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I'm 13 and i'm looking for a way to earn some cash, and babysitting seems the best way, trouble is i dont really know anyone i could babysit! does anyone have any ideas on how i could find some customers??

ok well when i was little i used to go to this daycare..and the owner and my mom know each other because all my little brothers went there to..so if it were me i would go to the daycare and tell the owner im looking to babysit..and i would ask the owner to let the parents know about me or maybe have flyers about me and my number so they can call me if they need a babysitter

i would also put flyers around places with your number..

i would ask my mom and dad to tell people they work with that im willing to babysit if they need someone

i bet if you do that you will get plenty of offers!

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I just got back from a two 1/2 week vacation to california. Me and my best friend hung out so much before I left. When I got home I called her immeaditly and she was like Hi. I told her i wus home and i missed her and she said Uh-Huh. *not in a sarcastic way* Shes busy hangin out with all of her other friends right now, i dont mind that she hangs out with them, but Ive been home for a week and she never calls me or anything and she didnt act like she cared I came home! Whats going on?

wow this is definately weird..i wish i knew what was going on but it sounds like the only way for you to find out is to talk to her..theres no reason for her to be mad at you so i dont get it? girls can be moody sometimes..definately..so i would call her up and just ask what the deal is
-meliss

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I have a crush on my best friend (opposite sex) i mean hes not my omg best best friend but hes my best guy friend and i like him. I really want him to know how i feel but im don't wanna lose the relationship i already have with him because the last guy i liked wouldnt talk to me at all so i feel really lucky to likesomeone who will talk to me and all. i know that if i tell him im shy so i will start acting weird around him then he probably will too

well is he friendly with another one of your good guy friends or one of your good girl friends? if your too shy to talk to him..maybe get one of them to ask and say something like

"hey, (his name), what do you think about being more than friends with (your name)

so, if he doesnt see you in that way they can report it back to you and this way things wont be weird..when he asks why they were asking him this, your friends can reply that they were just wondering

if he does like you back..they can mention that you like him too, and there you go!

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K. i'm 13 yeah yeah so what. kk. :). i like this guy lets say Bob? i've liked bob for about 5 years. and well he wanted to have sex with me one time but i said no because he was only using me which was fucked up.buuttt what if later in the future we have sex ? Like. if i gave him a bj. like. i'm not experieced.Like ahh your probabaly wondering this is gross coming from a 13 year old butt..WHen you give a bj. do you masage your tongue on his penis also ? and when he fingers you does it hurt ? I've also heard the first time you have sex its possible of him popping your cherry. [sorry if i keep asking questions]. what if you give a blowjob and the cum goes in your mouth.. Do you just swallow it or spit it out?

well i need to know quick before me and him mess around. cause lately he's been telling my frined that he reslly does like me..


thnx a shitload

wow..hear me out first...13 is too young dont mess around like that at such a young age, you have so0o many more years to mess around with guys..wait until you get older and wait until the guy wont be using you because it sounds like hes using you

now to answer your quesion:
if in the future you have sex be ready for the consequenses...
-be ready to find out your pregnent
-be ready for him to up and leave you once he gets what he wants
-be ready for rumors to fly all over school
^thats the kind of stuff that comes with sex^

go to www.talksexwithsue.com
she is a great expert who has lots of information on all kinds of sex topics and oral sex on a guy is one of them so read up on that, she can explain it the BEST

it depends if it hurts or not when he fingers you..if he just fingers you around the clitoris (if you dont know where that is look on the diagram sue has on her website) ..so if he stays around there and doesnt go UP the vagina, it wont hurt as much...if hes gentle it wont hurt as much either

the first time you have sex your cherry will pop..it pops for everyones first time

if you give him a bj you can tell him to let you know when hes about to cum so you dont have to worry about it going in your mouth...you can swallow it or spit it out if you want


please take it from me..im 16/f ...think before you mess around..dont set yourself up to get hurt!

hope i helped

-melissa-

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I am a seventeen year old female and I am in love. What is the problem with this, you may ask? I shall tell you. The man I love is 7.5 years my senior (he's 25) and he lives in another continent. He says that he loves me as well, but I'm not sure how to make this relationship work. Can a 17 year old and a 25 year old really make it? Especially with him being so far away... He says he may move here in December, however, but then what? My parents would never approve and I crave their approval like I crave oxygen. I am at a loss. I don't really know what I'm asking, quite frankly, and I won't be surprised if no one replies. I suppose I'm just looking for opinions. Thanks.

well this is only my opinion...

if it were me this would never work because of the long distance and the fact that my parents would never approve..

however..you will be 18 next year, which makes you an adult..and your parents will have to accept it ..your situation is complicated..i mean wow hes far away! you can always make it work and if its trrue love, it will work somehow..but major comprimises will have to be made to make it work..like you going against your parents.. and you two being so0o far apart...(my opinoon)

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Okay. Here's a little background info. Okay. Me and this kid named, lets just say "Mark" went out for about 5 months. We talked on the phone everyday, and hung out almost everyday. I was soo in love with him. But then we broke up a couple weeks ago. But I really regret it. We talk sometimes now, but I really want to go back out with him again. I miss him soo much. We went to some party last night, and he told my two best friends that he still liked me. I really want to tell him how I feel, but I don't know. I'm just really shy about telling people how I feel.

Here's my question.

1. Should I tell him how I feel? If yes, what should I say?

I rate high!! But please, I just need advice. Thanksss bunches.

Heart-broken and in love

yes definately tell mark how you feel ..you will regret it later if you dont...dont be nervous because you know he still likes you..

tell him something like
"what do you think about us being more than friends..going back to how they used to be"

if your too shy to talk to him get your friend to hook you back up with him maybe

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can anyone give me some tips on how to make my room really funky oh and I can't buy anything what so ever
thanx

hm..i have a million ferns by my house so if it was me in your place and i had no money..i would take a bunch of ferns and like make a chain of them going around the permimeter of my room or something

maybe try hanging things like
-getting all your friends to sign your walls with black marker..one of my friends had this in her room and i thought it was the coolest thing..!
-beat up barbie dolls with missing legs and arms..then hang them from your room or make a collection somewhere
-super glue seashells to your wall or hang them from your ceiling
-get a bunch of cool rocks from outside and glue them to your wall or make some sort or arrangment
-look around for some old paint or ask your friends if they have any and maybe paint something on the wall ?
-get a hole puncher and punch holes in pics of u and your friends, posters, etc and hang it from the ceiling with a string
- maybe steal a roadsign , one of those big orange construction cone things, or a mailbox(lol be careful) and put it in your room
- go through junk you or your friends have and dont want..you might find some awesome stuff to put in your room

its the best i could think of for free..i hope i triggered some good ideas?!
-melissa-

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Alright, I'm in love. Starstruck. Head over heels. And not just the lust, or the initial fireworks, and infatuation. This is the real deal, and I know it because I no longer think forst of my own needs. I think first of his, and what he's thinking or feeling, and his perspective on life. There's always been something about him, even before he knew how I felt, that's made me feel secure, and I knew that even if he could never love me back, I wanted to be good friends with him throughout college and the rest of my life. (I'm going into my senior year of high school.) Now, we might be going to colleges far from eachother, and I know that it's a lot of work trying to keep a long-distance relationship working. It's certainly something I'm willing to do, but it's so incredibly hard even when I don't see him for a week, how will I handle maybe a month, even two at a time? I'm very afraid of losing the incredible closeness and trust that we have right now, even though it doesn't seem to be something that should be a concern. Having him by my side in life, and with whatever I do, because we have very similar interests, is something so special to me, and especially in college, having him there to help with classes and to study together and laugh about geeky questions (I guess we're very nerdy ;) ) is something that would really help, that I almost feel I can't do without. I don't really know what to do. (Okay, this site says I'm supposed to include my age and gender. I'm sixteen, and, as you probably gathered, female.)

is he going into college this year or do you still have another year until college? if you have another year focus on strengthning yoour relationship and having great times so when you do go away, the love you have for each other will bond you together...you will be able to talk to him online,emails,phone,webcam,mail, sending pics,..technology will make keeping in touch easier..being apart will not be easy..but if this is true love the way you describe it..you have nothing to worry about because true love like this wont die after being apart a couple months..if its strong true love..you will be fine..people who are in love are seperated for months at a time..my friends dad is away in iraq for 5 or 6 months at a time! you can still laugh about geeky questions with him over the phone and im sure you will visit as often as possible..

for now use the time you have together to the fullest...enjoy every moment you two are together.

-melissa-

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All my friends are so much prettier and skinnier than me, and it lowers my self esteem. They are always the ones that get all the guys attention, and I hardly get any. I know it shouldnt matter at all, but it still bothers me. My friends dont treat me badly or anything, but im always worried that they are secretly thinking lower of me. Any suggestions on how to quit becoming so jealous and to stop thinking Im not good enough for my friends?

well my friends are really pretty also..and im not pretty at all..some have beauty, others dont...i just dont have it at ALL

well just try remembering these girls are your friends and they think your a great person..if they thought lower of you, they wouldnt want to hang out with you!

when your with friends focus more on having a great time and laughing..dont even pay attention to what they are wearing or how you want their hair, etc...just concentrate on being with your friends and having an awesome time

maybe send all your friends emails with those surveys asking "are we friends...whats your best memory of us hanging out.." etc..you can type this survey thing up yourself asking those questions and send it to your friends..when you see their responses you will smile and it will make you feel a lot better

i hope i helped out
-melissa-

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having sex has always been a dream of mine!lol. i just want to know that when the skin breaks does it hurt? or does it sting and please give me advice on how to have oral sex please.
ill rate high and complemint if you dont make fun of me!

hey im a virgin but from what people say and from what i have read the pain varies from girl to girl. If a girl uses tampons,is athletic, etc..when her hymen breaks it wont hurtt as much.

i know the perfect place for advice on oral sex , sex, and much more
www.talksexwithsue.com
shes a great expert and there are lots of helpful articles
i hope i helped
-melissa-

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my mom and my step dad have porn tapes. it makes me feel weird and mad at them and i havent confronted them its too hard what should i do to get it off my mind or atleast talk to them or somthing!

i would feel really grossed out and weird ...but their sex life is private..you just unfortunately walked in on part of it (the porn tapes) honestly if this was me i wouldnt confront them about it because it would make things awkward and there is nothing worse than that
to get it off your mind just do things like
-listen to music, watch tv, talk on thee phone, go out with friends and eventually you will think about it less and less

its your choice..if you decide to confront them just (in private) tell them what you found and how it kind of upset you ...maybe tell them they need to keep those things more private

i hope i helped out
-melissa

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I just got hired to work in a store, and I am really excited about this! However, at the orientation we watched these movies & one was about people who steal clothes professionaly. While I was wathcing it, I was like okay, whteer it's not going to happen to me while I am there. But then the managers started talking about how they use to work at the same store in a different town & they have had people like that before, and that those people are starting to catch on that a new store is open! They said they have even seen a few of them walk in before. I know the movie told us what we should do...go up to the person you suspect, ask if they need help, and then don't take your eyes of the front. But then there are these people who come in to distract you, so it said to make sure you get someone else to keep and eye. It also gave these code things you can use. HOWEVER I am so scared this will happen in front of me, and I will either a) not be able to stop it & get in trouble b) accuse someone wrongfully or c) freak out and not know what to do!!!! Has anything like this ever happened to anyone, and if so what did you do? Or if not, any advice on how to act?

my advice is to follow your instincts...you have every right to ask to separch peoples bags if you think something is up..better to be safe than sorry...plus the store will get a reputation..the reputation of "dont mess with them because you will get caught" ..so being more cautious is better than not being cautious enough. ..dont get nervous! ive seen workers walk around the store while the other person stays at the register..this helps prevent stealing as welll..so maybe try that?
you'll be fine..i hope i helped out
-melissa

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what do you do when all your bestfriend does when you's hang out is make out iwht her boyfriend and you cant tell her anything cause you dont want her to get mad cause you's are such a great friends and you dont want to ruin her and her boyfriends relationship

well suggest a girls night out! she probably got so caught up in this guy she hasnt realized how shes been neglecting you..make an effort to have a girls night out like 2 times a week or something maybe

if this doesnt work or if she doesnt go out with the girls and stays so0o involved with her bf..you should really tell her how you feel..hopefully the girls night out will help and you can make it a routine thing..going out just the girlz

-melissa-
hope i helped!

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well I'm helping someone cheat on their girlfriend and I like him and he still likes me but I don't want to keep this a secret forever but I still wanna do things with him

tell this guy how you feel and tell him to make a chhoice! immagine if he goes with you..what makes you think he wont turn around and cheat on YOU with some other girl behind your back? i would stop doing things with him because of that and the fact that i would feel bad for the other girl..i know feelings can be overwhelming..but step back and look at the whole picture..this whole situation isnt fair to you..you have to keep it hush hush and the guy is a cheater and will probably cheat on the next girl he goes out with!
move on if he decides he only wants you on the side..if he dumps the girl thats one thing..but dont help him cheat ...think about it...
SOMEHOW it will get around and all these girlfriennds of this chick would want to beat you up
i hope what ive said helped you out a little?
-melissa-

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my boyfriend and i have been going out for about 8 months, and we havent done anything sexual yet. all we do is make out ALL the time. lately he has been asking me to give him oral sex, which i am willing to do. the problem is, i have never given head before and my boyfriend has never gotten it before neither. i know how to give it, im just worried that i may do something wrong and my boyfriend wont enjoy it. if anybody can give me any advice id appreciate it. thanks. i rate high =)

i suggest www.talksexwithsue.com shes the expert..even has her own talkshow..she knows her stuff! she has advice on ALL kinds of topics..just go click on the subject of oral sex for a guy
im pretty sure that website will help out a lot..if it doesnt, inbox me
-melissa-

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Me and my bf have gone out for 3 years and I really love him and all but theres a problem...He keeps trying to have sex with me and I don't blame him cause hes probably horny. But hes penis is too big. I tried to give him a blowjob but I couldn't fit the whole thing in my mouth. And he didn't seem to enjoy it. We had sex once and I was hurting really bad cause it was my first time and he kept putting the whole thing in and it hurt.

Does anyone have any tips of how I can pleasure him without hurting myself or having him not like it at all?

i know the expert who can help....

go to www.talksexwithsue.com
she has topics there on all sorts of things..go look at oral sex for a guy and sex topics..she talks about how you can suck the tip of the penis while holding and rubbing the base of the penis this way you dont gag to death..the articles are very helpful


-melissa-

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Hi

I need to have a blood test done just as a precaution for STDS to test for HIV, Hepatisis,etc..which I am sure I don't have anyways..but the DR just wants me to have it all done.. ANYWAYS...if I only smoked a couple joints between 4 of us and I only do weed a couple times a month probably...just on a weekend sometimes...will it show up if they test me for HIV,etc? How long should I wait? Or should I just go anyways? The last time I done it was 2 days ago. I am going to the hospital early next week...
I don't want any lectures from people about doing weed please :) just an answer to my question if you have any input.

Thanks

well from what i get, arent doctors supposed to keep things confidential? its an important aspect in their practice and also i bet a LOT of people have marijuanna in their system when they get tested for things..its not like the doctor will tell you to wait in the office while he calls the police..its not like that at all

i hope i helped or made you feel better ?

-melissa-

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ok this might be kinda confusing and long..I understand the consequences and worries that come around when you have sex& all that. I love my boyfriend with all that I have, and he loves me. We both gave up our virginity to each other, but the thing is, we weren't safe about it, and we both regret that. We both know that we should've used a condom, but I guess we were too caught up in the moment to realize that not using a condom wasn't very smart. okay so here's the question. I was wondering- the first time we had sex, he pulled out right before he ejaculated, and it got all over the place, but I wasn't sure if it had gotten inside of me or not. after that I told him I wanted to make sure I got my period. I took a pregnancy test because he said it would make him feel more comfortable, even though it was too early to be accurate anyways, and like I figured..it came out negative because it was too early. but then a few days later we had sex again but he didn't cum. so if I get my period, that takes care of both times we had sex, right? I know you can't get pregnant if you get your period, but I wasn't sure if I could get my period for the 1st time we had sex, and still get pregnant because of the 2nd time or not. I'm planning on taking the 2nd pregnancy test today or tomorrow since that would make it 4-5 days before my period is supposed to come. please help! thanks in advance!

-confused

yes the period takes care of the whole month..so if its definately negative your safe from both times
good luck!
-melissa-

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okay well me and my friend *alexandra have been getting close lately because ive like been giving her massages and shes been like tickling my arm and all of the sudden the other day we were sitting there and we just kissed, and now everytime i seee her we go up in my room and like make out.. the only thing is IM a girl, and im scared.. but i reallly like her and i was wondering if any of you guys know anything i could say like hey you want to play this game and have it be something that we can both enjoy some what sexually? sorry if your grossed out but im scared and i really want to satisfy her. thanks..

you dont have to say anything to her like that...the next time you two are making out..start to touch her chest and if she likes that try to finger her..she will most likely return the favor ;)
it doesnt gross us out...well not me anyway because who are we to say 'ew your a lesbian?' do what feels good..have fun!
-melissa-

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Okay, so I've been doing piano for like 5 years now. When I first got a piano I really wanted to take lessons, but that's when I was like...10? Now it's become insane. It ruins my social life, and I don't practice so my really mean Russian teacher gets really mad! I've asked my mom to let me quit, but she gets so mad whyen I ask and says no! What do I do? I want to quit!

well the ticket to quitting is getting your mom to see things from your perspective...tell her you want to quit..all the reasons..and add in stuff like

'its been a wonderful enrichment to my life but now i want to move on to something else..i will still always be able to play the piano and i will still play for fun.."

getting through to your mom and having her see things from your point of view is the answer

i hhope i helped out
-melissa=-

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