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How should I feel (family)
My mom broke up with my dad 9 years ago, and has been living with my stepdad since. I was on her computer, and found that she has been flirting with a guy from Texas (thousands of miles away), and they are planning on meeting in Seattle this weekend.
She hasn't told anyone about it, like me, my stepdad, ect. She said she was going to Seattle for a "craft get-together".
Should I be really upset, storm out, and demand to live with my dad? Or be happy for her that she is happy...and having an affair. I guess I'm still in shock.
I'm a 16 year old girl, and I'm not sure how to react. It was probably wrong to look on her computer, but I just had a hunch.
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ASk your mom and talk to her. You need her side of the story first. Getting angry never solves anything. It actually makes things worse. Confront your mom and explain that you read her email and you are conserned about her seeing a guy. You might just be suprised that they are friends. Everyone flirts its like human nature. There is a possiblity that you are right and you might help you mother get out of it because every mother wants to set a good example for her child!
Good luck,and i hope your not right about your mother!
**Bridgette**
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Your mom is wrong for lying. Since I don't know her personally, I can't predict her reaction, but perhaps you should talk to her about this, calmly and in private. Let her know how you feel and that you think it's wrong. If she gets angry at you for going through her stuff, than ask to first resolve the bigger issue of her affair before you talk about you being on her computer.
Cheers!
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hmmmmm thats tough to say. i would try my best to keep it to myself. if you tell her you know she will act weird around you. if you tell ur step dad then your moms going to get a divorce and like hate you and then you can live with your dad. so pick between telling your step dad and your mom getting another divorce or keeping it to yourself. i would keep it to myself because i know how it is to have 2 divorces because my sister is 33 and has already had 2 and its made her really depressed. i wouldkeep my family together and happy. hope i helped
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airhead
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If you want your mum to spend the next 20 years commenting on your relationships, go right ahead and get involved in hers.
Or just stay out of it as frinkly, this is between her and your stepdad and me.....I mean the guy in Texas.......not me.....no certainly not me....aww crap.
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honestly hun you need to talk to your mom about it. that isnt cool for her to be meeting up with someone. shes lying. i would get really upset. shes not even gunna tell you where shes gunna REALLY be. heaven for bid but what if something by chance happend to her? think about it.
best of luck.
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well first of all you were wrong too go onto her computer b.c that is her business but if u had a hunch and you found out that your hunch was true first go up to your mom in private and tell her the honest truth sure she might get mad but its easier then keeping it bunched up inside of you and if that doesnt work out then go to your step dad and tell him to talk to your mom b.c if adults talk its easier they know how to handle it and if you wanna live wit your dad thats your choice if your worried about ur mom and step-dads relashion ship
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Well, if its making you uncomfortable, then you should tell him, or confront your mom, but I think you should confront your mom about the situation no matter how you feel. I mean, shes practicly lying to both of you, and your mom isn't respecting her own daughter. So, you need to say, "Mom, one day I was on your computer, I saw whats been going on with this guy and the Seattle situation." And if she gets upset, say, "Hey, I knew it was wrong to look, and I am sorry, but I'm not feeling happy about you lying to me." But, try being calm and the conversation won't be as dramatic. I hope you get through this.
-TheTeenGirl
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You should be mad, but I think you should talk to your mom and have her explain what she's doing. Don't tell your stepdad, since it's really none of your buisness, but make sure your mom talks to him, since it's only fair that he knows what's going on.
Hope I helped!
Ke
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you should talk to your mom about this and you might be able to know what she was thinking
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Your 16..and your not stupid. im almost 16 and i have found out secrets my parents were meaning to keep. Confront your mom..she shouldnt expect to keep it a secret forever. You have a right to be mad..because what shes doing is wrong. But on the other hand..being happy for her is goo too. Whatever your opinion is..i think you should tell her. Dont sit back and let her do this without confronting her..iy will drive you nuts. Perhaps if you confront her..you can talk her into breaking up with your stepdad..or breaking up with the other guy. When i found out something from my dad..i wasnt sure how to react either..but life likes to throw these curveballs at you..what you can do is to make the best out of this..example : try and be happy your mom is happy and to have a heart to heart talk with your mom.
-melissa-
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Aww, hey. You have the right to be mad, but at the same time be happy that she is happy. Dont demand to live with your dad, just play it cool. If it comes up be like so how was the man you met with? Cutter than dad? You know? Dont act like you were looking at her comp. purposely just say you had a project or assignment and had to look on the comp.
♥ Michelle
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Tough decision. If I were you, I would calmly bring it up in conversation and say "you know mom, I read your computer, and i know what you`ve been up to in Seattle." Dont yell or scream, REMAIN CALM! Be happy that your mother is happy, but try to get her to state the truth to your stepfather because hes the one whos getting hurt in this affair.
Please rate! Hope I helped!
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