Get your mom to ask your dad about it. Especially when its just on the toilet, I hope you mean in the toilet, but on has to be fixed. So, you need to say, "mom, everytime I go to use the bathroom, its not a pretty site, and I think it could be dad." Just explain it to her, she has to know.


-TheTeenGirl

To put this in the most appropriate way possible, in the teens years, what a guy likes about a girl are:

*Breasts
*Body image
*Glutiousmaximus (butt.)
*beauty in the face (in other words, pretty.)

What guys like for girls to do with them is basically a sexual act. The making out, sex, and hardly romance or a relationship. I'm sorry I hardly gave you anything, but remember to not say all guys are like this, most are.



-TheTeenGirl

Ok, well, reading this whole thing, and going back to, "but i wouldn't call my self bi..." confuses me. I don't think its nasty, I mean, I'm straight, but I'm not 'offended.' But, either you are bi, or a lesbian, because just experimenting with eating a girl out and wanting to, is an act of those. Experimenting with making out, is ok, because you know that someday you will make out with a guy, and wanna know what its like. But, with a guy, being straight, you will never "eat someone out." But, this is mainly up to you. But, you sound insecure about your sexuality, if you think that you are straight, I think that you are wrong, or else you wouldn't want to do this, sure, you can think about it, I'm sure its crossed every girls mind, but actually doing it 'just to experiment' is different. So, basically, what I am saying is to think this over, do you really want to? Does it seem wrong to you? So, I say its up to you.


-TheTeenGirl

No, you are not. You were drunk and they took advantage of you is what happened, you do crazy things when you are drunk. Hanging out with those girls is not a good idea anymore, especially because they weren't drunk! You are definetly not bi, the only chances you have of being bi, is if you know yourself you like girls too, but you were drunk, even straight girls have made out when drunk and their sexuality didn't change because you aren't yourself when drunk. So, I'd say to stay away, or else you won't wake up dressed next time.


-TheTeenGirl

Oral is when you use your mouth on 'private areas' while 'real sex' is anything other than that. (penis in vagina.)


-TheTeenGirl

*"i'm really ugly, shy and boring"

*"i have nothing to live for really, i wont ever get married or have a life. seeing as i look bad"

*" i hate everything about myself"

*" i hate myself so much"

These are your 4 major statements that stand out in your question. That is the root of your low self-esteem problem. Not only would you tolerate people telling you that you're ugly, but you say it to yourself on a daily basis. The path you're taking with yourself, will be a long way back home, I can already tell, but, I will try and help you. Every single day, I want you to do the following:

*Every morning when looking in the mirror, say "[YOUR NAME], you are beautiful, you are pretty no matter what, your personality is beautiful, which makes you beautiful."

*Take a piece of paper, look in the mirror, and take a look at everything on you, and write down every good thing about it. Example: My eyes are very pretty because of its rare color. My hair is really nice because its easy to take care of, and its color is very special to me.

*On the back of the paper, pretend you are a friend of your own, and write everything you love about her [yourself]. Write about how beautiful you are if you had a best friend just like you, write about how nice they are. Write very nice things about yourself.

*What will really help is if you go to a friend, mom, or dad, and ask them whats they love the most about you, and ask what quality is best, and ask them what is the best looking on you.

*Try adding some make up and tell yourself whats best about it on YOU. Don't compliment it on a friend, don't compliment the make up color, say, "hey, this looks very good on you because...."

There is absolutely nothing wrong with writing good things about yourself. Being self confident is something special to have, its so much better than hating yourself all the time, and if people ever say that you are not a beautiful girl, then don't speak to them, because they are wrong, and they are rude. You have to make sure that you know that you're beautiful, do not try to accomplish making everyone love your looks, the important thing is that you know yourself truly that you are a beautiful young women. I hope I helped.


-TheTeenGirl

If you aren't enjoying college, and its killing you, then talk to your mom about it. But, maybe you should finish since you are doing so well, but you should really consider talking to your mom about it first. And, your dad, and tell them you really wanna make them proud, but your not feeling good at all doing it, and you wouldn't do it just to get out of working hard, but, maybe you should get your parents comfort, and if you know it will help your future, maybe you need to stay, because, no child actually wants to be in school, but they are made to go, and it pays off for your future plans. But, explain to your parents how unhappy you are.


-TheTeenGirl

I'm sorry you feel this way, but if you feel theres something wrong, they can probably help you, you might be just feeling some sadness because you miss your parents being together all the time, happily married, but now you pobably feel like they hate each oither, but they don't. And then, you have your friends if you feel like getting away from all of the stress you feel at home. But, you should try not worrying about what could be wrong, just try looking at positive things about the divorce, here, like this:

*No more fighting in the house

*None of your parents won't feel sad anymore because of fights

*You basically get two houses. (lol.)

Your friends don't have a perfect life, trust me. Theres no such thing as perfect anything. I'm sure you have heard them complain abot their weight, height, looks, how they wish they looked like a celebrity, how they wish their parents didn't make so many rules, theres no perfect in anyone elses family. You can talk to me anytime if you need a friend.

-TheTeenGirl

Corey sounds like he moves too fast. He liked you, says he wants you, couple of days later, he wants your best friend, so really,I think you should save your time and forget about this guy, sorry I didn't answer your question, but I am telling you that this guy is most likely not worth your time.

-TheTeenGirl

I honestly think that Jeremy is your guy. Here are my reasons:

*No guys worth it if if they are "a little bit" of a player.
*The boyfriend hugs up on other girls while his curent girlfriend is not around, which is never ok.
*Jeremy shows signs of liking you, hes nice, the only ting I see in him that bothers me is that he hugged you while having a curent girlfriend, he should just wait until afterwords.

But yes, I say go with Jeremy.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, the one whose following the crowd, get her out of that crowd by getting her parents involved, there is no good reason to let this go on. Don't warn her, you can try, but shes probably going to go to her mom first and be in serious denial, and she probably won't listen to you. If you care about her at ALL, then you will get her mother involved, and she will be upsetv with you, but at least she will not be leaving anymore sick away messages or "being cool."

-TheTeenGirl

Think about who you've spend most of your time with, and be honest to yourself, and if it turns out its your other friend, then you guys should start all hanging out and having fun all together, and tell her you admit that theres been more time spending but it doesn't mean you're lying when you say you like them both equally.

-TheTeenGirl

If you shave there, thats probably it, but if you didn't shave there recently, then you need to get to a doctor, theres a possible chance of STDS.


-TheTeenGirl

Well, I guess this situation depends upon your decision. Meaning the question would be, "Do I want to go?" If you want to go and feel sure that he won't, then go ahead, but if you really think that something will happen because he still likes you, I think you need to stay, my opinion, you should stay, because he still likes you, but this is probably more of a thing you need to decide.

-TheTeenGirl

Oh, thats really sad, please don't ask how to lose weight for a guy, I don't mean to show you that stupid but real quote on your answer, but you're beautiful in your very own ways. A guy needs to accept you for this, and someday they will, just not now because you're probably in middle or high school. Guys in their teen years are not the best guys to hook up with at the time, you are not alone in this. Life may suck right now because you aren't in love and happily in love, but there are still lots of other things until then, hang with your friends, and talk to any friends that are girls that you have, because they are probably more mature than your guy friends. But don't give up hope now, and you are a unique person I bet! But, nobody probably notices because you may not be the talkative type, and thats ok, but you don't need to lose weight for a guy. The only reason you should ever lose weight is:

*If you are dangerously overweight, which you aren't.
*And if you are doing it for yourself and not to impress someone.

Please, I don't know you, but I am begging you to try to survive and live life like a child, like you are, and you should be, if you need anyone to talk to, you can instant message me at Evanescence0o01. Don't hesitate, I will talk to you.

-TheTeenGirl

Hi Jenna, thank you for asking me, think about this for me, if your friends are making fun of you and hurting your feelings, they aren't really being friends. So maybe you should consider telling them that it is hurting you when they say these things, and if they don't listen like friends should, then you shouldn't hang out with people who treat you like this, and you can do this by giving them the silent treatment until they either say they are sorry and never do it again, or until they stop trying to talk to you, but don't fight with them, because its letting them get the best of you.

-TheTeenGirl

I hope you didn't give out where you live, but the best solution is probably to change your screen name and password to get away from him completly. But, if he only knows what you look like, then he can't get you, the only way he could know is if you gave out your address.

-TheTeenGirl

Well, if its making you uncomfortable, then you should tell him, or confront your mom, but I think you should confront your mom about the situation no matter how you feel. I mean, shes practicly lying to both of you, and your mom isn't respecting her own daughter. So, you need to say, "Mom, one day I was on your computer, I saw whats been going on with this guy and the Seattle situation." And if she gets upset, say, "Hey, I knew it was wrong to look, and I am sorry, but I'm not feeling happy about you lying to me." But, try being calm and the conversation won't be as dramatic. I hope you get through this.


-TheTeenGirl

I really don't think it matters, I am a girl, I know, but why should girls have to wear make-up guys want them to wear? No girl should have tro dress the way a guy wants her too, guys should like the way we look, and if they don't, then tough luck for them.

-TheTeenGirl

This is definetly an act of bulemia. Yes, go to somebody to get her the help she needs. You need to tell her that either she needs to tell someone, or you will. Warn her about it, and try assuring her that it will be ok, your best friend will probably be angry, and she will be in denial. But you have to do whats right for her, you don't want her to be in anymore danger than she is now. So I am hoping that you will go straight to someone as soon as possible.

-TheTeenGirl

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