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Q: I got my hair hilighted recently and i don't like it that much. My hair is dark brown and she put bright blonde streaks and it looks weird when i have it in a pony tail because the colors are so different and they contrast so much. I don't hate it, i just kinda wish i had my old hair back. She also didn't get all they way to my scalp in some places so when i wear it how i ususally wear it, you can see the big chunk she missed. I can't go back there because it is a long way away and nobody in my family knows how to do those home dying kits. I'm scared when i go back to school nobody will like it. It's not the worst but def. not the best either! What do i do? I can't get it re dyed because that would cost to much! thanks!

When I had highlights and my hair started to grow back you could see my roots. I pinned my bangs up on top my head into different cute styles to hide the fact, until i could get it fixed. You can call local hair salons and find out how much money it would be to Strip your hair ( meaning they take the dye out of your hair) a friend of mine had it done when she had some random idea to dye her hair black and then she hated it.

If wanting to dye it from home you use foil, go to stores likes sallys beauty salon ( i think you can look online for that store) get the cup and dying brushes. you get the color you want and bleach... the woman at the store will help you out on what ones to buy. you mix and part your hair and dye the roots. and foil it. take and blow dryer and hold on over the foil getting it hot so it works a bit faster keep it on until its the right shade you want. i would ask the woman who dyed your hair what shade of blonde she used so you dont end up with two different shades. good luck.

Q: So this guy has a crush on me and he's not afraid to show it. He's starting to scare me... He asked me to homecoming and i said no because i had this date...he immediatly sign out of msn and then at school he looked pissed and he was like so who asked you before me and stuff and i told him and hes like why him hes a jerk!a jackass! i just walked away. Well the truth box thing on myspace.he keeps putting these scary messages on mine and its starting to scare me and my mom.I want to tell him i dont like him like that(because i dont!) and how he should stop with these messages. I told my older brothers and they theyll talk to him. But if dont want this to turn into one of those "if i cant have you no one else can!" sorta thing.....and to be honest i dont want it to turn out like my friends story did..she told him she didnt like him(not the same guy) and he raped her the next week!i dont want that to be me... dont judge me if you think im selfish but hes not good looking and kind of on the big side...dont tell me i should except for who he is and not how he looks because idc and i already got this crap before!plz just help im scared!:(
14/f

You dont have to remove that on your myspace if your truely dont want to. it may help with the problem. i would safe the messages and print them out. make sure you have the date on each of them. tell him on the phone or online or with your friend or brothers or your mother around tell him you dont like him the same way he likes you and you would like for him to stop. if he does not stop go to your police station and talk to them for harsessment.

Q: I don't really know much about weight loss so help me out. When you eat less / better / drink more water, you start losing fat right? Well does your face lose weight also? That would mean like your chin and cheeks right? What about your nose haha? Do you have to excersize as well, or can you just eat less. I'd be very happy if someone gave me some tips and facts =)

When you eat less you relaly just want to eat smaller portions of what you are eating. drinking 8 full glasses of water a day is good. keeping soda out of your diet is good caffine as well, sugary and greasy foods. yeah you lose weight weight in your face and cheeks.. im not sure about your nose. exercising helps A LOT.. Walking around the block, exercising videos, tredmil, etc. other wise you going to lose weight but your skin will be like lose. not bad depending on how much you lose. but exercising helps tone your body.

Q: i have big plans for newyears eve 2morro and i fear that i am going to lose my voice. i have a cold and everytime i have a cold i end up losing my voice because i can not breath out of my nose so i breath out of my mouth. i usually end up losing my voice. what can i do to avoid this so i dont have to cancel my BIG plans for newyears? Please help

Well new years eve is over. I hope that you didnt lose your voice for your big plans. Next time there is Thraflu (sorry if i spelled it wrong) you can buy it at drug stores, walmart, etc. it really helps me. Try benadryl while your sleeping to help you relax( helps you breath better)

Q: You answered my question about the car accident. Thank you for the advice. I am not scared of driving normally though. I am a very cautious driver. I was stopped at a red light and when it turned green I made sure everyone was stopped before I went. This lady was not even near the intersection when I proceeded across and if I had not been paying attention and stopped she would have hit the back end of my car where my three kids were sitting. I was just wondering though considering that a lot of my dreams come true. Do you think it is possible to have some sort of phsycic ability. You probably think I am crazy. I have had feelings about other things that were going to happen before and they really came true.

Oh know i don't think you are crazy i just didn't know that is what you are asking. My son when i get head aches or aches he put his hands on my forehead one time and i felt a little warm when he did it and he put his hands down and my head went away ( i had that head ache for everal days. anything is possible. There are psychics you can write to. sylvia brown. or use google.com and research it some.

Q: i am a 37 year old male and in financial dire straits. not enough space here to go into details. shame and depression have caused both spouses to lose jobs and any quality of life. we have become reclusive and no longer take phone calls or visits from anyone. mother has known of our difficulties for 1+ yr from other sources, since im too ashamed to speak to her. she hasn't attempted to call in 6+ months. i never thought she had finances to help, but today i learned thru a bank error that she has $62k in savings. should i be upset that she has not offered help?

I am only 17 but my father when through a a rough time. Went through a divorce. Lost the house all his kids grew up in. They took our car away, moved to an apartment. My grandmother found out about the situation and didn't say anything to my father. When it got to the point i was walking really far to class, (several miles there and several miles back) Taking the bus to the store, etc. He asked my grandmother for help and she was happy he finally asked for her help. Maybe your mother wants you to be independent and knows if you really need the help you will come to her.

Q: I have depression. It has alot to do with the fact that my father left me when i was little with my mom (who has paranoid schizophrenia). I was taken from my mom by child services when i was 2 and put in foster care for 3 years. Then my grandparents took me in and they are about the most disfunctional people you've ever met, little by little im being driven insane in this house. Everyday they tell me that im useless and selfish and ungrateful for what they have done for me, like i asked for this life and asked for them to take care of me! For the last 11 years (im 16 now) i've been given visitation rights with my mom for an hour every 2 months and in those visits i am the biggest bitch to her. I blame her for everything that has happened to me and for not caring enough about me to take medicine for her illness. When in reality i know none of its her fault and it makes me hate myself even more for thinking it, shes sick and she cant help it. For the last year i've been cutting myself, only one of my best friends knows, and have been put into therapy. Right away my doctor noticed that i should be put on medicine but my grandparents wont let me and im like a ticking time bomb. I lash out at everyone and i push away everyone that i ever cared about. I was such a bitch to my mother that i drove her to move, to Ireland! She moved 4 weeks ago and i just found out the other day, she left me just like my father did, without so much as a goodbye. I have nothing left, no body and i just want to die. I want to kill myself but i wont, im not strong enough to do it. What im basically asking is, how can i get help? I just want to be happy, how can i do it?

For starters.. I had a ex boyfriend his father died a few days before he was born and his mother died when he was 2 or 3. He is angry inside, he can be a complete jerk. Hates the world. He lives with his grandmother. who he is a jerk to. I lived with him for 6 months. I dont exactly know what you are going through but i have seen it. If your grandparents wont help you with the medication contact your social worker or a social worker and let them know. that is being an unfit garudian. (sp).. get a job, save up your money, a job will also keep you busy and away from your grandparents.. your grandparents get money for taking care of you. they are the ones being selfish. not raising you for you but you for money (from what you saying thats what it seems) you have two years left and you will have the choice to leave there home. you made it 11 years dont get to put down now. work towards the future. the future that you will be able to have. schooling, a great career, a family of your own. there are plenty of possibilities.

Q: I have dark brown hair, an oliveish complexion, and my lips are naturally a little more darker red/pink than most people's. But I really like the whole nude lip thing, but everytime I try it, it just looks.. really.. weird. I've tried pale lip glosses, concealor, I don't know, are there any tricks or anything to keep me from looking like a clowN?

You can put cover up on your lips.

Q: okayy i really like this guy and he knows i liek him but some people say that he does liek me and some people say he doesnt.... and i reaaly want to find out if he doesn or dosent i know everyone thinks that i should just go up to him in person and ask him but i cant do that...... what do i do?
thanks
loveboys

ahh stay calm about it. you should write him a note. asking him how he feels. or look for clues. how he looks at you etc.

Q: A few years ago I had a dream that I was in a car accident with my oldest child, and about a year later in 2006 I was. Several months ago I had three dreams in a row that I got hit by a train, instead a lady ran a stoplight flying down the road like an idiot and totalled my car. Well a few days ago I started having this really bad feeling that I was going to be in a car accident. I can feel the pain. I am scared to drive. This time I didn't have a dream but I can feel something bad is going to happen. I was telling a close friend the other day and the scary thing is she had a dream about it.

You can always change what is going to happen. Driving more careful, looking around more, seat belts, drive speed limit, before taking off when the light turns green make sure all other traffic has stopped. Those things may have happened, because you got scared while driving. you need to stay calm. i hate driving trust me. i got in a accident and lost my baby (i was pregnant) and i was so scared about driving. you have to over come your fear by going out. drive but be careful.

Q: My 16 year old son ran up his dad's cell phone bill to $6,000!!! He was downloading you tube videos. Is there anyway his dad can get out of this because my son is a minor? He needs his cell phone for his business. Please help!!!

Have you tried talking to the cell phone company? when they tell you no you need to pay it blah blah. you have to keep going higher up and dont take no for an answer.

Q: I was at my friend's house last night, and we and his sister and a few friends were knocking some drinks back. By the end of the night I fell asleep in his sister's room before she got there but she slept on the bed anyways. Now I'm a 17 year old male and she's a 15 year old girl... we started having a conversation which led to a kiss, which led to other things. By the time we were finished I had eaten her out, and that's where it ended. There's obviously a lot of ackwardness and her brother/my friend doesn't know. I would appreciate anybody who could help in what to say to her about it and note that I do like this girl quite a bit I don't think she feels the same way... i just need to know what I should say to her thank you.

Drunk Actions and Words our sober thoughts. She obvious has some feelings toward you to some degree. Ask her how she feels about you or what she thought about that night. Tell her you think shes beautiful etc.

Q: Ok so i might have one of my friends stay over for new years! She is so excited to go but im kind of scared....this is the first time that im only having ONE friend over. usually i have multiples of friends stay over.i always thought that help..so im scared because im the quiet one.sometimes i wont know what to do or say...theres a new years party at our hs just to let you know.can you help me?!?:)

Why not go to the new years party at the high school. Then go back to your house watch movies snack on food or pizza. etc.

Q: I am Lucy and iam 20 Years old i have never had a serious, long term relationship,now that I am throwen between 2 guys that i have a lot of potential with.I find myself confused and i don't know what to do. need advice... heres background info on them.
candidate#1 ADVANTAGES: 1.know him for a year, have really good conversation with him 2. he is very understanding and easy going, know A lot more about me than anyonElse. 3. he has made me understand that he has never met anyone like me and wants to have a future with me.DISADVANTAGES: 1.he is eight years older than me witch is not that bad 2.At the time being we both live in differnt states, hes in texas and iam in arizona.3 he has a child already,with doesnt bother me at all but to my family it might.
EXTRA DETAIL: I HAVE REALLY STRONG FEELING TOWARDS HIM... BUT AT THE SAME TIME ITS CONFUSING BECAUSE HOM HIMSELF ADVICES ME TO GO FOR CANIDATE #2 INSTEAD OF HIM... HE REALLY WANTS THE BEST 4 ME...

canidate #2 ADVANTAGES:1. he is such a nice guy has alot going for him and life goals.2. known him for about 6 months he as well has made me understand that he wants a serious realationship with me.3. my family knows about him approve of him,they believe that he will give me the happiness and future i deserve..
DISADVANTAGES: 1. He is 23 years old, which is the perfect differnce in age but i actually wanted some one older. 2.our conversation and communication is not the best, just regular here and there question and answers.3.he is a former friend of my brother whitch on his behave its ok...
EXTRA DETAIL: HE IS EVRYTHING I EVER WANTED IN A GUY.. BUT THE FEELINGS ARE NOT THAT STRONGS TOWARDS HIM.. WELL ATLEAST NOT YET...

There is aslo alot more differnces among the both, but i still find my self stuck between two walls. would appricate your advice
thanks lucy

I think you sould wait a little longer and see where things go with number two and introuduce number one to your family see what they think about him. Al though from the information given and you had to make a choice right away i would choice number one for you.

Q: i actually have an account here at advicenators.but sometimes a girl can't figure out her own problems and needs help.so...im sixteen and almost 17...and iv been dating the same guy for almost 5 years.hes 18 and his name is khale.
uhm we havent been together the whole almost 5 years.iv dated other boys and hes dated other girls.but we always ended up back together.hes the first and only boy i have ever loved and im not sure what to do anymore.
hes recently been getting better...but be for in the past we always use to brake up then argue more then out of no where everything would be fine and we would get back together.
well recently i met this boy named julius and it turned out him and khale were bestfriends.me and this boy julius started talking and i kinda really started liking him but then khale sent me this long message over myspace saying take it slow with him.i dont doubt hes gonna hurt you.and i dont want him to hurt you because i hurt you enough.and right there tears were falling down my face and i had to drop everything and ask him back out and i did and he said yes.
some people say were not ment to be but come on after 5 years of still loving eachother i know we are.and so far so good this time is different.hes being nicer and treating me right.
after almost 5 years u still get butterflys when i see him and see fireworks when we kiss.
hes the only boy i wanna continue having sex with.and iv only done it with one other guy besides him.[no khale didnt take my virginity.]
but should i still continue are relationship?

It sounds like your scared for it not to work out. Five years is a long time. Maybe the two of you love each other a different way. Best friends? Someone who is always there for each other and is supportive. Khale sounds like a good guy but maybe not the right guy for you. All set aside. There sounds as if there are more bad times than there are good.

Q: Is it ok to be a virgin at an age of 17?

Of course it is okay.

Q: my boyfriend broke up with me bc he said im 2 down on my self he was like were done. he also said i put 2 much emotional baggage on him.. i am rlly saddd.. but is it right for a guy to break up bc of me being too down on myself..im really sad

Well my fiance was going to date a girl back before we got together and he told her no because she always put her self down. I put my self down not like a ton. If he truely felt like you two had a future together than he probably would put effort to make things work. My fiance and I are still together because we work around the problems because we have sparks. From what he is saying you make him feel upset or depressed. I would take a break from men for a while and get your self together make your self feel more confident. good luck.

Q: Okay...

Basically I'm 18 & have been in a 2 year relationship with my partner.
I DO NOT want any advice saying ''Your not old enough, Your not ready etc etc.''

Because in my eyes, your never ready to become a parent until it happens.

We have decided we would like a child, I'm coming on 19, and I have very supportive and some what well off parents who would be there for me in any situation.

What I am actually asking for is some advice and some signs of pregnancy, coming from someone who has experienced it.

I have joined up to a website that tells me basic dates that are best for falling pregnant, according to my menstrual period, however is there any particular things that may ''encourage'' pregnancy??

Sorry if this is too graphic but..
I had sexual intercourse with my partner on 25th/26th & 27th (today) December, and on the 25th I felt something almost instantly, and that feeling I have carried with me for the last 2 days, its like a heavy feeling in my stomach, and like a constant bloated feeling, is this my mind playing tricks because I'm so desperate for a baby?? Or is it a tell tale sign??

I don't think my chances of falling pregnant just at the minute are very high because I only stopped taking the pill 3 days ago, however I had forgotten to take it here and there beforehand, so the chances of me being completely protected are very little.

I haven't ever felt this heavy bloated feeling (along with the weird pains and noises) before ...

Can anyone help me and suggest things to encourage and recognise pregnancy?

Thank You!

Honestly, I think you may be just "thinking" that you are feeling something. It is way to soon for you to tell if you are pregnant or not. When I was pregnant, I slept a lot then I started getting sick in the mornings. I didnt want to eat the food smelled gross. Stumoch started feeling tight. I didnt know i was pregnant for about a month and 1/2. It takes time. My fiance and I are working on our second child, and are having trouble. It's just harder. I have heard from many woman it happens like that.

Q: After seeing the twilight movie i became very depressed..Edward and bella's love is so strong and he actually cares about her. I really want a love like that but i dont think i ever will. I felt very depressed after the movie..What is wrong with me. I havent had a boyfriend in like 3 years can that be the problem.

Oh hun, after i read all those books, i came obsessed i wanted a love like that. Which seems as impossible. love will come to you and just because you havn't had a boyfriend in 3 years. It is good to take a good length of time for a break. start fresh.

Q: I've known my best friend for at least half of my life and suddenly, out of nowhere, she's stopped talking to me. I saw her at school recently right before the break but she completely ignored me. I haven't done anything wrong. I thought she loved me but she obviously doesn't care. I keep thinking that maybe I did something terribly wrong without realizing it, but I can't come up with anything. She was going through some issues with a guy that she really liked who disappeared from her life, but I think that if something happened with regards to him, she would tell me. We never got into a fight and always understood each other very well or at least tried to, but I guess that our friendship is over now. I called her to see if maybe something was wrong but when she heard my voice on the phone she didn't say anything back. It's been like 2 weeks since we talked. I just don't get it. I really needed her, she was my everything, and now I guess I have to start over without her. If anyone can help in any way, I'd really appreciate it. Thank you.

I would try and call her again. Ask her what is going on and how come she is ignoring you. If she doesn't answer you than tell her you guess you will give her, her space. When she is ready to talk to you or needs someone to speak to. that you will be ready to listen or help. and tell her you hope she is alright.

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My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.