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Masterbating... is it bad?
I'm 15 and a girl. I masterbate almost every night. Is it bad? My parents don't know I do but I'm always scared of getting caught.
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I agree with the columnist who previously responded so have a few small things to mention that could help you here having been in your shoes. Although a male this applies to females too about privacy.
Your parents probably are well aware and or expect that you are doing this and aren't worried or phased by it? Why? It's pretty much a universal thing with your age group and they know it's normal and suspect it and wouldn't bat an eye-lash if you did.
Chances are they never discussed it because it embarrasses them or they don't want to embarrass you by talking about it. I suspect probably and most likely worst of all they think your school told you in health class all about and they need not do so.
I would bet that even if they did catch you that all they would do is ask you to be discreet, always make sure you are alone and tell you it's perfectly okay and answer any questions you may have about it.
Even if they caught you it would only be embarrassing in the moment and forgotten shortly after and you would be given more privacy all around. I can say that much having been caught myself at your age.
Unpleasant but not a bad thing overall or permanently damaging as it opened up a dialogue on it and sex. They pretty much suspected it and didn't care if I did it as long as discreet and taking measures to be private.
Most parents are against kids having locks on their doors. I'm against locks except for slide locks or a little lock like a hook that can go in a loop and keep the door open somewhat but prevent entry until you open it for someone. Maybe that might be an option so that people don't just bust into your room (siblings). Parents at night wouldn't enter or in the day for that matter without knocking but I can see you needing privacy more often.
It may be hard to do but I think you should have a mother-daughter chat about this subject and ask if it's okay to do and that you are concerned about your privacy for this and a variety of reasons and have her put you at ease. It won't bother her at all and if you have siblings may open a family dialogue later on about masturbation as they may be dealing with this issue too. And believe me your mom was probably in a situation like this as a teen herself or your father for that matter. It's normal to do this so relax about this.
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Relax you normal. Masturbation is perfectly normal as long as it does not become an all encompassing part of your life. Meaning that is all you do. Masturbating is a safe and great way to relieve the sexual tension which puberty brings on. It is also a great way to learn about your body and how you like to be touched; your likes and dislikes.
Parents today are more tolerant of masturbation then your grandparents were. In fact according to a recent survey 85% of us, this includes adults like your parents, masturbate. Masturbation, although it is called mutual masturbation is part of foreplay when having sex. Oral sex and fingering and handjobs all fall into a form of masturbation under mutual masturbation.
Masturbation is still one of those subjects parents tend not to discuss when having "THE TALK" with children. I am fairly certain your parents are aware as a hormonal teenager that you might be masturbating. Just make sure you keep your door locked. Should they accidentally walk in on you while you are doing so I would not expect them to off on you. Most likely they will be a bit embarrassed, excuse themselves and leave the room.
If I was your parent and that happened. I would give you time to finish and collect yourself. Then I would ask to talk to you and explain that you were doing nothing wrong and this was normal behavior. I would ask that you just make sure you lock your door when you feel the need to masturbate so you are not disturbed by me,your mother or younger siblings.
Your parents may be different but as you are 15 unless they are ultra religious I doubt it. By the way most organized religions, including the Catholic church do not condem masterbation. They may not condone it but they do not consider it a sin.
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You are perfectly normal. You are not bad.
No need for your parents to know (unless you just want to discuss it with them).
Getting caught is always a possibility. Always lock the door.
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