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Weird masturbation history
So this is gonna sound really weird but im a girl and I have been masturbating for longer than I can remember. I can remember balling up my blanket at pre school and grinding against it at nap time. I can remember doing it in first grade while thinking about my crush and making up these fantasies in my head like playing doctor. But I was just a little kid!! I can remember finally learning that what I was doing was even called masturbation! The weird part is I've always know to keep it a secret. Before I even knew what it was I never told anyone about it and I knew to only do it when I was alone. I guess what I'm wondering is.. How did I know what this was? How did I learn about feeling horny and pleasure from doing this and thinking about boy and girl encounters before I even knew what sex was? And I knew all of these fantasies without thinking of sex happening in them but just knowing they made me horny. I'm 17 now and I still masturbate on a regular basis. I've never used my fingers I still just rub up against a little piece of balled up blanket. I've never had sex and I don't feel like a nympho or anything like that. Also when I do do this, I reach a sort of climax where it feels really good and then I wanna stop because I'm not horny anymore. This can't be an orgasm right? It's not intense at all it's just kind of like a second or two of pleasure and then I can't get aroused again. Plus it takes me like less than a minute to get there. Any ideas?
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As an orgasm approaches, your muscle tension increases and you may begin breathing harder and sweating a little. When it is about to begin, you may feel like you have to pee, but you won't. Then, it begins when the muscles in your lower abdomen tense involuntarily like when you're about to sneeze. Next, those same muscles begin contracting and relaxing involuntarily. With each contraction you feel incredible pleasure. You have about 10 contractions in about 10 seconds. After it is over, you will feel very happy, warm, and relaxed.
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It is important to masturbate because it teaches you what brings you pleasure and what it feels like to get aroused and have an orgasm. When you eventually start having sexual intercourse, that knowledge will help you have a more satisfying experience.
The most popular ways are fingers, vibrator, dildo, Shower Massage, bathtub faucet, and humping a pillow. Most people start in their teen years, but a lucky few get started as early as 5 or 6 when they discover it by accident.
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Masturbation is not a sexual thing in childhood. Infants, toddlers, etc generally discover their genitals much like any part of the body on their own and discover that touching these body parts feel good. And that's why you have been doing it all this time.
Everything you describe is normal and typical but people just don't talk about it. Playing doctor and curiosity between sexes as children is normal and typical behavior.
As you became older as an adolescent and learned what you were doing could also be for sexual reasons you made that association we all do with it.
It's controversial belief but a lot of people in society are waking up to the fact that we are born with some knowledge of sexuality which might explain how you arrived eventually at all the pleasurable feelings mentioned.
As for methods you aren't doing anything that isn't considered normal. Sometimes too much stimulation of a sensitive area leads to the feeling of too much intense and that's just your threshold. But yes, this is all normal and not to worry about.
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Now here's a subject that fascinates me! Humans have what is know as 'empirical knowledge'. In short, that means 'stuff we've learned through observation and other sensory experiences'. Most people are comfortable with that idea, nice and down-to-earth and easy to grasp. Of course, you won't have watched anyone masturbating, and it's unlikely that someone sat down and described it to you. So how do you know? Well, we also have a kind of intrinsic (or pre-programmed if you like) knowledge, that is 'stuff we know...but we don't know how we know it'. It often seems flawlessly accurate and informed. Not such a comfortable idea as 'empiricism' eh? But it's real. It's generally believed to be carried genetically. Genes basically copy themselves. So essentially much of our genetic make-up is a 'carbon copy' of genes as old as the human race itself. It's a kind of 'blue-printing'. We develop according to a genetic 'master-plan' or instruction book. Now think about this. There's not substantially more zebras than there were 50,000 years ago, probably a lot fewer. Yet humans have multiplied many-fold and colonised the whole planet in this time. And we're still doing it! We have a longer fertile age range. We don't come into 'season' like other animals, we breed all year round. So, like it or not sexuality, driven by the urge for prolific breeding is a HUGE part of our genetic programming. No-one taught you it, you didn't learn it. Neither did I. Neither did anyone else. Full-on answer eh? As to the other part, well pressing firmly against that blanket will stimulate your clitoris, which is basically what masturbation is all about in a female. It's a perfectly natural and harmless facet of being a human. (As far as I'm aware no other animals do it, it's unique to us). You might work on improving the sort of 'quality' and duration of the experience with a little experimenting using your fingers. Most women like to orgasm from time to time, if not every time they masturbate. It's really about stimulating yourself until the muscles 'down there' gradually tense and tighten, until it's released in a sequence of muscular spasms (a clench, release, clench again...and so on process). It's accompanied by an intense 'feel good' sensation (nature really does want us to breed like crazy eh?!!)which you should really enjoy. But if what you're doing hits the spot OK for you, stay there. It's your individual enjoyment that's important. Hope I haven't bored you. But rest assured, knowing about sex without ever being told about sex is NOT a sign you're a nymphomaniac! See ya...
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