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Q: i asked the question about what 3 tops to wear and most people said the second one and i put the same link for 2 and 3 the 3rd link was supposed to be

http://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a181/sointoyoux0x/7c959017.jpg

this is the one you guys said i should wear >>>

http://i11.photobucket.com/albums/a181/sointoyoux0x/ccda716e.jpg

so which one the first link or the second link with blue jeans and pink and black shoes
thanks 2 everyone who answered my last question..

definitely the 2nd. very cute! :)

♥ Beccah

Q: well im 14 and my parents got divorced a few years ago and my dad married this person i hate! she is seriously like the wicked step mother and it blows. She always talks bad about my mom too and my mom is the sweetest person in the world. How can i tell her to shut the hell up without getting grounded forever. help! P.S. sorry its so long!

i would try and talk to your dad about it. and if he wont listen or anything, which happens a lot, talk to your mom about it or your step mom if nothing else works.. i know its hard but it should really pay off. good luck! :)

♥ Beccah

Q: this year i was in 9th grade and i had to go to summer school because of my grades what suggestions do u have to keep my grades up for next year so this wont happen?

The student

i would make sure that you study for every test even if its only for like 10 minutes.. always do your homework and if you dont get something dont be afraid to ask a teacher or a friend.. it always helps. hope it works.. good luck!

♥ Beccah

Q: I am a 17 year old girl and I just made a huge mistake. I have a boyfriend, but this other guy has been hitting on me, flirting like crazy... and last night I gave in. It was only a few kisses, nothing at all really. But I feel really guilty. He said he won't tell my boyfriend because he knows I still love him. But what do I do? I really do love my boyfriend, this was just a one night slipup... if I tell my boyfriend I'll probably get dumped, if I don't I feel guilty... but I'll still be with him which is the desired outcome. What do I do?

the best thing to do is just keep it to yourself. if you tell your bf then it mind lead to a breakup and if you still love him you prolly wouldnt want that to happen. but if you really feel comfortable with telling him, go ahead but keep in mind what could happen for anything you do.. and just dont do it again! hope i helped!

♥ Beccah

Q: 13/f
What should you talk about when your on a date or movies etc?? Im always scared its going to be uncomfterable and its going to be silent! please help! i give EASY 5s!

well during a movie you ususally dont have to talk if your watching the movie haha. but on a date.. just talk casually like you would to your friends.. but to be the most comfortable try not to bring up anything weird or w/e. but yeah hope it goes well!

♥ Beccah

Q: like i had asked earlier mi friends are in this big fight and i dont know whos side to be on cuz i have both known them for a long time, and i am so confused can u plez help me!

the best thing to do is to just not get in between them.. dont take sides.. stay neutral.. cuz if you take sides then one or the other will end up getting mad at you even though its their fight.. so just try to stay out of it. hope i helped!

Q: okay well i like this girl for a while and she liked me and we started going out like 2 weeks ago...wednesday we made out like 4 times in a hour and i never did that before in my life but she has....now after i did it i dont really feel the same way for her..like i dont know if i still like her..i just feel different about her and we have been best friends before we went out so i dont if i should break up with her but i really dont knnow if i like her anymore and tomorrow she is supossed to come to a family thing and i kinda feel unconfortible around her now and we already decided that if we break up we will still be friends but i dont know...please help please!

well yeah.. thats way normal.. you could just feel uncomfortable with making out for the first time even thought she is used to it.. so just wait a little while.. hang out with her more and see what happens.. if your feelings dont change.. talk to her about it before deciding to break up with her.. even though you guys decided if you broke up you would still be friends.. it can turn out the opposite.. it happened to me. so yeah good luck.. hope everything goes good!

Q: f/14
Recently my friend just broke up with his girlfriend. Before, i wasn't really sure how i felt about him and i started to lean toward the not really liking him more than a friend choice, but now that he broke up with her, my feelings are starting to change because he's single now. She was my friend but it looks like a mutual breakup because they still talk a lot. It seems like he's starting to flirt with me again but then he told me about this girl that i hate that flirts with him a lot. It kinda freaked me out. I told him that his x-gf thought that i liked him but he was like cool. Obviously he doesn't care or he wants to sound like he doesn't care. I don't know.

well he could just be acting like that cuz thats just how guys are.. they like never wanna show anything. haha its weird i know.. but try to like flirt with him more.. give him hints.. he might catch on and go along with it! good luck!

♥ Beccah

Q: ...ummmm...how do I put this...My friend well...stinks. Like literally! Like I dont know how to tell her to get a stronger deoderant or somthing but like being around her makes my stomach hurt. Please someone help me!

well.. i think that it would be hard to actually tell her.. so like maybe buy her some perfume or something that she would like or just randomly spray her or something like oh this smells good try it.. or like do something like swimming so that she will take a shower at your house or something. good luck!

♥ Beccah

Q: i'm a total pimplehead and i have been for a long time.. like.. um.. since grade 5 i think.. i'm in grade8 now.. i've been using these cleanser things they're getting kinda better but i keep on breaking out.. any tips?? *omg i'm so embaressed asking this.. i need help!!*

Hey well if you eat too much chocolate that might be it, so try to reduce your chocoalte amounts cuz it will really help! also if youre not already using proactiv, it works soooo good!!! hope everything goes better! good luck! :)

Q: when it comes to asking ppl out...am i wrong to think that guys should ask the grls out? be serious plz..

no way!! most girls dont ask guys out! its normally the guy that does it... youre totally not wrong

Q: Hello!! Hi i normally give out advice but i need some! bad! Well i have a really bad habit and its biting my nails. It sounds normal but the habit's so bad that when i quit smoking it was easier(!). Now when i bite my nails i bit it down so its just a couple millimerers!! (ouchhiee) Also, when half of my nail is gone a chew and pull my skin around my nail, to like the second layer of skin!and it burns when im peeling it like downward but it..iono its painful but its a habit. i dont realy cut as much as i chew my nails! its turning into something way worse! does anyone have ne ideas how i can stop! il rate u a five..:) help me plz!

ok well a good thing that worked for me was to wher nail polish all the time cuz when u bite them the nail polish tastes really bad and stuff and also u can ru like galric or sumthin on ur nails to keep u from biting them. hope i helped!

~bEcCaH~

Q: okay im 13/f and me and my boyfriend have been going out for 1 month and like 9 days and we havent kissed yet and i want him to make the first move but i want him to do it and get it over with and like yeah and his friend said that i should just do it but im scared...what should i do?

this happened to me too.... i was too afraid to make the first move and he ended up breaking up with me... so i would say just go for it if u really like him! hold his and first then maybe ask him if its ok if u kiss him... or if u really get scared then tell his friend that ull break up with him if he doesnt make the first move soon or something like that! good luck and have fun! :)

~BeCcAh~

Q: I have a cold. I feel so gross and all I want to do is sleep. But I cant because I have loads of homework that I should be doing right now but I just feel..gross! Is there anything I can do to make me feel a little better so I can concentrate(sp?) on getting my work done? Besides taking medicine..I rate :(

ok sleeping when you have cold is definitely more important than homework... it makes you feel so much better! and then ur more awake once you do and youll have plenty of time ot do your homework.... just switch off... like do a lil bit of hw then take a nap. hope i helped!
~BeCcAh~

Q: This is kind of long, but I'd like advice. I have a friend, and we've been buds since first grade. Ever since we met, we fight about the dumbest things! Like, I became best best friends with someone, and hung out with that girl a lot. I hung out with my other friend a lot too. She always emailed me saying, "You blow me off!" It gets me soo mad! Then like a day later she totally acts all sweet and like my best friend. Then a month later she pulls that crap again! We fight a lot, and she always starts it and acts like I did. She's always been like this, and if I talk to her, she'll totally bring up little mistakes I've made and act all rude again! What should I do??????

lol that sucks! umm try deleting the emails and saying that u didnt get them... because talking in person or on the phone is a way better way to cool things down and figure out wut really happened! good luck!
~BeCcAh~

Q: Well, I'm a vegitarian. Ever since I stopped eating meat, I've had a horrible appitite. All the sudden I'm never hungry, and when I eat, I sometimes feel as if I'll just puke it right back up...what's wrong with me? I'm not anerexic, I'm just a vegitarian. I think I might need to give it up...

yeah u kind of need the protein in meat.. the best thing to do is give it up... but if u really cant then try eating more thenu usually do. youre body just isnt used to less protein yet... it might take a while! good luck!
~BeCcAh~

Q: ok well i think this guy that is a year older than me is cute-and like last year, we would always kinda glance at each other and stuff or look at each other if we passed in the hall ways or after school. so, this year, i have the same pe hour as him. but diff. classes. yet somehow, we got switched into the SAME CLASS. so its awkward like bc weve been like always kinda lookin at each other and stuff and now i sit 2 rows up from him. and its kinda a long story but then he was goin out with this other girl in our pe class 4 like 2 days then they broke up now shes goin out w/ someone else but the girl asked me the other day who do u like? and i was like well _____ is kinda cute and she was like omg i know i USED to be like in love with him! and i was like yeah i know but i told her not to tell n e one so i hope she wont. im so embarressed at my self bc like last year i would always like glance at him and stuff and its not like i was trying to but i would look up and he would be there like already staring at me! so idk...what should i do bc i dont want him to think im like obsessed with him...

he wont think ur obsessed with him cuz he was the one lookin at you! hope u guys get together and wokr things out! good luck!
Beccah

Q: I know this is weird...but how do you speak gibberish? In most of the classes, when the girls are all talking about something serious, they start to speak in gibberish to piss off the teachers/guys. I don't know what they're saying but I want to learn so I will know it, so can anyone tell me how to speak it?

gibberish isnt learnable its just saying wutever comes out oof ur mouth. like baby talk. like a whole bunch of letters all smooshed up or words mixed up. dont worry about it just try it at home and go for it.

Q: Well maybe about 2 - 3 years ago I met this boy, he lives in california and i live in everett washington. Hes in 11th grade and im in 10th. He came up a few months ago and visited me for about 2 weeks and then left. I really love him and we talk online everyday through email because his computers messed up and wont let him download aim or anything. He's always like " Whats up baby " and " I love you too ". Were not going out but I really wanna go out with him. I know he would never cheat on me because hes real. He doesnt make things up If hes busy he'll say " Oh ill email you later im busy ". Hes so sweet to me. But yesterday I went on my sister screen name and she sent him a email that told him that I want to go out with him and that I was scared to ask because he might have a girlfriend or he might say no. And he wrote back saying something like " Tell her I dont have a girl and I would never say no to her and I really love her. " Then she wrote back saying " She wants to know why you love her." And something else. And he said " Tell her to ask me why I love her but she should know." Im not that mad at her for doing to because I kind of knew. But anyways lol my question is should I go out with him? I mean we live far away and probably wouldnt be able to see eachother. But we really love eachother. Drop your thoughts or whatever.

definitely! go for it! if u guys are in love then you need to be with each other!

Q: Ive had this friend Z since 7th grade and we talk everyday, mainly cuz he IM's me all the time. But I also have a boyfriend that ive had for a year and 7 months and they obviously dont like eachother. Z doesnt like my boyfriend cuz he doesnt talk to him and that bothers him and my boyfriend doesnt like him because he thinks that Z is tryin to steal me from him. Well...lately its becoming a little obvious hes jealous. But in the last couple days everytime he talks to me he keeps talking about his ideal girl and theyr some things i have in common with his ideal girl. Everytime i ask him if hes talking about me he keeps sayin that he thinks im "a cool person to talk to" and "im a great friend". But yesterday he told me he had an opionion about me...but has kinda been avoiding me all day today. Not knowing this is driving me crazy. But the main point here is...is this guy sending me mixed signals or what or does he want me in a more than friends kind of way...plz help, sry its so long, ill rate a 5 if u answer.

i think he does like you and trying to send you signals... but dont let that ruin ur relationship with your boyfriend cuz its normal for guys to do that! hope it helped!
*BeCcAh*