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friend fueds
This is kind of long, but I'd like advice. I have a friend, and we've been buds since first grade. Ever since we met, we fight about the dumbest things! Like, I became best best friends with someone, and hung out with that girl a lot. I hung out with my other friend a lot too. She always emailed me saying, "You blow me off!" It gets me soo mad! Then like a day later she totally acts all sweet and like my best friend. Then a month later she pulls that crap again! We fight a lot, and she always starts it and acts like I did. She's always been like this, and if I talk to her, she'll totally bring up little mistakes I've made and act all rude again! What should I do??????
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well... u gotta think.. is this girl really ur friend ... first sit her down and tell her 2 rules 1: dont talk until ur done 2: no yellin. Then tell her how u feel n wat she did 2 make u feel that way... tell her that she is ruining ur relationship and ask her how she feels about that. if she duznt care... then tell her 2 leeve n ur friendship is ka-put and if she duz care try n make up and promise that ull both try 2 do better... hope i helpd ...
much luv - Jaymie
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OHHH man, I can relate to this totally-I told my friend that she is weighing me down with this cycle and we decided to just be cool with eachother but not close friends, and it worked out. It took awhile though to get to this point though-through some pretty nasty fights, but it was the best choice I have ever made.
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Granted it is a tough friendship to tolerate, just don't ditch the person yet -- you can't ditch her before she knowing why and without trying to fix the problem.
You need to tell her that what she's doing is annoying you and you feel it's ruining the friendship.
After you tell her that, she'll do one of two things: Get very annoyed at you, and you two will cease to be friends, or she'll realize that she should stop, and you two will be friends again.
If she does the second thing, then the friendship just wasn't meant to be.
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Hmm, well first of all you sound pretty level headed and mature. You friend seems immature, childish and stubborn. But hey, we all have our flaws. It seems like your friend has issues with just leaving things the way they are. I think she trys to create her own drama for attention or excitement or something. Don't let her get the best of you. To an extent you need to be understanding of her and her issue. You should try talking to her again ...sit her down civily and explain everything to her..Tell her htat you care about her and like being friends, but you feel like all this un needed drama is putting stress on y'alls freindship. Tell her that you knmow nobody is perfect and that you know we all make mistakes. Tell her that you are sorry if you have hurt her in any way and that it was not intentional..then tell her that you wished all the little fights would stop because you don't want problems between you too. See if this works, if she doesn't handle this way, then maybe you two should back off from hanging out so much and give her some time to come to her senses and mature. :)
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then u need to get rid of her
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Why do you need a friend like that? There is no point of her..shes a bitch and you dont need her..try to give her a hint to leave you alone! thats what I would do! well hope i helped! rate me =)
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mandah
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lol that sucks! umm try deleting the emails and saying that u didnt get them... because talking in person or on the phone is a way better way to cool things down and figure out wut really happened! good luck!
~BeCcAh~
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You should tell her that it really annoys you that the tiniest things set her off. Tell her you know you have flaws too and you'll try to work on yours if she tries to work on hers. No ones perfect and it's great youve been friends for so long but sometimes friendships take work. Good luck! Hope the talk goes well hun!
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i have a friend exactly like that...and what's worst is that you cannot approach them about it because everything needs to be a huge ordeal. We fight constantly like sisters, about the most pointless, insignifigant things. The thing i've learned throught the years is to just ignore her, no matter how much she bitches. Bringing attention to the situation shows her that she knows how to push your buttons, and chances are that she's going to try to do that as often as possible, then turn around and act like nothing ever happened. Oh gosh I know exactly how you feel haha. Try taking a break from her, also, it will allow you to determine the things you really like about your friend.
I hope I helped some, and leave me one if you need any additional advice
<3 Sarah
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these kinds a things happen all the time, dont worry shes not as mature as you, lay down a couple of ground rules about ur friendship and if she dosent like them then you might wanta slow down the friendshp a little, also try hanging out with both at the same time. shes just jelious of u hanging out with aa new best friend like ur replacing her shes just trying to defent what was hers first
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