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Advice on falling pregnant
Okay...
Basically I'm 18 & have been in a 2 year relationship with my partner.
I DO NOT want any advice saying ''Your not old enough, Your not ready etc etc.''
Because in my eyes, your never ready to become a parent until it happens.
We have decided we would like a child, I'm coming on 19, and I have very supportive and some what well off parents who would be there for me in any situation.
What I am actually asking for is some advice and some signs of pregnancy, coming from someone who has experienced it.
I have joined up to a website that tells me basic dates that are best for falling pregnant, according to my menstrual period, however is there any particular things that may ''encourage'' pregnancy??
Sorry if this is too graphic but..
I had sexual intercourse with my partner on 25th/26th & 27th (today) December, and on the 25th I felt something almost instantly, and that feeling I have carried with me for the last 2 days, its like a heavy feeling in my stomach, and like a constant bloated feeling, is this my mind playing tricks because I'm so desperate for a baby?? Or is it a tell tale sign??
I don't think my chances of falling pregnant just at the minute are very high because I only stopped taking the pill 3 days ago, however I had forgotten to take it here and there beforehand, so the chances of me being completely protected are very little.
I haven't ever felt this heavy bloated feeling (along with the weird pains and noises) before ...
Can anyone help me and suggest things to encourage and recognise pregnancy?
Thank You!
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Wowee you've been slaughtered... Good on you for making the decision to be a mum. Its a tough one, and i made it at 17. It was the best thing i ever did and i stick by it. I think that the best thing to do is to just live life normally. Dont stress about getting pregnant. Im currently trying for my second (at age 21) and im taking it as it comes. The more you stress the less likely you are to conceive. Your body wont think you're ready if its stressing about it.
Good luck..
xoxox
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Well, if you're sure you are able enough to handle a child and the baby's surrounding is secure then hey, go ahead! Personally I feel you should wait and get a career going but I'm not here to answer that question. I have read some articles on the internet regarding your question and I saw that it is infact kind of hard to get pregnant especally when you want to. Why don't you consult a doctor? They would tell your when your chances of fertility are best and tell them about your signs too. I think your mind is playing tricks on you because you're nervous about the situation. [not in a bad way though]
Summarized, talk to a clinical doctor. A walk-in clinic :]
They'll keep your infornation private.
Hope your pregnancy goes safe and well :] and hope the baby is as cute as ever.
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You know you aren't ready to have a baby when
- You mention your age in connection with having a kid
- You mention your parents ability to help in connection with having a kid.
- You don't want to hear contrary opinions in connection with having a kid.
I'm sure there are plenty of others that would apply to you, but you didnt give much info to go on in your question.
The most important thing about having kids is setting an example for them. You have decided you want a kid, come up with your own justifications like "you're never ready to be a parent" and such.
Thats complete BS. There IS such a thing as not being ready to have kids. Being almost 19 about to have a kid that your parents will have to help pay for when you probably don't have anything like a full education or the ability to work anywhere that pays more than 12 dollars an hour falls squarely into the "not ready" category.
You probably are going to give me a 1 or a 2 and respond angrily, but I'm sorry I can't give advice to someone who in a few short sentances has demonstrated that she is not ready for what she wants to do. Doing my part to spare the world a few more kids who are fucked up because they didn't have decent parental models for responsible behaivior.
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Honestly, I think you may be just "thinking" that you are feeling something. It is way to soon for you to tell if you are pregnant or not. When I was pregnant, I slept a lot then I started getting sick in the mornings. I didnt want to eat the food smelled gross. Stumoch started feeling tight. I didnt know i was pregnant for about a month and 1/2. It takes time. My fiance and I are working on our second child, and are having trouble. It's just harder. I have heard from many woman it happens like that.
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I'm not pregnant, nor have ever been, and theres some questions that I cant answer, but I'm going to answer what I can.
My cousin got pregnant at eighteen, she had a hard time doing it though because she had been on the pill for 4 years.
I dont think your too young, and no one on this site should be able to tell you that your not old enough to make your own decisions.
However I dont think you can become pregnant only being off the pill for 3 or 4 days.
It takes a month for your pills to become active, so my assumption, it probably takes a month or two for them to become inactive.
You said you have very supportive parents, thats a good thing.
When you have this child, if you and your boyfriend cant support it fully, financially wise, then I'm sure your parents will help you, and besides you will support it will all the love that it needs.
I know from the experience, the fright of becoming pregnant, which in your case it isnt fright, its hope.. I felt the same thing though, I felt like my stomach was bloated, and thought it was getting bigger the very next day, when I knew it wasnt. Thankfully, I'm not pregnant, but I hope things work out for you...
I'm sure your not completely protected, where you've skipped pills, here and there, but your still protected.
I encourage you fully. I wish you luck, and hope you get the answers your looking for.
Goodluck!
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It is your other question here, the one you asked as an answer, that I will answer for you.
Why is no one answering your question?
I read your question fully, and then choose NOT to answer it.
Without claiming to speak for everyone here, I will say most people here have been here giving advice to young ladies like yourself long enough to feel much as I do, and also, to know that you will rate them down and abuse them for taking you to task because the basis of your otherwise very intelligent question, is a fundamentally selfish and stupid choice.
It would be like writing a very polite, well-thought out question about murdering your neighbors pet but insisting that you didn’t want anyone to tell you NOT to murder the pet… Really, what can a polite person say to that? Silence seems like the best response because no rational person could answer that question without mentioning that killing the pet would be a very bad idea.
Getting pregnant at 19 is a very bad idea, regardless of what you FEEL about it. You and your boyfriend feelings about it cannot magically make it a good idea.
Becoming pregnant while you are still dependant on your own parents, without education or solid job prospects, is the height of foolishness and selfishness.
You DON’T mention that you AREN’T a dependant or that you are prepared in anyone to take responsibility for your child except to suggest your parents will financially support you
AND THEN you add wishful thought that being a parent will make you a parent (basic observation skills should help you with that irrational idea: There are many ‘parents’ out there who are NOT behaving as parents, at all. If becoming a parent cannot magically change an otherwise sensible 30 year old in a decent daddy, why do you think it’s going to magically change you into anything other then the teenager you are? I’m not saying teen parents are destined to be bad parents, just that NO ONE is magically turned into a good one.)
You seem unconcerned with the cost you are passing on to your families, or the state, and are focused simply your own biological desire to reproduce. I find that really disgusting, and I won’t support it. I will not help you ‘to encourage and recognize pregnancy’ because I think you have no business bringing a life into the world under those circumstances if it can be ethically avoided.
Frankly, in light of your questions contents, I just don’t much feel like giving you information to assist you in behaving in a way that I see as being wrong, irrational or selfish.
You are old enough, and obviously have strong enough language skills to find this information out on your own, or better yet, to speak to a doctor rather then relying on strangers online for fertility consultations.
My advice to you, if you are actually going to take this seriously, is to speak to a doctor. That is what responsible, adult women do when they have questions about their fertility. If you are choosing to take the advice of strangers online over a health care professional because you are afraid you will be counseled AGIANST getting pregnant at your age… well, that just kind of proves everything negative I had to say about your choice above, and that is really sad.
If you seriously wish to get pregnant, and to behave in a rational and responsible way, take these questions up with a doctor or nurse.
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I would like to say a huge thanks to Katie and those people that have said if I have made that decision then stick by it, I do NOT appreciate being told my child is going to be f***** up. That is NOT true atall. A child with the love and attention it needs, with a stable home is just as well rounded as any other child. You are NOT ready to become a parent until it happens END OF. You don't know the stress of it, without it being yours, its okay to babysit 24/7 but that child is not your and will never be as much trouble as what your own is. So for god sake, those of you who keep saying no your not ready, what the f*** do you really know?
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