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♥ ♥ Well my name is Alexis. I'm 14 and I live in Florida. I have alot of friends and many of them ask me for advice, so i decided to become part of the advicenators community. lol.... anyways.... i love watching and playing sports.~~~GUYS, are a number one priority for me!!! truness! lol. I've come accross alot of problems and i think i have made my way through them pretty well. now im out to help others... so ask me a question! ♥ ♥

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My parents know i cut. And since then they have monitered me. Checking every once and so to make sure i haven't, i stopped. for a good week or two. no more cutting. i didnt need to. i jsut cried or did something else. but i had to the other night. i cut my shoulder. not deep not a lot. just enough. i woke up this morning with a sick feeling. my mom checked my shoulders today. found them. she started crying. she's tried to hard to give a perfect life and she has. im just to messed up to see that. it hurts her so bad everytime. i tear all our trust away and i hate it. I HATE CUTTING. but those who arent cutters dont understand. its almost addicting. u have to keep pouring your emotions out this way. you have too. usualy i dont even have a good reason so cut. i just need to. i might get sent to a mental house or just punished at the house. i was warned if i cut agian i'd never be allowed on the internet agian. so pleae some one help

I used to cut myself everyonce in a while and i still have a few scars... its painful but it satisfies your needs to scream inside... my suggestion is to always keep yourself busy. try taking on a hobby that you love to do that will keep you happy and it will put your mind off trying to stop or doing it again... i hope everything turns out okay hope I helped ♥ Lexi

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this kid is trying to set up a relationship between me and my crush! he recently asked my crush are you talking to her? and my crush said yeah! should i be happy he is setting us up? and what's the deal with the whole "talking" thing? (i don't get it)

signed,
Confused-n-in Love

he wants your crush to get to know you better... if he is talking to you more, it means that you are making some kind of a connection. I would definitly be happy that he is doing this for you unless you dont want to be in a relationship at the time... hope I helped ♥ Lexi

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ok well my question is a bit complicated, see im 15 years old and theres this guy I like hes 16. we grew up together ive known since ive been 4 years old and ive liked him. Ive always had a crush on him since 4 years ago..so 11 years. weve been best friends. well he found out i liked him and was gonna ask me out...i know this for a fact. well i go to meet him and theres some chick with him and its his new girlfriend...shes 14 and he said he wouldnt date a younger chick. his words to me were "i like you still but i like her more sorry...can we be friends?" then she comes over and starts kising him adn they start making out in front of me....and he keeps calling asking about friendship i keep ignoring the call or haning up...im so hurt..i mean 11 years! is longer than a chick he just met....i just dont get why i cant have a bf and keep one! what to do?
-advicegivers0601
(username on advicenators)

Maybe this guy isnt worth it... 11 years is a real long time but he broke a promise... you need to let their relationship take its course.. soon he will find out that the other girl is too imature for him. and he wil realize that he made a mistake because he had a chance with you but he blew it off... you need to listen to his story but if he acts like a complete ass hang up... hope I helped ♥ Lexi

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i can't stop thinking about him and he keeps talking to my best friend saying he likes me and wants me to wait! but i don't feel i can but yet i can't stop talking about him! when i talk, i cannot stop talking about him! what do i do?

signed,
confusedbutinlove

I hate it when guys say that they need you to wait... if he needs to to wait.. you dont need him, and if he is talking to yuor best friend it shows that he doesnt respect your feelings... hope I helped ♥ Lexi

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my crush knows i like him and stuff but he always is behind in his studies and stuff! lately he's been running to me for help! is this a good thing and if so how? and if not how?

signed,
Lost-n-Love

this is definitly a good thing... it shows that he wants to spend time with you and the fact that he wants you to help him is always good too... flirt a little and see what happens! hope I helped ♥ Lexi

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my friend has adrinking problem and maybe even a drug problem! do you think there might be a reason he is turning to drugs and alcohol? becuz he does get teased by many for the way he acts! and if so is there any way i can comfort him or help him out?!

signed,
Friends 'til the end

just because noone teases him doesnt mean that he isnt sad... maybe something is going on at home or with his close friends... maybe he just feels like he needs freedom. sit down and talk with him and let him know that you are there for him if he needs anything hope I helped ♥ Lexi

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i sometimes feel uncomfortable singing infront of people! how do i over come this fear?!

signed,
Afraid2Sing

I get this fear too... people say that you should imagine everyone is in their underwear.. but face it, it never works. it helps if you close your eyes and pretend your in the shower... lol when I had an audition thats what I did... besides the fact i was closing my eyes I got the part!! dont worry... you'll get over you fear hope I helped ♥ Lexi

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whenever i flirt with other guys my friend Mark seems to be bothered! he looks really sad! what's wrong with him?!

He might be jealous... maybe he has feelings for you or maybe he just wants to spend more time with you... he might feel alone when you are with other guys.. hope i helped ♥ Lexi

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is it possible to get constipated from cheese

yes.. i have heard it is.. but i am no doctor... you might want to look it up hope i helped ♥ Lexi

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my kid hates me what do i do they are turnin rebelous help!

im sure your kid doesnt hate you... just sit down and have a conversation with them... you need to set rules and limitations... dont be soft... punish if they are getting rebelious.. hope i helped ♥ Lexi

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right now at my school we are going through a 'war'. it is split half and half. i dont like the people on the other side but there is one girl that i like over there. i will lose my reputation as a jock if i talk 2 her. do i talk 2 her and lose my rep. or do i keep my rep. and lose my chance with her

ok well you need to talk to the girl in private and see how she feels for you... if you guys feel the same way try being with her but keep it on the DL then gradualy let ppl know... but you definitly need to talk to her... there is no use in losing your friends if she doesnt like you back... hope i helped ♥ Lexi

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What are some good excersises to getting a six pack? (im a girl)

i love doing crunches... one of the types i like doing is this...try putting your feet in the air and alternating TRYING to touch each of your elbows with each knee... hope i helped ♥ Lexi

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Hey guys. Sherry here. My little sister (10) got like white stuff on her underwear like a few weeks ago and yeah I knew it was normal but she told me just today that she got a really small red spot on her underwear...I never got these spots before my period or anything so do you think she'll get her period soon? She's really young though so idk! thanks:) I'll rate!

unless the red spot looked like period blood, then i suggest she sees a doctor... she is only 10 so maybe its a urinary tract infection or a yeast infection... hope i helped ♥ Lexi

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my boyfriend said we were going to hangout today and he called me last night and told me hed call me today....well he hasnt called me or anything and its 3:30 already...i called him at 1:30 and his brother answered and said he was in the shower...and hed have him call me back...im mad because hes home and stuff and he hasnt even called me....its like...we only hangout if i call him....why doesnt he call me? but when were together its amazing....i love him alot...he said we'd do something today....=\

I wouldnt worry about it.. try calling him again... its been 3 hours and if you guys love each other and really connect he will want to talk to you... dont get stressed out.. everything will turn out ok ♥ Lexi

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i have a question. if you wear skater clothes but you dont skateboard or you used to but not anymore are you considered a poser?

definitly not... people use the word "poser" to make themselves seem more deserving... there is nothing wrong with wearing a cute shirt that just happeneds to say "Volcom" or "Element" on it just because your not a skater. hope i helped ♥ Lexi

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ok my best friend is going out with kid and he is younger than her and he is crazy and jumped her brother and pulled a knife out on him and said he was going to kill me and our other friend to but she wont listen to me,.. i tell her to dump him but she said she loves him and i dont no what to do and they had sex and he is two years younger (sorry i cant spell) and they have only bin going out for like three weeks and i dont know what to do PLEASE HELP!!!=(

you friend seems to be a lil confused if she isnt listening to her best friend and would rather be with a guy who threatens to seriously kill you... you need to tell her that you cant be her friend if she is going to be with this guy, she needs yo make a decision between you or him... if it is getting to the point where its threatening your life you can tell a Police Officer at your school... hope i helped ♥ Lexi

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My ex-bf and I started talking again online. Sure, we worked everything out. It still feels funny when talking to him though, especially if I still like him, and he has no idea. Well last night, I asked him wut he was doing online, he told me he was talking to people and "his" girl. At first I thought, "is he refering to me?", but then I was like no, he can't be, he has another girl in his life. Well I was babysitting today and i was watching 3 kids play outside in the front, and what do you know...my ex comes walking down the street (he lives in my neighborhood) with 2 girls. I pretended not to even notice him because, look at me, I'm a loser babysitting, and look at him hanging out with girls from MY school and MY classes. I KNEW he saw me because right when he was in front of my house his face was no where near the direction in looking at me. So my questions are,
1) Should I ask him what he meant by "his" girl? I don't wanna look nosy though...can there be a way to make it sounds "non-nosy??"
2)Why didn't he even bother to say hi, or call my name, even if I wasn't looking his way?
Thanks soooo much
and you'd never guess who'd be asking this question...yes, I am a person on advicenators who gives advice :)

ok he was trying way to hard to act cool infront of you, he probably wanted to show off. dont worry about it.. you can ask him whats going on with him and "his" other girl or girls... hope i helped ♥ Lexi

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i hurt my wrist playing volleyball about a month ago. my dad told me it was sprained and it would stop hurting in about a week or so. but my wrist has been hurting for a month. i can't do pushups or lift anything without it hurting. what do u think i've done to it? i rate high!

i hurt my wrist cheerleading and the same thing happened... i had a frature, you def. need to go to the doctor and see whats wrong... tell your parents that you think its serious and that they need to listen to you... hope i helped ♥ Lexi

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16/f.

The other day me and my mom went to her best friends house, they have known each other since before i was born. She has two step-sons, one is 15 the other is 16. I have known them forever, and done a lot with them over the years but they live with their mom who lives an hour away from their dad and step-moms house and they are hardly ever at their dads house anymore so i hardly ever see them.....anyway, the other day they were there and we hung out while my mom and their step-mom talked while we went down to the basement and the 16 year old, we will call him Sam, anyway sam and i sat together on the couch and i have had a crush on him for so long, and we were watching tv and he laid on my shoulder and started playing with my hand and interlocking our fingers and everything and i had holes in my jeans and he started playing with them and he laid on my lap and watched tv and kept playing with my hand and i think he tried to kiss me but i didnt try to kiss him because i didnt know....so my question is, i dont have his number but i have his brothers which i an also good friends with and do you think if i call and ask his brother for his number it would be stupid and sound desprite....i dont know if i want to do it but i keep thinking about him...and yes my mom and his step-mom are good friends and see each other a lot but we dont see each other a lot...like the last time i saw them before that was about 6 months ago...i know i will see them again but i just dont know when...do u think i should call his brother and ask for his number...but sam knows his brother has my number but he hasnt tried to call me or anything so do you think i should wait till he maybe calls or wait till i see him again....i dont know...i know i sound like a little kid but i have had a crush on him since i was little....please help...thanks!!!

i think that you need to call and ask his brother for the number... take a risk plus your mom and his mom are friends and im sure that if you guys started hanging out more your parents would be happy... i dont see a problem in starting a relationship with this guy and it seems like he wants to be with you too... or he like to flirt lol hope i helped ♥ Lexi

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when me and my bf fool around, it makes me feel so good...the slightest thing he does to me makes me orgasm..this turns him on...ALOT..and im beginning to think that hes using this to his agvantage..i dont really mind cause he deserves it too...im wondering whether or not to take it one step farther and have sex with him... everything else he does to me is wonderful, so why wouldnt sex be??? does anyone know if this is a good idea??

i have said alot that i think sex in a relationship is a good thing as long as you truely trust each other... and hey if it feels good why not? lol hope i helped ♥ Lexi

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