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He's starting to scare me...
So this guy has a crush on me and he's not afraid to show it. He's starting to scare me... He asked me to homecoming and i said no because i had this date...he immediatly sign out of msn and then at school he looked pissed and he was like so who asked you before me and stuff and i told him and hes like why him hes a jerk!a jackass! i just walked away. Well the truth box thing on myspace.he keeps putting these scary messages on mine and its starting to scare me and my mom.I want to tell him i dont like him like that(because i dont!) and how he should stop with these messages. I told my older brothers and they theyll talk to him. But if dont want this to turn into one of those "if i cant have you no one else can!" sorta thing.....and to be honest i dont want it to turn out like my friends story did..she told him she didnt like him(not the same guy) and he raped her the next week!i dont want that to be me... dont judge me if you think im selfish but hes not good looking and kind of on the big side...dont tell me i should except for who he is and not how he looks because idc and i already got this crap before!plz just help im scared!:(
14/f
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wow this guy sounds creepy n actualy sounds just like a guy i know. well i think you should end all online communications with him like other people have told you and maybe take some legal action or tell your guidance councler at school and get teh school involved some how. you should definatly not like ignore him and let him continue to scare you like this take action becouse youll just end up hurt if you dont. and i understand, your not being selfish hes just not your type and your not attracted to him, thats not your fault and he should learn that. hope i helped, good luck and happy new year
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Creepy people are no fun. No one deserves to not feel safe because someone decides to obsess about them.
If you talk to him, don't ask. Tell. Tell him to stay away from you, that you aren't interested in him, and don't want to talk to him. Block every conceivable means of access he has to you online. Ignore him at school. If he continues to be creepy, continue talking to your parents and you might want to consider a formal "cease and desist" letter to his parents that advise them of the problem and that if the behavior is not discontinued legal action will be taken.
And if worst comes to worst... Grab and twist the balls, claw at his eyes, punch him in the throat.Get his skin under your fingernails so that you have evidence of a fight later and you can prosecute.
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You dont have to remove that on your myspace if your truely dont want to. it may help with the problem. i would safe the messages and print them out. make sure you have the date on each of them. tell him on the phone or online or with your friend or brothers or your mother around tell him you dont like him the same way he likes you and you would like for him to stop. if he does not stop go to your police station and talk to them for harsessment.
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If your honesty box is causing problems, remove it.
People behave like asses when they think they can get away with it 'anonymously'. So remove the thing that is making him think he can get away witht behaving like an ass.
Then stop talking to him. Stop making eye contact and stop acknowledging him. He isn't your friend. There is no reason to talk to him at all. Don't 'sic' your brothers on him. For now, everyone should pretend he doesn't exist.
You are ABSOLUTELY entitled to not liking this guy. That is your RIGHT, and no one can take that away for you. (It's not your right to say, punch him in the gut for no reason, but you are absolutely allowed to not like him.)
If he approaches you again online or at school, respond quickly and honestly. TELL HIM you aren't interested and you don't want to talk to him. Then walk away. If he tries to stop you or grab at you, yell and scream. Yelling and screaming loudly will almost always stop a guy... they know that they will get in much deeper shit then you ever will.
Guys like him prey on weakness and kindness. If you try to be kind and friendly, he'll get worse. If you show that you are weak, he'll get worse.
If you simply, confidently and strongly, look him in the eye and say "NO! I don't like you. Go away." and "My mom doesn't like what you are doing either. If you don't stop. We'll get the authorities involved." He will stop. Because when you do that, you show him you can't be bullied and wouldn't be worth the trouble.
In the meantime, don't let your imagination run wild. Just be calm, confident and ignore him.
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