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Bad Dad
Recently, i found my dad constantly going to chatrooms and talking to random ppl like he likes them better than my mom. every day he would be doing this but once my mom got home, he would close out of them. i dont know what to do. my brother knows about it too, but i dont know if i should tell my mom. please help....:(
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maybe try asking your dad about it first... and be like if u dont stop this now then i will have to tell mom! haha hope it works! good luck!!!
*BeCcAh*
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I was in the same spot. I heard my mom talkin to this guy and tell him how she had a great weekend with him and all that stuff when she told my dad she was on a trip for work. You need to tell your mom even tho u lover your dad. You don't want your mom to go on and have a bad realtionships.
Hoped i helped
~J~
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Well if you think it's bad..like cheating and shit tell her. if u hate to see your mom get hurt spare her the lies and tell her...if u dont it could make things worse hoped i helped a little!
..*Cassandra*..
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Before you do anything, make sure that this is a serious problem. Your Dad might just enjoy talking to new people, it doesn't mean he likes them more than your Mum. When you know for sure, tread carefully, talk to your Dad first, warning him that you'll tell your Mum if he doesn't. Please be careful, if dealt with wrongly, this situation could break up your family.
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I don't think this is a threat to your family life. Chatrooms are chatrooms, if you start to get phone calls from crazed women...then we have a problem. He's probably just lonely while she is at work, so he searches for female compaionship. Are you even sure he is talking to females?
Ask him about it. "Hey dad, who ya talking to?" Or, "Dad, did you see any fun chatrooms?" Something simple like that.
If anything does happen with another women online...lol, it's an online relationship. Best bet, and I know you don't want to 'rat' out your dad, but go and have a talk with your mother about. Thats the best you can do.
No worries,
AskMegan
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I really think you should take a closer look at what your dad is doing. He may not even realize you are aware of it. Make sure it's other women he's being inappropriate with, and that he isn't just chatting with friends for fun. If he is, you should ask him something like "Who are you talking to?" or "Don't you love mom anymore?" That should get the old guilt ball rolling.
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wow this is serious. if i were you i would tell your mother that you found out. if my dad was doing it i would rather tell my mom then have my mom find out in a not so good way then get even more angry about it. talk it over with your brother and see what he says too. 2 heads are better then 1
hope i helped
xoxo
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yes tell your mom she deserves to know.But he's just chatting so it isn't reallt a big deal but i still suggest to tell ur mom she deserve to know.I hope i helpled good luck with wuts going on...:/
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If he's only doing it when she's gone, and not doing it when she's home, why is it disrespectful? Think about it. He's home with not much to do, no one to talk to, so he talks to people online. Isn't that what you do when you're bored, get online? If he closes them out when she gets home and talks to her, then he's not disrespectful. Just politely ask what he does online all day, and what chat rooms he's been going in to.
~Laura~
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Well, you are certainly in a tough spot. My suggestion is to talk with your Dad directly. Tell him that you know that he is spending lots of time in the chat rooms and that it makes you uncomfortable and you feel it's disrespectful to your Mom. Perhaps this is just the wake up call that your Dad needs to see that what he is doing is having a negative effect on his family whether he meant it to or not.
As far as whether to tell your Mom, I suggest you tell your Dad that you don't feel right knowing something about your Dad that your Mom doesn't know. Ask him to be honest with her about it so that you don't have to be put in the position to be truthful with one parent and feel like you're betraying the other.
Remember, however, that parents are people too and he might first react defensively and try to pull an "I'm the parent here, not you. You don't tell me what I can and cannot do." If this is his reaction, just reiterate to him that you wanted him to know how it makes you feel and that you are worried about your family. Then, let him have some time to sort through how he should handle things on his own.
Hopefully, your Dad will step up and do the right thing. Helping your Dad realize that his actions are having a negative impact on you and the rest of the family is, in my opinion, your best option. Good luck to you.
Kind wishes,
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well maybe he's just trying to have a lil fun or maybe he has a lot on his mind, if i was you i'd sure tell ur mom!
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Whenever you see your dad on the computer..try to read what he types whenever your mom comes home..like "Bye baby" or something like that..Or you can always try to look at the history..and show your mom if you find anything..If you dont want to do that then you could just go to your mom and say that your dad goes in chat rooms everyday..and I dunno if he likes the girls he is talking to..and how as soon as she gets home he closes them all down. Hope I helped...rate me =)
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mandah
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How do you know that he likes these people better than your mom - how are you coming to that conclusion.
If he's chatting until your mom gets home, couldn't that just mean that your dad realizes that he should go spend time with her and get out of the chats?
Really, I don't see the big deal here. I chat with "random" people all the time. I also spend craploads of time with my wife and kids. I also chat with my brother, sister, and cousins on-line. I'll talk to people I've met on websites, and I've gone so far as to help people with homework on-line.
I just recommend caution so that you don't read too mcuh into a situation that might not even exist. People are social animals - we talk to each other all the time, be it on-line or in person.
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You need to tell your mom! That is so messed up, your mom deserves to know.
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hi this is Christine... this happened to me too... except my mom did it in a bar. You should tell your mom before things get out of control. If your dad doesnt like your mom he should be the one to tell her. But i think you and your brother should tell her what your dad has been doing. thatisnt right.
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wow thats just wrong, tell your mom immediatly, he's being really childish and gross.
gl..
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If he is just chatting right now, it isn't exactly a threat to your parent's relationship. However, if it grows into something more, it can become very dangerous, and I highly suggest that you talk things over with your mother before that happens. It is always good to contain situations like this instead of ignoring them because they can escalate and become worse very quickly.
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