Hey! I'm Andrea.. my cousin has a column here, DarkChocolate794.
I've been giving advice here for a long long time. I've been through more than you'll know. I've managed to stay normal thanks to Jesus.
I'm nowhere near perfect. I'm a busy girl,so I don't have much time to get on as I used to. I'll hit you up immediately if you inbox me.
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Okay so I like this boy and I thought he liked me but all he wants to do is have sex. Should I or should'nt I? I always told myself I would never think of things like this I would always just say no, but for some reason I think this is the boy for me and i wouldnt wanna ruin anything by saying no. What should I do? (link)
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If your questioning yourself, dont do it. you'll never regret not doing it. If all he wants to do is have sex, after you do, you'll probably be over. If he hasnt even made it clear he likes you why do it? Is he intrested in getting to no u? doubt it. He woulnt jump into having sex if he did. Hes a guy and guys want sex, so dont give it to him. I wouldnt if i were you.
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i need help with getting my husban to want to kiss again we are young and have 2 kids but he says he forgot how because when we where first together i was to shy so we just never have kissed so please help me out
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Like the other two said, this is a very weird story, but maybe your trying to fit in with the other 1000 people here who dont spell correctly. Then how youve managed to have kids without kissing doesnt surprise me tho, my grandmother never kissed her husband EVER. Shes never had her first kiss in her life and shes 65, so i wont beat you up about this SO I WILL ACTUALLY HELP YOU! yayy... now to buisness. Next time you get buisy, TEACH HIM. Very simple eh? Grab him and lead him in making out. then do all the rest
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What happens when you take pain killers just for emotional pain?? What will happen?? will it make me feel any better? I'm just wondering before I take it.
thanks (link)
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Pain killers will do nothing for emotional pain. Nothing will happen and you wont feel any better. Talking, writing, and maybe acting things out will be a way better solution. Doing something fun like hangin out with your friends and eating junk food watching movies painting each others nails and gossiping will hopefully make you feel better too. Last resort is therapy and antidepressants. I doubt you'll need to go that far =)
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one of my best friends has recently revealed to me that she has a crush on this boy. howver, we are seniors in high school, and he is only a freshman in high school. what makes it weirder is that my friends brother is a freshman too (he doesn't know she likes this kid). i know that age shouldn't matter, but i just feel the wholse situation is so awkward & weird. he isn't really "matured" yet, so it is SO strange. she keeps on talking about it & it just bothers me that she basically has a crush on a little boy. the kid doesn't even know she likes him, but she talks about him as if they are married. what should i do? am i wrong in saying this is sort of innappropriate? (link)
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Honestly I think your right. I would feel the exact same way. Currently this is happening to one of my friends, so I have to admit I play it off as a normal thing. It will fade. Most girls like younger guys because there funny and cute. Try and support your friend until she doesn't like him anymore.
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My bro is 18, and my mum is wondering what to get him for his xmas stockings got any ideas or sites?
sadie
i r8 it
xx (link)
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CD's, a new more expensive ipod with itunes cards and stuff, gift cards to stores he shops at, cold hard cash, and maybe a watch or some kind of other expensive jewlery
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I am currently "going out" with a 6th grader and I am an 8th grader. I normally like taller guys, but hes shorter. and hes really sweet.cute. and i like him a lot. but im so self concious and i worry too much about what other people think
is it too weird?
please give me honest opinions. (link)
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In my opinion boys should be older than the girls. In the scheme of a lifetime if he wuz an 8th grader and you were the 6th grader it would be perfect in my eyes, because most husbands and wives arent the same age, but i think its because your older that its odd, but hey thats just me.
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I dont have a best friend, I never did, I am not in a clique, and I dont have many friends. Sounds fun, right? Yeah right. There is a major clique problem in my school-- I figure, If i cant fix it, find the clique I fit in. Idont fit in any clique. The popular kids rule the school. I'm friends with indivudual Pop ular kids but together, i'm a no one. Most kids in my school dont like me, dont ask me why but i really want more friends. I tried out for cheer. and kick. and didnt make it, I was dissapointed because I really wanted to be part of a team. And have those girls to sleepover with and have my 'group'. Help?
I rate high!
(13/f) (link)
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Be friendly and nice to everybody. Talk to people your intrested in being friends with whenever you have the chance. Maybe have a party when you meet enough people. If people see that your cool with everybody and not just cool with a particular group people will like you for it. Some people might be jealous and not like you, but you dont want to be their friends anyways. Try confidence. Dont walk around like your a nobody. Be the happy person with friends that you've always wanted to be. Dont sulk or complain. Smile and walk with good posture.
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um is it harmful that i accidently swalloed a couple of my rubberbands for my braces..?
i keep forgetting to take them out when i eat,
so then late i notice one side of my mouth doesnt have it..
and then the other does, so i assume i ate it.
ahaaha.
uh yeah i think its okay is it? (link)
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Nothing will happen to you because you swallowed a rubber band. im just wondering how its going to come out. When you pick up your food remember that its going into your mouth witch has rubber bands.
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Ok so here's the thing I have a lot of acne. I tried everything proactive clearisil but it just won't work my mom doesn't want to buy me any expensive products. So I get teased in school. Any ideas?. Also I get teased because I have big lips. Any help?ideas? (link)
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They are definetly jealous of your big lips. Every girl wants big lips, even celebrities get injections to get what you have so ignore them about that. For the acne, Never go to sleep with makeup on. Wash your face when you go to bed, when you wake upn in the mornings, and when you get back from school. Use mild cheap cleansers that wont dry out your skin too much, but you dont want it really greasy because thats how you get acne. Dont touch your face often. Keep your hands really clean for when you do touch your face. If this fails, get some concealer to hide the flaws
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Okay, so I know like resisting a guy can be sexy - coy, maybe is a better word? - but like, how much is too much?
Like if your guy goes to kiss you and you turn your head away, or back off, but when he gives up figuring you don't want to be kissed, you like grab him and kiss him is that a good thing?
If you're teasing a guy and making him chase you like, how closed off should you be?
Is it good to give him little flirty looks, but ignore all his advances?
Opinions welcome =) (link)
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Resistance is good when flirting but sometimes too much is just playing games, messing with a guys head too much, which they hate. Moderation is key. It works better when its less often anyways. Like if you wink 5 times in 10 minutes, it just looks like you have something in your eye
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Well I have a boyfirned and evrything seemed to go well. Except when we started to become distant like we didn't talk that much anymore. I don't know what to do. It seems like he doesn't care about me like he used to. Now I go like 1 week without talking to him and I'm not in the same school as him. I don't know what to do anymore. What could I do or say?...I have no idea. Should I brake up with him. But I really like him I'm so confused please help. (link)
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You need to talk to him and ask him whats up. If he gives a good answer stay but make sure he makes an effort to talk to you, like he used to. If he gives a bad answer tell him its over. Long distance relationships are hard so you may wanna get it over with now
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i feel sad and depressed all the time no one understands me and i want to find someone who will say that they love me but i can't i just want to die. i know i sound like i am wallowing in self pity but i just feel so sad and alone. i asked this one guy out and i was rejected my mom says i am stupid and i am just feeling so alone what can i do? (link)
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Of all things, dont kill yourself. Dont be sad over boys. They come and go. Are you religious? God loves you. Your family love you even if they dont act like it. Try religious guidance, or antidepressants perscribed my a doctor. Try a therapist, or just talk to someone. Anyone
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okk, i'm in 8th grade, but when i go to highshool next year, i wanna be apart of something like a club. im super girly. soo.. sports, i dont think so. i did the whole cheerleading thing & dance.. so drop that. i was good at it, but i didnt wanna go to all those practices. aha but like, what else can i do??? (link)
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Where I'm at, this is the order for the girly activities. Drama,Volleyball,Flute,Tennis,and field hockey.
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this guy was gonna kiss me but i backed away because i was afraid my breath would smell
or he wouldn't like my breath and embarrass myself how do i make my breath less smelly and how do i know if he likes it (link)
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Good hygene works. Try a prebrush rinse before you brush for it to be more effective. Make sure your mouthwash, prebrush rinse, and toothpaste are sugar and alchol free. Sugar and alchol will make your breath stink. Floss, and try a tounge scraper to get plauge off your tounge. Brush at least twice a day, and after meals that would make your breath stink like onions,garlic and stuff. At least chew sugarfree gum, or pop sugarfree mints. That wont make your breath stink.
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So i was talking to this guy, hes older than me by 3 years. Well the other day he asked me how old i was again because he forgot and i told him 15 and hes like o gotta go. no jk.. and then i was like alright how old r u again( i was jus making sure) and hes like old enough to know better nah jk again. What did he mean by old enough to know better? Thanks in advance! (link)
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He thinks because hes 18 hes to old enough to no not to mess with teenagers. Sounds like a jerk to me.
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I got a couple of pumpkins for my porch a week or so ago, and they slowly got little bits taken out of them day by day. Then, yesterday I caught a squirrel munching on them. I would really like to put a bunch of pumpkins on the porch, but don't want to have a bunch of moldy pumpkins with holes all through them on my porch.
Anyone know of any way to deter a squirrel. Hopefully without poison or a pellet gun. (link)
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Kinda like what the first person said, but i think hot pepper or peppers cut in half would do well. It will irritate the squirrels alot, just like curry powder would. So would pretty much any other spicy or salty seasoning
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I basically had no clue what to put this question under, but here it is.
I'm 14 years old & I've been drunk 3 times.
I'm not a bad drunk at all.
I'm a person who's wound up pretty tight & I use alchohol to do things I don't even think about doing unless I'm drunk. Not that it's bad I just don't have the guts to do anything.
I guess I'm asking if this is a bad thing.
I mean, am I like, sinning or anything?
I'm not that religious but I'm still nervous.
I only drink around family, I wouldn't think of doing it around anyone else.
And if it is bad... how can I stop?
I don't really even like alcohol, I like the effect.
Thank you. (link)
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You are sinning. The Bible says somewhere i think in Proverbs that wine is a mocker and anybody who gets intoxicated by it is a fool. something along those lines. then i think the Bible says drunkards dont inherit the Kingdom of The Lord aka Heaven. If your family drinks and you only drink with them, fine. Dont get drunk though, try a glass or one beer a day. Let your family restrict you by not letting you have more than what you can take. As you get older it will take more alchol to make you drunk and you may do stupider things when you get drunk. By then you'll need proffessionall help
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Hey...i'm doing a connected text at school and my subject is books that have caused a lot of controversy. I've got one, The Da Vinci Code and I've already read it but now I need another one to connect it with.
Any book titles or authors would be really helpful!
thanks!! (link)
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I heard The Outsiders by SE Hinton caused some controversy. Any religious books cause trouble, like the book of Mormom or the book that the Wiccans use
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when you're at a dance, how do you get guys to come up and dance with you? (link)
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depends on how you want him to dance with you. if you wanna guy to grind with you or something, flirt with him, give him alot of eye contact, or do that come here finger curl thing and get in front of him and just do it. if you want to slow dance, flirt with him, then wait for him to ask you. after about 2 songs if he hasnt asked you yet, ask him.
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Is this normal weight for a thirteen year old-- 105 pounds and 4'11 or 5'0. Thanks. (link)
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it doesnt matter what age you are it just matters on how tall and how much you weigh. either way its a great place to be weight wise, seeing as you could gain or loose weight and be perfectt
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