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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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i am 13 and i am trying to find a job that pays pretty good money. i live in pa. any ideas of places like restaurants that you can think of?

There are none. Nobody will hire a child to work in their establishment due to child labor laws. It would be illegal of them to hire someone your age, and will simply never happen. Most places hire at around 16, or 17. Some places will take 15, and some won't. Some only want 18 year olds, some don't. Every place is different, but I can also tell you everyone is the same when it comes to a 13 year old employee. A 13 year old employee is a myth.

You can try babysitting or mowing the lawn, but that's all you'll be able to do at your age.

i like this boy and he likes me and he said we would go out if i sent him a pic txt of my boobs or me naked wat should ido please help

He doesn't like you. He's a jerk who is only going to use you for sex and make you look stupid. Sending him those pictures is wrong, and shows that you have no respect for yourself. If you have no respect for yourself, nobody else will have respect for you either.

Stop texting him and delete his number. He's a jerk & he's only going to hurt you for his sick pleasure. Tell him to go to hell.

i really want a cartilage piercing but im really scared of a couple things ...
1. does it hurt when they put the needle through??
and does it hurt ALOT after wards
2. does it get caught in your hair or clothes?
3. how long does it take to heal and how long b4 i can change it ..some ppl say it take 1 year to fully heal is that true?

thankss in advance :)
julia

can i be pregnant from pregnant...what are the chances?... me and my bf did the pull out method..and iam afraid to do the preg test cause iam scared what results i will get

You can most certainly be pregnant! The pull out method is NOT effective, and should not be used. I would definitely take a pregnancy test if I were you. I don't care if you're scared or not. If you have unprotected sex, it's your responsibility to take the test.

my wife says she has bulimia - she is a healthy 24 y/o, weight approx 54kg - but after a meal if she thinks shes eaten too much she will go and throw up, she has been doing this for years - what can i do to help her ?

Take her to therapy. If you continue to allow this to happen, it'll only get worse. Bulimia can kill. Do not let this behavior continue. Get your wife help.

im 14 and lately ive been getting erections quite a lot ive been feeling horny a lot lately is that normal feeling? my penis is about 5 inches long is that a normal size?

Both are completely normal. 5 inches is average size for a male, so you're fine. If you're horny, just masturbate. There's nothing wrong with it. It's healthy! :)

well i have a boyfriend tht i like alot but hten theres is this other guy tht i like too..i just dont know wat to do..im 16 yrs old...gettin ready to turn 17..my boyfriend is 19 and the other guys is 22....

If I were you, I'd just break up with your boyfriend & stay single.

No matter who you're with, it's pretty much illegal anyways. It also isn't fair of you to stay with your boyfriend if you've got feelings for someone else.

I personally think you should just leave both of them alone. Your boyfriend can probably do better, and the 22 year old could do without going to jail.

Can i be pregnant if im a virgin and my boyfriend came near my vagina but not in it

It's highly unlikely.

If you're going to have sex, use a condom. Don't take chances like this.

hello :) im wonderin which one of these piercings i should get. im turnin 16. i already have 3 holes in each ear plus my cartilage in the right one. i have my nose and belly button also.

either one of these id get on the left ear. which one do you guys think i should get ?
if you need a picture to visualize my advice column is sweeethoney.

thank yall in advance

I personally think the Double Conch piercing is really cute. I'd go with that.

Does anyone know the kind of moisturizer Nail Salons use when giving pedicures? It smells like strawberry-ish and it's light pink. It's amazing

I went on Google and searched for Nail Salon Supplies and clicked on one of the first links I saw. I then clicked Pedicure, and then Products.

It has a whole list of stuff they may use on your feet when giving pedicures. I'm not sure if they'll have what you're looking for, but I'd give it a try & just search some other sites.

http://www.idonails.com/shop/index.php?cPath=27_189&osCsid=2c04471185d8dcf03f0ba2a2d11df3a6

I just got a Facebook, and found some people I haven't seen since third grade on the site (I am 17). Would it be odd if I posted something on their Wall saying "hello" out of nowhere? I found them through others' friend lists.

Not really. That's what Facebook was made for. It was for keeping in touch. I have a friend on there that I've known since first grade. Another that I've known since pre-school (but hung out with around 9th grade).

I don't think it'd be weird at all.

I was reading about people lining up like crazy to watch a really bad movie film called The Room (Wiseau films; written, directed, and stars Tommy Wiseau) and that it was pretty shocking how many people have shown up to see it. It really is being referred to as the worst movie ever made--they THINK it was suppose to be a love story drama. haha They are also considering a sequel to The Room!!! So, I was just wondering something pretty simple...

What's the WORST movie you have ever seen?

I have a number of "worst" movies that I've seen:

Crank
We Own the Night
A Scanner Darkly
Transmorphers

...Yours?

Year One.
The Comebacks.
Dr. Doolittle.
Norbit.

I really don't like movies with Jack Black, Will Ferrell or Eddie Murphy because I think they try WAY too hard to be funny. I walked out of the movie theatre about 15 minutes into The Comebacks. It was literally that horrible and I would never suggest that anyone watch it.

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okay, so im 15 years old and going into my sophomore year of high school. i have never had a boyfriend nor have i ever been kissed. (i know lame) the reason is i dont understand why. i am not bragging when i say this, but people have told me that i am a very attractive girl even model pretty. i am not heavy either. i guess you could say i am shy. i am not slutty like most girls and i have goals. i really dont understand why i cant get a boyfriend or even a boy to kiss me. i guess im picky i dont know? but every boy i seem to like never likes me back

It's not lame. There's nothing wrong with having not been kissed or dated at your age. You're young, you don't need a boyfriend right now. You shouldn't need one to feel good about yourself either. People like other people who have confidence. If you don't believe in yourself or like yourself, how can you expect someone else to?

Nothing wrong with being picky, but try not to be too picky or have your standards set too high when it comes to guys because it'll be harder to find one if you set the bar too high. Right now though, don't worry about it. Worry yourself with school and friends or something. Boys aren't so important right now. You're 15. Be 15.

hi!

i'm planning to attend the University of Arkansas. i would like to major in psycology and become a psycologist ( shrink ). i've been on the webiste to see what kind of classes i would have to take and stuff..and i really just wanna know if i would have to only take a few medical classes..or if i would have to go to medical school..but i cant find anything on the website.
can anyone help me?

You don't need to go to a Medical school to obtain a career in Psychology. You can go to schools that offer the courses and the degrees for it.

http://www.uscollegesearch.org/psychology-colleges.html

i'm a 15 year old girl and never in my life have i been so so sad. i went to camp for about 10 days and i met someone that i really really really like. i live in a place 10 hours a plane ride away from him, and because i'm young, i can't just decide when i go and visit him.

the next time i'll probably see him is in probably like half a year to a year and it hurts me so much to think about the fact that i like him - so much that i got over a guy ive liked for a year. and im so so scared that he'll get over me - and i'm pretty sure he will. and i don't even know if he really likes me.

and hes a musician and he said he would write a song for me - and i'm scared once that song comes (if it ever does), i'll fall for him all over again and its gonna hurt me so bad.

i've never been so sad and heartbroken and it kills me all the time. i really don't know what to do.

some people will probably say back off from him but i'm scared because i kinda wanna keep in contact with him so that we can still be friends - or even more. i know its extremely unrealistic to have a long distance relationship beacuse that would be very very hard. i really like him.

what should i do?

While I think you should move on with liking him, who in the world said long distance relationships don't work? I'd like to meet them!

My boyfriend (who I've been with for a year) were long distance for the first 7 months of our relationship. I then moved out of my house the day after I turned 18 to move in with him, and I've been in California ever since. Long distance relationships most certainly CAN work, but you just need to trust the other and have a good bond of communication.

If you'd like to keep in touch with him, why not ask for his MySpace, Facebook or phone number? Establish a relationship with him and see where things take you. Just remember that lots of relationships don't last but just because that's so, doesn't mean you shouldn't pursue them. Who knows? He could become your boyfriend & maybe even your first love! :)

Don't be so pessimistic and assume the worst. Chances are you'll make a great new friend. Don't be shy, just ask.

alright, so, My ex who lives in america, broke my heart really bad by doing numerous things, he went to a wedding and told me he saw a hot blonde who looked like me, he asked a girl what her answer would be if he was single(whilst he was with me) and numerous other things as well. I realsize now it was stupid of me to think a long distance relationship like this would actually work, he hurt me real bad

Now, a close friend of mine, who is like a sister has recently told me she has a crush on him. The guy and i broke up three weeks before she told me this. She says she likes him but wants to tell him she likes him, point is im worried that he's going to do exactly what he did to me to her. and She is much more vulnerable than me in that shes a very emotional person, also its going to upset me alot if she dates my ex. As i'll have a constant reminder of him in my life, which i really dont want.
So what im asking is what should i do to make the situation good on both parts? i dont want to loose her...but i also am really against this relationship. He doesnt like her in that way but i dont want her to be hurt becuase of him.

female 15

If he doesn't like her, then what are you so worried about? You cannot protect your friends (no matter how hard you try) because everyone is bound to get hurt regardless of what you do.

You're 15. Your friend is the same age I'm guessing? No relationship lasts at 15 years old. If he does decide to date her (which I doubt), it's not going to last.

You can't be jealous of the relationship either. He hurt you, and that's that. You're not with him anymore so for you to feel or be territorial over him would be wrong & unfair of you. You're better off without him, and you should realize that. Chances are he won't be in your life forever (because nobody ever is, believe it or not).

I'd just say get over it. Your friend can like who she wants, you can't protect her, and you don't own him.

I wear pads when I have my period, but the only way I can sleep without staining the bed is on my front. I think that position is contributing to my monthly back pains. Any advice?

I would switch to tampons. Pads tend to be easier to soak through, and they're just uncomfortable in general.

When I wore pads, I almost always bled threw whether I was sleeping, at school, etc. It was embarassing. With tampons, I didn't & don't have that problem. They're much more comfortable (you don't feel every leak & can dress comfortable).

Just make sure you don't wear them for longer than 8 hours, and make sure that you use the absorbancy that goes hand in hand with your flow. You need to remember that tampons cause TSS and it is a fatal disease. But if you're careful it won't happen. :)

I've read a few news articles about President Obama trying to make a new health care plan since it's very expensive here for decent health care but I haven't quite grasped the whole plan of action as it sits so far. I feel stupid for not quite understanding what is suppose to be happening with the health care plan or what Obama has really said about it. Can somebody kind of fill me in on the details in words I can actually understand? I know the health care bill is really important and I really should know what is going on...

http://www.barackobama.com/issues/healthcare/

Next time use Google.

I heard on the radio that Amy Winehouse (sings "Rehab") died today sometime! I'm way shocked, if so because she looked fairly young to me. I mean, I guess it could be drugs, suicide, or murder but...still! Wow.
Is it really true?

No. The world could only be so lucky.

nice, intelligent, loves sex, and has a good body?

If I was a guy, certainly not. Even as a female, I would never classify that as a perfect girl.

No.

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