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What do I do about the boy I like?
Since the beginning of the scool year I have liked this guy. About a month and a half ago we started to become realy good friends and my feelings have become way stronger. All my friends have noticed that we flirt A LOT! But he has a girlfriend who goes to another school and from what I hear she is not being completely faithful (but that's just a rumor.. she doesn't have the best track record). But me and this guy have a lot in common and I'm always getting asked if we are dating. I just don't know what to do. Everybody keeps telling me to tell him how I feel but I don't want that to make things awkward or to destroy our friendship. What should I do? By the way I am a female and I'm 14.
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The first thing you have to figure out is if this guy is a natural flirt with friends who are women or not.
It's more a female thing than guys but sometimes when you are friends with someone and comfortable with that member of opposite sex it comes out and it can be something they don't even notice and they may only want to be a friend. But it does appear to be more than that doesn't it? Your gut seems to know it but does he?
If I were you I would be cautious in your approach. Say to him "I'm not looking to get involved in your personal affairs or relationship with so-and-so but I can't help but notice you both seem unhappy and I hate seeing you that way."
See what he says but beyond that stay the blankety-blank word out of their relationship woes because they both could turn on you and leave you hurt and alone.
If he's truly unhappy he will tell you especially if he's a true friend and really close to you. Then you can be a little cheeky and sly by saying "You really ought to considering fixing that. You never know there may be someone better you haven't noticed."
If he doesn't clue in he's hopeless ;) Doing it this way won't ruin your friendship but will let him know there's an option open for him without risking your neck and showing your cards completely.
As far as his girlfriend being a cheat SAY NOTHING. It's for him to figure out and if he does like her on some level still will piss him or both off. Doing things the way I outlined is classier and less risky. If you know in your heart something's right tell him in that manner.
If he seems to open up and realizes you mean YOU as the person interested than you can tell him "I didn't tell you this so you would end a relationship but letting you know for future reference. And tell him you were scared of ruining a friendship by being truthful but can't hide feelings easily. He'll understand and if he doesn't drop her in the future who knows what could happen.
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