, so you won't have to change.

Populairty is absolute bull crap. Excuse me for being blunt, but it is. Having people like you for what you wear, and what you have. It's bull.

You should focus more on being YOU rather than what to be to make someone like you.

I'd have to say be yourself. Cliche' but true.

Best Wishes,

AskMegan

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This is a bit of a hot-button topic and I want everyone to know that I understand extreme responses, but I am asking here in the spirit of recieving support and suggestions. I'm interested in the practicalities of your opinions, here, not simply upon recieving judgement. PLEASE show some compassion and kindness.

So here's the deal: Next week I'm taking a plane flight to Scotland to marry my partner of 6 years. We have a very strong relationship. However, I feel I have very little on the level of practical support to offer in the relationship -- such as a finished education, a job, general income, etc. This relationship is my priority at all times and I will not compromise it for anything.

Recently, I was looking through job offers in a local paper and found an ad for escorts, offering daily cash, a safe environment, and training. According to the person running this service, an escort can make $10,000 a week -- with such an income, I could not only prepare MYSELF for travel, but I could help my incapacitated father a $1000 root canal on his last working tooth (his densures don't work for chewing), I could pay off ALL my college debts, and I could move on with my life.

However, I know that there are many negative aspects to consider in the world of escorting: disease, stigma, relationship integrity, and legality, as well as personal spiritual health & self-image.

If I lived in a world that had none of the above negative factors, I'd be all over the opportunity! Unfortunately, such a world doesn't exist, and I'm here asking you for alternate ideas, suggestions, anything really.

I'm stuck between my debts, my desire to contribute & not be dependent, my sense of responsibility, my feelings of inadequacy and desperation, and a general feeling that escorting is not something I should do, due to the risks. Help?

I'm assuming you're a male.

If so, look at it this way, is your female compainion going to like you running all over the place with another woman? Sure the pay is nice, but wouldn't you rather have fun expierences with your finace', then some girl on the street?

About you're income, i'm sure your fiance' will love you either way, and as many say, it's the 'Mans duty' to take care of the household.

Finding a job is definatly a priority, but I'm not sure if you chose the right one.

You COULD make that much in a week, I highly doubt you will. Plus you'll be gone a lot.

Wouldn't you rather spend time with your fiance?

I can't give you your opinion, but that was mine. Good look and best wishes to your new life with your (almost) wife/husband.

Best Wishes,

AskMegan

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i have a bf and one of my really good guy frinds i think is crushing on me..i don't like him..but how do i find out if he likes me?

I have to answer this question-With a question.
If you have a boyfriend, why should it matter if your friend likes you or not? I'm assuming it's out of curiosity.

In this case, the best thing to do is ask him. Be straight forward, something like "Bob, I have a feeling, you might wish to think of me as more than a friend, is that so?"

If this is a bit drastic, ask one of your best gal friend to dig up some dirt! Get her to snoop around, talk about you around him, find out what he says.

But, look at it this way, digging up stuff he'd probably rather keep to himself, is an invasion to his privacy. Just make sure y'all respect he has feelings.

Best Wishes,

AskMegan

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My Bf is really shy around me..if I try to talk to him or something he just kind gives me a thumbs up..i don't know if he just to shy to say something back or hes just doesn't care..I like him alot!! What do I do?

I do the thumbs up all the time. He is probably trying to be cute. You should probably tell him that you don't understand while he'll give you the thumbs up everytime you utter a word.

Let him know-Communication is key. You need to let him know something is bothering you, and that you do like him a lot.

Go up to him tomorrow and be like "*Insert name here* How are you? Anthing new?" Ask him something that hey cannot give you a thumbs up sign for.

Turns out, he could be shy. Some people are like that. When I first got with my boyfriend, I was mega shy around him, because we took our friendship to the next level, which was, ya' know-Weird.

He's probably just nervous to be around you, like, he dosn't want to say something stupid to you. (You know how boys can be)

I wouldn't worry about it to much, he just needs time to get used to haveing you as his girlfriend. Don't worry he'll come around.

Best Wishes,

AskMegan

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my bf and i have been together 4 2 yrs now.. we love eachother completly and we trust eachother and all.. my parents r really strict and they dont noe im wit him! i found out tat my bf is going to another skool so he can improve his grades.. n i really dont mind i meen i do cuz im not gunna see him as much but i trust him and he told me tat no matter wat we r gonna b together.. he said tat we could see eachother during the weekends n stuff but i dnt think ill b able to see him tat much and i donno im scared about the whole thing.. any advice would b helpful.. tanx

You're pissing me off. You gave me a 1 for telling the truth. If you trust your boyfriend, WHY DID YOU ASK THE QUESTION? Oh, and maybe its good to go to school, cause you need to learn how to spell. "Ma" lmao, its MY. Loser.


Go Ahead and give me another 1, I've got another name.

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Hi my name is jess and theres this boy in my school that new i got to know him good and he started to like me than i think we went out now hes saying that his dad says he's to young to go out wit anyone is he saying that for a eccuses or do u think its true.
ps can you tell me what i could do to go out with him

It all depends...

Do you think he looks like the type of person who would look "to young" to 'go out'? I'd have to question him on that one, if you don't believe ask him if it's the honest-to-God truth-You don't want to freak him out just be like "Well, maybe when you're a little older" or something flirty like that.


AskMegan

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OK guys.. A really cute guy likes me and invited me to go to his football game tomorrow since he's one of the starting players. I know to cheer for the team and when he does good, etc.. But I dunno if I'd be able to see him after the game. I want to see him but I don't want to wait around for him if he only wanted me to be there for support. So should I wait for him or just leave after the game ?

Hun, Cheerleaders are for support, he wants you there because he likes you!

You should totaly wait for him!! Complement him on his good playing, ect. Get a date out of him!

AskMegan

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Ok, my brother has a snake. She is a 1 year old ball python. Shes about 14 inches long. My question is, when shes in her cave, she likes to pick it up, and then crawl under it. Is this a normal thing? Shes not shedding, so that can't be why shes doing it. Sometimes she gets stuck, and goes to sleep while its laying on her. Is she going to be ok?

She'll be fine. Your animal wouldn't do something to itself, if she knew it would hurt. She's probably just trying to get away from all the attention.

AskMegan

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..okay i know this is really long but i really need advice!! well this girl is one of my best friends..she tells me everything..well about a month ago she told me she was going anerexic, because she thinks shes fat! She is really skinny..!! I told her not to because she is really skinny and that is sooo unhealthy..and its stupid! She doesnt believe me whenever i say shes skinny..she just thinks im being nice whenever im really not! Everyday at lunchtime she would get a bottle of water..and if one of the teachers made her eat she would go to the bathroom and throw up! One day i followed her without her knowing. Well I didnt know what to do so I went to the guidence counsler..and told him what was going on..well he called her mom..but didnt say i said anything. i am not sure what her mom said.. so my friend found out it was me because i was the only one who she told. and i didnt know that! so she got mad at me and i appologized and we made up..and today in school she said she was doing it again?!??!?! i have talked to her a million times but its not working! i dont know what to do! i already told the consler the last time she did it..what should i do?! please help!!

....The thing is sweetheart. You can't stop her from doing what her mind is set on doing. Best thing to do is talk to her mother in person. You may ruin your friendship with her, but you'll most likly save her life. Don't hesitate. Do it now.

Drop one in the inbox.

AskMegan

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Well, I'm a vegitarian. Ever since I stopped eating meat, I've had a horrible appitite. All the sudden I'm never hungry, and when I eat, I sometimes feel as if I'll just puke it right back up...what's wrong with me? I'm not anerexic, I'm just a vegitarian. I think I might need to give it up...

I don't think that you should give up on your beliefs, but if its affecting your health, then you deffinatly should.

Not eating, can lead to anerexia, which is a terrible, terribe disease. You should probably be specific like not eating RED meats or something like that. You need protien to live.

If you're so headstrong about not eating meat, then take protien pills, fiber pills, everthing that has meat and cheese, you need to be healthy.

It's a choice you have to make, but i'd say eat some meat.

AskMegan

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ok me and my boyfriend broke up and we still say "i love you" but then one day he got really mad at say he never wanted to talk to me again..but then he called me 3 dayz later and was talkin to me (that night he called and said sorry about sayin that!) then the last couple of nights he wouldnt hang up til we said "i love you" like he would just say "bye" til i said it then last night i said bye and he goes "bye shut up you know what to say" ...but then he used to tell me about missin out on some other girl...so whats his deal ..can someone tell me or explain his game to me!!...SORRY SOOO LONG!!

This may be hard, but tell him you DON'T love him. And you WON'T be forced into saying it! This guy sounds like such a totall loser! Kick him to the curb hunny, cause he's going to cause you nothing but pain.

AskMegan

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I really like my best friend... We've been best friends for almost 10 years.... I don't know if she likes me though... i don't wanna look weird.... and i don't wanna ruin our freindship. What should i do?

Well, think about it this way, are you willing to jeaporodize your friendship, for a relationship with her? If not, hooking up with her might not be best.

Do a little snooping, ask around, see if she likes you back. If not, don't tell anyone you like her, cause if she finds out, than it'll be very uncomfortable.

Is she flirty with you? If so, then maybe she does feel the same. All's you need to do is ask around.

Best Wishes,

AskMegan

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I need a slogan bcuz im running for vice president of student council which is a very important club, i was thinking of one like 'Voice For Me So I Can Be Your Next VP' but i wud like sumthin more unique or i dunno.. just good n nothin common. please help soon thanks david

Want a new Vice? David is the price.

Don't be a fool, vote for David as VP of the School!

Depend on me, and you will see, I am the best choice for VP!

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Hey! I have this challenge thingy set by our teacher and it has a load of riddles on it. I'm really stuck on this certain one, please could you help with this one?

Three men have dinner together. The bill comes up to $30. The men each put down $10, which the waitress takes to the owner who says: They didn't have a very good deal, take $5 off the bill. The waitress is distressed at having to divide $5 by three so she pockets $2 and returns $1 to each man. So they end up paying $27 and she gets $2, this adds up to $29. But the diners orginally paid $30. Where is the extra dollar?

There is no extra dollar.

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Okay im a freshmen and I hate my new high school its Waterford Kettering in Michigan and I miss all my old friends including my best friend who I am so close to and I miss her so much and im goin through a lot because of it and this whole thing just sucks I started smoking, stealing and cutting again n I don’t wanna but im so depressed about other things too. I could go to Waterford Mott where she is but I don’t have a ride home…I live w/ my mom and my dad lives in Mott territory but they said the buses are “too full and its not guaranteed” or something stupid like that so now I can’t go. My question is does anyone in this advice thing go to Waterford Mott? And if so I really need a ride home…I’d be willing to pay or whatever I just need to go to Mott before I do something stupid. Everything’s just so fucked up n I can never stop crying. I need help. Or does anyone live in Rivers Edge Apartments? Cuz that’s where my dad lives.

Hey..
I attend Utica Comminty Schools. Close to your district. I'm a sophomore at Utica high. I just wanted to send you best wishes, and tell you that things will get better, they will. Oh, and maybe you could take a bus? Not like a school bus, like a bus-bus?

Best wishes,

AskMegan

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Ok, well this guy and I just started going out. I like him so much and he likes me too obviously. Well we've only been going out for a day. Today at school I acted all weird. I mean I like him a lot but he makes me shy. I didn't talk to him much and tried to avoid him a little. I really want us to work out as a couple. What do you guys think I should do in order to not be shy and talk to him and such. I have had boyfriends so its not like I'm stupid, this guy just makes me shy like no other boyfriend has. Thanks :)

The reason this boy is making you nervous, is because you like him SO much, What you should do, is calm yourself down around him, Strike up an easy conversation, be flirty and fun. I was shy around my boyfriend to. We've been dateing for over a week, and i'm totally comfortable around him. Don't worry, it'll take a little time, but soon enough, you'll get used to haveing him around, and won't be so shy anymore.

No worries,

AskMegan

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Recently, i found my dad constantly going to chatrooms and talking to random ppl like he likes them better than my mom. every day he would be doing this but once my mom got home, he would close out of them. i dont know what to do. my brother knows about it too, but i dont know if i should tell my mom. please help....:(

I don't think this is a threat to your family life. Chatrooms are chatrooms, if you start to get phone calls from crazed women...then we have a problem. He's probably just lonely while she is at work, so he searches for female compaionship. Are you even sure he is talking to females?

Ask him about it. "Hey dad, who ya talking to?" Or, "Dad, did you see any fun chatrooms?" Something simple like that.

If anything does happen with another women online...lol, it's an online relationship. Best bet, and I know you don't want to 'rat' out your dad, but go and have a talk with your mother about. Thats the best you can do.

No worries,

AskMegan

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well my hair is like a bit past my shoulders and its kinda frizzy or like idk it doesnt stay straight and isnt very smooth/silky... or like it will always dry out when I dont blowdry it or itll just kinda go different ways at the end even when I do. I dont know what to do about it if you could help that'd be great. thanks :-)

Try the Herbal Essesences line. They have great conditioner for silky hair, and they have anti-frizz spray. Good luck!

AskMegan

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How long does a girl have her period? like how many days?

Well, that standard is 3-8 days. Any more questions on the menstraul cycle, leave me a message in the inbox.

AskMegan

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omg , ok . hi , ok im 14yrs. old and i hav a frend whos 18 named mike . ok he's not in school nemoa and he graduated and he's goin to miami tomorow and invited me to go and a few othr ppl , but im so scared cuz what if i get caught skipping and if my parents find out . i dono what to do . it sounds so much fun tho . help!!!!!

Oh, I can only imagine! Miami! Beautiful city! So much fun! Right? Well, think of it this way, in that day of school, you could miss something things to learn that could help you the rest of your life. If your parents find out, they may never trust you agian, and probably ban you from ever seeing Mike agian, which you don't want. Just pass it up, you'll have more chances to hang out with Mike, that won't get you in trouble with your parents.

AskMegan

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