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My mom and I dont get along. For example, i listen to music revolving around Harry Potter (wizard rock) she says Im doing it to purposefully annoy her since she doesn't like it.
I explained that i was not doing it to annoy her and I really did like to listen to it.
She said that if i listened to it in private (headphones, when shes not in the room.
So, today i was dancing to one of them, with my headphones in and when she wasn't there, like she said. I was having a good time. She came down and blew up at me because i was listening to it. I reminded her of what she said and she shouted she never said that. (note: her memory is fine) then she said
"maybe i should call your teachers and tell all them how disrespectful you are, and how they think you're a perfect angel. But really a brat!"
I did what she told me to!
Please give me some advice, i really dont want to lose my music!
Ps: there is nothing bad in my music.
Thank you! (link)
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Her parents probably said the same thing about the Beatles. Every kid who is now an adult had this issue. You can listen to whatever music you like and she cannot stop that.
Unless the lyrics are talking about things that are morally wrong or disturbing and disgusting music from Harry Potter or any musical genre won't affect you adversely long term. She is being unreasonable.
What would I do? Give her the liner notes from the CD, allow her to listen and show her that it has no negative affect. Also, volunteer to listen to other types of music she likes if you can keep yours to yourself and your own ears. Maybe tone down dancing to it in her immediate vision.
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I'm 15 and a girl. I masterbate almost every night. Is it bad? My parents don't know I do but I'm always scared of getting caught. (link)
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I agree with the columnist who previously responded so have a few small things to mention that could help you here having been in your shoes. Although a male this applies to females too about privacy.
Your parents probably are well aware and or expect that you are doing this and aren't worried or phased by it? Why? It's pretty much a universal thing with your age group and they know it's normal and suspect it and wouldn't bat an eye-lash if you did.
Chances are they never discussed it because it embarrasses them or they don't want to embarrass you by talking about it. I suspect probably and most likely worst of all they think your school told you in health class all about and they need not do so.
I would bet that even if they did catch you that all they would do is ask you to be discreet, always make sure you are alone and tell you it's perfectly okay and answer any questions you may have about it.
Even if they caught you it would only be embarrassing in the moment and forgotten shortly after and you would be given more privacy all around. I can say that much having been caught myself at your age.
Unpleasant but not a bad thing overall or permanently damaging as it opened up a dialogue on it and sex. They pretty much suspected it and didn't care if I did it as long as discreet and taking measures to be private.
Most parents are against kids having locks on their doors. I'm against locks except for slide locks or a little lock like a hook that can go in a loop and keep the door open somewhat but prevent entry until you open it for someone. Maybe that might be an option so that people don't just bust into your room (siblings). Parents at night wouldn't enter or in the day for that matter without knocking but I can see you needing privacy more often.
It may be hard to do but I think you should have a mother-daughter chat about this subject and ask if it's okay to do and that you are concerned about your privacy for this and a variety of reasons and have her put you at ease. It won't bother her at all and if you have siblings may open a family dialogue later on about masturbation as they may be dealing with this issue too. And believe me your mom was probably in a situation like this as a teen herself or your father for that matter. It's normal to do this so relax about this.
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Hello Advicinators. I am a 13 year old female living in the midwest region of the USA. I'm bullied quite frequently at school, and I want to stop going to tis school for that reason. I've never gone to another school but I feel that it may be better. When I was 11 I started cutting myself to deal with everything. My parents are recently divorced, my mom does drugs and so does my grandma, and my dad can be lazy so I always have to take care of my younger sister, who is 11.
I am very unhappy with my life. I feel ugly and fat, worthless, used, scarred, and that i do not deserve the very oxygen that I am breathing. I have tried some medications but they don't seem to work very well. In short, I'm done. I can't fix me. I've can't stop cutting. I've lost all hope. I think about suicide constantly. I tried twice before. The first time I cut was 1, the second I took sleeping pills slit my wrists in the bath. I am seeing a phycaiatrist. I hate her. I feel as if people only put up with me to get what they need. Help me know why I am like this. I want to stop tis but I don't have anyone to talk to. Don't just say Oh your beautiful and you shouldn't kill yourself (link)
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The thing with the psychiatrist is that this person actually is your best-friend. You can't see it right now but they are your advocate and are only there to make you well.
You may dislike what she has to say (that's common) or think she's against you but she's not. She also can't tell you exactly what you want to hear either all the time or allow your illness to dictate the show.
I'm not judging you because I've been where you are right now with this. You aren't well and need her help more than you are aware or perhaps more than your parents can see.
Yes it's totally shitty that your mother and her mother are addicts and that dad's having a hard time raising a 13-year-old girl but he hasn't given up on you.
What you need to do is schedule an appointment with the psychiatrist and tell them you really need to talk openly with her but don't believe you are in crisis mode.
You can call anytime actually with a concern. When you see her tell her your self-esteem, body-image and self-worth are at ZERO and that you are always scared and feel as though you're sucking up too much oxygen and don't have a sense of direction.
Be honest as she can go right to work on these issues with you. But.. You have to be honest and work with her rather than against. If she asks you to work on something and do it follow through as you have to work together as right now you aren't and you're setback a lot. Talk about the cutting.
Then again, if you tried killing yourself previously and are only now hearing voices telling you to attempt again go directly to the hospital and have them summon her as you are in crisis and need hospitalized. You aren't well and as you may harm yourself need medical evaluation and treatment.
You shouldn't be afraid to tell the truth as it's your life in the balance. I know that once you come out from all this that you'll see that there's a lot of opportunity and living to do and that this is just one thing that once confronted will lie in the background. I think you know the responsible thing to do here.
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She threatened me with it yesterday. I don't know if she was serious but I'm a bit nervous about it.
Tom (link)
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If I were you I would speak with her instructor. Don't pull her out. Have him illustrate that what she is learning can be deadly and only used in that scenario, never practiced outside of class, nor threaten others with even in the context of a joke.
If he shows disappointment in her and senses she disrespects her parents he will get through to her better than you can about channeling anger correctly or he alone can say to her he doesn't want her to participate.
If you yank her out on your own you're the bad guy. Trust me hearing from Sensei that he's not happy over what she's said to you and how she treats her parents or you in particular will be motivation enough to get the attitude in check.
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I am a 14 year old girl and in the 8th grade. My family is very religious. My sister got straight A+'s in every year of school and college. I am trying to do my best but my mom says that im not trying at all. Whenever I ask her if she wants to do something with me she says she is busy but when my sister asks she says ok.
One more thing is my mom doesnt let me do anything!!
I wanted to watch a movie called Hocus Pocus, and my mom said it has witches and magic, and the bible says to stay away from it. (She also got mad at me because I started singing the spell/song, from the movie. When i was 5!!
I wanted to watch Harry Potter but she said no because the bible says to stay away from wizards and magic, and vampires and wolves. I looked and it only said evil!
Today, I drew a charachters name from Harry potter and my brothers And my mom got mad at me.
They also moniter my Fb account and made me give them the password to my email and FB account.
I feel like my family hates me!!! What do i do??!!
Any and all advice is appreciated. Thank you! (link)
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Perhaps your mother doesn't realize that you feel ignored by her. I'm sensing that even if your sister is older she may not be as mature and perhaps a lot more demanding on mom's time. She may see you are a teenager now and assume that you don't need her attention as much.
Rather than make it into an accusation example "You like her more or spend more time with her than me." approach it with tact and maturity as an adult would. Tell her that you would like more time to spend with her and understand your sister demands a lot of her. Let her know that you feel you only have her full attention when she's angry with you.
You aren't your sister but rather you and can't always score perfect marks. What you are studying is also different from your sister who is studying an area of focus therefore her A and your A in something so different means she shouldn't hold you to the same standard.
What I would do if I were you is get a teacher or counselor at school as your confidante and advocate. You can tell them anything private and they'll keep it so unless you are in harm from others or yourself. Tell them about your sister, mom's lack of interest and constant pressure over grades when you are performing well.
They can encourage you and hammer home to parents you're doing well but pressure ain't helping if you want. Sometimes it takes other adults to point out to adults how you are affected.
If you tell her how you feel in a grown up manner rather than whine she will be more willing to work things out so you feel as included. Maybe she thinks you're more into being independent and not needing her focus than you are. You could also have a family member talk to her about how you feel when you aren't around.
As far as movies go she thinks she is protecting you and also could be sheltering you so that you don't abandon the religion later by exploring and finding other stuff out on your own.
As far as I'm concerned there isn't a thing wrong with Harry Potter or any mainstream book or film if you understand reality versus fantasy and see it as entertainment. If she's upset about it happening at home than watch and read what you want when with friends.
Unless you are doing harm to yourself or others with Facebook it's a pretty innocent thing. Tell them you don't use it or create an account they have access to and a private one with your friends that you only know about and hold the password for and make sure they don't hear about it.
I normally say never deceive a parent but in this case you need it as a prime social tool. Tell your friends your dilemma and keep your Facebook secret and to yourself. Everything your family does is out of love but is unrealistic to expect.
What mom and dad don't get is that NONE of this is going to affect or change your belief in and bond with GOD one iota. If another adult who is on your side tells them this for you perhaps a lot of good may come from it.
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I am a junior in college now. Senior year of high school, which was 3 years ago, I had a huge crush in a girl at my school. I really wanted to ask her out to senior prom but I was always shy and I thought she was way to pretty for me and she would say no.
Recently, another friend from high school told me that the girl I liked really liked me too and wanted me to ask her out to senior prom too. I ended up asking my best friend's sister to prom that year. I have been thinking about it a lot lately, and even though it has been almost 3 years I don't know If i should tell her that I actually did like her a lot in high school.
Should I tell her that I liked her too? Should I ask her out on a date? Is it even worth a try? I haven't seen her in a while, but I'm not sure if there may still be a connection. (link)
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Find out if she is with someone or not. That's the most important part. Three years have gone by and there's a chance she may not remember you easily or has completely moved on from who she was or friend's with then.
You confessing how much you liked or still like her may make her uneasy. The best thing you could do is invite her to catch up for coffee or a movie and see if she is receptive and if it works build from there.
It's worth a try for sure but you have to do it subtly like this or she may get scared or blow you off if it comes randomly out of nowhere. There could be a connection but rather than confess all and ask for a date do things this way cause if she says no it will be an indicator before you stick your neck out of what she truly thinks.
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I have really wanted to give my husband a blow job in a public place for a long time. I have blown him while he is driving many times and I do love that but want to do something different. I love giving blow jobs and swallowing so that is not a problem. Any suggestion on a public but not too public place? (link)
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You two might have a death wish but those driving on the same road while you're doing this don't. It's irresponsible of you to risk people's lives while driving like this. You can lose control and kill yourselves or someone else.
When it comes to public places my advice is don't. There may be a thrill to it in your mind but if caught by anyone it won't be. You don't want to be charged with lewd conduct and have that affect your employment or other chances. Think twice.
That may not be the answer you wanted but the best place for sex is in your own place in private and not in the open outside or other public place as it could lead to arrest.
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I would like to know if there is a Mental Illness/Disorder that will make a person feel as if they are Demonically Possessed, and make them feel as if people are speaking to them, and they have small skits of their fears taking over?
If it makes sense, what would one be diagnosed with if they were to do such? (link)
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I have a lot of experience with mental illness. I can tell you that it would be impossible for anyone to tell you what disorder it is. A psychiatrist has to assess you for that.
Voices in your head that keep rushing at you endlessly don't always have to be sinister or ones asking you to harm yourself. Some can be comforting while others delusional thought an non-violent.
The previous columnist is right that those voices can convince you that you are anything and everything including controlling the universe or possessed or whatever your brain makes you believe or tricks you to.
If you are experiencing this you need to acknowledge you have a problem and are in crisis or headed into it if you don't. Proceed to the nearest hospital emergency room and tell the on-call psychiatrist everything and be brutally honest about the voices. They will diagnose and treat you properly.
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her older sister who is 22, is in jail for a year for fraud related charges. I wonder If I should take my other daughter who is 17, to visit her, but I am not sure I want her to be in a prison environment. I also hear it is a hassle to get in and you don't even get much time to even speak. Also seeing her sister in jail may also be a bad influence or image. Also, I don't want to give the younger daughter the idea we are encouraging or enabling her sister. If I do allow her what should I say to her beforehand? (link)
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Why not present the idea to her that while you don't approve of what she did that her younger sister can decide on her own to visit or not.
They have a bond and despite what her older sister did that love doesn't break. Let your younger daughter decide whether she visits or not. You aren't enabling anyone if you visit your daughter or her sister in jail.
Just because that's where she is does not mean you turn your back on her as parents or a family. That would send a very nasty message. Your younger daughter will no doubt get the image of where you end up if you break the law from it. Just tell her the truth about the situation and let her decide. She's an adult now and fully capable of saying what she wants to do.
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right so yeh I'm a 17 year old female and I'm still a virgin my ex boyfriend keeps spreading rumours saying we had sex and all that rubbish... my current boyfriend has discovered this rumour and threatened my ex if he told anyone else this what should I do?!?! "/ (link)
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Tell your parents what he has been doing and how he's harassing you in general. You can also confide this to teachers. Once you have adults on your side they can put a stop to it and you can escalate it and press harassment charges.
Sexual harassment of students is something your school will take deadly serious. Definitely tell adults who can dish out heavy duty punishment so richly deserved.
Tell your current boyfriend that you respect him for standing up for your honor but that he MUST not do anything or imply doing something physical to this guy. Why? That type of threat can get YOU and HIM in trouble or give the creep grounds to tell people you threatened him if you escalate with law enforcement.
The best thing you can do is resist the urge to retaliate or get revenge and let adults handle what he has been doing and punish him for it. Go to teachers and your parents first.
The guy's doing it because you dropped him or feels hurt for some reason justifies it. The best thing is not to react to it or show it's getting to you.
You can't control what others believe about you unfortunately but you do have every right not to be harassed daily with this rubbish.
If I were you I would tell your friends and girlfriends or classmates that the guy got nowhere and is doing this to bother you and a current boyfriend perhaps out of jealousy. Leave it at that. Choose not to be affected by the lie and others won't care when they hear it. Ask that they not confront him for any reason over it and let adults handle this.
Tell your parents and teachers at the same time immediately and ask them to handle it for you privately. He'll get punished but don't do any confronting or threatening be it from your boyfriend or you to him so nobody can come back at you for "harassing" him any or provoking something.
You KNOW what the TRUTH is so no matter what anyone else thought it can't erase that. So hold true to that and watch this get ironed out by the adults that care for you.
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What do i do if my boyfriend is four years older than me what do i do? (link)
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Legalities aside it's not age that should be the concern rather it's maturity level and a good match. If that is present the age difference won't be noticeable.
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Hi! So today I opened my legs and then a fart just came out.. Up front! It keeps happening everytime I open my legs!! Please help, I'm scared! Is there something wrong with me?? Does it have something to do with me not starting my period yet?! (link)
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I'm not female so I can only tackle 90% of your question but I know someone will have answers about trying to keep it from happening when you don't want it to.
Teens call this a "queef" or "vaginal fart" (which is a term that can be Googled) and essentially what it amounts to is air packed into the vagina that escapes back out. An example: during intercourse from thrusting air can escape and make a sound like a fart. But make no mistake it's not.
There is ZERO wrong with you physically at all. Every girl can have this problem. Nothing related to menstruation either. You're fine and no need to be frightened.
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Hey guys.. c: I got my period on Friday.. and I still haven't told my mom. I get realllyyy shy about personal body stuff... /: So I just wanted to get some ideas from you guys.. c: (link)
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It needs to be more personal than a text. If it's hard to talk about face to face write her a note and put it where it's in a spot only she would find it in.
She will be happy for you and will want to make sure you are comfortable and answer questions. Remember that she was you at your age and found talking about this or experiencing it as embarrassing as you might. Just remember that she's your friend in all of this.
I think she would feel sad about you being worked up over talking about it. You should be able to approach her about anything especially this.
Another way that is subtle would be to go to a grocery store or drugstore when she does and put a female product in the cart for yourself and leave it to her to talk about it later. Either way it's okay to tell her. Let her know you feel embarrassed either in your note or when she wants to talk. You'll be okay.
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Is masturbation normal?? If it is, can it get you pregnant?
Sorry, I'm a paranoid 11 year old :) (link)
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No need to be paranoid. I definitely know how you feel and relate having been there as a kid. A lot of parents don't educate their children adequately about it due to their own embarrassment or an assumption sex-education courses cover it in great detail when it doesn't always.
You can relax as it's a totally normal, healthy activity that will teach you a lot about your body so when you have a partner later in life you know how it responds and can communicate this to them. It cannot make you pregnant nor give you a disease or hairy palms or blind among other myths.
It's pretty much universal with teens/tweens of either sex. It's fine if you do it and fine if you do not. Nothing bad can come from doing it or enjoying it.
Females of all ages and males of all ages do so. It's just one of those things people don't openly talk about or admit to doing but rest assured your peers are likely doing it as do adults but would never admit. You're not abnormal at all. In fact in a lot of company.
77% of females statistically do so as do 90% of males at some point in life. Doctors will tell you it's perfectly normal and healthy if you ask them and have done so in articles/studies. So, you can relax as it's all perfectly fine.
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I got a small penis which is about 6 cm in length, i m afraid that it will afect my sex life in future, and um still 17 years old, i m afraid that it i wont be able to losse my girls viginity. And do da intercourse success fuly (link)
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Bigger isn't always better. The fact is the top 2/3 of the vagina have no nerve endings. The average size penis will more than suffice for intercourse. It's all about skill rather than size. Don't worry.
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Today this guy who everyone think I go out with, but I really can't stand(he likes me though), decided he was going to start poking me. I told him to not touch me, but he didn't stop. So, I told him to get the **** away from me. He continued to touch me and then tried to give me a hug. I pushed him away. He tried to poke me again, and this junior came up and told him to leave me the **** alone. This guy pushed him(the friend pushed the junior) and they almost fought. I needed to get home, so I left.
Why did this guy defend me? I barely know him. I only have my last period class with him and we don't even talk that much. I'm 15 and he's 16 or 17. He's always been nice, though. I don't know what to think, considering I've never been in a situation like this. Most people wouldn't even think to defend me. (link)
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It was common decency to do so chalk it out to that. He would have defended anyone in your situation if the person was assaulting you and wouldn't F-off when told to quit.
This doesn't mean he wants to be friends or more with you but perhaps he could. You should approach him to say thanks and ask if he would like to hang out sometime and see how he reacts to that or you could invite on a group activity. If he doesn't want to that's your sign he isn't interested.
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Since the beginning of the scool year I have liked this guy. About a month and a half ago we started to become realy good friends and my feelings have become way stronger. All my friends have noticed that we flirt A LOT! But he has a girlfriend who goes to another school and from what I hear she is not being completely faithful (but that's just a rumor.. she doesn't have the best track record). But me and this guy have a lot in common and I'm always getting asked if we are dating. I just don't know what to do. Everybody keeps telling me to tell him how I feel but I don't want that to make things awkward or to destroy our friendship. What should I do? By the way I am a female and I'm 14. (link)
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The first thing you have to figure out is if this guy is a natural flirt with friends who are women or not.
It's more a female thing than guys but sometimes when you are friends with someone and comfortable with that member of opposite sex it comes out and it can be something they don't even notice and they may only want to be a friend. But it does appear to be more than that doesn't it? Your gut seems to know it but does he?
If I were you I would be cautious in your approach. Say to him "I'm not looking to get involved in your personal affairs or relationship with so-and-so but I can't help but notice you both seem unhappy and I hate seeing you that way."
See what he says but beyond that stay the blankety-blank word out of their relationship woes because they both could turn on you and leave you hurt and alone.
If he's truly unhappy he will tell you especially if he's a true friend and really close to you. Then you can be a little cheeky and sly by saying "You really ought to considering fixing that. You never know there may be someone better you haven't noticed."
If he doesn't clue in he's hopeless ;) Doing it this way won't ruin your friendship but will let him know there's an option open for him without risking your neck and showing your cards completely.
As far as his girlfriend being a cheat SAY NOTHING. It's for him to figure out and if he does like her on some level still will piss him or both off. Doing things the way I outlined is classier and less risky. If you know in your heart something's right tell him in that manner.
If he seems to open up and realizes you mean YOU as the person interested than you can tell him "I didn't tell you this so you would end a relationship but letting you know for future reference. And tell him you were scared of ruining a friendship by being truthful but can't hide feelings easily. He'll understand and if he doesn't drop her in the future who knows what could happen.
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So this is gonna sound really weird but im a girl and I have been masturbating for longer than I can remember. I can remember balling up my blanket at pre school and grinding against it at nap time. I can remember doing it in first grade while thinking about my crush and making up these fantasies in my head like playing doctor. But I was just a little kid!! I can remember finally learning that what I was doing was even called masturbation! The weird part is I've always know to keep it a secret. Before I even knew what it was I never told anyone about it and I knew to only do it when I was alone. I guess what I'm wondering is.. How did I know what this was? How did I learn about feeling horny and pleasure from doing this and thinking about boy and girl encounters before I even knew what sex was? And I knew all of these fantasies without thinking of sex happening in them but just knowing they made me horny. I'm 17 now and I still masturbate on a regular basis. I've never used my fingers I still just rub up against a little piece of balled up blanket. I've never had sex and I don't feel like a nympho or anything like that. Also when I do do this, I reach a sort of climax where it feels really good and then I wanna stop because I'm not horny anymore. This can't be an orgasm right? It's not intense at all it's just kind of like a second or two of pleasure and then I can't get aroused again. Plus it takes me like less than a minute to get there. Any ideas? (link)
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Masturbation is not a sexual thing in childhood. Infants, toddlers, etc generally discover their genitals much like any part of the body on their own and discover that touching these body parts feel good. And that's why you have been doing it all this time.
Everything you describe is normal and typical but people just don't talk about it. Playing doctor and curiosity between sexes as children is normal and typical behavior.
As you became older as an adolescent and learned what you were doing could also be for sexual reasons you made that association we all do with it.
It's controversial belief but a lot of people in society are waking up to the fact that we are born with some knowledge of sexuality which might explain how you arrived eventually at all the pleasurable feelings mentioned.
As for methods you aren't doing anything that isn't considered normal. Sometimes too much stimulation of a sensitive area leads to the feeling of too much intense and that's just your threshold. But yes, this is all normal and not to worry about.
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Hi :)... well ive been adopted since i was a baby and my birth mom was a druggie and i guess my dad was never in the picture but i do live with my biological half sister but she has a lot of problems herself and theres also with 7 other adopted kids in this family and i love them all a lot and am very blessed but i also know tht we have other sblings somewhere else. not only do i think about it a lot but whenever im down i always think about why i have to be where i am and why my birthmother couldnt have changed for me and it really hurts me. it would really help me to find out a lot more about my birthmom and my other siblings and maybe even meet them. but idk how to bring this up with my adoptive parents i am now 15 and i feel like i deserve to know more. i really would lve some advice bc i really dont know what to do i hae been stuck on this for awhile now...thanks :)
P.S. sorry its soo long!:) (link)
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Tell your parents and siblings that they are your REAL family but as you're becoming an adult you feel you really need to know your story to feel WHOLE and not to always wonder about who your birth parents were and what happened to the other birth-siblings in that family.
Tell your adoptive parents that you often think what their life would be like and are sad about it. Ask them because of laws if they could tell you the truth and prepare you for a meeting at 18 when you are adult and can investigate this fully. But yes, do get the details.
Fact is though, your parents may or may not know much more than they told you about them either. You also have to be prepared that your birth mother being an addict may/may not be alive and if alive may/may not feel any connection to you nor want the meeting.
Another reason you should meet with this woman or the other kids if possible is to get a sense of your DNA and medical issues the others have and find out if there are addiction and mental-health issues so you can offset all of that for yourself. I think that is reasonable to ask of your parents to do. Show them this response if you can't put it into words.
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Why won't my mom let me get my ears pierced? I am 17 YEARS OLD AND I DON'T HAVE MY EARS PIERCED! she said it will make me look older but i AM older! and she says she got them pierced at 13 but she regrets it. WHAT????? i see earrings every where and all my friends have at least one piercing. i have been asking since i was 6 but she still says "ask me later" Help! (link)
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I'm with you on this one. I want to make it clear that I'm not or disobeying parents but it's clear mom has an irrational fear she is projecting on you. It's for her to deal with. Not you.
You're also an adult or will be in a few months so by now can make decisions for yourself. There's no way pierced ears will make you act older or get into situations you shouldn't.
Put it this way when it comes to piercings I wouldn't pierce anything on your face or that affects personal appearance or people's perception if they saw it. Some people do and that's alright. Considering people pierce more risque parts of their body this is so tame.
Here's what I would do talk to an adult your trust that mom respects. Explain that mom has a loopy fear about pierced ears and that you are almost an adult and WILL be doing it on your own but want back up if she gets angry that there is ZERO wrong with it. Then again, almost 18 and do it on your own at the mall and if she hates it at first she may warm up later when she sees it has ZERO to do with behavior or doing stuff you aren't ready for.
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